Constantly Craving: How to Make Sense of Always Wanting More

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We want more. More peace. More excitement. More romance. More free time. More chocolate . . .

Our cravings are written into our DNA. They’re influenced by our childhood experiences. They’re driving the choices we make as adults. And often, they’re keeping us hungry. Never satisfied. Ever searching.

What do they mean? What are we to do with them? Should we feel guilty? Are there solutions?

Counselor and author ...

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Overview

We want more. More peace. More excitement. More romance. More free time. More chocolate . . .

Our cravings are written into our DNA. They’re influenced by our childhood experiences. They’re driving the choices we make as adults. And often, they’re keeping us hungry. Never satisfied. Ever searching.

What do they mean? What are we to do with them? Should we feel guilty? Are there solutions?

Counselor and author Marilyn Meberg knows all about cravings. She also knows the One who knit us together, desires and all. With wit and compassion, Marilyn helps us understand our appetites, offers advice for managing them here on earth, and encourages us to eagerly await the day when we will find total satisfaction in heaven.

In the meantime, Constantly Craving is an excellent reminder that our desires for more can lead us to the One we really need, the only One who will quench our thirst forever. Really? Really!

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  • ISBN-13: 9781400203550
  • Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
  • Publication date: 3/13/2012
  • Pages: 240
  • Sales rank: 777,751
  • Product dimensions: 5.40 (w) x 8.40 (h) x 0.60 (d)

Meet the Author

Marilyn Meberg speaks each year to 350,000 women at the Women of Faith conferences and is the author of several books. Never one to avoid the hard questions of life, Marilyn Meberg shares the wisdom she's gained from two master's degrees and a private counseling practice.
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Constantly Craving


By MARILYN MEBERG

Thomas Nelson

Copyright © 2012 Marilyn Meberg
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-4002-0355-0


Chapter One

THE ITCH FOR SOME THING MORE

EVE, OF GENESIS FAME, WAS (OBVIOUSLY) THE FIRST WOMAN IN recorded history who did not want to be who she was or where she was. She didn't know who or where she would prefer to be, but she knew she wanted more of whatever it was she didn't have.

Her craving for more was elusive and ill defined. She had not experienced more but craved it anyway, and that craving drove her to give up what she had in order to get what she didn't even know. The price of Eve's craving for more had catastrophic cosmic consequences; her eviction from perfection left an imprint on all creation. That imprint produced a certain homelessness of the soul that drove Eve, her husband Adam—and all of us who followed—on a quest to return to that place where we hope to find perfection, wholeness, and fulfillment.

Perhaps I need to clarify what I mean by the word imprint. An imprint can be compared to a tattoo. Each leaves an impression, one on the flesh, the other on the soul. We all carry the imprint of Eden on our souls. How do we know that? We know it because we all crave wholeness and perfection. It is a universal drive. We humans had perfection once; we want it back. We think we might find it if we could just have more.

This yearning for more leads us to think that wholeness can be found in romantic love, accomplishments, possessions, happiness, fame ... the list goes on. And so does the craving for more.

The craving shows itself in many ways, ways we may not even recognize as craving. For some it may be reduced to a vague restlessness for which we have no explanation. We may experience it as simply an itch in the soul that we try to accommodate from time to time with a new car, a new house, a new city, new friends, a new lover, a new profession; again, the list goes on. It might be as simple as finding the perfect pizza, one with crust that's not too thick and not too thin.

This book is about recognizing and giving a name to the itch, the quest, the craving for a "more" experience, an experience I think of as finally finding home. When we're able to name what drives us, we can study and understand its potential for fulfillment. We can also come to understand its limitations to meet our "more" expectations. My goal in writing this book is to help you learn to live in the balance of a life that does not always meet your expectations—and a life that may sometimes exceed your expectations.

To begin this book's look at our meandering search for home with its promise of more, I share a lighthearted dinner experience I enjoyed recently with my good friend Luci Swindoll.

The food was good, but the guy playing his guitar and singing what was supposed to be background music was fairly close to terrible. When the musician took a break, he leaned his guitar by the stool and walked away. No one noticed; no one had been listening.

