Creating Your Own Way To Happiness

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Ways to improve your live and create your own happiness.

Are you ready to make positive changes in your life? If so, what will they be and when will you begin? Many people go through life being unhappy, but they can make the changes to their life and become happy, only if they want to. In this book you will read about improving your life like . things to consider before a relationship or marriage . you as a child . a possible negative side . relationships with friends . making ...

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Overview

Ways to improve your live and create your own happiness.

Are you ready to make positive changes in your life? If so, what will they be and when will you begin? Many people go through life being unhappy, but they can make the changes to their life and become happy, only if they want to. In this book you will read about improving your life like . things to consider before a relationship or marriage . you as a child . a possible negative side . relationships with friends . making the right choices . creating your own vision for the future . your relationship(s) or marriage(s) . considering the right choices . setting goals . maintaining a happy relationship or marriage . becoming enthusiastic about your life . how important communication is in your life . your image . honesty . teamwork with others . networking . negotiation skills . controlling stress . becoming divorced . coping with loneliness . caring for a sick loved one . coping with death of a loved one . living single . budgeting your income and expenses . If you are single, thinking about becoming married, are married, divorced, widow or widower this book may be just right for you. There are many ideas and stories for you to consider when you are creating your own way to happiness.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781432703455
  • Publisher: Outskirts Press, Inc.
  • Publication date: 4/9/2007
  • Pages: 180
  • Product dimensions: 0.41 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 6.00 (d)

Meet the Author

Robert Bruce is retired from the U.S Air Force, as a corporate Executive, Business Owner, author of 3 books and Professional Speaker. Lee Ann Kirby is a retired Federal Management Employee and co-author of this book. They have a combined 95 years of marriage, 6 children, 11 grandchildren, and 5 great grandchildren and a combined 147 years of life experiences, but they still remain students of the human condition wielding the written craft to enrapture the mind much like an artist wields a brush. The pages are a blank canvas on which to draw from a talent heralded by many and matched only by an imagination that rises to the task. Creating Your Own Way To Happiness is the first in a series of recent pursuits with work progressing quickly on the follow-up
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Excerpted from Creating Your Own Way To Happiness: A new li fe perspective for those considering a relationship or marriage, are married, divorced, or widowed by Robert Bruce, Lee Ann Kirby. Copyright © 2007. Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.
Part of Chapter 1

When you woke up this morning how did you feel? Were you still tired for some reason? Are you stressed out? Or, did you wake up with a lot of energy and looking forward to a wonderful day? Do you feel like you need to make some changes in your life and if so, do you know what they might be?


THE STORY OF JUDY AND TOM

Judy was 28 years old and full of life. She always had a smile on her face and a kind word for everyone. She was very outgoing and laughed a lot when she spoke. She loved her job as a realtor and had been the top sales person in the company for the past five years. Why would you think this might be? Right, she had a positive attitude with a combination of self-confidence and self-esteem. She believed in GOD and always talked to him and asked for HIS guidance.

She owned her own home and took care of her aging mother who lived with her.

As she was getting ready to start her chores for the day, she cooked breakfast for herself and her mother. Then she showered and did her makeup to look good for another wonderful day at the office. She loved her job and enjoyed going to work every day. How do you feel about your job? Are you in the right one?

She made sure her mother had something to do on this day and everyday. Her mother would go to the Senior Center to play cards and be around other people. Her mother had a positive attitude even though she lost herhusband over one and half years ago and was a widow. Judy always encouraged her to find some nice man at church, but she kept a secret from Judy until she knew more about him. Both of them also played cards together at the Senior Citizens Center.

The time had come to go to work and she told her mom to have a great day. They smiled and hugged each other and her mom said: "You have a Great Day!!" It is this kind of love and kindness they had for each other.

On her way to work she thought of Tom. One reason Judy was so happy this morning is that Tom asked her to marry him last night. She and Tom had been dating for five years after meeting in college and they were best of friends. Also, this morning she was sporting a large diamond ring on her finger and wanted to show it off at work.

After arriving at work she showed off her new ring and was so bubbly with enthusiasm.

She called Tom to tell him what all her co-workers said about being so proud of her. He was also proud of her and very much in love with her. He always told her many times each day that he loved her and she responded the same way.

Tom knew her as a caring and affectionate person. One who had such a positive outlook on life and was so thoughtful. He thought to himself, she does not have a selfish bone in her body. He also thought she and I are going to have a long loving life with each together because I am going to work on that every day we are together. We are going to hold hands when we walk down the street or other public places, just like we had been doing these past five years. He liked her as a companion and treasured her charming and witty way. Whenever they talked, she was a great listener and a very thoughtful person. They both liked the same things such as exercising, going to movies, taking quiet walks in the park, going fishing and sport events together. Their food choices were almost the same so after they married it would be easy to fix meals they both liked.

Judy was a very understanding person with her clients. She cared for them and wanted them to have the home they really wanted. She never pushed a client into something they did not want and this is probably one reason she is admired by her clients and the reason they referred her to other people.

