Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent: A Guide For Stressed Out Children

Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent: A Guide For Stressed Out Children

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by Grace Lebow, Barbara Kane, Irwin Lebow
     
 

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Do You Have
An Aging Parent Who
--

  • Blames you for everything that goes wrong?
  • Cannot tolerate being alone, wants you all the time?
  • Is obsessed with health problems, real, or imagined?
  • Make unreasonable and/or irrational demands of you?
  • Is hostile, negative and critical?

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Overview

Do You Have
An Aging Parent Who
--

  • Blames you for everything that goes wrong?
  • Cannot tolerate being alone, wants you all the time?
  • Is obsessed with health problems, real, or imagined?
  • Make unreasonable and/or irrational demands of you?
  • Is hostile, negative and critical?

Coping with these traits in parents is an endless high-stress battle for their children. Though there's no medical defination for "difficult" parents, you know when you have one. While it's rare for adults to change their ways late in life, you can stop the vicious merry-go-round of anger, blame, guilt and frustration.

For the first time, here's a common-sense guide from professionals, with more than two decades in the field, on how to smooth communications with a challenging parent. Filled with practical tips for handling contentious behaviors and sample dialogues for some of the most troubling situations, this book addresses many hard issues, including:

  • How to tell your parent he or she cannot live with you.
  • How to avoid the cycle of nagging and recriminations
  • How to prevent your parent's negativity from overwhelming you.
  • How to deal with an impaired parent who refuses to stop driving.
  • How to asses the risk factors in deciding whether a parent is still able to live alone.
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    Product Details

    ISBN-13:
    9780062111968
    Publisher:
    HarperCollins Publishers
    Publication date:
    08/02/2011
    Sold by:
    HARPERCOLLINS
    Format:
    NOOK Book
    Pages:
    224
    Sales rank:
    230,068
    File size:
    275 KB

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    Meet the Author

    Grace Lebow and Barbara Kane, the co-founders of Aging Network Services of Bethesda, Maryland, are clinical social workers and care managers, specializing in older people and their families. They created a nationwide network of similar professionals to work with geographically separated families. This is their first book.

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    Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
    JMarcell More than 1 year ago
    There are few good books on managing difficult elders and this is one of the best. Includes real situations every adult child and professional caregiver can relate to and gives workable solutions. You will realize you are not alone and that brave souls have gone through this and survived--and you will find hope for managing obstinate elders effectively. I was delighted to interview Grace on my 'Coping with Caregiving' radio show. -Jacqueline Marcell, Author 'Elder Rage', International Speaker on Eldercare & Alzheimer's, Host 'Coping With Caregiving' Internet Radio Show at wsRadio
    Guest More than 1 year ago
    I want to complement the authors on their insight. I did deal with some of these problems in my own book, 'Dancing in the Dark: Things My Mother Never Told Me,' but my intention was to write it, I am not educated enough to help solve the problem or understand it. ' A Guide for Stressed Out Children etc' did that for me. I highly recommend it. There will come a time in everyone's life, I'm afraid, when it will be needed. I intend to buy this book and give it to my daughter in case she needs it for dealing with me. I am 73-year-old woman, racing rapidly toward being a feisty old lady. I will never knowingly cause my daughter, my only child, the grief I had with my mother and my in-laws, but sometimes it cannot be helped in the case of Dementia or worse. Some of the characters could have been members of my family. My mother-in-law used to say, when we traveled, 'Do you know what you are doing to me?' Everyone with older parents should own this book.