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Starting Off with the Right Tools
Cyber Lies is an indispensable tool for readers interested in locating, retrieving, reviewing, and analyzing information stored on technology devices-in other words, computer forensics and data recovery. By reading Cyber Lies, you will learn the basic steps that will enable you to quickly gain access to crucial information located on cell phones and computers. For readers facing the stresses and complications of going through a divorce, Cyber Lies will show you how to obtain the data you need to discover and document if your spouse is cheating on you or if they are involved in inappropriate online activities.
Knowledge Is Power
In addition to accessing crucial data, through Cyber Lies, readers also will acquire knowledge about how to recover deleted data from hard drives and preserve the resulting potential evidence by imaging the hard drive. If you later need to hire a computer forensic expert, you can, thus, provide them with the image files for their examination and analysis.
It is important for readers to understand that they are not computer forensic experts, nor are they trying to be. Their efforts should be focused on gaining access to crucial data for analysis. In addition, this book provides a reader with severaloptions on how to proceed based on their own circumstances. In some cases, this may be through the use of forensic tools and methodologies, while in other cases it may just involve the copying of certain data for analysis. In these types of cases, a reader may inadvertently change the dates and times of files as they access the computer to copy data.
Typically, changing file dates and times is not an issue in many divorce cases. For example, an inbox.dbx file contains messages received for Microsoft Outlook Express. Microsoft Outlook Express is an e-mail program that enables a person to send and receive e-mail messages. The date and time of the inbox.dbx file has absolutely no relevance to the dates and times of the messages contained in that file. So when you access the inbox.dbx file, the file last accessed date and time changes, but the dates and times of the internal messages remain unmodified. What counts on these occasions are the messages contained in the inbox.dbx file, so don't worry if you do not have a very technical background.
In my experience, most of the time the information important to spouses is easily accessible using the methodologies described in this book and often does not require the services of a computer forensic expert. One exception would be when the results of the forensic acquisition or data is challenged in a court of law. Recovered e-mail messages, instant-messaging logs, and other types of data documenting intimate relationships or online activity are the most crucial in divorce cases; and Cyber Lies will examine accessing and recovering such data. Remember, I wrote this book for you. No one, including your attorney or the judge, expects you to be a computer forensic expert. The only trait they expect from you is honesty.
Cyber Lies will teach you how to review a variety of technology devices that might be used by your spouse. These may include cell phones and computers. Many readers will want to use the information they have gleaned by reading Cyber Lies, but the book is not intended to replace the use of a computer forensic expert. If you know at the start that you are going to hire an expert, then read this book all the way through, but remember - Do not touch the computer! After reading Cyber Lies, you will have a useful understanding of computer forensics and be able to better communicate with the expert, thus giving them the information they need to do the best job for you.
A note for readers who do not intend to hire a computer forensic expert: Cyber Lies is not intended to be a training manual to be used for readers wishing to become computer forensic experts. I realize, however, that not everyone can afford to hire a computer forensic expert. Or, there may be emergent instances when you do not have the time to go through the process of hiring an expert, but you do need to take immediate action. This is where Cyber Lies can be extremely helpful to you.
What Cyber Lies Cannot Do for You
It is important to me that you are successful in your endeavors to recover computer data. If, however, you were looking for a book to help you save your relationship, Cyber Lies is not the book. A cursory browse through bookstore shelves will enable you to become familiar with hundreds of books written by medical doctors, Ph.D.s, and "love experts" that can point you in the right direction. Over the years, I have been hired by many lawyers and their clients in numerous divorce cases, and I have had access to the most intimate details of their experiences. During those times, I have tried to be as supportive to clients as I could, so I know what you are going through. I know what and how you are feeling, I know the level of frustration that you will reach, and I also know how important it is to you to find solutions. That is why I wrote Cyber Lies. To help you. So please read the entire book. Don't get tempted to jump past certain chapters because you have browsed through the Table of Contents thinking the content of those chapters may not be relevant to your needs and you are eager to get started solving problems at once. There is important information in every one of the chapters-details that you need to know before starting to work on any computer or cell phone. Give yourself the time you need to absorb and comprehend the material, and you will be successful. Rush through this book, and you increase the potential to misunderstand the instructions or even destroy the data you are attempting to recover. It is also important to read the chapters in the order they appear. I have written the book in building-block fashion, so each chapter builds on the next, and each prior chapter supports the current chapter.
