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Dating the Divorced Man: Sort Through the Baggage to Decide if He's Right for You
     

Dating the Divorced Man: Sort Through the Baggage to Decide if He's Right for You

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by Christie Hartman
 

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His ex-wife, kids, and alimony... can you deal with his past?

In today's world, separated and divorced men comprise nearly 40% of available men. However, these men differ from the typical single bachelors you're used to dating-they can come with many unexpected challenges, such as children, difficult ex-wives, substantial financial obligations, and unresolved grief,

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His ex-wife, kids, and alimony... can you deal with his past?

In today's world, separated and divorced men comprise nearly 40% of available men. However, these men differ from the typical single bachelors you're used to dating-they can come with many unexpected challenges, such as children, difficult ex-wives, substantial financial obligations, and unresolved grief, guilt, or anger.

After 10 years of conducting research and coaching women dating separated and divorced men, psychologist and dating expert Dr. Christie Hartman has gathered every challenge these men can offer and put them into one easily-digested book. She will show you how to:

• Detect problems early on-and tackle them together
• Identify problems that "come with the territory" vs. those that are deal-breakers
• Recognize when his ex isn't over him... or when he isn't over her
• Avoid becoming a rebounding man's "transitional woman"
• Evaluate whether marriage to a divorced man is the right choice for you

Filled with lots of insight and real-life examples, Dating the Divorced Man gives you the tools you need to decide if you can deal with the issues and find long-term happiness-or if it's time to say goodbye.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780984826278
Publisher:
5280 Press
Publication date:
03/21/2014
Pages:
222
Sales rank:
342,443
Product dimensions:
5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.47(d)

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Dating The Divorced Man: Sort Through the Baggage to Decide If He's Right for You 3.1 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 10 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Extremely helpful to me as I tried to negotiate uncharted territory for me. When you are a 'never-married, single' the complications of the past divorce can be pretty confusing. This book helped me to pull apart his 'red-flags' separating them into things I could distinguish. Which actions are just his personality and which are a very real result of divorce. It's helping me to cut him a few breaks and not run away from the best man I've ever met... AND also know what are possible future problems, and distinguish between which compromises I can make and which sacrifices I can't make. She starts the book with this paraphrased statement: I'm not going to tell you if your relationship is good or bad, I'm just going to give you the information so you can make an informed decision. She also makes many lovely statements about the joys of dating divorced men. She isn't judgemental, just helpful in negotiating the hidden mine-fields.
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book points out things that can cause problems in a relationship with a divorced man, especially one who has children. This book will make you question parts of your relationship that you probably haven't thought about yet. Two of the other reviews make this book out to sound like it is pushing you away from a relationship with a divorced man, especially if he has children, but that is not what I took away from it at all. This book simply shows you how difficult divorce is for the man you may date and what his having children brings to the table. This books hands you the reality of the situation and lets you decide if it's something you can handle. There is no book that can tell you completely how to do it but this ones gives you the resources to figure out how to make this type of relationship work. It also points you to other resources (books) to take a look at which I found to also be helpful.
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YJP More than 1 year ago
My take from this very fair and eye opening book is to run far and run fast. It takes a very strong woman to put herself aside most of the time while keeping that smile. I don't have kids and will try other avenues with a man with no kids or needy ex-wives.
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Unlike most women, I am dating a divorcing man who makes me happy and is wonderful in every possible way. We face many challenges, but we are determined to hold on tight to each other and figure it all out together. The description on the book says the book will help you identify problems early on and learn how to solve them. I didn't see this reflected anywhere in the book. If your "problem" is that the man has a child or that he will have an ex wife, why would you need a whole book to tell you that? I was hoping the book was going to help us identify some real problems, like helping his child adjust, or maybe some issues like resentment towards him that might build because of the circumstances, or maybe coping with him having to move out of his home and away from his child. Chapter after chapter kept on repeating the same thing. Yes I know he has a child. Yes I know he will have an ex-wife who might be angry at us. Instead of helping to cope with those situations, the book throws it back to the reader and asks the reader if she can deal with those things. I thought the book was supposed to help the reader figure it out, not just ask the same stupid questions over and over again. This book is for woman who are being strung along by a married/divorcing man, a man who is more concerned with his own needs. Or maybe it's for the woman who is totally ignorant--living in a dream world where she is #1 and she refuses to admit that there is a wife and a child at home. If you haven't realized that you might have to deal with a child that is not yours as well as the kid's mother, there is already no hope for you. If you haven't even considered those things on your own, you are really just a home-wrecker. The book was just stupid and doesn't do what it says it's going to do. No depth to it at all. Let me sum up the entire book for you in a couple of sentences: You might be dealing with a child that is not yours, and you might be dealing with an ex-wife. The ex-wife might be nice or she might be mean. Can you handle that? THERE! DONE! Save yourself the $15 or whatever.