On his Barnes & Noble Studio video, Greg Wright confesses that he's not a professional therapist and he admits that his four daughters often bewilder him. Such disclosures are, of course, rare among parenting authors, but it is exactly that candor that makes Wright's Daddy Dates such an appealingand useful book. Instead of laying down grand pronouncement, he writes humbly about the ongoing education that he has received as he has attempted to help his daughter achieve maturity and self-confidence. His background as a motivational speaker helps shape his presentation into a useful tool for other self-admittedly clueless dads.
Daddy Dates: Four Daughters, One Clueless Dad, and His Quest to Win Their Hearts: The Road Map for Any Dad to Raise a Strong and Confident Daughterby Greg Wright
Daddy Dates gives the average Joe easy steps to actively and successfully engage with his daughter and raise a confident woman-to-be.
When faced with the reality of raising four (4!) teen daughters, Greg Wright went on a soul quest.
He came back with a mission: Don't Screw Up.
This funny, insightful, and relatable book poses the wildly/b>/i>
Daddy Dates gives the average Joe easy steps to actively and successfully engage with his daughter and raise a confident woman-to-be.
When faced with the reality of raising four (4!) teen daughters, Greg Wright went on a soul quest.
He came back with a mission: Don't Screw Up.
This funny, insightful, and relatable book poses the wildly original concept that should be a "duh" for most dads-but isn't: In order to raise a confident woman-to-be, show your daughter what it feels like to be treated with love, respect, and true interest by a man who loves her.
Daddy Dates shows the average father how to actually do that. It is written in an original voice and will appeal to both men and women. It is the kind of action-oriented "how to" material that guys enjoy, and so many others will recommend to other dads.
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daddy datesFOUR DAUGHTERS, ONE CLUELESS DAD, AND HIS QUEST TO WIN THEIR HEARTS
By Greg Wright
Thomas NelsonCopyright © 2011 Greg Wright and Another Door Opens, L.L.C. f/s/o Diane Dee
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Chapter OneThe Tree and Me
I don't come from a family of girls. I have a couple of brothers and a sister, and then all of a sudden there's a wife and four daughters, and I'm not even thirty yet.
Heck, even the dog is female.
I never thought I was the type of guy to have kids, and honestly I probably wasn't the type of guy to get married either. My dad is a country boy at heart, and my mom had a passion for city life, so it came as no big surprise when things didn't work out.
As a young man I was very self-centered and more than a little arrogant. It was all about me, man. If they were giving out awards for being selfish, Big Tex would've had a hard time pinning a blue ribbon on my puffed up chest at the state fair, it was so big. Definitely.
But then I met my wife, fell in love, and we tied the knot on Valentine's Day 1992. I was twenty-one years old. We were only a few months into marriage when my bride gave me a Hallmark card with little booties on it. You'd think that would trigger my comprehension of the bignews, but nooooo. What an idiot. When I finally realized she was pregnant, I remember feeling this tiny bit of excitement buried under a mountain of yikes, now what?
Then came three more precious baby girls—bing, bang, boom. They're about as close together as you can get without having quadruplets.
That much estrogen was too much for me to reasonably understand, and I knew that I was in way over my head.
When our littlest entered kindergarten, I had a very dramatic feeling that I was in danger of becoming a complete loser in the dad-of-big-girls department.
Frankly, that thought scared me to death because I knew that when it came to parenting, I was just shooting from the hip every day, and I wanted a solution. I wanted a plan. Now.
So I did what any reasonable male would do: I bailed. Not on my wife and kids, but to a mountaintop in Colorado. I thought some manly alone time would help me figure out how in the world I was going to handle my responsibilities. I was petrified that I was going to mess up the most important job I'd ever have.
That's when I found "The Tree."
I plopped myself down under a big ole pine tree and decided to take a business approach to this problem of dad-being and girl-raising. I took a notepad out of my backpack and clicked the pen a few dozen times, as if revving the engines on the paternal horsepower ready to leap onto the page.
The truth was anything but. What was I going to do with these four female dependents who depend on me to the tree and me be the Great Wise One? What do I know about women—of any age?
That was a nonstarter. I stuck the end of the pen in my mouth and tapped my teeth.
Okay, relax. I can figure this out. First, I need to set some goals. Yeah, that's it. But wait, I'm missing real goals in my own life, my own career, and my own marriage. And maybe I ought to get my life together first, because that's what mature, responsible men do, right? No, forget about all of that, I just need to get more on track with my wife. Or maybe, I should probably create a solid ten-year plan for my business first so I can top off that college fund. And what about retirement, buddy, you haven't even thought about that ...
Somewhere in this vast jumble of rhetorical nonsense, I realized I just needed to stop and focus on my goals for being a dad. Wasn't that my excuse for being here in nature?
So I clicked the Bic to the "on" position and wrote down each child's name.
Next I'll make a list of what I really know about them for sure.
