Confusing Love with Obsession

Confusing Love with Obsession

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by John D. Moore
     
 
Why do so many women and men obsessively attach themselves to destructive relationships-relationships that they cannot walk away from? Why do they pathologically need to control their partners, using whatever means necessary? John Moore helps these people to identify, comprehend and become aware of their destructive behaviors in personal relationships so they can stop

Overview

Why do so many women and men obsessively attach themselves to destructive relationships-relationships that they cannot walk away from? Why do they pathologically need to control their partners, using whatever means necessary? John Moore helps these people to identify, comprehend and become aware of their destructive behaviors in personal relationships so they can stop the viscous cycle of pain.

PEOPLE WHO CONFUSE LOVE WITH OBSESSION:

  • Instantly attach themselves to another person, regardless of compatibility.
  • Cannot function unless they are in a relationship.
  • Attempt to "fix" an abusive partner's behavior by walking on eggshells.
  • Abandon their friends and family because they are obsessed with their relationship.
  • Try to control their partners through emotions, money, sex, and even food.
  • Stalk, harass and abuse their partners in an effort to exert control.

Through a series of riveting personal discussions and case presentations, John Moore sheds light on a problem that is widely unknown and often misunderstood. People Who Confuse Love with Obsession can discover healthy, loving relationships with others but only when they learn to have a relationship with themselves.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780595259274
Publisher:
iUniverse, Incorporated
Publication date:
12/17/2002
Edition description:
Older Edition
Pages:
210
Product dimensions:
6.14(w) x 8.98(h) x 0.49(d)

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Confusing Love with Obsession 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 10 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
For the longest time, I knew I had a problem with my relationships but didn't know what the problem was. After reading this book, I now know that much of what happened is because of the way approached my partners. I don't feel so alone anymore because I know that there are other people who have done all of the controlling stuff I have done in order to keep the relationship alive. I'm still trying to work through the problems I have am confident that I will see this through. If you are controlling your wife, your husband or significant other or if the reverse is happening, you have to buy this book. It is one of the few publications that will WILL change your life. Thank you John Moore for having the courage to present the hell so many of us go through on a daily basis.
Guest More than 1 year ago
After reading this book, I don't feel quite so alone anymore. For so long, I kept wondering why all of my relationships ended up as a mess, mainly because I was so controlling. I feel so much less to blame for what has been happening because I know some things happened earlier in my life that caused me to develop a fear of abandoment. John Moore's book helped to tell the tale of people like me who have problems with confusing love with obsession
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book touched me on so many levels. As I flipped through the pages, I found myself relating more and more to the characters presented in the case studies. Finally, a man has written a book about what it is like to be obsessed with another person, using both male and female case studies. He offers hope for people to get through relationship problems and does so in a manner that shows compassion and true concern.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Once in a great while, you run accross a book is truly life changing. In John Moore's Confusing Love with Obsession, readers are given this opportunity. I became aware of this book after listening to a criminal justice program dealing with stalking while driving through Tampa, FL. I was struck by the level of compassion the author displayed for those who have become addicted to another person. He didn't label these individuals as 'psychos' or 'sickies' but rather, people who are truly confused and in need of help. He also helped to pave the way for recovery. When I got home, I ordered the book from BN.com and got the book about a week later. Throughout the book, I found myself unable to pull myself away. It spoke to my heart and changed my life.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is emotionally powerful and contains so many lessons that I cannot respond to each of them here. The chapter I gained the most meaning from was the one called, "Confusing Love with Sex". I related to that chapter so much because I found that I had been using sex as the way of getting closer to people I wanted to be involved with. The book taught me that passionate sex and love are not the same thing and that one must be mindful of the distinction. I searched high and low for a book like this, written from the male perspective but could not find it - until I stumbled into Confusing Love with Obsession. If you are a guy or a girl, you realy need to get your hands on this book. It is a "relationship bible", offering compassion and insight from a very gifted author.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read Confusing Love after a friend picked it up for me. All I can say is that it made me think about how I acted in relationships and changed my life. I don't feel like I need a man anymore to make me feel valued. I learned that once I started to value myself, I could then value my relationships. I don't have to be an emotional slave anymore.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Mr. Moore has provided me with insight to issues that I've been battling my whole life. He's given me new direction and a new understanding of how to interact with out being controlling or being controlled. This book is a must read for anyone who has ever felt like you were stuck in a go no where relationship, but to afraid to move on or move ahead.
Guest More than 1 year ago
We all have been obsessed in one way or another in our lives with little things. However, this book with it's shocking and unsettling case studies will not only embarrass the conscience, but will wake up society to the reality of subtle stalking.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Confusing Love with Obsession blends cultural and societal issues relating to relationships with a dash of with a dash of compassion and empathy. I found myself not being able to put this book down. From beginning to end, each case study becomes more and more interesting. I saw many of the controlling behaviors in my own relationship exposed in this book. It's absorbing, revealing sometimes embarrassing to read because it speaks so many truths about how a person can become obsessed with a relationship! It is a REAL must read!!
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book changed my life. The author did a great job how someone can become obsessed with a love interest. He covered both womn and men, which is a first. I also liked the way he used the different ways a person can control their partner. A very helpful book that is like a page turning novel!