I said to Luci, "I'll pay for your dinner if you'll go over to the guy's stool, pick up his guitar, and sing a number.

She looked at me for only a second. "Dinner?" she asked.

"Dinner," I said.

With the deal made, Luci walked over to the guitar, strummed a few chords, and then began singing "Summertime." The room went totally quiet. The other diners stopped talking, put down their forks, and listened with rapt attention. When Luci finished singing they clapped, cheered, and yelled, "More!"

She couldn't do more; the bet was for one song. (I love it that Luci will do anything for a free meal.)

Why did the people stop talking and eating and start listening? It was not only because Luci has a gorgeous contralto voice. I also think the people were unaware that they needed more quality in the background music. But when they heard it, they thought, That's it! We needed that!

Possibly they had been unaware they wanted more of something; or possibly they felt a sense that something was missing but were unsure what that something was—until they experienced it. Consciously or subconsciously they were looking for a more experience. When it happened, they didn't want it to end. Predictably, the diners yelled "More!" when Luci finished singing.

Craving a Supersize More Experience

The desire for a more experience stems from dissatisfaction; we want more of something or other to satisfy the internal itch in the soul that craves something yet to be defined. We all have the itch; we all cast about for ways to satisfy it.

For many of us, the itch for more expresses itself far more dramatically than wanting satisfying background music at dinner. We may crave adrenaline-rush experiences, such as skydiving, bungee jumping, or zip-lining. Or we may crave a more supersize adrenaline experience, something guaranteed to accelerate our heart rate or even threaten our ability to survive.

At this point, I want to confess my own craving for a supersize more. As of this writing, I'm seventy-two years old, and I am itching to go zip-lining. I read somewhere that it is currently the fastest-growing outdoor activity for people of all ages craving a more experience.

Let me tell you about this fantastic out-of-the-box-for-even-the-elderly adventure. It involves climbing onto a platform, stepping into a harness, and getting hooked to a cable up to three hundred feet off the ground. Once secured, you go zipping along from one treetop platform to the next at up to sixty-five or seventy miles per hour.

Don't ask me why, but zipping through and over the treetops is enormously appealing to me. In fact, right now I am investigating a particular tour claiming to have the world's longest continuous zip line, spanning five and a half miles, including a 600-foot-long "sky bridge" suspended 170 feet above a gorge. How about that for ensuring my heart health by accelerating my pulse rate?

As long as I'm confessing, there's another supersize more experience I love: Brahma bull riding. In this case, you'll be happy to know, I don't crave actually riding the bull myself. I'm happy to be the observer. This craving started when I was six years old and my father took me to my first rodeo in Portland, Oregon. I loved it all, but when the Brahma bulls came into the ring, I stopped breathing. I was mesmerized as a beast weighing more than a thousand pounds leaped, twirled, gyrated, and wildly kicked his back legs into the air in a furious effort to be rid of the tenacious cowboy on his back.

When the cowboy was hurled into the dust, the bull charged the seemingly helpless cowboy with the intent of goring him to death with his horns. But then, as my heart pounded, I saw the rodeo clowns leap into action, hurrying into the bull's line of vision and distracting him from his death-to-the-cowboy intention. The cowboy scrambled away, climbed the arena railing to safety, and it was then I resumed breathing.

The thrill I felt at the age of six, sitting beside my father in the rodeo stands, is still with me. I frequently watch bull riding on TV, but it is far more satisfying to actually be there in person, feeling the crowd's excitement, smelling the rodeo smells, tensing with wide-eyed anticipation as the bull and cowboy go hurtling around the ring.

Understanding the Itch for More

Practically speaking, we know we cannot lead our lives on the adrenaline of supersize more experiences. There's work to be done, children to raise, bills to pay, pipes to fix, teeth to straighten, gardens to weed; the list is endless. If the truth were known, short of the supersize more we occasionally experience, most of us live much like the people in the restaurant, vaguely aware of wanting more of something but not sure what that something is. Sometimes we may happen upon it, but in a short time the gratification is gone and the itch returns.

