Death Without Denial, Grief Without Apology: A Guide for Facing Death and Loss

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When her husband was dying from prostate cancer, former Oregon Governor Barbara Roberts had to look inside herself to survive. What she found in that journey fills the pages of this frank but inspiring book. Written for both the patient facing death and those he or she leaves behind, Death Without Denial, Grief Without Apology shows readers how to abandon the silence that too often accompanies these natural processes and find peace within them. Chapter titles include “A Culture in Denial,” “Hospice,” “Permission ...

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When her husband was dying from prostate cancer, former Oregon Governor Barbara Roberts had to look inside herself to survive. What she found in that journey fills the pages of this frank but inspiring book. Written for both the patient facing death and those he or she leaves behind, Death Without Denial, Grief Without Apology shows readers how to abandon the silence that too often accompanies these natural processes and find peace within them. Chapter titles include “A Culture in Denial,” “Hospice,” “Permission to Be Weird,” “The Long Slow Climb Back,” and “Reaching Out to Others.”

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Former Oregon governor Barbara K. Roberts, who lost her husband to lung cancer eight years ago, has written a guide for those grieving the death of a loved one. Written in a warm, personal tone and drawing on Roberts's own experiences, Death Without Denial, Grief Without Apology: A Guide for Facing Death and Loss counsels readers on coping with the terminal diagnosis, preparing for their loved one's death and grieving in whatever way they feel comfortable. While it's not meant to be a comprehensive guide to the stages of loss, this concise volume should be a comfort to those looking for reassuring words from a fellow mourner. (Feb. 25) Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information.
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  • ISBN-13: 9780939165438
  • Publisher: NewSage Press
  • Publication date: 1/28/2002
  • Pages: 100
  • Product dimensions: 5.60 (w) x 8.40 (h) x 0.50 (d)

Meet the Author


Barbara K. Roberts serves on the board of trustees for several major organizations in Oregon and Washington. Ann Jackson is the executive director of the Oregon Hospice. Both live in Portland, OR.
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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 9, 2009

    She told my story

    It was a pinful book to read because it caused me to relive my husband and my experiences with his dying, but it also gave hope that with time comes easing of the pain. Through her own energy and commitment to figuring out a life on her own she allows the rest of us to see that it is possible to carry on, though your life partner has left you. As difficult as it was to read, I imagine it was even more difficult for her to write, but what a gift she gave us by doing so.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 22, 2004

    Hope for the Grieveing

    In this moving, candid, and personal story, former Oregon governor Barbara Roberts talks about the year long process of losing her husband, and the much longer process of grieving after his death. The book begins in December, 1993 in the Governor's Mansion in Salem, OR, as a grieving Governor Roberts comes home at night to hug the urn with her husband's ashes, kiss his photograph, and tell him how her day went. Although Roberts acknowledges that some might find this kind of grieving 'not appropraite' 'weird' or 'crazy' , she empshasizes that whatever form of grieivng brings the most comfort to the suffering is the best kind. She also says of the greiving process 'it will take as long as it takes.' Four years after surviving prostate cancer, State Senator Frank Roberts was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer in October, 1992. He and Barbara were both astonished when his doctor then suggested chemotherapy. The couple qucikly rejected the suggestion, and instead turned to Hospice. Throughout the book, Roberts praises Hospice and their outstanding care for her husband and support for his family. She describes how Hospice was there for them right up until Frank's death on Halloween 1993, three weeks after a stroke had taken away his ability to speak. For Roberts, as for others, the grieving process was a long and sometimes painful journey. The memories of her husband, triggered by anything from a sunset to his personal belongings, would bring back a flood of memories that caused sadness and lonliness. Gradually, though, the memories turned to feelings of warmth, as she could celebrate Frank's life and except his loss. Senator Frank Roberts was an early sponsor of the 'Death with Dignity Act' that Oregon voters voted into law a year after his death. Governor Roberts ends her book strongly defending the controverial law (that exists only in Oregon) and praising Oregon for being a leader in the use of Hospice care and pain management for the dying. Facing death is difficult for most of us. In this book, Barbara Roberts makes it much more acceptable.

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