Dancing with Fire: A Mindful Way to Loving Relationships [NOOK Book]

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The search for inner peace and the heart’s desire for love often seem like irreconcilable aims. Spiritual teachers say that love seduces us away from spiritual growth, while psychologists argue that love’s juiciness is what life is about; meditation is navel-gazing.

Reconciling these opposites, John Amodeo shows how spirituality and vibrant relationships are identical. He says that Buddha’s concept of the root of suffering is misunderstood. It...
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Overview

The search for inner peace and the heart’s desire for love often seem like irreconcilable aims. Spiritual teachers say that love seduces us away from spiritual growth, while psychologists argue that love’s juiciness is what life is about; meditation is navel-gazing.

Reconciling these opposites, John Amodeo shows how spirituality and vibrant relationships are identical. He says that Buddha’s concept of the root of suffering is misunderstood. It is not desire that causes suffering; desire is the fire that springs from the basic life force. Drawing upon the science of attachment theory, Amodeo illuminates how the root of our suffering is disconnection from ourselves and others, which is fueled by clinging to what doesn't serve us.

In a conversational tone, Amodeo presents relationship as sacred experience. He teaches how to welcome desire mindfully rather than suppress it and how to overcome fear of failure in relating. He also discusses meditation as self-intimacy and holding ourselves with loving-kindness. Lastly, he explores the role of community in spiritual awakening and the issue of whom to trust—our guru or ourselves?
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"John Amodeo combines a lifetime of professional psychotherapist work, a love of mindful meditation, and a wry sense of humor ("vertical spirituality!") in his latest book, Dancing with Fire. Amodeo skillfully boils down the conflicting messages of Buddhism ("attachment" causes suffering) and modern psychology/spiritual self-help (love/partnerships equals depth of human experience) to give readers his view of what it means to live in this world: How to end or, at least, become more aware of the need to cling to "suffering." He applies this message to relationships, addressing issues of love, attachment, longing, intimacy, connection, and romance. Dancing with Fire is well written, down to earth, and very informative. It's an excellent guide for couples especially, but also for anyone searching to merge the detached mindfulness of Buddhism with loving spirituality into their modern, practical lives without compromising their feelings." --Allyson Gracie, Retailing Insight, June 2013

"Dancing with Fire by John Amodeo offers fresh takes on attachment, desire, longing, love, intimacy and spiritual meaning in relationships". --Frederic Brussat, Spirituality & Practice

"DANCING WITH FIRE was an interesting read. It was about looking at past behaviors, explaining why we react to certain situations the way we do, and how to move forward. Recognizing the why was really important to me. I found myself reading certain sections and saying "hey that is me". It also explains the difference between "religion" and "spirituality", "flight and fight response", etc. A lot of the information was based on Buddism and for me, this was distracting at times because I am not familiar with Buddism. Because of this, I found myself putting the book down frequently. Having said that, I did find it informative and I did learn how to recognize my behaviors." --MyBookAddictionReviews

"Dancing With Fire is wise, integrated, life affirming, and practical. John invites us and accompanies us to discover a fully human, loving, spiritual maturity." --Jack Kornfield, PhD, best-selling author of A Path With Heart

"A fresh and lucid voice in our emerging Western spirituality, John Amodeo offers a powerful synthesis of Buddhist teachings with attachment theory and the best of Western psychological understanding. Particularly compelling and promising is the weaving of Focusing--a body-oriented psychotherapy developed by Eugene Gendlin--with mindfulness meditation. Through this, and deep insights into the nature of relationships, Dancing with Fire gives us invaluable guidance in cultivating true intimacy with our lives." --Tara Brach, PhD, best-selling author of Radical Acceptance

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780835630825
  • Publisher: Quest Books
  • Publication date: 6/15/2013
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 288
  • Sales rank: 943,765
  • File size: 2 MB

Meet the Author

John Amodeo, PhD, a licensed marriage and family therapist for over 30 years, has been engaged in Buddhism and spiritual practice for 40 years. He is author of The Authentic Heart and Love and Betrayal and was a writer and contributing editor for Yoga Journal. He is a Focusing Trainer and is trained in Somatic Experiencing for trauma. He lectures internationally on love and relationships, and has been a featured guest on CNN, CNBC, Donahue, and New Dimensions Radio. He has been interviewed or written articles for publications that include the Chicago Tribune, The Dallas Morning News, The Rocky Mountain News and Cosmopolitan magazine.


