Crazy Loveby Leslie Morgan Steiner
At 22, Leslie Morgan Steiner seemed to have it all: a Harvard diploma, a glamorous job at Seventeen magazine, a downtown New York City apartment. Plus a handsome, funny, street-smart boyfriend who adored her. But behind her façade of success, this golden girl hid a dark secret. She'd made a mistake shared by millions: she fell in love with the wrong/i>
At 22, Leslie Morgan Steiner seemed to have it all: a Harvard diploma, a glamorous job at Seventeen magazine, a downtown New York City apartment. Plus a handsome, funny, street-smart boyfriend who adored her. But behind her façade of success, this golden girl hid a dark secret. She'd made a mistake shared by millions: she fell in love with the wrong person.
At first Leslie and Conor seemed as perfect together as their fairy-tale wedding. Then came the fights she tried to ignore: he pushed her down the stairs of the house they bought together, poured coffee grinds over her hair as she dressed for a critical job interview, choked her during an argument, and threatened her with a gun. Several times, he came close to making good on his threat to kill her. With each attack, Leslie lost another piece of herself.
Gripping and utterly compelling, Crazy Love takes you inside the violent, devastating world of abusive love. Conor said he'd been abused since he was a young boy, and love and rage danced intimately together in his psyche. Why didn't Leslie leave? She stayed because she loved him. Find out for yourself if she had fallen truly in love – or into a psychological trap. Crazy Love will draw you in -- and never let go.
Steiner, a fresh Harvard graduate and new hire at Seventeen magazine, met a handsome young Wall Street trader riding the subway home. Nearly a year later-five days before her wedding-he reveals his penchant for battery when he slaps her for swearing at her computer. After two years of enduring his beatings and humiliations, she finally realizes that though she loves him, she can't help him overcome his violent childhood. The internal process of divorcing him and moving on takes much longer. Steiner's is an eye-opening, moving journey, told with candor, self-forgiveness, and grace. For abuse survivors everywhere.
“Compulsively readable.” People (3 ½ stars)
“[Readers will] cheer as Steiner… slowly regains her sense of self and escapes this crazy love.” The Washington Post
“In steady, intimate prose punctuated by surprising, refreshing streaks of humor… this courageous, empowering survival story brings the phrase ‘battered woman' into terrifying focus.” Kirkus
“A courageous and revealing look at domestic abuse and one woman's effort to free herself.” Booklist
“Riveting… An elegant stylist, Morgan eschews the easy pop psychology route in favor of a thought-provoking peek into how violence and abuse curdle into distorted thinking.” Minneapolis Star Tribune
“In this gripping, compulsively readable story of romantic love and its dreadful underside, Leslie Morgan Steiner has written a classic. What makes love turn to violence? How can a woman know she is at risk? These are some of the questions elegantly addressed in Steiner's important book about how she survived a marriage which almost killed her. Her painful journey from love to fear to sanity is ultimately heartening and serves a profound lesson. This book should be required reading for all women.” Susan Cheever
“Crazy Love reminds us that sometimes a marriage can go from being a mere skirmish in the battle of the sexes to becoming a full-on physical war. The book stands as a warning to all women to be vigilant when they pick their spouses, to always have an exit strategy in mind, to know where the money in the marriage is, to pick up as much education as possible – all for the possible day when they may find themselves battered, broke, terrified and alone. It can happen to anyone, and every woman should prepare herself for it.” Carolyn See, author of Making a Literary Life
“A harrowing cautionary tale that should be read by every woman who thinks romantic love can overcome all. I read this book in one terrifying gulp and plan to have my daughter read it. Every mother should do the same.” Elsa Walsh, staff writer for The New Yorker and author of Divided Lives
