The Cuddle Sutra: An Unabashed Celebration of the Ultimate Intimacy


Cuddling is more intimate than a candlelit dinner, more than a joint tax return and yes, even more than sex. With the simple act of an embrace, two people can be joined together in such an intense bond that words no longer serve a purpose. The cuddle says it all.

The Cuddle Sutra is an all-encompassing resource for the act of cuddling, filled with detailed descriptions and illustrations of all the ways to express affection, whether you're in ...

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Cuddle Sutra: An Unabashed Celebration of the Ultimate Intimacy

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Cuddling is more intimate than a candlelit dinner, more than a joint tax return and yes, even more than sex. With the simple act of an embrace, two people can be joined together in such an intense bond that words no longer serve a purpose. The cuddle says it all.

The Cuddle Sutra is an all-encompassing resource for the act of cuddling, filled with detailed descriptions and illustrations of all the ways to express affection, whether you're in the privacy of your own bedroom or walking down Main Street.

Includes 50 cuddle positions, fully illustrated, for such locales as:

—Snuggling in the bedroom
—Kanoodling on the couch
—Enchanting Embraces

And much, much more!

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781402207679
  • Publisher: Sourcebooks
  • Publication date: 11/1/2007
  • Pages: 128
  • Sales rank: 230,358
  • Product dimensions: 5.26 (w) x 7.20 (h) x 0.69 (d)

Meet the Author

Rob Grader is a writer, actor, massage therapist, and committed cuddling devotee. He is the author of the award-winning book The Cheap Bastard's Guide to New York City (Globe Pequot Press.) As an actor Rob has appeared in American Splendor, Law & Order, Law & Order: SVU, The Job as well as on the stages of regional theaters around the country. As a licensed massage therapist for over ten years, he has relieved many an aching back working at many of the leading spas in Manhattan. He lives in New York City where he cuddles the days away with his wife Karen.

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The Three T's of Cuddling
There is no wrong way to cuddle, but there are ways to make your cuddles more intimate and enjoyable. Here are the three T's of cuddling to keep in mind, which can be applied to almost any cuddling position in the book.

TALK-once you are physically communicating with your partner through the cuddle, verbal communication will have even more of an impact. From goofy pillow talk to those quiet monumental conversations about hopes, dreams, and wishes, share what you are thinking and feeling-the impact of your cuddles will be even more intense.

TOUCH-While your bodies may be tied up in knots around each other in some of these positions, your hands always have at least some range of motion to touch your partner. There are at least four basic types of touch that work particularly well with cuddles: caressing, tickling, scratching, and light fingertip touch-use them all!

TOGETHERNESS-Gravity is a remarkable tool for cuddling, and one that should never be shied away from. In whatever position you find yourselves, take advantage of any opportunity to let the full weight of your body rest effortlessly on your partner. Whether it is your whole body or just an arm or leg, allow the full heft of your bodies to make the cuddle more comforting and substantial.

A Note about the Positions and the Descriptions
One of the magical things about cuddling is that anyone can do it. It is not limited by gender, age, size, or acrobatic abilities. One of the not so magical things about writing a book is that in order to be clear and understandable, you are forced to use pronouns like he and she. For the sake of clarity, I have described each cuddle with genders to correspond with the accompanying illustration. In reality, just about every role in every cuddle in this book can be performed by any partner in any relationship.

Depending on you and your partner's size and body types, you may find there are a few positions in the book that are not a perfect fit for you. In these rare cases, I would encourage you to experiment and communicate. Shift a leg here, an arm there, roll a bit more to the side-whatever it might take for you to be comfortable and at ease in that position. Above all else, a cuddle must be comfortable for it to be comforting.

This is the classic, all-purpose, stay-snuggled-up-close-to-me-all-night-long cuddle. He is lying on his back, she is lying on her side completely resting all of her weight against him. He gently hugs her upper body with his arm, supporting her neck and head. She hugs him with her upper arm and tucks her lower arm into her chest so it rests between their two bodies. She may feel the urge to slide this arm under his body to give him a complete hug, but if you maintain that position for too long, her arm will eventually go numb from the weight of his body, and it is not particularly comfortable for him. You will find your legs intermingling; let them rest wherever is most comfortable. This position is all about maximum contact and maximum comfort. This one also works like a dream on the couch.

It's not what you think . . . well it is, but not in the way you think. You are both lying on your side facing each other, head to toe. Your knees are slightly bent with the bottom knee lying slightly forward of the other knee, leaving your inner thigh to form a perfect pillow for your partner's head. This is a surprisingly intimate position that is ideal for light caressing and sensual tickling on the lower back, behind, and thighs.

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Table of Contents

The Three T's of Cuddling
A Note about Positions and Descriptions

Part One: Private Displays of Affection
Chapter 1: Bedroom Boogie: Cuddling in Bed

We spend about a third of our lives in bed, giving us time to explore the many varieties of bedroom cuddling positions that range from traditional to the seemingly acrobatic.

-Come to Papa -
-681?2 -
-Lap of Luxury -
-Main Squeeze
-Melting Butter -
-Tug O' Love -
-Cherry Popsicles -
-The X Factor -
-Breakfast in Bed -
-9:30 P.M. -
-Spooning -
-Forking -
-Through the Woods -
-Two Pillows -
-The Husband -
-Cheek to Cheek

Chapter 2: Couch Canoodling: Snuggling on the Sofa

Whether watching TV, having a heart-to-heart discussion, or reading the Sunday paper, these positions take multitasking to a whole new level.

-Surf & Snuggle -
-Sardines -
-The Times Together -
-Two Peas in a Pod -
-Ticklish Delight -
-Horizontal Hold -
-Splish Splash -
-The Layer Cake -
-The Most Comfy Chair -
-Lean Two -
-The Matching Pillow Set -
-Tête à Tête -

Part Two: Public Displays of Affection -
Chapter 3: Walking with My Baby: Hand Holds and Embraces

While you may not think of holding hands and public embraces as cuddling, they are indeed the purest and most common forms of the cuddle. Do not be fooled by their simplicity-these are powerfully emotional acts. You may be surprised at the infinite number of ways two people can manage to walk and be in love at the same time.

-The Old-Fashioned -
-The New-Fashioned -
-The Yawn Maneuver -
-Public Displays of Ahhhh! -
-The Pick Pocket -
-Your Honey or Your Life
-Partners in Time -
-The Pose
-The Weave -
-The Velcro Touch -
-Pinky Play -
-Cross My Heart -
-Team Players -
-Arm in Arm -
-The Huggle -
-The Pick-Me-Up -
-The Gleap -
-The Thresh Hold -
-Promenade -
-The Dip-

About the Author/Illustrator -

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    this book is so true!! I love cuddling and this just puts a name to what i'm already doing! it defines and describes what each position means, in cuddling.

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