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Dancing with Fire

A Mindful Way to Loving Relationships


By John Amodeo

Theosophical Publishing House

Copyright © 2013 John Amodeo
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-0-8356-3082-5



CHAPTER 1

Off the Cushion and Into Life

* * *


I have never been a great meditator. A great meditator can sit for one hour in the morning and one hour in the evening—very still, back straight. A great meditator rises at dawn, bright-eyed and alert, eager to hit the cushion before a grueling day at the office. There is no grumbling when mornings are cold, traffic is bumper to bumper, and the hot coffee is not ready upon arrival. Everything is an opportunity for spiritual practice.

If you are a great meditator, then all day long you watch your thoughts, and you don't let them interfere with being here now. You never have judgments about other people, including your boss, who just promoted a younger, less-qualified employee to the position you wanted. Any disappointment is brief because you know that desire and ambition cause suffering. Besides, you are so compassionate that you're happy for him, as you figure that he needs the raise more than you do! Your life is blessedly serene—no worries that the polar ice caps are melting and that your elderly parents are running out of money and want to move in with you. After all, it's just the workings of karma—all part of the grand illusion.

Most notably, great meditators never slip out for pizza during a meditation retreat. Did I say pizza? Yes, I must humbly confess that I once committed that grievous breach of retreat protocol.

There we were, at a ten-day meditation course in the woods during a brutal New England winter. We arose before the birds and meditated well past their bedtime. All day long we watched our breath, which I discovered is much easier to do in the dead of winter because you can actually see it!

While attempting to observe the breath, we were instructed to notice any stray thoughts that were coming and going in our minds. One cold, lonely night, mine were straying toward pizza. I was having a thought that came but was reluctant to get going. I knew that I was a total meditation failure when not only did I notice this thought, I also felt compelled to act upon it!

Now, I must further confess that my desire wasn't limited to flaunting the rules and indulging in that pizza all by myself. I fully intended to corrupt an innocent retreatant, the friend I came with. Fortunately, I was saved from that perilous karma.

It just so happened that my friend and I were thinking of pizza at the same time. Endless hours of meditation must have connected our minds on some mysterious level. I'm not sure how the contact was made, but suddenly we found ourselves in his Volkswagen Bug headed for the local pizzeria. Was it a moment of shared illumination or a shared delusion that this expedition would somehow satisfy us? Whatever it was, that pizza sure hit the spot ... and even more so, our conversation.

I don't remember exactly what we talked about, but the usual suspects would, of course, be women, our careers, and our complaints, including sitting and watching our breath for days on end in the middle of winter.


What a Little Pizza and Conversation Can Do

Fast-forward thirty-five years. How can I still maintain that slinking away for a late-night snack was an acceptable diversion amidst the serious undertaking of a meditation retreat? Well, maybe it wasn't. Maybe I was guilty of poor discipline, youthful rebellion, or unadorned self-indulgence. Perhaps I succumbed to the greed, aversion, and delusion that divert us from the spiritual path.

But another possibility is that there was something I needed that only comes through human contact. What lingers in my memory is not the quality of the pizza, although true to my heritage, I am fond of Italian food. More than the illicit food, it was something about the human connection that nurtured me. I felt less alone and less isolated. Something inside me was soothed.

But wait! The meditation practice is about sitting with the isolation, right? Just notice the aloneness, be mindful of it, maybe feel it a bit—and then let it go. We are not supposed to act upon anything but instead notice how experiences come and go without getting attached to any of them. Well, like I said, perhaps I'm a terrible meditator. Or maybe there is something to be said for not getting too attached to our familiar frame of reference or trying to fit ourselves neatly into some model of how we are supposed to be or what spiritual practice is supposed to look like. Maybe there's value in honoring all of our experience—and when it feels right, allowing ourselves to be moved by that experience into some mindful action. What would it be like if our life was our meditation?

When I returned to the retreat, something in me felt more settled. A certain longing for human contact was satisfied. I was glad that I listened to myself and honored the part of me that wanted to connect with another human being. But something else is profoundly true as well. The connection wouldn't have felt as rich if I had not been meditating. The stillness and presence cultivated by mindfulness practice allowed my friend and me to be more present and open with each other. Connecting more deeply with ourselves allowed a conversation that was slow-paced, poignant, and connecting.

I've been pleased to notice that since that time, many retreats now feature group interviews. One teacher even invited people to make eye contact during walking meditation. Meditation leaders, including Vietnamese meditation teacher Thich Nhat Hanh, have added periods of interpersonal sharing to their retreats. These teachers encourage mindfulness in daily living, rather than replicating the experience of monks.


