The Confident Child: Raising Children to Believe in Themselves

The Confident Child: Raising Children to Believe in Themselves

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by Terri Apter, Terri Apter
     
 

Raising confident, motivated children is a parent's greatest challenge. Drawing on her own extensive research on children and parents, and on Daniel Goleman's concept of emotional intelligence, Terri Apter has created a strategy based on emotional coaching—learning to respond appropriately to a child's feelings—for parents to promote self-esteem in children…  See more details below

Overview

Raising confident, motivated children is a parent's greatest challenge. Drawing on her own extensive research on children and parents, and on Daniel Goleman's concept of emotional intelligence, Terri Apter has created a strategy based on emotional coaching—learning to respond appropriately to a child's feelings—for parents to promote self-esteem in children.

Children who believe in themselves and have confidence are known to experience future successes, to be less frustrated in learning, and to show overall higher performance. This compassionate guidebook shows parents how to help their child acquire self-esteem building skills and offers parents a plan for learning how to discipline, communicate, and deal with their children's emotional life, an important link to building self-esteem.

In an accessible style, with down-to-earth examples of children's lives in the family and in school, Apter shows parents how to raise a child to solve problems, to be socially active and understand others, to express feelings appropriately, and to manage emotions—all of which are crucial skills in developing confidence. Every parent and caring adult should own a copy of this necessary parenting guide.

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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
"Self-esteem is now recognized as a key to children's successful development," notes Apter, a Cambridge University social psychologist and author of Altered Lives and Secret Paths, in the first chapter of this convincing, well-written and truly helpful guide. Focusing on children ages five through 15, she details behaviors that indicate low self-esteem in children and suggests means by which parents can deal with their children's (and their own) accompanying anxiety, anger and depression. Her methods are based on a technique called emotional coaching, by which parents enourage kids to identify and accept their feelings and to find acceptable ways to express them. With withering accuracy, Apter describes mistakes every "inevitably imperfect" parent makes and suggests ways parents can correct them. Even moderate displays of anger are damaging, she warns. "When Mommy's mad a mountain grows in my throat," a 6-year-old girl told the researcher. But parents can temper anger's effects by managing it and by compensating for angerthat can't be managed through spending special time with their children and making positive feelings clearwith hugs and smiles. Here is a book that takes the vagueness out of the term self-esteem and suggests concrete ways for parents to help their children like themselves and feel confident about their abilities to deal with the world around them. (Apr.)
Mary Hoffman
“Terri Apter convinces the reader that she is on our side. . . . Her wisdom is tempered by warmth and a rueful acknowledgment that she hasn’t always got it right herself, which is totally disarming.”

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780553379860
Publisher:
Bantam Books
Publication date:
09/28/1998
Edition description:
REPRINT
Pages:
272
Product dimensions:
5.30(w) x 8.44(h) x 0.73(d)

Meet the Author

Terri Apter is a writer, psychologist, and Fellow of Newnham College, Cambridge University. Her books include The Sister Knot and What Do You Want from Me? She lives in Cambridge, England.

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