“After a few moments of disbelief--how could a nice girl from a nice family marry such a cruel and dangerous man?--I found myself cheering for this woman who gets off the floor--literally--and goes on to save her own life. Crazy Love is a deeply affecting account of cruelty and abuse in a marriage doomed from the start. It is a reminder that while bad behavior can be explained it can never be excused, and that while placing blame is rarely useful, letting go is. Leslie Morgan Steiner's candor is wrenching and ultimately inspiring.” Jane Juska, author of Unaccompanied Women and A Round-Heeled Woman
“Leslie Morgan Steiner has written a memoir that is as seductive as a whirlwind romance. This is a book for every woman -- and man -- who has ever felt, as Steiner writes, that ‘leaving was easy. The hard part was figuring out where to go.'” Veronica Chambers, author, Mama's Girl
“Bright, beautiful and battered. Leslie Morgan Steiner didn't think of herself as a victim until it was almost too late. Hers is a success story that shows how excruciating a declaration of independence can be and how much happiness can come from it. Read it and cheer.” George Lardner, author of The Stalking of Kristin and winner of the Pulitzer Prize for his Washington Post series investigating his daughter's murder by her ex-boyfriend
“Most love is crazy -- at first, it's that can't eat, can't sleep feeling. Then it moves into a comfortable, warm, hopefully, still sexy state. Leslie Morgan Steiner shows us with wrenching clarity when crazy is good and when crazy is something you need to leave. A must read for anyone in a consuming relationship.” Iris Krasnow, author of New York Times bestseller, Surrendering to Marriage
“If you've ever read your daughter the story of Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty, you should make sure she knows the story Leslie Morgan Steiner tells in Crazy Love, too. This book is for every woman who's ever thought, "I can change him. He'll change for me"and who hasn't thought that? Steiner's tale unfolds with all the harrowing inevitability of a horror movie, the kind where you watch the heroine start down the dark staircase to the basement with your heart pounding as you whisper, ‘No! Don't do it! Don't!’
That such a smart, kind, funny, vital woman could let herself be victimized this way seems almost unimaginableand yet Steiner makes you understand how it came to pass, and even appreciate, with a sort of disgusted awe, how expertly her husband manipulates her aching insecurities and longing for that great big happily-ever-after love we learn about in fairy tales. That she comes out the other side is miraculous. That she's brave enough to tell this frank and brutal story is, too.” Sandy Hingston, “Loco Parentis” columnist for Philadelphia Magazine and author of The Affair
“That such a smart, kind, funny, vital woman could let herself be victimized this way seems almost unimaginable--and yet Steiner makes you understand how it came to pass, and even appreciate, with a sort of disgusted awe, how expertly her husband manipulates her aching insecurities and longing for that great big happily-ever-after love we learn about in fairy tales. That she comes out the other side is miraculous. That she's brave enough to tell this frank and brutal story is, too. ” Sandy Hingston, "Loco Parentis" columnist for Philadelphia Magazine and author of The Affair
“A vivid and compelling story that goes a long way to dispelling the myth that women who are abused by men are in some way at fault. This book will be cherished by any woman who has ever been in the grip of an abusive relationship.” Jane Bernstein, author of Bereft:A Sister's Story and Rachel in the World
“Steiner's brave, insightful memoir reveals how independent and capable women can find themselves trapped in violent relationships. More important, she shows that women can find their way out of abusive relationships. Her absorbing story will inspire every reader. To a reader with an abusive partner, it may well save her life.” Elisabeth Joy LaMotte, psychotherapist and author of Overcoming Your Parents' Divorce
“Leslie Morgan Steiner pulls no punches in this brutally honest memoir of a brave, smart, fresh-faced young woman's descent into domestic hell. Domestic violence isn't picky and it doesn't only happen to "other people." All of us are vulnerable. Her story is proof that love can come on so strong it can kill you. Steiner's good news? Sometimes the end of the world is actually the very beginning.” Monica Holloway, author of Driving With Dead People and Cowboy and Wills