On the Cushion, Off the Cushion

Having developed what philosopher Friedrich Schleiermacher calls a "sense and taste for the infinite," I was drawn to spiritual life. I recognized a longing to experience something more than my myopic, limited state of awareness. At the same time, I noticed another yearning not clearly addressed in spiritual communities: a longing to experience love, connection, and even ecstasy with another human being.

The spiritual path and intimate relating have often been viewed as incompatible—like mixing water and oil. Pursuing the sacred has often meant renouncing personal love and the seductive pleasures of the flesh. Yet what if the longings for spirituality and a loving, juicy intimacy turn out to be aspects of the same sacred longing, just pursued in different ways? It dawned on me that I don't have to choose between leading a spiritual life and enjoying intimacy—in fact, they complement and support each other. As it turns out, pursuing either one of these paths with open curiosity and a devotion to truth naturally intersects with the other path.


Spirituality: A Hazardous Word

I must confess that I hesitate to use the word "spiritual." It has been tossed around so carelessly that its meaning is often lost. Yet it is precisely because I feel so irked by its reckless use that I feel drawn to use the word to explore the deeper felt sense of spiritual life and to consider what it offers and what it requires from us. Rather than dispense with a word that has been used for millennia, I'd prefer to become sensitized to its routine abuse and to clarify its meaning.

It is always treacherous to define spirituality, for it points toward a domain of experience where words fail us. At the same time, if we relegate it to some otherworldly domain, we divorce ourselves from our human experience. While words can never quite capture it, they can perhaps point to it—as if with an awkwardly brandished elbow.

My use of the term "spirituality" refers not to any particular religious ideology but rather to something within us that feels irresistibly drawn toward having abundant love in our hearts and a luscious connection with life. As we come to realize that this burning inside is our innate yearning for awakening and happiness, we feel drawn to create conditions that support this sacred journey. We also come to realize what wise people throughout history have implored us to recognize: that this happiness, this awakening, is inextricably linked to loving others. As the Dalai Lama expresses it, "The purpose of life is to be happy ... love and compassion bring us the greatest happiness ... The need for love lies at the very foundation of our existence." A path that leads us toward this resplendent love is an essential aspect of spirituality.

A spiritual life invites us to live according to values that encourage us to do our best to help people and the world we inhabit. But such values have little potency if they are limited to the confines of our heads; they become vibrantly alive only as they merge with our bodily, lived experience. A spiritual path means cultivating qualities that include compassion, joy, openness, and gratitude, which connect us deeply to people and the world. Happiness comes not by lunging toward fleeting pleasures but by coming to relish a growing gratitude for the gift of being alive.


Walking Our Talk

Pursuing a spiritual path has more to do with our walk than our talk. You may know people who are spiritually vibrant, but they are too self-effacing to identify themselves as such. They might cringe if you suggest that they are true embodiments of a spiritual life. Yet their expansive heart, humble speech, and responsiveness to others' feelings and needs may be more robust than those who preen themselves with the trappings of religiosity.

A spiritual sensitivity connects us with life in such a way that we are touched by the suffering in the world. We feel moved to respond in whatever ways we can, rather than holding the attitude that everyone is on their own and there is no human imperative to be engaged in helpful action. From this perspective, it saddens me to observe that even though we are a very religious nation, we're not a very spiritual one. As Mother Theresa has observed, "You in the West have the spiritually poorest of the poor.... I find it easy to give a plate of rice to a hungry person ... but to console or to remove the bitterness, anger, and loneliness that comes from being spiritually deprived, that takes a long time."

Most Americans would assert that they believe in spiritual values. But embodying such beliefs lags behind, which forestalls the momentum necessary for these beliefs to be translated into the larger realm of social policy.


A Spirituality that Embraces Intimacy

The time is ripe for us to pursue a spiritual life that is robustly, interpersonally engaging. Our spiritual quest receives its grounding through intimate connections, and at the same time, the fertile stream of spiritual practice nourishes our relationships. A spiritual path invites attention to our inner life in a way that inevitably connects us to what lives and breathes outside of ourselves.

Through a painful tragedy, the Jewish spiritual writer and teacher, Martin Buber, came to devote his life to being present and caring in his relationships. One day Buber was praying and meditating in his room when a student came to see him. Buber listened, but he was not there in spirit. Shortly thereafter, Buber was horrified to hear that the student had apparently committed suicide. Buber later learned that this young man had desperately sought to better understand his life.

