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Excerpted from Creating Your Own Way To Happiness: A new li fe perspective for those considering a relationship or marriage, are married, divorced, or widowed by Robert Bruce, Lee Ann Kirby. Copyright � 2007. Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.
Part of Chapter 1
When you woke up this morning how did you feel? Were you still tired for some reason? Are you stressed out? Or, did you wake up with a lot of energy and looking forward to a wonderful day? Do you feel like you need to make some changes in your life and if so, do you know what they might be?
THE STORY OF JUDY AND TOM
Judy was 28 years old and full of life. She always had a smile on her face and a kind word for everyone. She was very outgoing and laughed a lot when she spoke. She loved her job as a realtor and had been the top sales person in the company for the past five years. Why would you think this might be? Right, she had a positive attitude with a combination of self-confidence and self-esteem. She believed in GOD and always talked to him and asked for HIS guidance.
She owned her own home and took care of her aging mother who lived with her.
As she was getting ready to start her chores for the day, she cooked breakfast for herself and her mother. Then she showered and did her makeup to look good for another wonderful day at the office. She loved her job and enjoyed going to work every day. How do you feel about your job? Are you in the right one?
She made sure her mother had something to do on this day and everyday. Her mother would go to the Senior Center to play cards and be around other people. Her mother had a positive attitude even though she lost herhusband over one and half years ago and was a widow. Judy always encouraged her to find some nice man at church, but she kept a secret from Judy until she knew more about him. Both of them also played cards together at the Senior Citizens Center.
The time had come to go to work and she told her mom to have a great day. They smiled and hugged each other and her mom said: "You have a Great Day!!" It is this kind of love and kindness they had for each other.
On her way to work she thought of Tom. One reason Judy was so happy this morning is that Tom asked her to marry him last night. She and Tom had been dating for five years after meeting in college and they were best of friends. Also, this morning she was sporting a large diamond ring on her finger and wanted to show it off at work.
After arriving at work she showed off her new ring and was so bubbly with enthusiasm.
She called Tom to tell him what all her co-workers said about being so proud of her. He was also proud of her and very much in love with her. He always told her many times each day that he loved her and she responded the same way.
Tom knew her as a caring and affectionate person. One who had such a positive outlook on life and was so thoughtful. He thought to himself, she does not have a selfish bone in her body. He also thought she and I are going to have a long loving life with each together because I am going to work on that every day we are together. We are going to hold hands when we walk down the street or other public places, just like we had been doing these past five years. He liked her as a companion and treasured her charming and witty way. Whenever they talked, she was a great listener and a very thoughtful person. They both liked the same things such as exercising, going to movies, taking quiet walks in the park, going fishing and sport events together. Their food choices were almost the same so after they married it would be easy to fix meals they both liked.
Judy was a very understanding person with her clients. She cared for them and wanted them to have the home they really wanted. She never pushed a client into something they did not want and this is probably one reason she is admired by her clients and the reason they referred her to other people.
Tom had bought an old historical home built about 1830 and had it renovated. It had five bedrooms, four bathrooms and three large fireplaces plus the rooms were big. There was a large front and back porch with rocking chairs placed about. This is where he and Judy used to sit at night and swing while they were talking and planning their future.
Out back was a cottage that would become her mother's home so she could invite friends over to play cards and have her privacy. Of course she would always have access to the big house whenever she wanted to go there.
Six months later Judy and Tom were married at Tom's house that was now to also be her house. Her mom moved into her own cottage and was extremely happy.
As the years went by they had two lovely children and now they have four grandchildren. They had the perfect marriage and never stopped courting each other.
Many times Tom would say, "Lets go out to eat tonight." She loved to dress up and go out to eat.
Recently they celebrated their fiftieth wedding anniversary. Guess what? they are still holding hands when they walk down the street or are in public places.
Wouldn't you like to be like them or just improve your life? Read on if you would like to create more happiness in your life.