“Leslie Morgan Steiner is the bravest woman I know. Not only did she save her own life, but now she has --opened her heart to save countless others. As one who has hidden to avoid the humiliation of a fat lip, I know how hard that can be. Crazy Love recounts the sad, sentimental journey that destroys the myth of physical abuse - that it doesn't happen to nice girls, or smart girls, or anyone you know. Steiner's vivid prose paints a clear picture of how it started, why she let it continue, and how she escaped to tell the tale. Crazy Love sets the record straight: love can be a four letter word.” Leslie Lehr, author of Wife Goes On
“I read this book in one night. Crazy Love is a gripping, beautifully crafted and above all a painfully honest account of a woman (who by all accounts doesn't look the type) grappling with an abusive relationship. If you've ever been there or heard about a woman dealing with this situation and wondered, "why'd she stay?" read Leslie's unselfconscious account. Now I understand. Read Crazy Love and you will too.” Stefanie Wilder-Taylor, author of Sippy Cups Are Not for Chardonnay
“Leslie Morgan Steiner has written a deeply compelling, brutally honest and important book about her relationship with a man who abused her, emotionally and physically. I couldn't put it down. It's a must-read for anyone who has been there or knows someone who has -- or just wonders how it happens. Most importantly, Leslie's own life offers living, breathing proof that women can not only break these destructive bonds, but move on to build successful marriages, families and careers.” Dee Dee Myers, author of Why Women Should Rule the World
A harrowing cautionary tale that should be read by every woman who thinks romantic love can overcome all. I read this book in one terrifying gulp and plan to have my daughter read it. Every mother should do the same.
After a few moments of disbelief--how could a nice girl from a nice family marry such a cruel and dangerous man?--I found myself cheering for this woman who gets off the floor--literally--and goes on to save her own life. Crazy Love is a deeply affecting account of cruelty and abuse in a marriage doomed from the start. It is a reminder that while bad behavior can be explained it can never be excused, and that while placing blame is rarely useful, letting go is. Leslie Morgan Steiner's candor is wrenching and ultimately inspiring.
Bright, beautiful and battered. Leslie Morgan Steiner didn't think of herself as a victim until it was almost too late. Hers is a success story that shows how excruciating a declaration of independence can be and how much happiness can come from it. Read it and cheer.
That such a smart, kind, funny, vital woman could let herself be victimized this way seems almost unimaginable--and yet Steiner makes you understand how it came to pass, and even appreciate, with a sort of disgusted awe, how expertly her husband manipulates her aching insecurities and longing for that great big happily-ever-after love we learn about in fairy tales. That she comes out the other side is miraculous. That she's brave enough to tell this frank and brutal story is, too.
A vivid and compelling story that goes a long way to dispelling the myth that women who are abused by men are in some way at fault. This book will be cherished by any woman who has ever been in the grip of an abusive relationship.
Steiner's brave, insightful memoir reveals how independent and capable women can find themselves trapped in violent relationships. More important, she shows that women can find their way out of abusive relationships. Her absorbing story will inspire every reader. To a reader with an abusive partner, it may well save her life.
Leslie Morgan Steiner pulls no punches in this brutally honest memoir of a brave, smart, fresh-faced young woman's descent into domestic hell. Domestic violence isn't picky and it doesn't only happen to "other people." All of us are vulnerable. Her story is proof that love can come on so strong it can kill you. Steiner's good news? Sometimes the end of the world is actually the very beginning.
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I MET CONOR ON THE NEW YORK CITY SUBWAY, heading downtown, twenty years ago. I was twenty-two. I remember it like yesterday.
* * *
The window in Kathy's office was the only daylight I could see from my presswood desk in the hallway. I snuck a look. My ugly orange swivel chair squeaked.
It was a chilly, gray Monday afternoon in mid-January. The Midtown Manhattan skyscrapers were slick and dark with rain.