Helping Your Lawyer to Help You
Before I begin talking about computer forensics and accessing data stored on a variety of technology devices, I want to briefly touch on a subject that is going to be absolutely crucial to obtaining the most successful outcome possible in a potential divorce proceeding. It is the one part on which you should expend an enormous amount of effort and pay close attention to. If you don't, all of your work retrieving data will be meaningless and you will be left miserable and blaming everyone except your cheating spouse.
Some people respond to their frustration and lack of motivation by blaming their lawyer. Keep in mind that a good lawyer can try their utmost to get you the best possible settlement, but they can't guarantee it. The outcome of your case will depend on you, your lawyer, your spouse, your spouse's lawyer, the judge, the facts of the case, the evidence you present, and much more. If you have an uncooperative spouse or your spouse's attorney is more disruptive rather that constructive, all of this can adversely affect your case. In the end, it was your spouse that brought you to this point in your life. Being mindful of this and keeping your lawyer up to date on all your activities as they relate to your divorce proceedings will help you immensely. Don't do anything without your lawyer's approval no matter how wrong you feel they may be. Divorce proceedings can put many of us through an emotional and stressful time that we may not be able to fully handle and react to in an appropriate way. Since your divorce lawyer is not involved emotionally, they're best able to see things more clearly and help direct you through the fog of bitterness. Listen to them and let them guide you. Isn't that what you hired them for? Don't waste your money.
The most important aspect of your divorce proceeding will be choosing a lawyer to represent you. So you must make every effort to ensure that it is the most informed decision possible. While most people going through a divorce would love to choose the attorney for the opposing spouse, this is not going to happen. It would also be great if you got to choose the judge, but this is not possible either. So in the one aspect of your divorce where you actually get to make a choice-the person who will represent your interests-make sure you choose wisely.
When selecting a lawyer, remember that they-like other professionals-have different skill sets, different personalities and different levels of determination and patience. It is important that you make an informed decision when hiring a divorce lawyer. Speaking with the attorney and checking references should help provide you with enough information to be confident in making a decision. In my experience some of the best traits that I have seen in lawyers are a sense of determination, compassion, and obligation to their clients. There are a lot of highly qualified and truly gifted attorneys and I hope you find one to represent you. That being said, let's get back to the topic of this book.
Preparing Yourself for Action
Welcome to my world. It can be a bizarre place at times, but it is never boring. One of the reasons for this is that in the realm of cheating spouses, the bar for inappropriate behavior has reached a new low. Therefore, before you enter my world, you must understand the philosophy that I adhere to: Trust no one and suspect everyone. I really don't suggest you should live your life by this maxim, but I do want you to be successful in your endeavors with regard to identifying, locating, and recovering the information that you are seeking. Therefore, while you pursue these activities, you must adhere to the philosophy that is necessary in the world of computer forensics.
Before you take the first step, I would like to give you a warning and some advice. Have you ever heard the phrase, Be careful of what you wish for? In your quest for the realities of your situation, you are asking me to show you how to access information regarding your spouse or partner. In Cyber Lies, I will tell you where and how to find this data. However, what you find during your investigation may not be what you are ready to see-so prepare yourself. Just like Neo was asked to choose the blue or red pill in The Matrix, you now have that same choice. Choose the blue pill by placing this book back on the shelf and walking away, or choose the red pill by continuing to read this book. Be forewarned that just like Neo, there is no turning back, and you may soon have something unsettling and unfamiliar stuck in the back of your head that you can't remove or ignore. That something may be information documenting your spouse's online or extramarital activities.