And here's what I came up with: not much. It wasn't the first time I had that realization. A couple of weeks earlier, I accidentally overheard (okay, eavesdropped) the girls yakking at the table over homework and was struck dumb by my complete and profound ignorance about my own off-springs' desires and opinions.
Clearly, I didn't have a single clue—not even a clue of a clue—what my girls really thought about the world and what's important about it. I knew what my experiences of them were, but I couldn't say that I knew them. I didn't know what motivated them. I couldn't answer even the simplest question. How do they see me? How do they see their roles in life? What makes their hearts sing? Is the world good and friendly, Or evil and hostile? Is their favorite color pink or purple? Crest or Colgate? Who knew?
Not Dad, that's for sure.
And then it struck me that when I met my wife, I didn't know anything about her either, but I was lovestruck and did what a guy does when he thinks she's "the one." I made it my mission to find out what she liked so I could be her hero. (Or at least have a shot at being one.) I decided to discover who she really was and what she loved and feared and wanted in life. I pursued knowing her with gusto and wound up with the woman who gave me the greatest gifts of my life.
That's the moment I became really curious about the four adorable strangers in my house. I realized I needed a better strategy to understand what makes them tick so I could have a shot at connecting with them in a profound way too.
So I decided to write a focused Purpose and Mission statement about this dad thing. Why am I here, what's the point, what do I have to contribute as a father? Well, money, love, wisdom, and that kind of thing. The other X chromosome, of course. What else?
Okay, forget purpose. Too murky. We'll circle back around to that later. Let's go with mission. Good word. A real guy word if there ever was one. I can do that. So, what is my mission for being a good dad? If I'm here for a particular reason, and none of my children were cosmic accidents, and I'm intended to be Wise Father Wright ... well, then what? What's the next step? Or is that purpose?
I know that to complete a successful mission, you can't just park yourself and accomplish it. You have to have a game plan. Everybody knows that. So I spent an exorbitant amount of time trying to construct Greg's Grand Soliloquy on my fatherly mission and purpose, or purposeful mission, or whatever. I entertained myself and wasted hours trying to come up with that nonsense, only to find out that it was total garbage—meaningless platitudes, dog doodles on the page.
My tail hurt and I was hungry, but I wasn't giving up.
Yet I had to admit I was stuck. Apparently this dad-mission thing is pretty tricky too. I just couldn't get away from thinking of being a dad as if it was like being anything else, like the head of a company or a team leader or a professional coach—because that's easy. I know how to do that. What's my purpose? To help other people reach career goals and achieve their ambitions. Get through to the next level. Yada yada to some, but I believed I was pretty good at it. My clients were doing well and my seminar business was too. There was proof.
It took me a while to realize that parenting isn't a business, though, and after I drafted pages and pages of lofty language, I finally drilled my Dad Mission Statement down to three simple words.
Don't screw up.
Yeah, that works.
Chapter TwoWhat Do I Know?
Of course, don't screw up is totally fear driven. But at least it sounded right. It was honest.
Okay, check. Mission statement accomplished. But how, exactly, was I going to do it? I started looking at each one of my girls, and I realized I needed to know more about what I didn't know. That required research. Then an action plan. And I wasn't sure how I was going to do that; I just knew it was a goal.
Now we're getting somewhere.
So like most guys, I fell back on what I already knew. I wandered in my head back to my high school days. I definitely made a ton of mistakes back then, and I'm certainly not proud of some of the more idiotic choices I made as a teenager, but there was one thing I was proud of: I knew how to date. I wasn't a good boyfriend, but I knew how to date. I knew what that looked like.
Actually, I was very creative in my teenage dating life, and even a little competitive. I thought things through, I would plan out the whole scenario, and it would usually be something pretty cool and specially designed to please a particular girl.
Sometimes the date would go awry, but most of the time it worked out and the current object of my desire would say yes when or if I asked her out again. She would also talk to me a lot during the evening, and I knew she meant it when she said, "I had a nice time," because she told her girlfriends, "Hey, that Greg is a fun date." I earned a bit of a reputation in my circle at school for this minor social skill.
I liked that.
For example, in Dallas they have Shakespeare in the Park, and while most of my buddies were dinner and movie guys (at the most), I liked the finesse of something more creative. When I announced that I was taking my dates to Shakespeare, they would look at me like a calf at a new gate. I remember thinking, You can think Hamlet is uncool, but I'm the one getting the girls to say yes to going out with me.
I learned pretty quickly that I was good at this dating thing, and I dug that.
So here I am a dad now, and why can't I apply some of that same mojo to this situation? With a completely different purpose, of course: one pure of heart, with a new trajectory.
Although I'm ignorant when it comes to many issues about women, there's one thing I do get about our interaction and the nature of our inherent roles: I believe it's the job of every husband and father to understand that his job—perhaps his most important job—is to be the pursuer.
Not just at the beginning, but all the way through. I am convinced that to be successful in our relationships with the fairer sex, our role in life is to pursue the understanding of the women who are important to us, until we're no longer breathing.