First thing that morning, Kathy — head of the articles department at Seventeen and the first boss I'd had in my life — held a meeting to dole out assignments for May. Then I interviewed a fidgety twelve-year-old Russian model who looked twenty-nine with makeup on. After that I ran out in the rain for lunch with the wacky British astrologer who wrote Seventeen's monthly horoscope column.
I'd graduated from college the spring before on a day when Harvard Yard looked like the opening scene from a big-budget movie. Sun-dappled spring grass. My mom happy-drunk in a striped Vittadini wrap dress. My dad so proud I thought his face would split open, beaming as only a poor Oklahoma boy with a daughter graduating from Harvard could.
The day so lovely I wanted to hold it forever in my hands.
Working at Seventeen was better than eating a Baskin-Robbins sundae. We read magazines all morning and talked about sticky teenaged paradigms on the clock. In the afternoons we raided the fashion closet — a huge room where the fashion editor kept designer samples that transformed gawky teenage ostriches into goddesses. I hated the few times I'd gotten sick and had to miss a day.
Outside Seventeen I roamed New York City as if it were my new backyard. Dinners at the Yaffa Café and Bombay Kitchen. Hours dancing with my roommate at Danceteria or Limelight. Even the most mundane activities — folding clothes at the fluorescent-lit Laundromat across Eighth Avenue, jogging through the Meatpacking District — became adventures.
But it was tricky getting the whole work thing down. Putting on panty hose like a uniform. No runs, my frantic morning mantra. Getting on the E train instead of the express to Harlem. Figuring out how to eat when my paycheck ran out six days before the next one was due.
Everything seemed so new.
I wrote and rewrote that afternoon at my desk in the hallway as the rain poured down outside Kathy's window. Every girl in America read Seventeen at some age. Nearly four million girls devoured each issue; some favorites became like bibles for girls who had only a magazine to turn to for advice.
I should know.
Every day, often with little support or guidance, a teenage girl tackled staggering dilemmas. If your boyfriend offered drugs, did you do them? Did buying birth control make you a slut? Where did you get birth control at sixteen, anyway? What if your best friend drove drunk with you riding shotgun? Your stepfather came on to you? Your parents got divorced? Your mom got cancer?
My piece was slated for March, meaning I had to finish it by ... Friday.
"Almost done?" Kathy barked as she whizzed by in her black patent-leather boots with three-inch heels. I jumped off my chair.
The story itself asked a simple enough question: Why do teenagers run away from home? But after poring over government statistics and interviewing social workers, psychiatrists, and the four runaways who would actually talk to me, I'd come to an awful understanding.
Of the estimated 1.5 million teenagers who hit the streets each year, the majority bolted because they thought any situation would be better than home.
Of those teenagers, 25 percent came from families with alcohol or drug abuse.
And 50 percent had been sexually or physically abused by someone in their household.
What kind of home was that?
The realization that broke my heart: All runaways start out fighting for a better life. The survival instinct that gave them the courage to leave bad homes made them try to turn the streets into a new home, the other runaways their families.
Within months, two-thirds were using drugs and supporting themselves through prostitution. Close to a third didn't know where they'd sleep each night. One-half tried to commit suicide. Two-thirds ended up in jail or dead from illness, drug overdoses, or beatings by pimps, johns, or other homeless people.
When I finally looked up from the computer, I was the only one left at the office, feeling like I'd been ditched by the cool girls after school in eighth grade. My watch read six P.M. It seemed like midnight as I trudged to the subway in the rain.
* * *
Winnie took forever to unlock the three deadbolts from behind her apartment door.
We hugged; she was only five feet two inches, so the top of her head butted against my chin. As always, her hair smelled like honeysuckle.
I dropped my purse in the foyer and started unlacing my L.L. Bean duck boots, indispensable during the snowy Cambridge winters and slushy springs. Ridiculous footwear now that I lived in the fashion capital of the planet.
"How was work?" she asked. Winnie (short for Winthrop — I'm not kidding) was wearing a white cotton shirt with a high ruffled collar, threaded with a pale cream sliver of silk, tucked into a long brown suede skirt.