Tom had bought an old historical home built about 1830 and had it renovated. It had five bedrooms, four bathrooms and three large fireplaces plus the rooms were big. There was a large front and back porch with rocking chairs placed about. This is where he and Judy used to sit at night and swing while they were talking and planning their future.

Out back was a cottage that would become her mother's home so she could invite friends over to play cards and have her privacy. Of course she would always have access to the big house whenever she wanted to go there.

Six months later Judy and Tom were married at Tom's house that was now to also be her house. Her mom moved into her own cottage and was extremely happy.

As the years went by they had two lovely children and now they have four grandchildren. They had the perfect marriage and never stopped courting each other.

Many times Tom would say, "Lets go out to eat tonight." She loved to dress up and go out to eat.

Recently they celebrated their fiftieth wedding anniversary. Guess what? they are still holding hands when they walk down the street or are in public places.

Wouldn't you like to be like them or just improve your life? Read on if you would like to create more happiness in your life.

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Table of Contents

Page Chapter

1 1 IMPROVING YOUR LIFE
The story of Judy and Tom
Miracles can happen
The Story of Tom and Pat

5 2 BEFORE A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE
So you think you are ready for a relationship/marriage
1 John 2:16–17
2 Timothy 2:22
Matthew 5:27–28

7 3 ME AS A CHILD
Self Analysis

11 4 MY NEGATIVE SIDE
Self Analysis

17 5 RELATIONSHIPS WITH FRIENDS
The story of Tim and Janet
Hebrews 13:5

21 6 RELATIONSHIPS WITH A MEMBER
OF THE OPPOSITE SEX
Self Analysis
Hebrews 10.36

27 7 CONSIDER THE RIGHT CHOICE
The story of Paul and Betty
The story of Henry and Henrietta
Deuteronomy 7:9

31 8 CREATING YOUR OWN VISION FOR THE FUTURE
Becoming purposeful in your life
Psalm 32:8
The story of Joe and Betty
Building your vision through reality
Turn no no no into yes yes yes
Psalm 145:20
Beyond negative programming
Psalm 91:10,11
The farmer
Visualize your way
Breaking down barriers
Proverbs 3:5,6

41 9 MY RELATIONSHIPS OR MARRIAGE
Self Analysis

45 10 SELF MOTIVATION GUIDES YOU TOWARD
YOUR GOALS
Dreams
Goals: the way you shape your life
Ways to make goals work for you
It's time to dream
Proverbs 11:28

53 11 MAINTAINING A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP–
MARRIAGE
Self Analysis
Family and friends support
No to marriage
Peace of mind and happiness

59 12 YOUR ENTHUSIASM CAN BREED MORE ENTHUSIASM
Hindrances to achievement
Basic Strengtheners
How is your Enthusiasm
Optimism
Creative Intuition
The story of Jackie
Rational thinkers
Persistence
The story of Alice and Joe
Values–the difference between right and wrong
How is your activity
The story of Alice and William
The story of Kimberly and Charles
Staying busy

69 13 COMMUNICATION AND ITS IMPORTANCE
The story of Henry
Psalm 37:24
Your pleasant smile
The story of Jane and Don
Living life to the fullest
Success and attitude
Proverbs 22:4
Luke 7:50
Responsiveness to communication
The Story of Bill and Sally
Showing interest in others
Actively listen
Be observant
Seek to understand
Avoid barriers
7 solutions to talking too much and listening too little
Proven tips to help you become and attentive listener
Learn to send effective communication
Fear of speaking before a group
Jessica overcomes fear
Reducing your speaking–writing–crowd stress
4 of the most common traits of stress
6 reasons for fear of speaking, writing or just being in a crowd
6 ideas you can use to reduce and control the effects of stress
Positive communication with your children
Communicating tender loving care
Proverbs 22:6
Proverbs 8:32,33
Craig and Tammy

87 14 HOW IS YOUR IMAGE
Appearance and image
Image building
Create style and self–confidence
Presenting an upscale image
A positive image begins with self–respect
Treat yourself with respect
Proverbs 16:18
Proven ideas in developing self–confidence
First impressions
The story of Debbie
Suggestions for improving the first impression you make

97 15 HONESTY IS STILL THE BEST POLICY
Leviticus 19:11
Honesty and respect
Integrity
Courage
The story of Judy and Andy
Tact
Character traits

103 16 TEAMWORK IN A RELATIONSHIP
OR MARRIAGE
5 basic people groupings
Teamwork
An effective team

Promoting creativity within your
15 killer phrases

107 17 NETWORKING CAN AMPLIFY YOUR DEVELOPMENT
Networking
People skills

113 18 HOW ARE YOUR NEGOTIATION SKILLS
Negotiation approaches
Networking visibility
Betty was a single person
Psalm 32:8

117 19 CONTROLLING STRESS
Pinpoint your sources of stress
Control or be controlled
Keeping your life in balance
6 keys to understand and manage stress
10 stress reduction suggestions
Jeremiah 17:14