That's pretty much it. That's why this chapter is super short. In my opinion, any man who gets this concept also "gets" women, including his daughters, wife, sisters, mothers, and female friends. Doesn't matter their age. Girls want us to discover their specialness, praise it, and treasure it.
Gentlemen, we have lift-off.
Chapter ThreeThe Pursuit of Happiness
I'm not exactly a bejeweled kind of guy. Yet I wear this woven thing around my wrist. My eldest daughter made it about a year ago, and when she gave it to me, I thought, Oh, that's sweet, but nothing too unusual—Tori's a thoughtful girl, and we have that kind of relationship.
But as it turns out, this wasn't any ole object d'art she created. I guess you could say it was a form of show-and-tell for high school that's still telling. It was part of an oral report assignment, which was to write an essay about the meaning of a best friend, and she said I was the only one in her life who fit all of the criteria. When she told me what it represented, I was moved to tears.
Yep, this true blue Southern boy wears a bracelet. Whenever I wonder if I'm on the right dad-track, it's right there for inspiration and encouragement. That bracelet will have to rot off of me.
The details are hazy about that conversation, but I clearly remember saying to my daughter at the time, "Gee, you have a million friends. Why did you pick me?" Tori looked at me like I was just plain silly. "Daddy, of course You're my best friend. I can talk to you about anything."
That just blew me away, and I now realize that this is a core concept for me as a father. Knowing a daughter—really knowing her—won't happen just by going to her soccer practice, no matter how many high-fives and "good jobs" you give her. Pursuing a relationship with your daughter is a conscious choice, and it takes energy and imagination, and (there's no way around this) the willingness to deal with messy emotions and questionable logic.
It doesn't mean you'll always want to do it or that it will be easy. But it is achievable, and you can learn how to observe the ups and downs in the relationship without getting seasick. And more than that, it's totally worth it.
Pursuing a daughter with the goal of getting to know what's in her heart and mind is how you will bond with her, build her confidence, and find happiness ... for both of you.
My payoff is that I have the kind of relationship with my teenage daughters that other dads envy. I have a blast with my girls, and we're superclose, but trust me, I'm no pushover. (Well, not always.) Do they mess up? Sure. Do I mess up? All the time. But I have their love and respect, and our teens are eager participants in family life. They're not perfect (and neither am I), but we're connected. Like superglue.
Now, by "pursuit" I'm not talking about chasing your little princess, spoiling her, or giving in to endless wishes and whims. I'm talking about making the effort to understand your kid, because that way, as she evolves and navigates the teen years, you will be able to follow where she's going mentally and keep her grounded so she'll be self-confident and less susceptible to losers, scammers, and avoidable disasters when she's out on her own.
She'll turn to you when she needs a strong shoulder until she gets married, and she'll actually want to be around the old man later on.
That's what we all want for our girls, right?
Let's get something straight, though. When you intentionally pursue how a girl thinks about things, it usually means how she feels. That's where it's a little different from being with a son, when you can sit there with a hot dog, watch a ballgame, yell at strangers, say little to each other, and still have a bonding experience. (Or so I'm told. What do I know about raising boys?) Girls? Nope. If Dad wants to get close and know how his daughter feels about a movie, a sport, a teacher, a trip, the big cosmic question "to diet or not to diet," or—heaven forbid—a boy, then there's only one way to accomplish that. You have to talk. And listen.
That one insight—that I wanted to pursue knowing my daughters—was the lightning bolt ah-ha moment. And then I came up with a strategy: dust off the old dating skills and put them back into action, but this time for a better purpose.
Pursue daughter-knowing by dating them. Yeah, that's the ticket.
Chapter FourMy Date with Destiny
Sixteen years ago, my birth-buddy assignment was to be my wife's coach, supporter, and videographer, the last of which I definitely stunk at. (I closed the camera shutter by accident and the first several minutes of the home movie about a major life event has sound but no pictures—a mistake I've never lived down.)
It was an astonishing, life-altering experience, but I didn't have an immediate connection with this newborn child in the delivery room, and I started to wonder if there was something wrong with me for not having a gushier reaction.
Then it was time for my still-slimy daughter to be taken somewhere else by the nurses. I tagged along behind the women in white—I don't know why. It was very quiet when they started cleaning up the infant and doing all those things that I'm sure they do to all babies, but when Nurse Ratched pricked little Victoria's heel and drew a blob of blood, I never wanted to punch a lady more in my life.
The moment that pin-dagger touched the tiny foot, my fist closed hard as a handball, but at the exact same moment my heart opened so wide so fast that I almost passed out from the onslaught of emotion. I suddenly had a feeling of compassion and protection so overwhelming for this brand-spanking-new little person that I literally couldn't breathe.
And that please-God-let-me-throw-myself-on-a-hand-grenade-before-harm -comes-to-my-child feeling has never let up for a second.