"Great ... I'm writing about teen runaways."
I shook the wet boots off my stocking feet. I had a harder time shaking off the images of the fourteen-year-old girl I'd interviewed for my story. The one who slept on a subway grate and blew her hair dry in a corner of the Trailways bus terminal next to the pay phone she refused to pick up to call home.
"So how was your work, Win?"
She was a salesgirl at the Polo Mansion at Seventy-second and Madison selling outrageously priced Ralph Lauren clothes to celebrities. She had to wear all Ralph Lauren clothes. Blond Wasp perfection every day.
"Oh, God, it's a long day when you're on your feet trying to smile at all those rich assholes."
Something on the stove started hissing like an angry cat.
"Fuck!" she yelled. Even in fourth grade, she swore like a thirty-five-year-old divorcée. I followed her into the tiny kitchen.
She took the pot off the burner and turned back, smiling. Even Winnie's teeth were cute. That was one of the first things I noticed the day she showed up at elementary school. Over the years she taught me the following life essentials: how to shave my legs with Vitabath Spring Green, sleep until noon, and look up sex words in the dictionary. I loved wearing her preppy clothes, smelling like Winnie's laundry detergent even if just for a day.
The year I turned thirteen I grew four inches, began smoking pot, drinking tequila, and dating older guys. I totally outgrew Winnie's entire closet. Her Lacoste shirts wouldn't cover my belly button anymore.
When I drank, she was one of my favorite people to call late at night. "I love you, Winnie," I would slur into the phone. She was always pretty nice about those calls.
"Look!" She held out her left hand, fingers splayed, so I could get a full view of her sparkly new engagement ring.
"Congratulations, Win. I am so happy for you."
I was even happier for Rex, her fiancé. He'd get to smell her hair on their pillow every night for the rest of his life.
"I always knew he was right, even at that Trinity frat party when I first met him," Winnie said as she spooned fresh pesto into a blue enamel pasta bowl. She didn't say what I knew mattered most: Rex loved her, but not with that "My life is nothing without you" desperation that drove her crazy. A parade of high-school boyfriends had gotten Velcroed to her in exactly the same way I had as a kid. They always ended up needing her too much. I'd watched her peel them off one by one, like bubble gum stuck to her shoe.
I looked around their small apartment, filled with Winnie's Ralph Lauren fabrics and Rex's dark leather furniture. Winnie was supposed to live with me, our reunion following four years at different colleges, my chance to prove I'd become sober and responsible and likable again, right? Then at the beginning of last summer, while she waited for me to move to New York, she stayed in this apartment with Rex. Just for a few weeks, she'd said.
Audrey, the roommate I eventually found in Chelsea, was great. But here's what I wanted to ask Winnie tonight: Couldn't she postpone marriage for a few years, so that we could be roommates, to give me a chance to catch up? If I wasn't right for her as a roommate, how on earth was I going to meet a man right for me? A man like Rex who might ask me to stay for a few weeks and then ask me to stay forever.
Instead I said, "Wow, the ring is beautiful." It was.
We sat down to eat and she gave me the blow-by-blow on how Rex proposed on the beach during their New Year's trip to St. Barts.
As we stood side by side in her miniscule kitchen afterward, washing the dishes in hot, soapy water that smelled like lemons, Winnie asked how my love life was.
"Kind of anticlimactic compared to yours," I said. "All that matters to men here is how much money they make and where they live."
"Trust me, every guy who walks into the Polo Mansion tells me within thirty seconds about his address and income bracket. Please." She shook her head and laughed, crinkling the snub nose that was the envy of every girl in high school, including me. I reached into the soapy water and grabbed a bunch of silverware.
"I meet them all over the place, Win. At parties and clubs, of course. Just last week I met a guy on the bus. Someone asked me out while I was standing in line for the bathroom at Isabella's. Another guy tried to pick me up while I was jogging around the Reservoir. They're everywhere."