The shocking realization that he had not been fully attentive and responsive to this man's suffering was a pivotal moment in shaping Buber's vision of bringing spirituality into relationships. The essence of faith, he realized, is not "the pursuit of ecstatic experiences but ... a life of attentiveness to others, the life of 'I and thou' in encounter." For Buber, being fully available and present to others, generously extending our loving attention and hearing another human being, is at the heart of living a spiritual life.


Vertical Spirituality

My initiation into the sacred was by way of teachings that might be called vertical spirituality. The emphasis was on mindfully following the breath into a deep state of stillness and equanimity. I found this to be invaluable. Never before had I experienced such deep states of peace, compassion, and even bliss.

Yet, during college, I was also involved in "sensitivity groups" that focused on feelings and relationships. I had deep openings and profound realizations about myself during these meetings. These experiences stirred up questions about how I might bring the mindfulness of meditation into my relationships as well as how to deal with my feelings on the spiritual path.

The response from the meditation teachers I consulted about these burning questions wasn't very satisfying. One teacher advised, "Just let the feelings go. See them as neutral objects and don't get attached to them." Others insisted that meditation and therapy are very different paths and lead to different results. These dismissive responses left me feeling not fully at home in the Buddhist world. But the dismissive views of spirituality offered by personal-growth leaders left me feeling even more confused and disheartened.

After much struggling, I realized that a whole and healthy spirituality is not just about taking the elevator to the heights of the penthouse and savoring the expansive view. It is also about taking it down to the basement and exploring the hidden nooks and crannies of our psyche. Liberation is about being drawn to the sunlight while also exploring the depths of the shadowlands.


Liberation From or To?

The invitation to pursue spiritual liberation implies that we are clear about what we're seeking. Much of the history of Western civilization, from the birth of democracy in Greece to the American Revolution to the storming of the Bastille, has been a quest for outer freedoms. The Hindu and Buddhist cultures have been more interested in inner freedom, liberation from the greed, hatred, and ignorance that bind us to the wheel of suffering. When we are pursuing either form of freedom, it becomes quite apparent that we cannot truly have one form of freedom without the other.

Oftentimes we see freedom as liberation from something, typically something unpleasant, rather than the freedom to move toward something that we see as positive. We want freedom from government control and oversight. Corporations and wealthy people clamor for deregulation and lower taxes. They want freedom from government restrictions so they do not have to consider how their actions or lifestyle disenfranchise others or affect the environment. They sometimes accomplish this by persuading the less privileged to believe that their own freedoms are at risk. A young view of freedom is that we are all on our own. In reality, our freedom and security are enhanced as we take care of each other.

An inevitable extension of this experiment in outer freedom is seeking total freedom from other people. We might think, "I want to be my own person and not be controlled by anyone." But what we may really be saying is, "I don't want to be affected by anyone. I don't want to be responsive to others' feelings or circumstances. I want rights without responsibilities." In this view of freedom, everyone is in it for themselves.

We confuse ourselves and others by broadcasting conflicting desires. We may claim that we want love and intimacy, but we don't want to be inconvenienced by having to consider others' needs and desires. Not surprisingly, we ultimately find that we can't have the love we want if we cling to personal desires without becoming sensitized to how we're affecting others and what they need to be happy.

What we often call freedom is being comfortably encapsulated within our own ego; we are desensitized to the life around us. A spiritual path runs the risk of reinforcing this narcissistic view of liberation if we end up trying to free ourselves from the desire for human connections in the mistaken belief that they will hold us back. The truth is that we need each other to awaken.

What needs to happen inside us and between us so that we are liberated from what constrains us from moving naturally toward deeper love and intimacy? What would our path look like if we realized that our quest for freedom is furthered as we help create conditions for others to be freer and happier?


Horizontal Spirituality

In contrast with a vertical spirituality of transcendence, which moves us away from people and the world, a horizontal spirituality is about being awake in our everyday lives and relationships. In the words of Harvard theologian Harvey Cox, it's about finding "the sacred in the imminent, the spiritual within the secular." It is about attending to how we are relating to people and to our own lives. It is about being intimate with what lives outside ourselves and navigating through the joys and sorrows of our relationships with presence, awareness, and kindness.

In A Path with Heart, meditation teacher Jack Kornfield reveals his own personal dilemma:

Meditation had helped me very little with my human relationships.... I could do loving-kindness meditation for a thousand beings elsewhere but had trouble relating intimately to one person here and now. I had used the strength of my mind in meditation to suppress painful feelings, and all too often, I didn't even recognize that I was angry, sad, grieving, or frustrated until a long time later. The roots of my unhappiness in relationships had not been examined. I had very few skills for dealing with my feelings or for engaging on an emotional level or for living wisely with my friends and loved ones.


