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The Three T's of Cuddling
There is no wrong way to cuddle, but there are ways to make your cuddles more intimate and enjoyable. Here are the three T's of cuddling to keep in mind, which can be applied to almost any cuddling position in the book.
TALK-once you are physically communicating with your partner through the cuddle, verbal communication will have even more of an impact. From goofy pillow talk to those quiet monumental conversations about hopes, dreams, and wishes, share what you are thinking and feeling-the impact of your cuddles will be even more intense.
TOUCH-While your bodies may be tied up in knots around each other in some of these positions, your hands always have at least some range of motion to touch your partner. There are at least four basic types of touch that work particularly well with cuddles: caressing, tickling, scratching, and light fingertip touch-use them all!
TOGETHERNESS-Gravity is a remarkable tool for cuddling, and one that should never be shied away from. In whatever position you find yourselves, take advantage of any opportunity to let the full weight of your body rest effortlessly on your partner. Whether it is your whole body or just an arm or leg, allow the full heft of your bodies to make the cuddle more comforting and substantial.
A Note about the Positions and the Descriptions
One of the magical things about cuddling is that anyone can do it. It is not limited by gender, age, size, or acrobatic abilities. One of the not so magical things about writing a book is that in order to be clear and understandable, you are forced to use pronouns like he and she. For the sake of clarity, I have described each cuddle with genders to correspond with the accompanying illustration. In reality, just about every role in every cuddle in this book can be performed by any partner in any relationship.
Depending on you and your partner's size and body types, you may find there are a few positions in the book that are not a perfect fit for you. In these rare cases, I would encourage you to experiment and communicate. Shift a leg here, an arm there, roll a bit more to the side-whatever it might take for you to be comfortable and at ease in that position. Above all else, a cuddle must be comfortable for it to be comforting.
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This is the classic, all-purpose, stay-snuggled-up-close-to-me-all-night-long cuddle. He is lying on his back, she is lying on her side completely resting all of her weight against him. He gently hugs her upper body with his arm, supporting her neck and head. She hugs him with her upper arm and tucks her lower arm into her chest so it rests between their two bodies. She may feel the urge to slide this arm under his body to give him a complete hug, but if you maintain that position for too long, her arm will eventually go numb from the weight of his body, and it is not particularly comfortable for him. You will find your legs intermingling; let them rest wherever is most comfortable. This position is all about maximum contact and maximum comfort. This one also works like a dream on the couch.
It's not what you think . . . well it is, but not in the way you think. You are both lying on your side facing each other, head to toe. Your knees are slightly bent with the bottom knee lying slightly forward of the other knee, leaving your inner thigh to form a perfect pillow for your partner's head. This is a surprisingly intimate position that is ideal for light caressing and sensual tickling on the lower back, behind, and thighs.