What is the origin of this craving, this itch in the soul, this relentless questing for more? While living what appears to be a good life, what makes our crabby inner voice sometimes whisper, What is wrong with you? Can't you ever be satisfied?

Perhaps we also scold ourselves, thinking, What is wrong with me? Why do I always want more? Will I ever be satisfied? I should feel grateful. Maybe I'm spoiled and self-centered and not even worthy of what I have! Once that crabby inner voice has a head of steam going, that interior dialogue can continue until we do something toward shushing it—maybe going out and buying something.

In the following chapters we will talk about these mysterious cravings for more: how they express themselves and how we may better understand them. We'll begin with an examination of the craving for romantic love. Few human experiences knock us off balance more than love. It's a craving that elicits more poetry, music, and drama than any other subject on the planet.

Chapter Two

CRAVING MORE ROMANCE

MY MOM NOTICED MY "HAPPY LITTLE FACE" AS SOON AS I SKIPPED in the door. "Was school especially good today, Marilyn?" she asked as I settled in for my favorite afternoon snack.

I knew why I had a happy little face, but I wanted to keep my delicious feeling all to myself, at least until Mom tucked me into bed that night. Then I might tell her my fabulous news: Bobby Turner had told me after kickball that he loved me.

I was ecstatic. I had been eyeballing him ever since he transferred from Camus Elementary to my classroom at Amboy Elementary. He was a little short for a nine-year-old, but he had a certain swagger that made him seem tall. He also had deep brown eyes that melted me. I had prayed all my short life for brown eyes, and here they were, in the cutest boy I'd ever seen. Maybe that was how God was answering my prayer: brown eyes by proxy.

As the days rolled by, Bobby was a steady and loyal keeper of my heart. He always picked me first when we chose sides for kickball, and he complimented me when I scored a run. Each day we walked home from school together and shared half of either his Almond Joy or my Hershey's bar. The seriousness of our relationship was never in doubt.

But then, several months later, I began to find Bobby's swagger annoying. I also decided he truly was too short, with or without his swagger. The fact that I was at least six inches taller than he became an issue.

To my great relief, I didn't have to talk to him about my gradual change of heart. Somehow we started leaving school at different times, and a week later I was sharing my Hershey bar with Jerry Baxter. It was not long before I saw Bobby swaggering home with Norma Delworth.

It didn't cross my mind at the age of nine to ponder why Bobby became increasingly unattractive to me. Neither did I wonder about my relief when Jerry Baxter moved away. Whatever "it" was that caused my feelings to change, both boys no longer had it. At that point in my life, I didn't have the insight to know I was simply experiencing the desire for something more, something else that was surely "out there." I started believing I'd find it later, when I got out of the fourth grade.

The Futile, Furtive Search for Love

The sixteenth-century French writer La Rochefoucauld wrote, "True love is like seeing ghosts: we all talk about it, but few of us have ever seen one." As an optimistic fourth-grader, there is no way I would have believed that crabby assessment of "true love." In fact most of us would think La Rochefoucauld was simply a lonely old Frenchman who had stopped searching too soon and lapsed into a depression.

A case in point is Emma Bovary, the heroine created by another classic French writer, Gustave Flaubert, in his novel Madame Bovary. (It sounds as if I'm picking on the French; I'm not. I love croissants.) Emma had high hopes for romance in a perfect and passionate marriage. She describes her idea of how love should be with these words:

Love must come suddenly, with great outbursts and lightnings—a hurricane of the skies which falls upon life, revolutionizes it, roots up the will like a leaf, and sweeps the whole heart into the abyss.

With those expectations, Emma marries Charles Bovary, a devoted but clumsy and inarticulate country doctor. After a few years of what she perceives as a passionless relationship, she revolts against the boredom and monotony of her life to pursue her romantic dreams.