125 20 ALL OF A SUDDEN DIVORCED AND SINGLE
Hebrews 11:1
Matthew 6:33
Re–discover your inner–self
2 Chronicles 15:2
Philippians 4:13
Nahum 1:7
Psalm 37:39
Psalm 16:11
The story of Wanda
Psalm 126.5
Isaiah 41:13
Psalm 126:5
Psalm 103:11
Ephesians'4:31,32
Psalm 27:14
Grieving after divorce
Psalm 71:5

135 21 COPING WITH LONELINESS
The story of John and Martha
John 14:18
Isaiah 58:9
Loneliness
Genesis 28:15
Don't withdraw
Say no to chemical dependency
Have a wonderful day
Isaiah 55:12
The story of George
Take one day at a time
Use your time wisely
Eat regularly
Exercise if you can
Consider vitamins
Your self–image
2 Corinthians 4:8–9

143 22 CARING FOR A SICK LOVED ONE
Coping with the illness of a loved one
Your message to the sick

149 23 COPING WITH LIFE AFTER DEATH OF A LOVED ONE
The story of Jim and Carole
John 3:16
John 16:22
Fruit for thought
The story of Nancy
Deuteronomy 4:31
Putting your life back together
Say no to feeling guilty
1 John 1:9

157 24 LIVING SINGLE
How to make myself happy
Men and Women are different emotionally
Control your emotions
Drugs and alcohol
Exercise
Other things
Freedom–Independence–Individuality
Handling conflict
A single working parent
Psalm 127:3
Colossians'3:20
Handling conflict

163 25 BUDGETING YOUR INCOME AND EXPENSES
Proverbs 11:4
20XX budget
Should you need professional advice by all means get it
The story of Joseph
Making your budget a game
Monitoring and controlling your budget

169 26 SUMMARY
How is your belief system?
John 3:16
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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 26, 2008

    A great review from the midwest

    Liana Metal, Reviewer 'Mid-West Book Review' This book is a guide for those who seek kelp to reconstruct their life. Written from a Christian perspective it encourages people to believe in themselves and go on with their lives. Many people do not like making changes in their lifestyle, the authors state. This book will help them to reconsider their lifestyle and become happy again. The authors address many important issues such as marriage, divorce and death and try to make readers use their advice throughout the book to enhance their life. The book is in a format of a workbook rather than a conventional book so that the reader can make notes at times and follow their own progress. There are ample references to the Bible that help the authors to illustrate their points. It caters to everybody within the Christian religion who wish to transform their lives and feel happier and more fulfilled. It is written in a clear style that can be read by people from all walks of life.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 24, 2008

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    By Susan P. 'honest to a fault' 'Iowa' - See all my reviews If you are anything like myself, you are continually on the search for something, anything that will help you find more peace of mind, improve your mood and quite frankly help you achieve happiness that seems ever elusive. In this day and age of low self image, uncaring individuals and a world that simply does not seem to care, this book is a gem when it comes to finding happiness within and applying it to ones life. This, my friends is the book that we have been looking for. I have to be honest here, I've read a lot of books regarding self help, improvement and even achieving happiness within ones life, but this one is different. Not only does it actually help in common sense, easy to understand language but lessons within are easy to implement into ones life and feel totally natural besides. And on top of everything else, it speaks to each reader, reaching across age and background barriers to hit the basics and aid each reader on their own level. Controlling stress had to be my favorite area in this book. As any parent and working mother can attest, keeping stress at a minimum as well as at a manageable level is the secret to a happier life and relationships besides. Again the common sense, no nonsense advice that appeals to any reader, despite his/her background is a factor that sets this book aside in terms of appeal and actually being worth the price. I would strongly suggest anyone who is looking for a book that speaks not just to the mind but to the soul, to obtain this book. It is a winner and one that I promise will be off the shelf and in use far more than some of the glossy tomes we see far too often in bookstores all over the country. I think you'll be happy that you took the plunge into it's depths when you read this book, I know I certainly was!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 22, 2008

    Creating your own way to happiness ....the title says it all!

    If you are anything like myself, you are continually on the search for something, anything that will help you find more peace of mind, improve your mood and quite frankly help you achieve happiness that seems ever elusive. This, my friends is the book. I have to be honest here, I¿ve read a lot of books regarding self help, improvement and even achieving happiness within ones life but this one is different. Not only does it actually help in common sense, easy to understand language but lessons within are easy to implement into ones life and feel totally natural besides. Controlling stress had to be my favorite area in this book. As any parent and working mother can attest, keeping stress at a minimum as well as at a manageable level is the secret to a happier life and relationships besides. Again the common sense, no nonsense advice that appeals to any reader, despite his/her background is a factor that sets this book aside in terms of appeal and actually being worth the price. I would strongly suggest anyone who is looking for a book that speaks not just to the mind but to the soul, to obtain this book. It is a winner and one that I promise will be off the shelf and in use far more than some of the glossy tomes we see far too often in bookstores all over the country. I think you¿ll be happy that you took the plunge into it¿s depths when you read this book, I know I certainly was!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 1, 2007

    A real down to earth book about life

    I was pleased to read this book and learned a lot about myself and my future.

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