The Cow in the Parking Lot: A Zen Approach to Overcoming Anger
"One of the best books I've ever read on anger. It's lucid, comprehensive, and filled with valuable insights." —Dr. Howard C. Cutler, coauthor with the Dalai Lama of The Art of Happiness
Don't get mad. Get calm.
Using simple Buddhist principles and applying them in a way that is easy for non-Buddhists to understand and put into practice, Leonard Scheff and Susan Edmiston have created an interactive book that helps readers change perspective, step-by-step, so that they can replace the anger in their lives with newfound happiness. Based on the Transforming Anger workshop Scheff created, The Cow in the Parking Lot shows how anger is based on unmet demands, from the reasonable (we want love from our partner) to the irrational (we want respect from a total stranger) to the impossible (we want someone to fix everything in our life).
The authors show how, once we identify our real unmet demands, we can dissolve the anger.
We learn to laugh at ourselves, a critical early step in changing angry behavior. We learn how to deal with the anger of others, and ultimately how to transform anger into compassion.
And finally, we learn the liberating truth: Only you can make yourself angry.
"The Cow in the Parking Lot provides many insights and revelations about reducing anger and creating greater happiness in your life." —John Tarrant, author of Bring Me Rhinoceros and Other Zen Koans That Will Save Your Life
"One of the best titles available on anger management." —California Bookwatch
"A fresh approach to the perennial issue of anger." —Library Journal
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The Cow in the Parking Lot: A Zen Approach to Overcoming Anger
"One of the best books I've ever read on anger. It's lucid, comprehensive, and filled with valuable insights." —Dr. Howard C. Cutler, coauthor with the Dalai Lama of The Art of Happiness
Don't get mad. Get calm.
Using simple Buddhist principles and applying them in a way that is easy for non-Buddhists to understand and put into practice, Leonard Scheff and Susan Edmiston have created an interactive book that helps readers change perspective, step-by-step, so that they can replace the anger in their lives with newfound happiness. Based on the Transforming Anger workshop Scheff created, The Cow in the Parking Lot shows how anger is based on unmet demands, from the reasonable (we want love from our partner) to the irrational (we want respect from a total stranger) to the impossible (we want someone to fix everything in our life).
The authors show how, once we identify our real unmet demands, we can dissolve the anger.
We learn to laugh at ourselves, a critical early step in changing angry behavior. We learn how to deal with the anger of others, and ultimately how to transform anger into compassion.
And finally, we learn the liberating truth: Only you can make yourself angry.
"The Cow in the Parking Lot provides many insights and revelations about reducing anger and creating greater happiness in your life." —John Tarrant, author of Bring Me Rhinoceros and Other Zen Koans That Will Save Your Life
"One of the best titles available on anger management." —California Bookwatch
"A fresh approach to the perennial issue of anger." —Library Journal
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The Cow in the Parking Lot: A Zen Approach to Overcoming Anger

The Cow in the Parking Lot: A Zen Approach to Overcoming Anger

The Cow in the Parking Lot: A Zen Approach to Overcoming Anger

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"One of the best books I've ever read on anger. It's lucid, comprehensive, and filled with valuable insights." —Dr. Howard C. Cutler, coauthor with the Dalai Lama of The Art of Happiness
Don't get mad. Get calm.
Using simple Buddhist principles and applying them in a way that is easy for non-Buddhists to understand and put into practice, Leonard Scheff and Susan Edmiston have created an interactive book that helps readers change perspective, step-by-step, so that they can replace the anger in their lives with newfound happiness. Based on the Transforming Anger workshop Scheff created, The Cow in the Parking Lot shows how anger is based on unmet demands, from the reasonable (we want love from our partner) to the irrational (we want respect from a total stranger) to the impossible (we want someone to fix everything in our life).
The authors show how, once we identify our real unmet demands, we can dissolve the anger.
We learn to laugh at ourselves, a critical early step in changing angry behavior. We learn how to deal with the anger of others, and ultimately how to transform anger into compassion.
And finally, we learn the liberating truth: Only you can make yourself angry.
"The Cow in the Parking Lot provides many insights and revelations about reducing anger and creating greater happiness in your life." —John Tarrant, author of Bring Me Rhinoceros and Other Zen Koans That Will Save Your Life
"One of the best titles available on anger management." —California Bookwatch
"A fresh approach to the perennial issue of anger." —Library Journal

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780761161981
Publisher: Workman Publishing Company
Publication date: 09/24/2024
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: eBook
Pages: 382
File size: 3 MB

About the Author

Susan Edmiston, a former editor at Redbook and Glamour, writes for New York, The New York Times Magazine and Book Review, Esquire, The San Francisco Chronicle, and Women's Day. She lives in Berkeley, California. 
Leonard Scheff, a successful trial lawyer in Tucson, Arizona, is also a practicing Buddhist who, for the last fifteen years, has conducted seminars on managing anger.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 A New Approach to Dealing with Anger 11

Chapter 2 A First Look at Anger How does it Feel? 28

Chapter 3 The Cause of Anger An Unmet Demand 39

Chapter 4 The Cost of Anger Who Pays? 54

Chapter 5 Anger and Awareness Who Me Angry? 70

Chapter 6 Pride, Honor, and Other Buttons Our Sore Spots 88

Chapter 7 Giving and Receiving Shifting the Emotional Balance 102

Chapter 8 The Mythology of Happiness Do we Really Know What's Good for Us? 116

Chapter 9 Unshakeable Calm Dealing with the Anger of Others 130

Chapter 10 To Be or Not to Be Angry You have a Choice 149

Chapter 11 Transforming Anger into Compassion Wielding the Flame of Fury 161

Chapter 12 Coming to a Conclusion What Happens When we Give Up Anger? 185

Further Reading 195

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