Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life / Edition 1

Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life / Edition 1

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by Abigail Trafford
     
 

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ISBN-10: 0060923091

ISBN-13: 2900060923098

Pub. Date: 12/28/1992

Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers

A fully revised and updated edition of the essential guide for men and women moving through the turmoil of divorce.

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A fully revised and updated edition of the essential guide for men and women moving through the turmoil of divorce.

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ISBN-13:
2900060923098
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
12/28/1992
Edition description:
REV
Pages:
304

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Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life 4.3 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 24 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I highly recommend this book for both men and women -- not only for those who are going through divorce but also for those who are considering it and those who already have their legal divorce (but maybe not their emotional one) in their rearview mirror. If you are thinking about divorce, then this is far superior to the ridiculous book "Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay," which reduces the decision to divorce to an objective test of what the other person brings to the relationship without ever requiring you to look at your own patterns and contribution. But I digress. There is no doubt that divorce and the pain leading up to it make us crazy. Although some of the social context in Crazy Time is dated (having been written in 1992), the message throughout the book is helpful, hopeful, and enduring. Ours was a bitterwseet marriage for 28 years, and I wish I had discovered this book 10 or more years ago. I read it for the first time shortly after my husband finally decided to pull the plug, and have read portions of it again while going through the process and now that I have begun dating at the age of 53. For those of you still in the throes of pain, there is reason to hope for a full and abundant life after divorce! I wish each of you as little pain and as much recovery as possible.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life has just the right tone to help someone stop playing the blame game and start healing. This book is an excellent tool for understanding the anguished feelings that arise when going through a divorce. I recommend adding this volume to the repertoire of anyone dealing with the traumatic divorce or separation situation. Sherri Donovan, Esq., author of Hit Him Where it Hurt$-The Take No Prisoner's Guide to Divorce.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read this book when I was going through the worst of my break-up. He, basically, just walked out of my life. He'd return for just enough time to sabotage whatever progress I had made, but he was, essentially, vanished from my life. He had a child with someone else a year and a half into our 'separation'. This book helped me to stop blaming and get on with healing. I stopped worrying about WHY this was happening and dealt with the fact that it WAS happening. I think my ex and I set ourselves up for our divorce before we were even married. I've grown and some of that growth is due to my break-up. I took something from this that made my life better.
sunlite3145 More than 1 year ago
I got this book to help me understand the emotional and psychological process of a divorce, as my boyfriend (whom I started dating after he already decided to file) is currently going through his own divorce. I don't have a lot of knowledge about this situation, as divorce is not something that has been widely experienced in my family, and this book really shed light on why he sometimes goes a little insane, why he needs his space and why he generally behaves the way he does at this point in his life. It has been a really good eye-opener for me to understand the huge amount of pain, despair, guilt and anger that he feels, even if he isn't telling me. Overall, great book, and I'm about to re-read it with a highlighter...
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This books is very informative as to the emotional process of breaking up a marriage. I have been divorced a year now and still find that I get encouragement from reading the chapters that deal with starting over. Divorce is hard. This book addresses the process of healing yourself. I could not have survived without it. Very well written with plenty of examples.
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Suzanne1955 More than 1 year ago
This book should be required reading for all people going through a divorce. The book lets you know that you were not the one to blame for the end of a relationship. If that is the case. It talks about adultery and how it makes your marraige breakdown. It also shows you that going through a divorce is really a crazy time and the feelings and thoughts that you are having are completely normal. I felt like the book was written just for me. I've been married for 21 years and my husband has been having affairs for half of our marraige. A real eye-opener. I will re-read this book again and again. It really makes you feel better and lets you know that you ARE NOT alone. I highlighted certain sentences as I read that I thought pertained to me and my soon to be ex. Half the book is highlighted. It might have been written in 1992, but the same information goes for todays divorces.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
I am very impressed with the wonderful writing skills. She not only went trough it herself, but she went in depth, searching for answers to this painful process, to know when it started, and gives hope that it will end. It has given me a sense of peace because I am more aware of the dominant versus dominated patterns of relationship, witch make it very confusing a times--blaming just him or blaming all on myself. I understand so much more know. This book should be given to every counselor, therapist, pastor, etc. Could save many marriages, and or help people already going through this overwhelming process like me. It's been for me God's sent.
Guest More than 1 year ago
It has been years since I've seen this title, but I read it cover to cover and can truely say it helped me deal with the emotional frenzy I was facing after my husband dropped the bomb on me. Really a help.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I at least am able to understand some of the feelings. It makes it easier for me to get through the day knowing this is normal. Divorce stinks, but this helps you get through it.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book really puts things into perspective for people going through a divorce. It's so incredible and accurate that I no longer feel alone and in despair. I could even identify what stage of 'Crazy Time' I am in, so I now know what to expect for the future. Thanks!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I did not realize the emotions that I was experiencing in my divorce was normal. I picked up this book 2 years after my divorce. I realized that I had a relationship with someone too soon as well, once that relationship fell apart I went back to feeling the initial feelings I was left with after the first year of my divorce. Very insightful, I felt someone understood and explained the exact experiences I had gone through. Plus, it gave great examples of other relationships that showed me what I should avoid. Take a chance, pick it up and read it.
Guest More than 1 year ago
In the early part of my divorce, I thought I was loosing my mind. I was on an emotional rollercoaster and none of my family could understand me and neither could I. I started counseling and my counselor loaned me this book. FANTASTIC! I couldn't put it down. I saw me and several others I knew at different stages in a bad relationship. It helped me understand that what I was feeling was normal and there was hope for the future no matter what my final decision may be. I stopped blaming myself, and stopped wondering WHY and looked forward to the future.
Guest More than 1 year ago
When your marriage is in-the-brook, And you can't see the forest because of each and every tree, Take some TIME to read this book - it surely helps, BE - LIEVE me!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I picked up this book in a clinicians office moments after my husband had left our marriage counselling session angry, wanting a divorce. I felt like I was going crazy. Instantly the information in the book started to make me feel normal, rather than insane. It was enormously helpful to me in understanding my own behavior and feelings as well as other peoples. I highly recommend it to anyone going through a divorce.
Guest More than 1 year ago
June 2000 A counselor recommended this book to me in 1993, when I divorced my husband and had a three-year-old daughter. It perfectly described the craziness I was going through during that first year! Now, I am purchasing it for my 18-year-old niece, because her mother (my sister) is going through the same thing (but probably won't read the book). My niece has 'gotten an earful' from her mother and needs some help understanding, too!