Until Flaubert's book was written in 1857, the reading public basically agreed with Emma's definition of love as well as her search for it. Those nineteenth-century readers were incensed then when, in Flaubert's novel, Emma never finds romantic love. Instead her sordid and secret affairs are discovered and made public. With her reputation ruined and her scandalous life too hard to bear, Madame Bovary swallows poison and dies.

The reading public was furious, believing Flaubert had let them down. They were used to having their own unmet needs mollified by reading about fictional characters who were rewarded with passion and romance. Why would Flaubert have Emma die under such tragic circumstances when all she wanted was what everyone craves?

Incidentally, after the publication of Madame Bovary, other authors began to write novels about life as it is rather than how we wish it were: a perfect existence where romantic cravings are met and cravings for more disappear. Flaubert introduced what became known as literary realism. Poignantly, when Flaubert was interviewed about his tragic heroine, he said, "Emma Bovary is me." His own heart cry was heard in Emma's furtive search for romantic love.

Stage One: High on Romantic Love Drugs

Maybe it would be good to ask whether romantic love is doomed ultimately to disappoint us, fail us, hurt us. Do we inevitably get bored and find someone else to share our candy bar with? Is true love really just a ghost rarely seen?

My answer to those questions is no, romantic love is not doomed to disappoint us, fail us, hurt us, or even bore us. I believe most of us have known a few love ghosts who have not only materialized, they've hung around for the long haul, and we're glad about that. But I do think our eager hearts need to be reminded of some down-to-earth facts concerning love-ghost encounters.

There are two major developmental stages in romantic love. The first stage, the attraction stage, is what knocks us down and drags us around. It's as though we are on a drug high. During the attraction stage the brain releases dopamine and norepinephrine. Those two neurotransmitters produce a rosy outlook on life that also produces an increased pulse rate and increased energy. In addition to those drug rushes, the brain increases its production of endorphins and enkephalins. Those are natural narcotics that make the ghost-spotter grin stupidly and sing in public. And then there's serotonin, yet another serenity-producing neurotransmitter released during the head-over-heels stage. So we can honestly say romantic love is initially a drug-induced state of being.

Scientists don't know why the brain releases all those powerful chemicals, and neither do they know why those chemicals diminish with time. It is a biologically documented fact, however, that romantic love pushes all our interior drug buttons.

With that understanding of the chemistry of love, Emma Bovary's definition of love does not seem so extreme. When she expected "great outbursts and lightnings" and "a hurricane of the skies, which ... roots up the will like a leaf, and sweeps the whole heart into the abyss," she was describing her love-drug highs. And when that stage of romantic love diminished, no longer producing the high she craved, she assumed she had missed real romance. Therefore the search began again.

Though Emma Bovary is a fictional character, many of us have also fallen victim to her lack of understanding about romantic love. Perhaps we have not known that the first stage of love is a drug high followed by a return to chemical balance. If we assume love is gone when the drug high is gone, we may be missing a good relationship that could develop without the aid of "brain drugs."

Though the brain is at times a dispenser of drugs, it can also become our best friend as it guides us along reasonable ways of being. It can help us understand why we make one choice as opposed to another and why that choice may or may not be wise for us.

(Continues...)



Excerpted from Constantly Craving by MARILYN MEBERG Copyright © 2012 by Marilyn Meberg. Excerpted by permission of Thomas Nelson. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
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Table of Contents

Contents

Foreword by Dr. Henry Cloud....................ix
1. The itch for Something More....................1
2. Craving More Romance....................11
3. Why Do I Crave You?....................25
4. Craving More from Marriage....................37
5. Longing for Contentment....................49
6. Hungry for Happiness....................63
7. needing More from Friendship....................79
8. I Don't Have Time!....................95
9. Yearning for More Meaning in Life....................113
10. Finding More in God's Purpose for Our Lives....................127
11. Finding More Meaning in Solitude....................141
12. Finding Freedom from the Craving for Revenge....................157
13. Craving Forgiveness and Relief from Guilt....................173
14. Feeling Homesick....................187
15. Craving Heaven....................201
16. One More Word....................217
Notes....................223
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  • Posted April 17, 2013

    This is a book that speaks mainly os the reasons people are unha

    This is a book that speaks mainly os the reasons people are unhappy. They have these desires or longings, cravings and simply choose to ignore them and do other things instead, however difficult that is the way and then be happy. The author is a researcher of this effect on people's lives, and her years of experience have a lot to say about the will of the people, and what happens when they do or not their wishes. In both cases the result can be disastrous. The author treats all these facts with lightness and humor, she is gentle and knows how to treat seriously a subject so important to the lives of all of us, after all, our wills motivate our actions, and these define the life we ¿¿lead.