She handed me a pot to dry.
"For the first time in my life, I have this rule — one of the things I learned when I stopped drinking —" My voice cracked. I bet my face looked like a tomato. I kept talking. "— is that I will never date a man to satisfy some need of mine or someone who wants me to fill a desperate need of his."
The words sounded like cheap cardboard. But Winnie nodded, her brown eyes big and reassuring.
"I don't have sex with them, Win. We don't even kiss. We talk. For hours. In restaurants I could never afford on my salary."
"You know, it sounds so innocent, Les. And really fun. It's just what you need right now, right?"
She flicked soap at my face and a few suds landed on my nose.
Yep, just what I needed. But not what I wanted.
After another congratulatory hug, I headed out into the cold rainy night, exchanging Winnie's warm, bright apartment for the manicured Upper East Side streets. The heavy doors of the million-dollar brownstones, locked and festooned with polished brass knockers, seemed to declare that everyone in New York was safe at home.
Except for me.
* * *
Sleet slapped my cheeks during the long walk to the Fifty-third Street subway. Before I ran through the turnstile to catch the train, I glimpsed myself in the token-booth window. With my wet hair hanging in dirty-blond corkscrews and wearing my old blue down coat, I looked more like a kid than a magazine editor.
The subway doors opened and I squeezed into a slippery neon-yellow subway seat. I was sandwiched between a handsome, neatly dressed older man with thick blond hair and a heavyset Latina woman with grocery bags who smelled like day-old enchiladas and cigarette smoke. At Forty-second Street, she got off along with most of the car, heaving with the effort of carrying the paper bags.
The subway felt suddenly empty — except for the blond man whose arm was now touching my elbow. I didn't slide away from him into a free seat, as every other person who'd lived in New York for five seconds would. I thought it'd be too rude.
It meant something to Conor that I did not move away from him, he told me much later.
He was wearing a dark blue cashmere coat, the navy at his throat cutting a sharp contrast to his wheat-colored hair and shiny, fresh-scrubbed farm boy face. He wasn't as old as I thought — maybe late twenties, early thirties. He smiled.
"Hi. What's your name?" He had clean, straight teeth. I'd been in New York long enough to know that if you encouraged men on the subway, things got ugly fast. But this man felt instinctively safe, strangely familiar. How bad could he be? I told him my first name and buried my face back in Vanity Fair.
"Leslie, hi. My name is Conor," he said politely.
I glanced up briefly, intrigued by his persistence. I looked like a sewer rat. What could he possibly see in me?
He smiled again. "Do you work in the city?"
For a second he looked like my dad asking how I liked Harvard.
I couldn't help responding with pride.
"I work at Seventeen — you know, the magazine?"
"Oh, interesting ... I work at Block Moore — you know, the investment bank?"
The only reason I'd even heard of this bank was because my freshman roommate, Lee, had several ex-boyfriends who worked there. Harvard grads who'd been captain of the football team, the hockey team, the most confident, effusive men on campus. Not boys I ever would have dated for a million reasons — mostly because in college I could barely speak to guys, much less go on dates with them. They always called after Lee dumped them, to cry on the nicey-nice roommate's shoulder and get some vicarious thrill from talking to the next best thing when Lee had gotten so sick of their pathetic late-night missives that she stopped returning their calls.
The train slowed as we entered Penn Station. I knew this man — Conor — had volunteered the name of his Wall Street firm to vouch for his credibility, proof that he wasn't a psycho subway killer. He stood and shrugged his body to straighten his expensive coat. Then he turned to me one more time, his left hand holding the silver subway pole for balance.
No wedding ring.
"I live in Jersey now, but I'm moving to a great place on East Eighty-second. My roommate and I are gonna have a party. Maybe I'll call and invite you."