Fast forward a few weeks later. We're home, and I can't take my eyes off this kid. I can't even think straight. I can't find the words to describe this feeling I have for baby Victoria. I want another one as soon as possible, which is nuts because I didn't think I wanted the first one, and now I want another baby? What's wrong with me?
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Greg Wright, President and founder of The Wright Track Consulting Co., has traveled the country working with businesses as a motivational speaker, corporate sales coach, human resource analyst and business growth specialist. He and his family live in Austin, Texas.
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I picked this book up because I have two girls. I was hoping to learn how to become a better father and understand my daughters better. Realizing the impact that dads have on their daughters, I would recommend that dads read this book. Greg Wright wrote this book, Daddy Dates, out of a desire to not be stupid with his four daughters. He writes with comic style and this book is an easy read. He writes from the premise of what he did when he dated his wife to win her over. He then applies those principles to his daughters. He gives logical reasons for why he has done what he has done with his daughters. He even gives a lot of practical advice in this book. He helps dads to understand the different personality types of people as it relates to their daughters. This can be extremely helpful. I've always said that if a dad would date his daughters to show them how they need to be treated, then when they start dating they would look for someone who treated them as good as their daddy did. Greg Wright took this thought a step further and wrote this book to help dads out. Every father would benefit from reading this book. I recommend this book. This was written as an honest review from my personal reading of the book. This book was given to me by Thomas Nelson Publishers for my review.
Daddy Dates Greg Wright Thomas Nelsen Publishing By age thirty, Greg was the overwhelmed father of four beautiful little girls, with one thought running through his mind over and over again: Don't Screw Up! Whether married or single, Daddy Dates can help you better connect with virtually all of the females in your life. Using Greg's communication cues, you'll be blown away by what you'll learn about your child, and how you can make a powerful, lasting difference - especially during her rocky teenage years. Daddy Dates is about one thing - Becoming her hero, one date at a time. Fatherhood is something that can be terrifying. The realization that you are responsible for another life carries with it an inherent command: Don't screw up! The reality of fatherhood of daughters can be even more frightening. After all, we know what it's like to be a little boy, so we have some sort of idea of how to raise a boy. Girls have always been a mystery to us, and they aways will be, so the idea of raising a child that we know nothing about is scary. Greg sums up our worst fears in the second paragraph of the Prologue: Whatever you do, don't screw this up, dude. The book itself is very well written and flows effortlessly from one idea to the other. The chapters are clear, concise, and short - the entire book is 214 pages including the aknowledgements - yet the author dives deep into a topic that demands our attention. His wit and wisdom create a fitting backdrop to present a sort of how-to that isn't really a how-to book. This book takes you on the journey of a lifetime as you follow a dad who has stumbled upon an incredible method of parenting for girls: dating. Studies have shown that girls who have fathers who play an integral role in their lives grow up to be more balanced, confident, and take charge. Teen pregnancy, poverty, and poor education have all been linked to absent fathers. Men, it's time to step up and be the men that we need to be to our women, including our daughters. It's not good enough to provide the food, clothing, and roof over their head. The government can do that. We need to be better than that. If we don't take the steps necessary to become the best father we can be, we are shortchanging our daughter, their children, and untold generations to come. I highly encourage all men, everywhere to read this book. Wives, mothers, girlfriends - you want your man to read this book. Trust me. You owe it to your daughters. Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
I really enjoyed reading this book. It is very easy to read and written from a guys perspective. I placed myself, however, into two other perspectives: a parent and a daughter. As a parent, I found the book heartwarming. Many times, the bond between father and child is strained, especially in the families that I knew growing up (including my own.) I loved that a guy took the initiative to get to know his children beyond the basic question "how was school today?" Key concepts were: dates don't have to be expensive, should be tailored to the child, and should focus on getting to know what is going on in your child's life. By establishing this close relationship early on, our families can be stronger and void of the nagging, spying, and rebelling. As a daughter, I loved that a dad would genuinely want to get to know his daughter. Not just spending time with her because the wife said to take the kids along. The father-daughter relationship is one that will affect her own choices when it comes to choosing her spouse. The dad should be the example of who he would want her to marry and how a man should treat her. Greg Wright's daughters are truly blessed and now any father can bless his daughters by reading and applying these concepts. Disclosure: I was provided a copy of this book without charge to review. No other compensation was received. Opinions are solely mine.