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    Posted December 13, 2012

    I found this book very insightful and would highly recommend usi

    I found this book very insightful and would highly recommend using it as a resource for those who battle with disorders like depression, anxiety, substance abuse. It is a great resource to know that they are not alone in their battles and we all crave for more. I have used portions of this book when counseling others. I have never received negative feedback from something I've shared. I admire Maryilyn for reaching out to others through her writings in this book both from a professional and spiritual level. This is a must read for sure and as stated earlier... a reread ! Thank you Marilyn.

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  • Posted August 9, 2012

    A book that explains the itch of the soul to always wanting more

    A book that explains the itch of the soul to always wanting more and more of something. An eye opener that can make us understand more of our own craving in the soul. Understand and be at peace with the cravings is something possible to do. I am so blessed to read this book, and is sure to be one of those books that I'm gonna reread!

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  • Posted August 6, 2012

    In Constantly Craving author Marilyn Meberg tackles an issue so

    In Constantly Craving author Marilyn Meberg tackles an issue so predominant in our modern society: the curse of always wanting, seeking, hungering for more and how this ceaseless drive can bring us to a place of always feeling shorted.

    Meberg, trained in psychology, explains that craving is rooted in childhood and can be a driving force for positive ends, but can also grow beyond our control pushing us to a place of never being satiated and always feeling unhappy.

    For such a worthy topic, this book falls short. I found it to be too simplistic and too laden with the author’s personal anecdotes. The text was just too flimsy for such a deep topic.

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  • Posted June 4, 2012

    This is not about food cravings or a self-help book to stop some

    This is not about food cravings or a self-help book to stop some kind of addiction.
    Constantly Craving is about our innate human craving for more in love, home, peace, time, purpose in life, friends, even revenge and others. Here Marilyn Meberg will help us understand that we will only attain complete satisfaction and contentedness in God.

    The need for more is part of our existence. When we were young, we want to be older, we have $10 we want $100. People who are already at the top of their career still wants to go somewhere. Happy people seems to still want more. It just goes on and on.

    Marilyn Meberg is a 72 year old counselor who also speaks at Women of Faith. She will explain the reasons why we constantly crave for more. She will share her personal and professional experiences and biblical scriptures to help us understand and manage our cravings.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 2, 2012

    Constantly Craving, by Marilyn Meberg, is a book abour desire. W

    Constantly Craving, by Marilyn Meberg, is a book abour desire. We all seem to desire more of everything, and our society tells us to long for more than what we have. More peace, more romance, more excitement, more stuff... In this book, Meberg helps us to understand our cravings and dersires as well as how to manage and control them. She talks about the need for more in marriage, needing more romance, the yearning for meaning in life, and many other topics that tend to always leave us wanting more.

    I found this book to be full of great insight and truth from the author, but also found myself getting bored and wandering off in thought about other things. I enjoyed Meberg's encouragement throughout the book about how in heaven, there will be no more craving and desire: We will have the One who created us and who loves us more than life.

    I would probably recommend this book for people who find themselves not happy or who feel lacking with what they have. The book can help to put into perspective our cravings in life, and also make them manageable.

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  • Posted May 8, 2012

    Constantly Craving explores the desires of our lives and how the

    Constantly Craving explores the desires of our lives and how they point us back to God. Author Marilyn Medberg is counselor who speaks at Women of Faith conferences. As I discovered this, I wondered how an older (grey-haired) woman would speak to me. And while she does, obviously, write from a feminine view-point, what she has to say crosses age and gender gaps.

