Connected Parenting: Transform Your Challenging Child and Build Loving Bonds for Life

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A groundbreaking, counterintuitive parenting approach to create deep, empathic bonds with problem children.

Achild and family therapist for more than twenty years, Jennifer Kolari began her career working with children suffering from severe behavioral problems. That experience taught her an invaluable lesson-it wasn't "tough" discipline that helped these kids change their behavior and build self-esteem. It was unending compassion and empathy. Now, Kolari applies these lessons in...

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Overview

A groundbreaking, counterintuitive parenting approach to create deep, empathic bonds with problem children.

Achild and family therapist for more than twenty years, Jennifer Kolari began her career working with children suffering from severe behavioral problems. That experience taught her an invaluable lesson-it wasn't "tough" discipline that helped these kids change their behavior and build self-esteem. It was unending compassion and empathy. Now, Kolari applies these lessons in her work with all families-even those who are exhausted, overwhelmed, and struggling with the challenges of difficult or extremely defiant children. Empathy lies at the heart of Kolari's Connected Parenting philosophy.

What sets this book apart is Kolari's proven step-by-step CALM program (Connect, Match the Affect of Your Child, Listen, and Mirror) that will support parents and help them implement true empathy in any situation-even during temper tantrums. Empathy goes beyond listening well-Kolari offers interactive behavioral and verbal techniques such as mirroring and nonverbal methods like regular play interaction that can reduce conflict dramatically and deepen the connection between a parent and child. Kolari then shows parents how to develop foolproof strategies for setting limits and changing negative behavior for good.

Powerful and inspiring, Connected Parenting includes incredible stories from families who have experienced miraculous transformations-often in just a few weeks-using Kolari's parenting approach. It is a dynamic blueprint for bringing peace and loving connections into any family for life.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781583333440
  • Publisher: Penguin Group (USA)
  • Publication date: 5/14/2009
  • Pages: 320
  • Product dimensions: 8.70 (w) x 5.64 (h) x 1.09 (d)

Meet the Author

Jennifer Kolari, MSW, RSW has been a Child and Family Therapist who has been working with children and families in Toronto for twenty years. In addition to coaching parents on how to develop and use connected parenting skills, she teaches children’s social skills groups and parenting workshops. Known for offering useful and practical strategies delivered with warmth and humor, her speaking skills are in demand by schools, organizations, and agencies throughout Ontario and California. Before entering private practice, Jennifer was a family therapist at Integra, a children’s mental health center in Toronto for ten years. She also spent several years counseling children and parents for the Toronto School District School Board and was a field supervisor for the University of Toronto faculty of Social Work. She lives in Toronto with her husband, and their three children.

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

Author's Note xiii

Introduction: The Keys to Connection xv

Part 1 Making or Repairing the Connection

1 The Power of Connection 3

2 Create CALM by Mirroring and Joining 27

3 Reconnect and Repair the Bond 53

4 The Power of Parenting Together 64

5 In the Game of Life You Always Get a Second Chance 77

6 Time Well Spent, or Giving Your Child What He Needs 86

Part 2 Setting Appropriate Limits

7 Letting Your Child Know What's Okay and What's Not 97

8 Before You Set Limits, Get Familiar with Your Own 120

9 Frontloading and Intervention-Key Strategies for Containment 132

10 A Toolbox of Strategies for Containing and Correcting Behavior 149

Part 3 Connecting and Containing in Special Situations

11 Homework, Eating, Sleeping, Bathroom Issues, and More-Mirroring and Containing to Make Transitions Easier 165

12 Strategies for Mirroring and Connecting with the Anxious or Special-Needs Child 192

13 Troubleshooting Common Problems 230

Conclusion: Managing Through Mirroring 272

Suggested Reading 279

Index 281

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  • Posted November 10, 2010

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    A Mom's Choice Awards Recipient!

    Connected Parenting is a recipient of the prestigious Mom's Choice Award. The Mom's Choice Awards honors excellence in family-friendly media, products and services. An esteemed panel of judges includes education, media and other experts as well as parents, children, librarians, performing artists, producers, medical and business professionals, authors, scientists and others. A sampling of the panel members includes: Dr. Twila C. Liggett, ten-time Emmy-winner, professor and founder of PBS's Reading Rainbow; Julie Aigner-Clark, Creator of Baby Einstein and The Safe Side Project; Jodee Blanco, and New York Times best-selling Author; LeAnn Thieman, motivational speaker and coauthor of seven Chicken Soup For The Soul books. . Parents and educators look for the Mom's Choice Awards seal in selecting quality materials and products for children and families.

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  • Posted December 17, 2009

    A MUST HAVE book for parents

    A practical hands-on guide to helping parents improve their relationships with their children. This book is an incredibly helpful tool for parents seeking effective strategies for dealing with their challenging children and for fostering closer parent-child relationships. Parents will find the techniques in this book to be fresh, fascinating and insightful. Parents of anxious children will find this book particularly helpful.

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