Greg Wright discusses his journey of effectively leading his wife and four daughters. While going out into the wilderness to brainstorm how he is going to raise four daughters, he received the idea of "daddy dates." He pursues his daughters by taking them out on these daddy dates, in that he intentionally through thought out dates, specifically catering to the personality of each daughter, goes beyond the superficial and does his best to really know them and what is going on in their life. Each short chapter covers a different aspect of a father's responsibility in getting to know his daughter(s) and gives examples from his experiences. As a single student pursuing a ministry minded masters degree I picked up this book to gain more knowledge and understanding of raising daughters from a father's perspective and to see if it would be a book I could reference to fathers. Although I have limited experiential knowledge of what it is to raise daughters, I thought this book was a beneficial read. Wright desires to have a healthy relationship with his daughters and tells his attempt to doing so. It is written from his experiences and not from any research, so I did/do have some reservations with some of the dynamics daddy dates might have on the father-daughter relationship. From the reading, it seems like he does well with creating/keeping a healthy dynamic though. I would recommend this to fathers to stretch their thinking on how to know their daughters past the common and superficial methods used (if used at all) by many fathers today. I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
I was given the chance to review Daddy Dates: The Road Map for any Dad to Raise A Strong and Confident Daughter and I have to say, at first I thought it was a book about a dad dating another lady who wasn't the girls' mother. But no, this is actually a non-fiction book about what motivates one dad to maintain important, deep relationships with his four daughters. I thought this book was really fantastic. While there are no explicit instructions on how to conduct a Daddy Date, Wright talks about how important it is to get to know your daughters while they are still young, and to carry that relationship on throughout their life. It seems like practical advice, but I know a lot of parents - and dads - who are more or less cut off from their girls, and it makes me sad. Wright talks about how important these dates are to him and his girls, and while he says how much his girls love them, he also mentions several times that there are times when they butt heads with dear ol' dad - but that's totally normal, given the teenage years. He talks a lot about the importance of knowing who your daughter is because that will help you guide her through those years. And something that I really liked is that he talked about the idea of his girls being allowed to date while they are still in high school - and they aren't. I believe he makes some really valid, good points as to why. My own parents didn't place those restrictions on me (I was a senior when I was adopted) but I remember one really awkward date when I as 19 where we got in my date's car and he said, "Um, I don't mean to be rude but I still feel like they are in the car with us." Yeah. My parents and Wright would have gotten along fantastically. It's kind of hard to be more specific that what I've already written: here's a guide that explains why, when, and how, and it also really encourages dads to know their girls. Simple as that. We shouldn't need books like this, but we do - so buy this for a new dad or a da of a young daughter for Father's Day! This book does come from a religious publisher, but I genuinely believe that any dad (or mom!) could read this book, regardless of religious background. There aren't any references to Bible verses, and only a small handful of references to God in general. One thing that I didn't love about the book is that it can be repetitive, but it's a book intended for dads, not for daughters, and from my experience (I love you, padre!), dads occasionally need a little, ahem, reinforcement with what they've been taught or told. That's not enough to deter me from recommending this book to others!
Daddy Dates is a treasure trove of information about the Woman Brain, an uncharted "no man's land" Greg Wright has actively explored in order to raise "strong and confident" daughters. Mr. Wright covers a lot of ground in just over 200 pages. Some chapters are centered on teaching dads about girls. They cover things most women already know. I was repeatedly amazed that a man could so precisely express things that most women think, but rarely say. Other chapters apply to moms AND dads. And they set some pretty high standards. Two concepts in Daddy Dates stick out to me: 1. Listen. Pay attention to what she's saying for as long as it takes her to say it. Don't try to solve her problems. Sometimes she just needs to talk it out. 2. Make it all about her. Check your preferences at the door. This means food, movies, music, everything. If you want her to know how much you cherish her for who she is, you have to let her be that person. While I was learning, or reviewing, all these things I was also laughing my head off and crying my eyes out, at the appropriate moments. The Wright Family is a funny and heartwarming bunch, and it's great to get a peak at what they're learning along the way. I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.
I recently received read the book Daddy Dates. In this book, the author, Greg Wright shares his experiences raising four daughters. He explains how he built and fostered his relationships' with his daughters by taking them on dates. Throughout the book Wright describes how he gets to know his daughters better. He includes a personality quiz and describes fifteen dates a father can take his daughter on. I enjoyed reading this book. The book was entertaining and I really liked how the author gave practical advice on how to talk with daughters. I also really like that the author recognizes the impact a father can have on his daughter and the importance of building a lasting relationship. This book is a great starting point for fathers who want to build a relationship with their daughter.