"Sure," I said. The freckles across his nose made him look like a little boy, expectant, trying to seem cool and kind of arrogant. I didn't respond. I wasn't volunteering my phone number to someone I'd sat next to for six minutes on the New York subway. The doors closed behind him. I watched the back of his blond head through the cracked subway window as he walked away.
* * *
As the train pulled out, I saw a sign carved into the brick wall of the subway station, directing commuters left to Penn Station, right to Herald Square. I bet my grandfather Sammie — my mother's father — passed this same sign a hundred times on the way to his office on Thirty-fourth Street sixty years ago. After graduating from Harvard in 1929, he became a vice-president at Macy's, a marketing boy wonder who lived in Strawberry Hill, a seventy-two-room fieldstone castle overlooking the Hudson River. He ordered custom-built automobiles from England during the Depression when most men couldn't afford to feed their families. I could imagine him walking through the brick subway tunnel, wearing the black coat and hat that Winnie and I used to play with on rainy days in my grandmother's attic.
When I looked up again, the train had screeched to a stop at my station. At the exit to Twenty-third Street, I stepped over a homeless man lying on a stained cardboard box. Even passed out, he clutched an empty bottle of Jack Daniel's with his unwashed hand, fingernails black with grime. Was he somebody's grandfather, too?
The rain had let up and the temperature must have risen ten degrees since I'd left Winnie's. Eighth Avenue was slick with iridescent pools of water and the night air had a humid feel as if the fog were wisps of cotton you could reach out and touch. I walked from the subway to my apartment on West Nineteenth Street, past couples spilling out of the corner diner, taxis splashing through puddles, the shuttered Off-Track Betting window, the funky, neon-lit Man Ray sushi place.
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Meet the Author
Leslie Morgan Steiner is the editor of the highly acclaimed anthology Mommy Wars. She writes Two Cents on Working Motherhood for Mommy Track'd: The Working Mother's Guide to Managed Chaos. She wrote the popular "On Balance" blog for washingtonpost.com from 2006-2008.
Leslie Morgan Steiner, author of Crazy Love and editor of the highly acclaimed anthology Mommy Wars, writes the column "Two Cents on Working Motherhood" for the website Mommy Track'd: The Working Mother's Guide to Managed Chaos. She wrote the popular "On Balance" blog for washingtonpost.com from 2006-2008. She is a frequent national television and radio guest on NBC's Today Show, The Diane Rehm Show on National Public Radio, MSNBC, Fox News and other programs. Steiner holds a BA in English from Harvard College and is a successful corporate executive with 20 years of marketing experience at Leo Burnett, Johnson&Johnson and The Washington Post. She lives with her husband and three children in D.C.
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Very interesting book, was given as a gift so I had no idea it was about domestic violence, but nonetheless it ended up being a pretty good book, gave me a different perspective of domestic violence.
I am someone who loves to read literature along these lines due to the fact that I grew up experiencing quite a bit of drama in my household. I have read Eat Pray Love, The Glass Castle, Hungry, The Quiet Room, Chosen by a Horse, and Prozac - all of which I would strongly recommend. When I read this book, I was impressed with the honesty given from the Author about a most horrible experience. Leslie Steiner not only describes her first handout account of abuse but includes important psychological facts about different forms of abusive relationships and what they are stemmed from. This book is sad and frightening at time and I am sure there are woman out there who can relate to this woman. However, I did not feel like enough responsibility was taken in this relationship on her side. All to woman find themselves in these situation and end up playing the role of a victim to the strongest degree when what needs to happen is self evaluation. Why did I put myself in this situation? Why did I let it last so long? What I have been through in the past the led me here? These are questions that should not be answered with sentences that start with "He did this" "He made me" "It was all his fault." Once you figure out your role in these horrible situations you can move on with your life. It is not all the abuser's fault. Getting out of an abusive relationship is tremendous and I did not take it lightly, but self awareness is key to not having it happen again and at then end of this book - I here too much blame.
This book is ammmmmmmazing! I lovve it soo much, i think everyone should read it.(: