Created To Be His Help Meet: Discover how God can make your marriage glorious

Created To Be His Help Meet: Discover how God can make your marriage glorious

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by Debi Pearl
     
 

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Somewhere over the passing years and changing culture, women have lost their way. This book is written to lead them back home. Regardless of how you began your marriage or how dark and lonely the path that has brought you to where you are now, I want you to know that it is possible today to have a marriage so good and so fulfilling that it can only be explained as a

Overview

Somewhere over the passing years and changing culture, women have lost their way. This book is written to lead them back home. Regardless of how you began your marriage or how dark and lonely the path that has brought you to where you are now, I want you to know that it is possible today to have a marriage so good and so fulfilling that it can only be explained as a miracle. Follow Debi Pearl as she takes the wisdom and experience of her own marriage and confirms it with the wisdom of scripture and learn how to be the "help meet" that God created you to be. You will learn to appreciate God's gift of a husband with a thankful heart that produces joy and wisdom in you and your home. Gain a better understanding of who your husband is and how your response to him can make or break your marriage. See the Bible's perspective of obedience and authority and understand how you are joint heirs to the promises of God. The miracle of a wonderful marriage is like the miracle of birth, God allows you to be an essential contributor to the miracle. Read, enjoy and be blessed as over 330,000 other women already have.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781934794906
Publisher:
No Greater Joy Ministries, Inc.
Publication date:
08/27/2010
Series:
Discover how God can make your marriage glorious Series
Sold by:
Barnes & Noble
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
298
Sales rank:
126,957
File size:
2 MB

Meet the Author

Debi Pearl and her husband, Michael, have been married since 1971. They have 5 children and 15 grandchildren. Between them they have authored 14 books and 8 booklets including To Train Up A Child (over 625, 000 sold) and Good and Evil, an illustrated Bible story book (over 145, 000 sold) which has been translated into numerous languages. They are prolific writers on marriage, child training, homeschooling and joyful living. The Pearl's also publish a 32 page bi-monthly magazine with a subscription of over 100,000.

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Created to Be His Help Meet 4.2 out of 5 based on 1 ratings. 83 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I am a Christian wife and mother. I have enjoyed some of the Pearls' writings in the past and I was actually shocked when I read this book. The overall tone of the book is that nearly all the problems in marriage are caused by some fault in the woman, and if she would just get her act together and do x, y, and z then the marriage would be glorious. Wow - unfortunately, there are no cookie cutter marriages whose problems can all be solved by Debi's book. The thing that bothers me the most is that the book is supposed to be based in biblical principles (and they do use scripture a lot) but much of the advice comes from Debi's personal opinion. For instance, she writes in chapter 17 that women should not have close friendships with other women and should only share their feelings with their husbands. She goes on to say that the time we spend at church and prayer meeting is all the time we need to spend with other women. Debi then claims that female friendships are in danger of turning into something 'abnormal' and 'sick'. I assume she's talking about lesbianism? That's taking quite a leap. I've had good female friends my whole life and never once have I or any of them felt an urge to cross into that particular territory! In chapter 7 she also says when single moms get together to share responsibilities, they sometimes turn to each other for intimacy. Oh, please. It is also outrageous that in chapter 16 Debi advises women whose husbands have sexually handled their children to take the kids to visit him while he is in prison - and of course bring along good bible tapes and books. She claims the children will heal better to see their dad in prison for the crime. Ugh. In chapter 7 she tells a story about how she didn't know how much money Michael made when they got married, she didn't even know how much they had to spend on the honeymoon and that it wasn't her place to question him about how money was spent. It wasn't clear to me whether or not she was trying to say that women should have no part in financial matters - she never comes right out and says that. But, it seems to be implied. My (Christian) husband and I discussed the book together. I can state for a fact that if I implemented some of Debi's suggestions in our home, he would NOT be happy. There is a reason we are told in the book of Proverbs that wise people seek out many counselors. If you read this book, do not let it be your sole source for counsel on marriage. Study your bible on the topic first, but also read other reputable Christian authors on the subject.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I come from a divorced home and I wish someone had told my mom what this book tells women to do - consider what it will look like after the divorce. My dad found another woman - it was the 40 something thing - and my mom was devastated. The counselor told them that they probably couldn't work it out and getting a divorce was the best option. They were Christians, and are Christians, but bought the lie - 'we just grew apart', and 'he's not behaving like a Christian husband, so I have grounds to divorce him'. The consequences are still reverberating 30 years later. If my mom had stayed and fought to become the apple of his eye again and recognized her adversary, it could have all been different. I've been married for 20 years now, so I know it's no picnic, and takes a lot of work, but this book is open and honest and tells it like it is. It's not always the women's fault, but in this hyper-feminized society, most men and women don't know how to act, and I still have to work on it, as I was trained myself to be educated, earn a living, and be independent before marrying. But I have lived and seen the results of divorce and it's never the easy way out. Quite the contrary, it only multiplies the problems, and you begin the process all over again. However, for bad or abusive situations, Debbie Pearl does not give a pass on that in her book. If there is ever a hint of anything illegal she councils to call in the law - so I don't agree with other reviewers that the book is a 'blame all women' book. You can be a woman that ignores this book and the results of divorce and the way a biblical marriage works, but Debbie Pearl does not, and I'm glad.
Guest More than 1 year ago
If you are miserable and married - read this book. It is nothing short of life changing. It's revolutionary - but it's the ancient truth's of the Bible in a no-nonsense, easy to read way. Thank you Debi! And my husband thanks you too!
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book was wonderful! The author is frank, honest and totally on track with Biblical references. I loved the fact that there were letters from people in the book and answers from the author. I have applied what I have learned and it has changed my life and my marriage!
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book has changed my life and my marriage. I will recommend this to everyone I can. It is life Changing!
Guest More than 1 year ago
It is with some pain that we point out the serious concerns we see in Debi Pearl's book, Created to Be His Help Meet (CTBHHM). Her book has points of wisdom, sometimes deep wisdom, and several sections full of endearing energy and joy. We think a well-versed Christian might well enjoy winnowing the wheat from the chaff, finding things useful and challenging. Unfortunately, we think that taking this book at face value could cause a great deal of lasting harm (or prevent a great deal of good development) in a woman's relationship to God, herself, and to her husband. First, we want to affirm and make clear where we agree. We believe that Scripture is the ultimate authority for life, and that everything written in the Bible is true, and a solid basis for all of our beliefs and actions. We believe that the Bible teaches women to submit to their husbands, and that men are to be the heads of their homes (and that it also teaches a lot of other things about marriage relationships). We believe everything the Bible says about men and women. My wife did find some challenging truths in this book. In her own words: Only God can change hearts, and my responsibility is not to change my husband, but to focus on my own heart, attitudes, and actions. My respect towards him and my submission should not hinge on whether or not my husband 'earns' it, but should be an act of the will and of obedience to God. When I entered into the vows of marriage, I committed to love, honor, and respect my husband no matter what, and that often means choosing to die to my own desires and feelings. I can choose to make the right choice, remain joyful, and honor my husband no matter what our circumstances. I also recognize that this book was written for the purpose of teaching women how to act towards their husbands, not the other way around. I liked the way the book challenged women to choose joy and choose thankfulness, no matter what their circumstances. I thought the poem Debi wrote at the end of the book was beautiful and contained depth. [Writing together again] Indeed, Debi's book drove us into the Scripture--unfortunately, many times, only to find she was wrong. This book is troubling to us, especially in the ways it seems to be twisting and misusing Scripture. Please understand the following reflections not as a personal attack, but as a sincere attempt to voice our misgivings towards using this book to teach any women, but especially new Christians. Listed below are our main concerns with this book space does not permit our full discussion which is posted on Blogger 'createdtobehelpmeet'. Point 1: CTBHHM takes away the very heart of a woman's identity as a child of God, created in His image, by Him and for Him. It takes a wife's God given role - being a help meet to her husband - and asserts that for every woman, being a help meet (as defined by Debi Pearl) encompasses her sole purpose for existing and her only true identity. It goes so far as to state that Eve was created in the image of Adam rather than in the image of God. Point 2: It presents a woman's husband as a mediator, a kind of high priest, between herself and God. Point 3: It consistently asserts that a woman/wife bears responsibility for a man's/ husband's sins, going so far as to say a husband's complete sanctification and deliverance from temptation is provided to him through his wife and her actions. It seems to teach that women are deceived by Satan but men are not, and that men's primary weakness is their desire for (or to please) women. Therefore, women cause men to sin (or not) by their actions and submission. Point 4: Its use of Scripture often seems wrong or out-of-context--so often that we frequently feel as though the author is stretching to find scriptural support for her own pre-determined conclusions. We feel it is more appropriate to first study the scripture and let it guide the conclusions. Point 5: It discourages women from spending time in
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is the most amazing book I've ever read. It has done wonders in my marriage and in my heart.
mrsjekyll More than 1 year ago
Takes the Bible completely out of context and focuses more on sex and the old mistaken belief of womens' subservience to men. Mrs. Pearl really needs to find some other expert than her husband to interpret the Bible for her. I really have my doubts when she sets herself and her husband up as such absolute authorities and yet I can pick it apart almost word by word for its inaccuracies. Don't let yourself be brainwashed by this supposedly Biblically based advice. Read "Women of the Bible for Dummies" or find a good Bible study course that helps define womens' roles as God intended vs culturally.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book has great reminders about how God has made men and women different. It is all Biblically sound information. Don't listen to the bitter women who couldn't handle the truth. I know many marriages personally that have been saved by women reading this book. Give it a try!
Guest More than 1 year ago
This outstanding book has transformed so many marriages, including mine and those of my friends. I have read many other books about Biblical Womanhood and marriage, but this no-nonsense book is THE BEST! If you care about your marriage, you must read this book. If you care about your children, and about your own happiness, read this book. Don't let the 'country lady' tone put you off...don't let the message offend you...the truth will set you free! If you are a Christian woman who believes and loves God's Word, you should be reading and sharing this book. If you are not a Christian, but you want a happy marriage, do yourself a kindness and read this book with an open heart. It's message can bring you great peace and joy.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book changed our marriage forever! The Lord has brought about gloriously wonderful blessings through this wonderful book! It is entertaining, very simple to understand for even young girls, and I personally guarantee it can make any marriage heavenly! Thank you for carrying it, Barnes and Noble
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is a wonderful book from an 'aged women.... teach(ing) the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children' (Titus 2:3-4) I highly recommend it to anyone who desires a heavenly marriage.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Gleaned from a lifetime of experience heeding God's Word, Debi Pearl writes about what it takes to have a vibrant marriage and family-life. This couldn't be a more timely book! For the first time in our country, broken homes/families are commonplace. Mrs. Pearl's no-nonsense instruction, full of practical, down-to-earth wisdom, is a bright and shining light for wives seeking to find a way out of the darkness suffocating our precious families. Be warned: many women read this and absolutely love this book 'I am one!', but there are women out there who absolutely despise what they read. It is my firm belief that the woman who hates this book is actually her own worst enemy, because anyone--and I mean anyone from any walk of life--who chooses to apply the truths in Created to be His Helpmeet will get the same result every time: a gloriously happy marriage and life! Nothing could be more foolish than to push that away. I highly recommend this book to anyone with an open heart--it is a life-changer!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read this book about a year ago. I never knew what a Big impact it would have on my marriage. My husband and I can finally appreciate and love one other the way it was ment to be, and it continues to get better. Thank you Micheal, and Debi Pearl! Thank you God!
Guest More than 1 year ago
Sometimes it is hard for people to accept the ways of the WORD and not the WORLD. Debi's book is amazing and very life changing. If you don't want to be convicted and live a life that is pleasing to God, don't read this book. It challenges you to look at everything you are doing, saying, and thinking. Thank you Debi for sharing all your wisdom and love to this young wife.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I wish this book had been around when I was in my teenage years! The information contained in this book would have made my life a lot more meaningful and with better direction. This book is a must read for all ladies - young and old! I wish I had read it sooner!
mrsren More than 1 year ago
I can see how this book will hit some women the wrong way. While it is Biblically correct it is not politically/socially correct. It has changed how I see my husband and he is seeing the difference even though he knows nothing about the book {:o) It is truly FREEING to live as the Bible teaches as opposed to what our culture/society says is right. By following the guidelines and advice in this book I now have the humorous/loving husband back that I married 11 years ago!
Guest More than 1 year ago
My husband and I have always had a fine marriage, but after reading this book we are both reaping the benefits and have a very happy marriage. I changed much after reading it and am very thankful to God for this book. I have found that now that I respect my husband, him and I discuss issues in our home more than ever, and now he wants my opinion and ideas whereas before we were bumping up against each other. Our home is full of peace and joy! Since reading this book, my husband has joined the military, spent 14 months in Iraq, and we have moved to Alaska. All of this and we are happier, closer, and more in love than ever. We are like newleyweds again, but without ANY arguing ever. (This is not because I have become a 'stepford' wife, but because now that I have accepted my husband's position in the home and am no longer trying to usurp it for myself, I can now share my ideas and opinions freely, and he will in turn share his thoughts and opinions, and we listen to each other!) In response to other's reviews: of course not everything in a marriage is the woman's fault! But anyone who has been married for any length of time has already learned this fact: you cannot make someone change. But, perhaps, as in my case, by changing yourself, by genuinely learning how to love, respect and care for your husband, he will respond to this and will end up changing as well. I feel cherished and loved by my husband and our times together are wonderful and our times of communication are profitable. If you read this book with an open mind and pray that the Lord will show you what He wants you to learn, then you and your husband will be mightily blessed.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book, the Bible and the Holy Spirit has totally changed my life. With any human perspective we need to measure it with the Word of God through the guidance of the Holy Spirit...I have tried and proven the material that is written in this book. It hasn't always been easy for me...but it has totally changed my marriage. We are happier than we have been in our 10 yrs of marriage. When you follow God's plan, it always works!!
Guest More than 1 year ago
My relationship to my husband changed after reading this book w/Bible. My husband noticed a big change in me and he's loving me even more. Those of you who writes ugly stuff about this book, DON'T LIE TO YOURSELF!! If you call yourself as a christian, you would never do such a thing!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If you seek to have a fufilled marrige with your Husband that is life changing bringing glory and honor to God, this book is for you!
Cranberry More than 1 year ago
After reading this book, I wanted to buy one for every young bride on their 1st anniversary! Provides essential tools to keeping your special marriage alive. I needed it 5 years ago but so happy to have it now.
musicalmommy More than 1 year ago
Here is a book that cuts to the quick for Bible believing Christian women. This one is great for any point in your marriage, but especially if you've got trouble and YOU are ready to change. This one won't tell you what's wrong with your hubby- this one tells you what's wrong with us women! Would also be helpful to the new brides who want to start and finish the marriage well!
am8er More than 1 year ago
Read this book- it will change your life!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It was pretty good. While I didn't agree with everything, it is very helpful to read.