    Medberg looks at areas like romance, friendships, happiness, purpose, meaning and homesickness to look at what our cravings tell us. We all desire more (whether it be from something addictive or something good like happiness); God wired us this way for a reason. I appreciated Medberg’s professional insight as well as life wisdom that gave reasons for this.

    Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

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  • Posted April 25, 2012

    It seems that in America these days there is an insatiable desir

    It seems that in America these days there is an insatiable desire for more: more things, more friends, more experiences, etc. Have you ever stopped to wonder, "Why can't I just be content with what I have? Why do I want so much more?" The book Constantly Craving by Marilyn Meberg offers some good insight into the answers to that question. She tackles some of the deeper areas of longing we experience: love, marriage, purpose, and the meaning of life.

    She does point out though, "In this book I have not written about the most commonly discussed and socially apparent craving issues like alcohol. drugs, pornography, or gambling." Instead she focuses on the cravings of the heart from which these other cravings stem from.

    As I picked this book up, I was hoping for a psychological examination of our cravings, especially since I saw that she was a professional counselor. Instead I got some psychological examination and a lot of spiritual examination instead. Don't get me wrong, I think she was spot on with her evaluations, it just wasn't quite what I was expecting. In her book she points out that the true longings we experience are really for God and not for more out of life. Only through an encounter with God can we truly find contentment and joy. Our cravings will ultimately be satisfied as we spend eternity with Him.

    All in all I thought it was a very good, easy read and would recommend it to anyone who finds themselves dissatisfied or frustrated with life.

    I received a copy of this book from the publishing company and was not required to write a positive review. All opinions expressed here are my own.

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  • Posted April 15, 2012

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    A good read if you're feeling like there's something "more" out there

    Mrs. Meberg writes like she speaks, with a lot of wisdom and a big dose of humor. One of my favorite lines from the book is included on the chapter about time and in a paragraph about aging. She says "Why do I have hip pain? Why are stairs a challenge one day and not the next? I can't believe the flesh waving from the backs of my arms. What is there to wave about, and why the exuberance?" Totally cracked me up.

    Her experience as a counselor shows in her writing, with lots of practical tips for facing challenges. I read this book straight through, but the chapters could definitely be read individually as they each address a different life challenge and don't necessarily build upon each other (with a few exceptions near the end and beginning of the book). It does come across a little disjointed when read straight through, but this is still a book that I will be keeping on my shelf to refer to in times of challenge or uncertainty. Topics covered include romance, marriage, friendship, happiness, finding more meaning in life, and finding time to do things. She does not address physical cravings, but emotional ones. At the end of the book she does note that she realizes that she hasn't written about issues such as alcohol, drugs, pornography or gambling, and urges people dealing with those issues to be reminded of how God feels about them by referring to the story of the prodigal son.

    Overall, I thought this was a nicely written book with lots of good tips and encouragement for life. It's not a long book or a challenging read, so if you're feeling unsettled or discontented with things in your life or just are wondering if there's something "more" out there for you, definitely take a look at this book.

    I received a copy of this book to review for myself as part of the Booksneeze book review program. I was under no obligation to post a positive review and all opinions posted here are mine and mine alone.

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  • Posted April 15, 2012

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    Craving Something More From This Book

    A good book is either original or fresh.

    I realized that last night reading Marilyn Meberg’s book Constantly Craving—which is a fine book from a wise woman, but not a good book.

    Here’s how I know:

    I did not highlight any passages.

    I did not pause to reflect.

    I did not race to the next page.

    I can’t, having read ninety pages today, remember any specific detail, fact, scriptural insight, or story that I might like to share with a friend or dissect in a blog post.

    It’s complicated because I didn’t find anything to fault in Constantly Craving. Like I said it is a fine, sturdy, likable book about the human desire for more, more of practically everything. Meberg’s voice is warm but not saccharine sweet. Her handling of the topic shows knowledge and experience.

    I liked the cover.

    But, looking closely, I realized my problems were two-fold:

    It wasn’t original. I’d heard this information before.