Daddy Dates is one man's journey through parenthood raising four daughters. This book is full of practical tips for fathers to get to know their daughters. The book offers twenty-five short chapters and additional helps such as personality profiles and a list of the top 15 daddy dates. I love the idea presented throughout this book, as the author once penned it, "I show my girls that they are understood, valued, and cherished by the first guy who ever loved them for who they are." I found this book to be well-written and easy to read. I think this book is a great handbook for all parents raising daughters in today's culture. The platform of this book seems so simple, yet so foreign to our families today. I love the example of a father guiding his daughters into womanhood by showing them how a man should love and respect them. I also appreciated the author's chapter dedicated to "Mommy Dates." This chapter is devoted to reminding men that "mommy" was their first girl and that they need to continue to pursue that relationship in the midst of the parenting years. I believe the suggestions in this book have great potential to build and strengthen the father/daughter relationship for years to come. I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255 "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
Daddy Dates: 4 Daughters, One Clueless Dad and His Quest to Win Their Hearts - The Road Map for Any Dad to Raise a Strong and Confident Daughter by Greg Wright. This should be required reading for every Dad who has a daughter! Let's be honest, girls can be mysterious. How many dads can say they understand their daughter's fears, dreams and opinions? Greg Wright, motivational speaker and business coach, married at 21 and had four beautiful daughters by the age of 29. When his youngest started kindergarten he realized he knew nothing about being a 'dad of big girls.' So, he escaped to the quiet of the mountains to figure it out. He came back with his Dad Mission Statement: Don't screw up. Through humor and insight, Greg speaks to dads with daughters of all ages. Daddy Dates is not an instructional manual full of checklists, but is his saga of how he got to know his girls. The engaging style of writing is entertaining and never preachy. Greg's personal examples show dads how to use open ended questions to create a safe environment, inviting honest communication. He gives examples of 15 different types of 'dates'. which can be 'Fancy-Schmancy' or as simple as a stroll in the park. I was moved by Greg's realization that in order to become a confident young women, girls need to know what it feels like when a man truly has her best interest at heart. I agree!! How many young girls don't experience this today? As I said, ALL dads need to read this book. I was provided a free copy of this book from BookSneeze, for the purpose of review. I was not under any obligation to write a positive review. All opinions are my own.
I recently read Daddy Dates. I got this book from "BookSneeze" for free just for doing this review. This book is written by a father and is sort of an hands on guide, on how to get close with your daughter and stay close threw out the teen years and into adulthood. He talks about how he got to know each of his daughters by treating them like real people not kids. Also how to teach trust and respect to your kids so they hear your words instead of brushing you off. I found this book over all very interesting, I kept wanting to grab a highlighter and mark out passages for later. The author's day job is a motivational speaker and it really shines threw in this book. he deals with tough topics but makes you feel like if you just try it out you can do it. I didn't want to put the book down the hole time I was reading. It seemed every new page had something other tidbit of info that could really help out in my life. I also found that he would comment not just on daughter but women in general. Over all I would say this book is five out of five stars, if you have kids or even want to relate better to the people around you read this book.
Greg Wright's book, Daddy Dates offers a set of guidelines in raising up confident teenage girls who are smart and sensible enough to make their own right choices in life, especially in their relationships with the opposite sex. The chapters are short and entertaining, the words are accommodating and easy to understand. I may not have my own kids to test drive these guidelines on yet, but at least I think I am a little bit ready to understand them when they do come. Since fathers are technically the first man that a girl will ever have a relationship with, it is just proper for a father to learn how to deal with his daughter, or in Greg's case, daughters. The ideas, perceptions and guidelines in this book were based on his own experiences in raising his four teenage daughters. It's not a foolproof way of keeping girls away from falling into bad relationships with men, but it will definitely give fathers the right amount of knowledge and sensibility to guide their daughters to the right path towards holistic maturity. It also gives emphasis on the importance of raising kids (not just daughters) in the Christian way of life. Definitely a must read for all fathers. ^-^
Absolutely LOVED this book. Daddy Dates is a wonderful book written by a father of 4 girls, who all happen to be teenagers now. Greg Wright has a laid back easy way of speaking; he is easily understandable. The chapters are short and to the point, thereby making them easy to devour by the daddy who doesn't have much time for reading (kind of like my husband, father of 3 girls). Greg Wright takes you through all the steps that he stumbled through to get to where he is today with "dating" his daughters. The reason I chose this book is because we as a family try to strive to make one-on-one time with every member of the family. I figured that if he had any helpful hints, that I would be more than welcome to listen to him. I was surprised by just how much good information he placed in this small book. He includes in the back of the book a quiz on how to understand yourself, your daughter, and how you see your daughter. He also includes a few of his more successful Daddy Date ideas for you to try with your own daughters. Some of his main points were very heart-warming to me. When he discussed how a woman's brain works verses a man's brain. Love knowing about the "Nothing" box. Greg Wright also reminds these daddys that if they are still with the mommy that they should probably take some time to continue dating her otherwise there may be repercussions. Here are some of my favorite points from the book: . Although the man of the house messes up on a regular basis, at least my parent passport has four stamps on it and the girls keep letting me into their amazing countries. . I believe it's the job of every husband and father to understand that this job - perhaps his most important job - is to be the pursuer. . You're already in love with your date and she loves you, and no matter what you do, it's better than not doing it at all. . You can still feed the ducks with girls of any age, but then you have to sit on the plaid blanket and talk - if you want to get to know a female. . Females are wired for context and may seem to talk around something to get to something, but what they're really doing is rounding up all the pertinent parts of the picture hoping that we'll "get it". I received this book free. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255
Take a real dad, with a real passion for parenting and loving his daughters, and you have the basis for "daddy dates". This book takes the basic concept of dating and turns into one of the best tools that any man could have on his bookshelf. By really and genuinely focusing on his daughters and what their opinions, thoughts, and dreams are, as they go out together on different excursions, this dad learns what really makes them tick. By showing these young women that they matter the most in his life by creating these outings, gives them the basis for becoming very confident, self-assured, loving adults. I really didn't know what to expect from this book, but was genuinely delighted. It made me laugh from the very first sentence and I thought "wow" here's a man who's not afraid to put it out there and just laugh at himself and his "manisms." I think Greg Wright did a wonderful job creating this book. By using humor and an awful lot of common sense, this dad could really help out alot of men out there to finally begin to understand the women in their lives. I would highly recommend this book to any dad raising daughters or just about to any man who wants to really know the woman in his life. This book was provided to me by the good people at Booksneeze for my honest review.