Okay, so you chose the red pill. Great choice.
I'm sure one of the first questions you have is, What will I need to do to prepare myself emotionally? The level of emotional preparation that you will need is proportionate to the level of concern you currently have regarding your spouse's activities. If you are merely concerned about their recent activities, but cannot pinpoint any event where you know your spouse lied or misled you, then you may not find anything in your search for the truth. However, if you have strong suspicions about specific actions, then fasten your seatbelt because you may find yourself on a wild ride needing to make rapid, life-changing decisions. Unfortunately, I see more of the latter in my business, and it has led to both heartbreak and despair. Almost every time one of my clients has a strong suspicion that their spouse is involved in an affair or addicted to some type of online perversion, I routinely find the evidence to support those suspicions, and frequently I find a lot of it.
Today's Reality Check
Our society has been gradually moving toward an attitude of self-gratification-a kind of attitude that says, Me first! This is probably one of the major reasons that relationships between spouses fail. People say the old days are gone forever. You may remember the days when people stuck together through trying times and worked problems out for the benefit of the children. Not today. The new relationship model is: Do what makes me feel good right now. Working things out is too hard for too many people, and it does not satisfy their immediate need for pleasure. We have become a selfish society, and those of us who refuse to follow the status quo are often destined for disappointment. This is true unless you know how to find out if your spouse is just as committed to the relationship as you are. This is important knowledge to have, as it is often the things that we don't know that can hurt us the most.
Today there are plenty of things that can distract from the relationship we have with our spouse or life partner, and unfortunately we may find that that person is not the same person we thought they were. Most people enter a relationship with the greatest of intentions, and then life comes in and beats the living hell out of both of them. Is that fair? No, but life isn't always fair. Some people enter relationships as a convenience. It's good enough for them until the next opportunity comes along. Is that fair? No, it's not, and it can often lead to devastation and financial burdens, not to mention heartache and agony for the other spouse.
Life is life, but sometimes it's also what we make of it. It can be as strong as we are and it can be as weak as we are. However, no matter what life gives us, we are individually and solely responsible for the decisions that we make, and we must understand that those decisions can and will often have repercussions that not only affect us but those around us. It is truly unfortunate when one spouse makes decisions that dramatically and drastically affect the other. If you are on the receiving end of your spouse's poor choices, it is important for you to understand that it is not your fault. You are not to blame for your spouse's cheating. I have seen too many people spending emotional energy analyzing themselves on why their spouse cheated. Remember, it's them, not you. I don't need a degree in psychology to tell you that it's their weakness, not yours; it is in no way a reflection on your ability to maintain a good relationship. This is the very premise of why I wrote Cyber Lies: To arm you with the information you need to gain a better understanding of technology, to provide you with the methods to protect yourself, and to access technology devices to obtain the data to make crucial decisions. This book is designed to be part of your support system. I wrote this book for the person who is committed to their relationship, even though their spouse may not be. Cyber Lies will help you identify information that can assist you in making decisions that will eventually help you to protect yourself. I cannot make any decision for you, nobody can. What I can do is show you how to uncover information that will help provide a direction for you. In the event that your spouse has decided to leave you for another, this book will show you how to maintain and protect your privacy, while uncovering information and facts that may assist you as you proceed through a potential legal process.
Spouses who have been through a rough relationship sometimes just want the truth. They not only need it, but they deserve it. It's not always about the legal process, it's not always about the law, and it's not always about getting even. A lawyer will tell you that your divorce case is not about your spouse cheating on you. Rather, the goal should be dissolving the marriage, dividing the assets, and in a growing number of cases-child custody. I have, however, worked too many cases to know that for the faithful spouse, the truth is what's important. They have been told by their spouse that they are "crazy," that they are "paranoid," and that they are wrong about their suspicions. Remember: Cheaters lie. Cheating spouses will often tell their spouse that they love them and frequently try to place the blame for their suspicions back on them. A wife once asked me, "Am I crazy?"
