Dating Makes You Want to Die: But You Have to Do It Anyway

Dating Makes You Want to Die: But You Have to Do It Anyway

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by Daniel Holloway, Dorothy Robinson
     
 

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You have two choices:

Be attacked by a wolverine or go on a date

If you're smart, you chose wolverine.

If not—well, wait, are you sure you don't want the wolverine?

Happily ever after isn't so easy anymore. It's all speed dating, matchmaking terror, and visits to your therapist. Whether it's the

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Overview

You have two choices:

Be attacked by a wolverine or go on a date

If you're smart, you chose wolverine.

If not—well, wait, are you sure you don't want the wolverine?

Happily ever after isn't so easy anymore. It's all speed dating, matchmaking terror, and visits to your therapist. Whether it's the mortification, frustration, or just plain exhaustion that's got you ready to give up on love, this book is here to help. After all, there are only two ways out of the dating scene. One involves giving up all your possessions and taking a vow of chastity. The other involves finding a permanent (or semi-permanent, anyway) partner. This book will help you get through the latter.

From the bar scenes and the first sexual encounter to deciding whether to move in together, Dating Makes You Want to Die walks you through every stage of the dating process—and, like a Belarusian arms dealer, provides the heavy artillery you'll need to destroy the potential problems lurking in each one. Each chapter discusses the problems that can arise when dating, offers a remedy, and includes hilarious sidebars and quizzes to further help you prepare for the jungle out there. Some sanity-keeping tips include:

  • How to make a first impression that is more "good" than "totally crazy."

  • How to not panic the moment you realize you're actually in an honest-to-God relationship.

  • Helpful, foolproof breakup lines for total damage control.

Intelligent, snarky, and entertaining, Dating Makes You Want to Die may make you actually want to live through a relationship.

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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly

The authors of this "anti-dating dating book" start out by trashing their competition, the Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus/eHarmony dating industry, which, they claim, "are mixed drinks made with equal parts hubris and phoniness" and flatter and delude rather than providing a dose of tough love. Instead, Holloway and Robinson help the reader navigate the tricky world of dating (that "unfortunate yet necessary social endeavor") without facile advice, adopting a wry, sardonic tone in chapter headings such as "The Death of Romance (or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Paying Half As Much Rent" and "It's Not Me, It's You-and Your Erectile Dysfunction." Their approach is refreshing, and they address every aspect of romantic etiquette-from online seduction to foolproof breakup lines. Though the hip older sibling shtick begins to grate by the book's end, there is more than enough solid content to guide even the most timorous dater back into the fold. (Sept.)

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Library Journal

Writing for the Colbert-Stewart generation, US Weekly staff writer Holloway and Metro writer/editor Robinson pave the way for those who are trying to get through the often-disheartening journey of meeting one's soul mate. In a humorous and sardonic style, the authors cover the basics of the process, from meeting wealthy singles at a martini bar to finding an apartment together. A particularly funny chapter on meeting the parents stipulates that there are good holidays on which to meet (e.g., Labor and Memorial Day) and bad ones (e.g., Thanksgiving, Christmas). Occasional quizzes spice up the text. The title alone will stimulate interest among those who are in the market for a partner. Recommended for public libraries.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780061982620
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
10/06/2009
Sold by:
HARPERCOLLINS
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
224
File size:
556 KB

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Dating Makes You Want to Die

(But You Have to Do It Anyway)



By Daniel Holloway
HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.
Copyright © 2008

Daniel Holloway
All right reserved.



ISBN: 9780061456503


Chapter One

A Fortress Unto Itself: The Single

You do not let someone else dictate your happiness. You come home whenever you damn well please. You have hobbies. You spend late nights at work without worry and haven't taken a vacation since 2003. You tell anyone who will listen that you're deliriously happy. You can't remember the last time you changed your sheets. The only person's birthday you have to remember is your mother's. You repeatedly make out with people whose last names you don't know and whose first names are equally iffy. When your confused and desperate friends ask you for dating advice, you make references to your last ex (you know, the one from three years ago). You go to the gym. You are the first to show up for parties. Heck, you even have time to think of witty RSVPs to the Evite. You are the go-to person when someone needs help moving into a new apartment or needs someone to post bail. You, dear reader, are the Single.

And you are miserable.

Better than the Chair

First thing first: It's important to remember that being single is not the death sentence that your mother makes it out to be. Sure, at your age, most of the good men and women are already snatched up by people more together than you, andyou're not getting better—you're just getting older. But hope is not lost, miserable single person. Let's look at a few characteristics that define who you are and what's horribly, horribly wrong with you—and show you how to fix them.

He Says/ She Says

Should you hate yourself for being single?

She Says: No!

Somehow we've all been programmed to believe that if you haven't already gotten married on a Disney cruise, popped out two children by thirty, live in a subdivision, and plan all-inclusive vacations to Mexico, where the only exotic people you meet are from Idaho (you've never met anyone from Idaho before!), there is something wrong with you. Well, okay, so your mother probably thinks there is something wrong with you—but that doesn't mean you should. Why in the world are you supposed to hate yourself because someone with nothing better to do hasn't asked you to get married and live a boring life watching cable on your La-Z-Boy? No. You should love yourself because of this.

Single women have everything going for them—there is a world of possibility ahead of them. Every single man you encounter knows he can try to get into your pants without getting smacked down by a boyfriend/husband. But talking to these eager men about how you hate yourself because you're single means that you will always, always be single. They won't jump up and say, "You hate being single, too? Let's make babies together, hot stuff!" No, they will back away and talk to the confident single girl who seems like she might be fun to hang out with.

Sure, you want to share your life with someone. That's a nice thought. But hating yourself because that hasn't happened yet only leads to overeating, depression, and wearing sweatpants everywhere you go. And you can let that happen only once you're married. Being a downer means that other downers will want to be around you, and doubling that Prozac prescription is pricey.

He Says: Yes!

To be single is to hate yourself. Clearly, everyone else in the world hates you. If they didn't, you'd be dating someone already.

But as any self-help book written since the mid-'60s will you tell you, you need to avoid that kind of negative thinking, right? Wrong. Self-loathing is a great motivator for self-improvement. Tired of hearing you bitch and moan about your weight issues and abject loneliness, your friends will try to tell you that you're just fine. Don't listen to them. They're only saying that because they're deluding themselves. After all, if you suck, that means they, as the only people willing to spend time with you, suck by proxy. You are the only one who knows your own heart—and deep down, you know that it beats inside the body of a pathetic, unlovable loser.

But simply acknowledging your own shittiness is not enough. Life, dear reader, is like those ads in Archie comic books where a bully kicks sand in a dweeb's face, so the dweeb buys a home gym, buffs up, then kicks the bully's ass. You, self-hating single, have kicked sand in your own face—and it motivated you to go out and buy a home gym of the mind (this book). Now that you have the tools necessary to fix yourself, cling to that self-loathing until you're fixed. Use it to fuel the fires needed to get yourself in datable shape—new haircut, hot jeans, and some Proactiv Solution for that unsightly business happening on your left cheek. Soon, when you look in the mirror and see a fresh, fuckable you, you'll be glad you made yourself feel like ass.



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Meet the Author

Daniel Holloway is a staff writer for Us Weekly and chief film critic for Metro newspapers.


Dorothy Robinson is an internationally published writer and columnist for Metro newspapers.

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