This is a very fun and engaging book written by the father of four girls, full of funny stories and interest. Through his attempts to connect with his girls and set a Godly example for them, he shares his experiences and encourages other fathers to make similar committments to do the same with their children. A well written book full of honesty and humor, down to earth, encouraging and challenging for fathers. Full of practical advice and stories easily followed and put into practice. Setting out to raise confident and successful women-to-be, Wright walks through each stage of life a girl faces, from grade school to pre-teen, puberty, dating, college, etc. In seeking to show his daughters what is is like to be treated with true love and respect by a man who truly loved them, he shares some of the ways he made sure he met his girls at their level and really got to know them. Through his "dating" his daughters, he shares some of the stories and offers suggestions for other dads to step up and do the same. Full of practictal "take action" type writing, it is easy to follow and implement. Geared toward men, this book is easy to read through, engaging and entertaining to read. Women can get their share of information from the chapters as well. My husband absolutely loved the book and has already set out to begin "dating" our infant daughter, implementing ideas and adapting them to fit the lifestyles of a baby, seeking to make this a lifelong venture in which he can invest many positive hours and build a foundation for our daughter. A wonderful Father's Day book or for that new daddy in your life. Very highly recommended! Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze . com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
'Daddy Dates' is a book written by Greg Wright where he is talking about the revelation he had regarding his responsibilities in raising his four daughters. The idea of a father being involved in the lives of his children, girls or boys, isn't really a new idea - God planned it long, long ago. However, with so many men ignoring this responsibility, it was a pleasure to see that this book existed! Mr. Wright's easy reading and humourous approach to describe his journey has little to do with scripture. His heart is obviously in the right place and he takes his responsibility of loving his daughters very seriously. His tag line for the whole issue is 'Don't screw up!'. I can appreciate the work that he put into the relationship that he is building with each of his children. He is honest and he shows how the work has paid off for him with each of his girls. Mr. Wright does not talk over anyone's head and is open to admitting where he made mistakes, as well - which is something that always helps others trying the same thing. I can recommend the book, but my enthusiasm is limited. Christian men who are sitting on the fence about being godly fathers may have seen a stronger case for 'daddy dates' with the appropriate scripture attached. My husband perused the book and found it was a little too light on a topic that needs to be taking seriously. However, it is positive to have the topic out there and available in a format to introduce to men who are just stepping into the realm of fatherhood.
Greg Wright absolutely hit the nail on the head with this book! In Daddy Dates, Wright tells the story of how he came up with the concept of Daddy Dates and how it has strengthened his relationship with each of his daughters. In order to really connect with his daughters and relate to them, Wright decided to pursue them with some good, old fashioned dating; he goes so far as to call each daughter to ask her out on a date and to bring her flowers and pick her up at the door, after knocking of course! In addition to building a beautiful relationship with his daughters, he uses these dates to teach them what they should look for in a date and how they should be treated by men. In addition to his story, Wright uses select chapters to address specific times of a girl's life from tweens to college age. I love this book! As soon as I type this review, I am going to pass the book onto my husband in hopes that he will see the value in this concept. It's definitely written for men, but it is also a great read for any mother. The chapters are short and to the point and definitely succeed in getting the point across. Wright says that he wrote the book in "Manglish" so that men would really be able to grasp the whole concept. I would recommend this book to any father raising a daughter. It is very important that a girl have a good relationship with her father and a father can't go wrong when he actively pursues his daughter's heart. Disclaimer: A complimentary copy of this book was provided for review by Thomas Nelson Publishers. All thoughts are my own and I was not required to post a positive review.
I have just completed reading the book Daddy Dates by Greg Wright. Greg shares his experiences in raising 4, yes FOUR young ladies. This book is a "how to" for any Dad that has a precious angel. Greg writes about his experiences and what has been working for him as he is leading his girls into Women. This book is not a step by step process of what you do and how to handle every situation. Rather it is some ideas and things that you as a father should keep in mind when interacting with your girl(s). This book caught my attention from the beginning. I have tried to have "dates" with my daughter and I sure want to have a great relationship in the future. So I thought why not learn from someone that is further along than I am. I really appreciated the in site that Greg gave in his book. I plan on using this as a reference guide as I continue to build my relationship stronger with my Daughter. In my opinion, this is a must read for all Dad's and even a good read for Mom's too.