(Continues...)

Excerpted from Dancing with Fire by John Amodeo. Copyright © 2013 John Amodeo. Excerpted by permission of Theosophical Publishing House.
All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
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Table of Contents

Contents

Dedication,
Acknowledgments,
Introduction,
Part 1 The Root of Suffering: Disconnection and Isolation,
1. Off the Cushion and Into Life,
2. Sacred Longing: A Doorway to Connection,
3. We Exist in Relationship,
4. Clinging to What Disconnects Us: The Root of Suffering,
5. The Anatomy of Clinging,
6. Making Friends with Clinging and Craving,
Part 2 Intimacy with Others,
7. Spirituality Meets Attachment Theory: Is Suffering Caused by Attachment or Non-Attachment?,
8. A Psychology of Liberation: Living with Longing,
9. Embracing the Pleasures of Relating,
10. The Perils of Positive Thinking: Embracing the Non-Rational Forces within Us,
11. Relishing Life's Pleasures and Embracing Our Humanity,
Part 3 Intimacy with Ourselves,
12. Turning Toward Ourselves,
13. Intimacy as a Sacred Experience,
14. Meditation as Self-Intimacy,
15. Interdependence with Others and Nature,
16. The Romance of Enlightenment,
17. Embracing Feelings—Embracing Life,
18. Focusing: Loving-Kindness toward Ourselves,
Part 4 Intimacy with Community,
19. Friendship: Awakening in Community,
20. Finding Refuge in Community,
21. Teachers and Spiritual Communities: Trust Your Guru or Yourself?,
Conclusion,
Self-Inquiry or Discussion Questions,
Notes,
Bibliography,
A Guide to Resources,
About the Author,

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  • Posted June 19, 2013

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    DANCING WITH FIRE was an interesting read. It was about looking

    DANCING WITH FIRE was an interesting read. It was about looking at past behaviors, explaining why we react to certain situations the way we do, and how to move forward. Recognizing the why was really important to me. I found myself reading certain sections and saying “hey that is me”. It also explains the difference between “religion” and “spirituality”, “flight and fight response”, etc. A lot of the information was based on Buddism and for me, this was distracting at times because I am not familiar with Buddism. Because of this, I found myself putting the book down frequently. Having said that, I did find it informative and I did learn how to recognize my behaviors.

    Rating: 3

    Reviewed by: KellyR

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    As I read this book I wondered how does my friend John know me s

    As I read this book I wondered how does my friend John know me so well? Living on opposite coasts we don't see each other. We speak perhaps once a year. We exchange emails to lament or rejoice in the success or failure of our favorite baseball teams or the latest drama or happy news item in out lives. 40 years ago, on Long Island, our friendship began with a shared interest in the search for meaning in ourselves and in our interactions with others. But as our paths diverged to opposite sides of the continent over 30 years ago he has acquired a myriad of friends and colleagues that he now speaks with much more often and knows much better than he knows me. So how come, as I read his book did I feel he was lovingly probing through the depths of my being, understanding things about myself that I had never told him and offering a clear headed, thoughtful, compassionate understanding of my desire for a spiritual life; and for relationships that grow and improve in ways that deepen love and intimacy; and of the conflict I feel between the desire for emotional intimacy on the one hand and an ideal of a spiritual detachment from entanglement in the ways of this world on the other? How does he know all these things about me? How can he personalize his wise counsel just for me, in this precious gift masquerading as a mere book, in such a way that it allows me to find so many of the answers for which I search? How does he know me so well? And then I realized he doesn't. Not, at least, to the extent that I feel revealed in these pages. But what he does know is the human condition. He has a profound insight into the yearnings and the fears hopes and dreams of the hearts and souls of human beings. And this insight makes his understanding of my personal story a function of his understanding of the human hearts yearning within each of us; within everyone who reads this book seeking insight into how they can integrate their longing for intimate connection with others with their own personal quest for spiritual meaning. I, being one of those seekers, while being soothed by his understanding of my personal quest, came to understand that my desires for intimacy and meaning and the goal of successfully navigating the challenges those desires encounter in their drive toward fulfillment, while individual to me, are also shared by all of human kind and, with love and persistence, are achievable by us all. And that understanding is, to me, a precious gift revealed.

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