I said, "Here look at these nude pictures of your husband that he was sending out via e-mail to other women. No you're not crazy! He is."
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Posted July 16, 2006
Are you interested in locating, retrieving, reviewing and analyzing information stored on technological devices like computer forensics and data recovery? If you are, then this book is for you! Author John P. Lucich, has done an outstanding job of writing a practical book that gives you the reader, an indispensable tool to enable you to quickly gain access to crucial information located on cell phones and computers. John P. Lucich, begins by helping you search for the truth with a discussion about infidelity. Then, the author helps you find and use the free resources available on the Internet with regards to infidelity. Next, he conducts a technology overview to bring you up to speed as quickly as possible, with the minimum amount of information, so that you can get off to a good start. The author then discusses the Windows file system and shows you how to navigate it. He continues by showing you how to successfully acquire an image of a computer hard drive and then analyze that image to locate and retrieve the information that you need to make decisions. Then, the author shows you how to access cell phones to get the data you need to review. Next, he walks you through the process of locating and analyzing e-mail that is stored in a variety of file formats. He also covers the tools and resources that are available to help support your forensic activities. Finally, the author shows you what you need and how to go about asking the right questions, so that you can obtain the necessary answers before you proceed. In this most excellent book, you will also find the basic steps that will enable you to quickly recover deleted data from hard drives and preserve the resulting potential evidence by imaging the hard drive. More importantly, this book will show you how to obtain the data that you will need to discover and document information relating to infidelity or other inappropriate online activities.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted July 17, 2006
Cyber Lies Marriage: A challenging, rewarding state of love, commitment, and most important of all: trust. But what happens when one of the people in the relationship begins to stray¿must the other either suffer in silent doubt, or furious, certain knowledge of the other¿s infidelity, but no solid evidence? Lucich has an answer for such a dilemma: Cyber Lies: When Finding the Truth Matters. Lucich, a ¿law enforcement veteran, college professor, and internationally recognized computer forensic expert¿ has developed a system for detecting the truth about the possibly cheating spouse. The author begins by introducing the premise of the book: that the Internet has become a veritable hotbed of cheating, that the digital world is rife with people either willing to engage in anonymous, online sex, or those who enable more traditional affairs through seemingly untraceable programming, even websites where perfect strangers would lie to someone¿s else¿s wife regarding their spouse¿s whereabouts in exchange for alibis for themselves. In a world where infidelity has always been common, the Internet has upped the ante of cheating, making it much, much easier to deceive a trusting mate. Even worse, the author discusses the incredibly demoralizing effects of doubting one¿s own instincts: ¿Cheating spouses will often tell their spouse that they love them and frequently try to place the blame for their suspicions back on them. A wife once asked me, ¿Am I crazy?¿ I replied, ¿Here, look at these nude pictures of your husband that he was sending out via email to other women. No, you¿re not crazy! He is.¿ Lucich, in the space of less than 200 pages, takes the reader on a concise, easy-to-read crash course on computers and how forensic experts can glean inappropriate content an erring husband/wife might potentially have left on them. Lucich takes a subject that might well be overwhelming for the average, everyday reader, and makes it understandable and accessible, giving the reader the know-how and confidence on how to proceed, covering almost every imaginable aspect the reader might reasonably encounter, as well as the various possible legal repercussions that might help or hinder divorce proceedings should they turn out to be necessary. An equally rich source of research on a straying husband or wife, according to Lucich, is the cell phone: ¿Something for you to remember is that a growing number of people use the same cell phone for communicating with their spouse *and* the person with whom they are cheating.¿ The author guides the reader on how to check a spouses¿ cell phone to see if there are incriminating behaviors going on: what to look for, and how to find it. His writing style is clear and comforting, but also very precise and to the point. Almost anyone should be able to follow his crystal-clear instructions, even those with no prior computer/digital training. While it is very unfortunate that a book like Cyber Lies needs to be written, it¿s a comfort to know that someone like Lucich is in the reader¿s corner. --5 stars --- Kathleen YoumansWas this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.