Wow! What a concept! In his first book, Daddy Dates, author Greg Wright shares his perspective on how to connect with the most important people in your life, besides your spouse, your children! Faced with the task of raising four daughters, Wright shares a portion of his journey in connecting with his daughters by taking them on "daddy dates." These daddy dates are designed to foster the relationship with his daughters and teach them at the same time. His purpose is to really get to know each one of his daughters while teaching them how the next important man in their life, their future husband, should treat them. Within the pages of Daddy Dates, you will find insight into how to get creative in getting to know your children. When "dating" his daughters, he always calls them and asks them formally to go out on a date. Then he plans something based on the particular personality and "likes" of the individual daughter. In the back of the book, there is a personality assessment tool for the parent and child. There is also a list and description of different types of dates in case the parent needs help getting started. I really liked this book. It was full of humor and great ideas. I admire this man's initiative to be involved in his daughter's lives and be responsible for the outcome of their future. Although written primarily for dads and daughters, any parent, (or step-parent), can take the contents of the book and apply it to their own relationship with their children. I recommend this book to anybody desiring a better relationship with their children. If you are the wife, and your husband needs some assistance relating to his daughter's and just doesn't know where to start, buy him this book. Many blessings and happy reading! I received this book free from Booksneeze as part of free books for bloggers program. I was not required to give a favorable review. The opinions expressed are my own.
With my first baby due in about a week, I've been thinking a lot about how my husband and I will connect with our child. It seems that traditionally, there are a lot of ways that fathers connect with sons and mothers connect with daughters. Dads teach their boys about sports and show them how to "be a man," while moms go shopping with their daughters and are the first ones to take girls to the salon or get a pedicure with them. Moms are glorified as the nurturing parent and play a vital support role in both sons' and daughters' lives. However, the relationship between father and daughter is a little murkier. Daughters have long been stereotyped as "daddy's girls," but fathers aren't known for their ability to make a true and deep connection with their daughters. That's where Daddy Dates comes in. Daddy Dates: Four Daughters, One Clueless Dad, and His Quest to Win Their Hearts is about a father making a true connection with his four daughters. Greg Wright realized that while he and his daughters have a relationship based on mutual respect and love, he didn't truly understand them at all. He had no idea how they thought or made decisions, and he wasn't sure that they knew how men are meant to treat women. So he started taking each of them on "daddy dates" to deepen his connection with them and ensure that they were growing into strong and confident women. He learned a lot about his daughters and himself, and he has since written Daddy Dates to reflect on the experience and help guide other clueless dads through the process. I like that Greg Wright infuses his book with personal details and anecdotes while also offering advice that can apply to any father-daughter situation. He offers specific date suggestions, walks fathers through the process of asking their daughters on daddy dates, and explains how to have an open and honest conversation - through the good times and the rough patches. He is easy to relate to and provides insightful advice in this quick read that should be at the top of every father's book list. Disclaimer: I received a free copy of this book from BookSneeze to facilitate my review. All opinions are my own.
when I was younger my dad and I would go on what we called daddy-daughter dates. we would usually go see a movie and then to the village inn for pie. my parents were divorced and my older sister had a special bod with my dad because they both loved hunting. I did not. I loved barbies and lipgloss...and movies. It was a special time for dad and I and to this day I am so happy we had those times together. I hope D and Penny get to do that to. A few days ago I got a new book from Booksneeze in the mail called daddy dates. 1 man 4 daughters. EVRY DAD SHOULD READ THIS BOOK! Sometimes I don't think guys realize the impact the relationship they have with their daughters has. Greg wright is able to hit the nail on the head with pretty much every chapter and his humor makes the book an easy read. 10/10!
I recently picked up "daddy dates" a book written by Greg Wright and published by Thomas Nelson. It was the tag line that interested me in this new release: Four Daughters, One Clueless Dad, and His Quest to Win Their Hearts. I love stories about fathers "winning" the hearts of their children. It makes me long for a family of my own. Some people wonder why a single man would read a book on raising daughters. Well to me the answer is pretty simple. Yeah, I'm single now, but the desire of my heart is to honor and serve God as a husband and father and since God tells us He'll grant such desires I want to prepare myself for His blessings. I read quite a few books similar to this, but I think the journey Wright takes you on as he tries to better love and understand his daughters is truly wonderful. This isn't a book with a biblical exegesis on parenting. I honestly don't remember any Scripture reference in this book, but it does have some great advice. I also love the fact that this isn't just an "answers" book. In other words, Wright doesn't just say "this is how you get perfect children in seven easy steps." Instead he offers good advice that seems to have been a blessing to his family up to this point. Reading about a father trying his best and daughters loving their daddy is a great blessing and I think you'll enjoy "daddy dates" greatly.