Dark Side Of Love / Edition 2

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Many mothers have disturbing fantasies of killing their children. Husbands imagine. with guilt. cheating on their wives. Parents stand on the brink of hitting their teenage children. or may actually do so. while the teens fabricate elaborate strategies of revenge. Hurt. pain. uncontrollable rage. and other forms of abuse also make up the dark side of love. This landmark book has a bold thesis: We need to acknowledge the denied dark side of love because it is this awareness that can reveal to us love's true nature. By acknowledging our "negative" feelings. we can come into the full spectrum of emotion and hear the message of our darker feelings. without acting them out. Through this. we can increase our capacity for love.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780765806109
  • Publisher: Transaction Publishers
  • Publication date: 9/1/1999
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 332
  • Sales rank: 802,059
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 0.74 (d)

Table of Contents

Introduction to the Transaction Edition
Introduction 1
1 The Myths of Love 19
2 Loving Love and Hating Hate 39
3 The First Face of Narcissism: The Hate That Looks Like Love 67
4 The Second Face of Narcissism: Destruction of the Self 93
5 The Dark Side of Mother Love: Mother's Kisses and Dangerous Feelings 119
6 The Dark Side of Family Love: Violent Separations and the Children's Revenge 145
7 The Dark Side of Romantic Love: The Reemergence of Yearning 173
8 The Dark Side of Marriage: The Death of Dreams 197
9 The Hate That Heals 217
10 Cooperative Love and the Birth of Consciousness 245
11 The Reflective Light of Psychotherapy 273
References 291
Index 297
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