Connecting With Your Asperger Partner: Negotiating the Maze of Intimacy

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Communication and intimacy can feel like a constant struggle in relationships where one partner has Asperger Syndrome (AS).

Drawing on her own experience of being married to a man with AS, Louise Weston shows that the road to intimacy begins with letting go of expectations and looking after your own physical and emotional needs. She provides tried-and-tested strategies for relating to and connecting with your AS partner, as well as useful tips for coping with hurtful words and ...

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Overview

Communication and intimacy can feel like a constant struggle in relationships where one partner has Asperger Syndrome (AS).

Drawing on her own experience of being married to a man with AS, Louise Weston shows that the road to intimacy begins with letting go of expectations and looking after your own physical and emotional needs. She provides tried-and-tested strategies for relating to and connecting with your AS partner, as well as useful tips for coping with hurtful words and meltdowns, helping your partner to interpret emotions, and finding further sources of help and support. Above all, she shows that although your AS/NT relationship will challenge you beyond what you ever thought possible, by letting go of expectations and respecting each others' differences, this unique partnership really can be both happy and successful.

Brimming with stories and practical advice from other NT partners, this book will help NTs take positive steps towards connecting with their AS partners. It will also be a useful resource for counsellors and other professionals who wish to deepen their understanding of AS/NT relationships.

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Weston, a "neurotypical" (NT) registered nurse, has been married to a man with Asperger's syndrome (AS) since 1999 and ran an Asperger partners support group. The book reflects the author's utilization of self-help books about AS and relationships along with accumulated wisdom from support groups. AS is never fully explained here, although the concomitant behaviors are. Several key concepts, such as "special interest" and "meltdown," are used frequently in early chapters before being explained. On the positive side, Weston emphasizes self-care and getting professional help for the NT partner as an essential first step to being in a relationship with a person with Asperger's. VERDICT Too advanced to serve as an introductory read on AS, this summarizes useful emotional and behavioral strategies and includes further readings and resource suggestions for partners, family members, coworkers, and counselors of individuals with AS.—Paula McMillen, Univ. of Nevada, Las Vegas
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  • ISBN-13: 9781849051309
  • Publisher: Kingsley, Jessica Publishers
  • Publication date: 8/15/2010
  • Pages: 176
  • Sales rank: 802,869

Table of Contents

Acknowledgements 9

Foreword Tony Attwood 11

About This Book 13

Helpful Hints 16

1 Two Steps Forward, One Step Back 19

2 'Letting Go of Expectations' 27

3 Maintaining Your 'Energy Cup' 38

4 Does A Diagnosis Help? 52

5 Letting Go of Control 61

6 Communication Strategies 69

7 Helping Your Partner Interpret Emotions 82

8 Surviving Blunt and Harsh Words 94

9 Coping with Meltdowns 108

10 Regaining Your Identity 125

11 Beginning to Reconnect 140

12 Connecting Intimately 148

13 The Importance of a Support Group 158

14 Entering into the Aspie's World 165

15 The Unique Partnership 178

Afterword 186

Bibliography 192

Index 196

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