Dear God, He's Home!: A Woman's Guide to Her Stay-at-Home Manby Janet Thompson
What do you do when your husband calls and says he's lost his job? How do you handle a husband who has been diagnosed with Parkinson's and is now homebound? Will your routine ever get back to normal now that your loving husband who has been deployed for 12 months is now suddenly back at home? Regardless of the reason he's home, one fact is clear . . .… See more details below
What do you do when your husband calls and says he's lost his job? How do you handle a husband who has been diagnosed with Parkinson's and is now homebound? Will your routine ever get back to normal now that your loving husband who has been deployed for 12 months is now suddenly back at home? Regardless of the reason he's home, one fact is clear . . . he's home.
Dear God, He's Home! is a practical, honest look at how women can deal with a spouse—regardless of the reason—who is forced to become a stay-at-home man. Husbands across the country are experiencing life changes and are being forced home for multiple reasons including health changes, job loss, end of military deployment, and other factors. Their wives are being forced to deal with these changes, too, and the combination of stresses can take its toll on a marriage.
Couples do not have to go through these changes alone. Author and former Saddleback Church leader Janet T. Thompson shares from her heart and her personal experience on how to deal with the paralyzing shock that comes with life changes; what to do next; how to deal with people's reactions; grieving the losses associated with any change; discovering a new focus and purpose as a couple; and restoring the joy to your marital relationship.
Dear God, He's Home! includes personal thought questions, discussion questions for couples, and a small-group discussion guide.
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I love this book and submitted a story to it that you will find on page 162. You will enjoy it, too – whether you have a hubby about to retire or one who has been retired for ages, you’ll find yourself reflected in the pages and learn some additional life lessons! “After Ken’s layoff, I’d wake up in the night trembling with fear and sneak out of bed to sit by the fireplace with my Bible. I’d read and read until finally peace came . . . and it always did . . . at least enough for that night.” –Deborah THE WIFE OF A STAY-AT-HOME man is going to talk to God—a lot! Maybe she’ll write a cathartic letter in her journal: Dear God,. . . . Another wife might begin her pleading or thankful prayers with “Dear God,”. . . . Still other wives in times of desperation or frustration cry out, “Dear God, HE’S HOME!” Words of Wisdom from Wives with a Stay-at-Home Man: * Make each day the best it can be. You don’t know how many days you’ll have left together. —Alice * Understand where your husband is at in his life and don’t make his retirement or at-home-experience miserable. —Alice * Don’t belittle or put down your husband—build him up. Find out his concerns and needs, don’t just focus on your own. —Alice * Communicate your needs honestly and lovingly. —Joan * When shopping together, pick a store that also has sporting, gardening, or electronic departments and let your husband browse or send him to find something. —Sue * What’s important to your spouse should also be important to you and what’s important to God should be important to both of you! —Janet
I didn't need to read this book. Or so I thought. My husband goes to work every morning, has a stable job, and our retirement plans are set. But God's plan can change our plans in a moment. Disability, unemployment, illness, home from war, home office, retirement, or other reasons may suddenly have your man occupying your space. Janet Thompson walks you through this journey with assurance that whatever brought your husband home did not catch God off guard. You are not alone. You can plan for the logistical and financial changes of a stay-at-home husband, but Janet leads you through the emotional upheaval so you can live happily ever after with your stay-at-home man. "Dear God, He's Home" helps you find God's purpose in this journey so you say with a smile of contentment, "Thank God! He's home!" Highly recommend for all wives seeking marital fulfillment, contentment, and happiness, whether your man is home or not! Elaine W. Miller, Speaker and Author of We All Married Idiots
Janet Thompson’s book, Dear God, He’s Home! may very well be the first of its kind! Janet’s God-given gift, and heart-felt desire, to mentor women from all walks of life has allow her the ability to reach beyond her civilian world experiences, and minister effectively to both civilian and military wives! This resource speaks to the hearts of women, inspiring and equipping them to embrace their God-ordained marriages through the journeys of having a stay-at-home man. It is humorous, and often times, serious and raw, but that is what sets this book a part from all the rest! From the Publisher’s Website: “What do you do when your husband calls and says he's lost his job? How do you handle a husband who has been diagnosed with Parkinson's, and is now homebound? Will your routine ever get back to normal now that your loving husband who has been deployed for 12 months is now suddenly back at home? Regardless of the reason he's home, one fact is clear . . . he's home. Dear God, He's Home! is a practical, honest look at how women can deal with a spouse—regardless of the reason—who is forced to become a stay-at-home man. Husbands across the country are experiencing life changes and are being forced home for multiple reasons including health changes, job loss, end of military deployment, and other factors. Their wives are being forced to deal with these changes, too, and the combination of stresses can take its toll on a marriage.” During a recent interview with Faith Deployed, Jocelyn Green inquired as to how this book would help women whose husbands were returning from deployment? Janet replied, “Military wives would be good mentors to every woman with a stay-at-home husband because they experience the reintegration process every time their husband