    It wasn’t fresh. I’d heard this information presented this way before.

    Rare is the original book, but not so rare as one might think. Writers do actually stumble upon completely new thoughts, thoughts arrived upon most often by connection (This is true and this is true—just look at what we see when we put them side-by-side!).

    More common is the fresh book, an exercise in perspective-shifting in which the author says what we know is true but says it in a way we haven’t heard with words upon which we have yet to overdose. A fresh perspective on even the most obvious of truths warrants a book.

    And I suppose that is why I wrote this post—to decide what warrants a book. Because I want to write books and I do not want to write bad books. Or even fine books.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 28, 2012

    Constantly Craving by Marilyn Meberg is not at all what you woul

    Constantly Craving by Marilyn Meberg is not at all what you would expect from a book of its title and with a cup of water on the cover. This book has nothing to do with physical food. And despite the whole first chapter being about dealing with our cravings for the elusive "more" of shopping, entertainment, new cars, bigger houses, and more materialism, this book is also not about those things. This book is not about dealing with our materialistic cravings.

    The book is about cravings for spiritual things. And instead of "overcoming cravings", this book is about satisfying relational and spiritual cravings. This is a very odd book. The first chapter speaks all about overcoming materialistic cravings, yet the rest of the book is nothing about this. Then this book launches oddly into the psychology of relationships in 4 chapters - barely touching on anything to do with God or Christianity. It's all about observing the human tendency of being disatisfied in one relationship and running to the next in a pattern of using other people. It's all about our need for human contact. It's pure psychology and mostly written for single people or disatisfied married people.

    Then just as oddly, this book breaks into chapters on being content. Then it switches to one good chapter on satisfying our spiritual cravings. But then it goes back to a weird chapter on revenge. Huh? How does revenge fit the topic of cravings/neediness? Then there is the mystical chapter on solitude - where the author chants "Jesus" endlessly in a form of "mindless meditation" - not a practice of normal Protestant Christianity.

    Even being a single woman, I found only the one spiritual chapter relevant to my life. All the rest is written for people struggling with personal relationships, cheating, unfaithfulness and always looking for the greener pasture. This book was odd and I feel I wasted a day reading it and it added nothing much to my life.

    I received this book free of charge from the publisher in exchange for this review but I did really give my honest opinion

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  • Posted March 9, 2012

    Constantly Craving was spectacularly written by Marilyn Meberg.

    Constantly Craving was spectacularly written by Marilyn Meberg. Meberg is a wife, mother, daughter, counsler, and child of God. She’s also a part of Women of Faith. We are constantly craving more and more in our life, even if we are content with everything. We crave more of love, family, forgiveness, etc. This book is very well written and makes you realize how much that we crave in our lives. We crave more for love and commitment from others even if we don’t give that love to others. We sometimes crave for forgiveness from others, even if we don’t grant others the same forgiveness. To truly be content in life we need to become and be a part of Christ. I’m glad I took the time to read this book and learn so much about myself and my faith with the Holy Spirit.

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  • Posted March 7, 2012

    Constantly Craving, by Marilyn Meberg is a must read for anyone


    Constantly Craving, by Marilyn Meberg is a must read for anyone who is craving more. Doesn’t matter WHAT you’re craving, we as humans are imprinted with this unquenchable desire for more. “Eve, of Genesis fame, was…the first woman in recorded history who did not want to be who she was or where she was….She knew she wanted more of whatever it was she didn’t have. Her craving for more was elusive and ill defined.” Her craving, and the consequences of her going looking for that more have left us all imprinted with the same elusive desire for more. Our cravings are written into our DNA and they influence our decisions. They often come from what we experience as children, but they leave us unsatisfied. Meberg details several of the things that women specifically crave more of, more romance, more contentment, more happiness. Then she humorously leads us straight to the One who can give us more; the only one who can truly satisfy our every craving; because, without really knowing it He is what we crave. Witty, funny and touching this book leaves nothing to be desired, but wanting more of Jesus.

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