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Overview

Many mothers have disturbing fantasies of killing their children. Husbands imagine, with guilt, cheating on their wives. Parents stand on the brink of hitting their teenage children, or may actually do so, while the teens fabricate elaborate strategies of revenge. Hurt, pain, uncontrollable rage, and other forms of abuse also make up the dark side of love. This landmark book has a bold thesis: The denied dark side of love that can show us love's true nature. By acknowledging our "negative" feelings, we can come into the full spectrum of emotion and hear the message of our darker feelings, without acting them out. Through this, we can increase our capacity for love.

To explain her perspective, Jane Goldberg traces the development of love and hate from infancy. She debunks simplistic myths about mother love and portrays the mother/child bond in all its facets. She explores the hidden recesses of family love and romantic love and shows how the acceptance of constructive expressions of anger, jealousy, and competition can enhance intimacy. Drawing on case histories from her psychoanalytic practice, as well as mythic stories, Goldberg offers insights into the troubling but universal nature of the dark side of love.

In a highly accessible style she explores how to develop a "psychological immune system" to protect against the potentially destructive elements in relationships and allow for a constructive expression of love's dark side. Her debate-provoking book should be read by psychoanalysts and psychotherapists, individuals who have suffered from the pains and hurts of love, and indeed, by those who are interested in human motivation and behavior.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780765806109
  • Publisher: Transaction Publishers
  • Publication date: 9/1/1999
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 332
  • Sales rank: 834,060
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 0.74 (d)

Meet the Author

Jane G. Goldberg is a psychoanalyst in private practice. She is on the faculty of the Center for Modern Psychoanalytic Studies and is director of La Casa Resort Spa in Puerto Rico and La Casa Day Spa in New York City. She is the author of Psychotherapeutic Treatment of Cancer Patients, and Deceits of the Mind (and Their Effects on the Body), and the La Casa Whole Health Handbook and Cookbook.

Jane G. Goldberg is a psychoanalyst in private practice. She is on the faculty of the Center for Modern Psychoanalytic Studies and is director of La Casa Resort Spa in Puerto Rico and La Casa Day Spa in New York City. She is the author of Psychotherapeutic Treatment of Cancer Patients, and Deceits of the Mind (and Their Effects on the Body), and the La Casa Whole Health Handbook and Cookbook.

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments
Introduction to the Transaction Edition
Introduction 1
1 The Myths of Love 19
2 Loving Love and Hating Hate 39
3 The First Face of Narcissism: The Hate That Looks Like Love 67
4 The Second Face of Narcissism: Destruction of the Self 93
5 The Dark Side of Mother Love: Mother's Kisses and Dangerous Feelings 119
6 The Dark Side of Family Love: Violent Separations and the Children's Revenge 145
7 The Dark Side of Romantic Love: The Reemergence of Yearning 173
8 The Dark Side of Marriage: The Death of Dreams 197
9 The Hate That Heals 217
10 Cooperative Love and the Birth of Consciousness 245
11 The Reflective Light of Psychotherapy 273
References 291
Index 297
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