Dear John, I Love Jane: Women Write About Leaving Men for Women

Dear John, I Love Jane: Women Write About Leaving Men for Women

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by Candace Walsh
     
 

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The new buzzword in female sexuality is “sexual fluidity”—the idea that for many women, sexual identity can shift over time, often in the direction of same-sex relationships. Examples abound in popular culture, from actress Cynthia Nixon, who left her male partner of 15 years to be with a woman, to writer and comedienne Carol Leifer, who divorced

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The new buzzword in female sexuality is “sexual fluidity”—the idea that for many women, sexual identity can shift over time, often in the direction of same-sex relationships. Examples abound in popular culture, from actress Cynthia Nixon, who left her male partner of 15 years to be with a woman, to writer and comedienne Carol Leifer, who divorced her husband for the same reason.

In a culture increasingly open to accepting this fluidity, Dear John, I Love Jane is a timely, fiercely candid exploration of female sexuality and personal choice. The book is comprised of essays written by a broad spectrum of women, including a number of well-known writers and personalities. Their stories are sometimes funny, sometimes painful—but always achingly honest—accounts of leaving a man for a woman, and the consequences of making such a choice.

Arousing, inspiring, bawdy, bold, and heartfelt, Dear John, I Love Jane is an engrossing reflection of a new era of female sexuality.

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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
There are plenty of coming-out stories on the market, important but familiar tales of women who knew from childhood that they were "different" and the ways in which they forged their own paths in a heterosexual world. The women in this refreshing anthology come from a different angle entirely. After decades of heterosexuality--frequently perfectly fulfilling--they meet a woman who turns their world upside down. Initially shocked--am I gay? Or is it just her?--they experience a shift in identity that is as welcome as it is unexpected. Some of their husbands and boyfriends are supportive; others are not. Some of the women are still with the woman who prompted the change; some are with another, or in an open marriage with men, or still exploring their identities. All speak of occupying a strange place on the spectrum of sexuality: "I won't insult my past self by saying I was in denial or confused. I am a textbook example of the fluidity of sexuality," writes one contributor. These stories are often funny, sometimes heartbreaking, and always brave as they reveal an often-overlooked arena of sexuality. (Nov.)
Library Journal
Editors Walsh (features editor, Mothering magazine) and book seller André suggest in their introduction that the 27 accounts they've printed here (after their online call for submissions netted 130 pieces) are untold stories in part of a greater gay narrative. Each is written by a lesbian who experiences a sexual awakening during or after involvement with a male partner, and this makes for some complicated and occasionally involving tales. With Margarethe Cammermeyer and Cynthia Nixon as well-known media examples, the theme will be familiar to most. Unfortunately, only a handful of these personal accounts are extraordinary or noteworthy. Kami Day's "The Right Fit" is heartbreakingly well told. There's as much eroticism as there is poignancy in Vanessa Fernando's "Waiting." Most of the essays are as glib as the collection's title. The book is tailored for readers experiencing something similar, but what could have been a useful guidebook feels more like a squandered opportunity. VERDICT While some contributions are superb, this collection is generally hit-and-miss.—Adam Waldowski, Missouri State Univ. Lib., Springfield

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781580053396
Publisher:
Avalon Publishing Group
Publication date:
10/19/2010
Pages:
272
Sales rank:
397,177
Product dimensions:
7.24(w) x 11.28(h) x 0.75(d)

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