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Crossing the Tracks for Love: What to Do When You and Your Partner Grew up in Different Worlds

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Tackling an issue that few writers take on, Payne, author of several books on poverty, business, and charity, speaks to those who have fallen in love with someone from a different socioeconomic class. She clearly explains how the hidden rules of class shape the ways that people conduct their lives, families, working situations, personal finance, and approaches to religion and charity. The role of sex and food in poverty and the nurture of children in the wealthy classes are also explored. A particularly helpful chapter supplies specific tips for making transitions from one class to the other and how to help one's spouse make the shift. Useful for those in "mixed" marriages but also for anyone wanting to understand what motivates people outside of one's own social group, this is recommended for all libraries. Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781929229338
  • Publisher: aha! Process, Incorporated
  • Publication date: 2/28/2005
  • Pages: 200
  • Sales rank: 951,613
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.50 (h) x 0.50 (d)

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  • Posted April 29, 2011

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    Interesting...but not quite right

    This book is quite useful for its candid analysis and observations on the differences between lower and middle class thinking. It only superficially able to outline the differences between the middle class and the wealthiest class. This may be because Ms. Payne's experience in this group is somewhat limited. In many places she notes that by age 6, the wealthy have sent their children away to boarding school. This is simply not true. While some do, a great many do not. Boarding school usually doesn't hit until high school, at least in the eastern part of the nation.

    As a nanny for over 20 years, and now a member of the new rich (having grown up middle class), I had the opportunity to see life from inside the homes of the very wealthy. The very highest level do employ full-time household staffs. But many only have part-time maids, a few have a cook, and if they have children, most have live-in nanny help.

    The inaccuracies in this book are many when it comes to defining the wealthiest class. But it is very good at touching at some points, especially in understanding why the poorer classes make the decisions they do, and how communication differences inherent in the cultures often create obstacles.

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  • Posted January 4, 2010

    A good read but....

    I think the premise for Dr. Payne's work in this book has a good foundation. As one who married "Across the Tracks" it has helped me to understand my spouse a lot better. I must say that Dr. Payne's marital advice falls a bit short and is very presumptive, especially when you consider that her own "Across the Tracks" marriage failed. For those of us who have married into a different economic class or who are or have changed economic classes there is a lot of really good information here. The one drawback here is that it definitely takes a female perspective in that the male species is sometimes stereotyped into a corner.

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