returns home from deployment. The wife has been in charge while her husband is gone and they both have to figure out how to transition him back into the home schedule and activities, and she has to relinquish responsibilities taken over in his absence. The chapter topics and Mentoring Moments in the book offer encouragement and ideas for dealing with specific issues. Dear God, He’s Home! shares stories from military wives and their coping tips, which are often applicable to every wife with a stay-at-home man. For example, Kathryn shared: “In talking to many military wives, one of the biggest challenges of a loved one returning home is meeting him right where he’s at and adjusting to the “new normal.” Every woman with a stay-at-home man experiences a “new normal.” Also in the “Sanity Tools” section of the book there is a section dedicated to support for military couples.” When my Army National Guard husband returned home from deployment, he was fully focused on home repairs, politics, and dreams of retiring on 20 acres of land down south. It made no difference that his retirement from civilian work was eleven years away. Nothing would deter him from dreaming! And like Kathryn shared in the above example, one of my biggest challenges I had was meeting my husband right where he was, to adjust and embrace this new season of our lives together. Through laughter and tears, frustration and fears, Janet’s book breathed life into my soul, inspiring me to embrace this new season, with every transparent journal entry, Mentoring Moment, God-given love letter and personalized prayer offered. I love Janet’s transparency of heart, and you will too! Dear God He’s Home! can be read as a devotional on your own, with your husband, or with a small group of other wives or couples with stay at-home husbands. This book comes with a study guide and discussion questions at the end of each chapter. I highly recommend this book and encourage you to give this book as a gift to all wives whom the Lord allows to cross your path. You just never know when, suddenly, they may have a stay-at-home man!
This is an excellent book filled with what people rarely talk about--how hard it can be for a couple to redefine their marriage and relationship when both the man and woman are home. Even though you can love your spouse unconditionally, you may not love the game shows in the background, feeling like your schedule is all messed up, or that he wants you to to to the home improvement store when him two hours before company arrives. My husband is still working, however, I live with rheumatoid arthritis and I know how odd it can feel when I am going through a physical crisis and my husband takes off a week to help me. It throws off all the normalcy and how we define our roles. For couples who experience this daily, it can easily cause resentment that builds up and can harm a relationship. Janet's book can help you work through the feelings you may have without putting additional strain (or blame) on your husband. Janet, in her typical fashion, shares experiences of her own and others. She is authentic, yet kind. And she shares tips from lessons she has learned along the way. She writes about how to keep the love alive in a marriage of a new season when everything changes. And she does it kindly. Her book is full of humor that makes us smile and she shares some of her own personal challenges, but it is not a book that is filled with jokes at the man's expense--something that is rare these days. I recommend it and can think of many couples who would benefit from it who I know. (Mom, you will get your copy soon. LOL)
This book isn't a narrative. It's a toolbox for couples in transition. Each chapter includes the author's own journal entries, stories provided by other wives, "Mentoring Moments," prayers, personalized scripture meant to serve as "God's Love Letter to You," writing prompts for journaling, and discussion questions. The author includes a variety of resources ("Sanity Tools") and a small group study guide at the end of the book. This approach adds value to the book. If you're a prayer warrior, she's got some great ones to inspire you. If keeping a journal keeps you centered, she provides helpful prompts. If you're someone who works through every exercise in a self-help workbook, expect to spend significant time on this deceptively small volume. It's packed full of ideas.Note: The publisher provided me with a review copy of this book.
Dear God, He's Home! fills a need that has existed for generations! A husband's "homecoming" requires an adjustment for the wife that has been little talked about before now. Thankfully, Janet Thompson is the one now leading the conversation--but she doesn't do it alone. Weaving in voices and stories of other wives who have walked this road, the reader is assured of the normalcy of her feelings, and given gracious advice on what to do with them. Recommended Resources add further value to this refreshing volume. This would make a perfect gift for the wife of any man who's suddenly home, whether due to retirement, illness, lay-off, etc. Thank you Janet for meeting this need!
I just finished this wonderful book and am so pleased to be the first to review it! It contains so much practical wisdom from both the author and many others who have experienced first hand life with a Stay-at-Home Man. Throughout each chapter Janet shares vry candidly from "Janet's Journal" about her challenges in adjusting to this new stage of her life. Each chapter also offers "Mentoring Moments" in which she shares wisdom from scripture and personal experience to equip women who are adjusting to their "Stay-at-Home Man". Mentoring other women is truly Janet's heart and it is clearly reflected in this book. She shares applicable scripture in each chapter titled "God's Love Letter to You" as well as providing space for the reader to write "Your Love Letter to God". At the end of the book Janet provides sanity tips, books and resources, steps for praying as a couple and many other helpful tools. This book is a very timely and valuable resource as more and more baby boomers find themselves in the "Dear God He's Home" stage of life. I highly recommend it!