The Definitive Book of Body Language: Why What People Say Is Very Different from What They Think or Feel

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Available for the first time in the United States, this international bestseller reveals the secrets of nonverbal communication to give you confidence and control in any face-to-face encounter–from making a great first impression and acing a job interview to finding the right partner.

It is a scientific fact that people’s gestures give away their true intentions. Yet most of us don’t know how to read body language–and don’t realize how our own physical movements speak to others....

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Overview

Available for the first time in the United States, this international bestseller reveals the secrets of nonverbal communication to give you confidence and control in any face-to-face encounter–from making a great first impression and acing a job interview to finding the right partner.

It is a scientific fact that people’s gestures give away their true intentions. Yet most of us don’t know how to read body language–and don’t realize how our own physical movements speak to others. Now the world’s foremost experts on the subject share their techniques for reading body language signals to achieve success in every area of life.

Drawing upon more than thirty years in the field, as well as cutting-edge research from evolutionary biology, psychology, and medical technologies that demonstrate what happens in the brain, the authors examine each component of body language and give you the basic vocabulary to read attitudes and emotions through behavior.

Discover:
• How palms and handshakes are used to gain control
• The most common gestures of liars
• How the legs reveal what the mind wants to do
• The most common male and female courtship gestures and signals
• The secret signals of cigarettes, glasses, and makeup
• The magic of smiles–including smiling advice for women
• How to use nonverbal cues and signals to communicate more effectively and get the reactions you want

Filled with fascinating insights, humorous observations, and simple strategies that you can apply to any situation, this intriguing book will enrich your communication with and understanding of others–as well as yourself.

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Body language is the key to first encounters. We all send secret signals and cues with our gestures and stances. But knowing what this "body lingo" means is not easy; for most of us, nonverbal communication requires working in a language only half known. In The Definitive Book of Body Language, Allan and Barbara Pease draw on three decades of professional experience to delineate the basic vocabulary of our expressions and gestures.
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"When Allan and Barbara Pease write, I read. And underline. And learn. And laugh. And steal. The Definitive Book of Body Language is a marvel of a book!"—Tom Peters, author of In Search of Excellence and Re-Imagine!
Christopher Buckley
This is a fascinating book, though clearly more — much more — government funding is needed to study the hitchhiking patterns of busty women. After reading it, you’ll be able to decode and analyze the signature moments of our times. The famous confrontation, for instance, between Tom Cruise and Matt Lauer on the "Today" show.
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The Peases (coauthors, Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps) have updated and expanded Allan's 1984 international best seller, Body Language (published as Signals in the United States). Illustrated with attention-grabbing pictures of politicians and celebrities, this entertaining, easy-to-read book shows how to interpret posture and gestures, understand nonverbal behavior (including one's own nonverbal cues), and use body language to get desired reactions in social and business situations. Noting that a gesture may have different meanings in different situations, the authors emphasize the importance of clusters of gestures, congruence with verbal message, and context, situation, and cultural differences. Each chapter stands on its own and expounds on various situational behaviors (e.g., "Ownership, Territory and Height Signals") or gestures (e.g., "How the Legs Reveal What the Mind Wants To Do"). An expanded table of contents compensates for the lack of an index, and extensive references are provided for further reading. Highly recommended for all libraries, especially for popular psychology and self-help collections. [See Prepub Alert, LJ 4/1/06.] Lucille M. Boone, San Jose P.L., CA Copyright 2006 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780553804720
  • Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 7/25/2006
  • Pages: 400
  • Sales rank: 65,385
  • Product dimensions: 6.21 (w) x 9.32 (h) x 1.15 (d)

Meet the Author

Allan Pease has written eleven other bestselling books on the subject of human communication and body language, including, with Barbara Pease, Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps and Why Men Don’t Have a Clue and Women Always Need New Shoes.

Barbara Pease is CEO of Pease Training International and the author of the international bestseller Memory Language. She divides her time between England and Australia, trying to find her way home from the airport.

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Chapter One

Understanding the Basics

Everyone knows someone who can walk into a room full of people and within minutes give an accurate description about the relationships between those people and what they are feeling. The ability to read a person's attitudes and thoughts by their behavior was the original communication system used by humans before spoken language evolved.

Before radio was invented, most communication was done in writing through books, letters, and newspapers, which meant that ugly politicians and poor speakers such as Abraham Lincoln could be successful if they persisted long enough and wrote good print copy. The radio era gave openings to people who had a good command of the spoken word, like Winston Churchill, who spoke wonderfully but may have struggled to achieve as much in today's more visual era.

Today's politicians understand that politics is about image and appearance, and most high-profile politicians now have personal body-language consultants to help them come across as being sincere, caring, and honest, especially when they're not.

It seems almost incredible that, over the thousands of years of our evolution, body language has been actively studied on any scale only since the 1960's and that most of the public has become aware of its existence only since our book Body Language was published in 1978. Yet most people believe that speech is still our main form of communication. Speech has been part of our communication repertoire only in recent times in evolutionary terms, and is mainly used to convey facts and data. Speech probably first developed between two million and five hundred thousand years ago, during which time our brain tripled its size. Before then, body language and sounds made in the throat were the main forms of conveying emotions and feelings, and that is still the case today. But because we focus on the words people speak, most of us are largely uninformed about body language, let alone its importance in our lives.

Our spoken language, however, recognizes how important body language is to our communication. Here are just a few of the phrases we use:

Get it off your chest. Keep a stiff upper lip.
Stay at arm's length. Keep your chin up.
Shoulder a burden. Face up to it.
Put your best foot forward. Kiss my butt.

Some of these phrases are hard to swallow, but you've got to give us a big hand because there are some real eye-openers here. As a rule of thumb, we can keep them coming hand over fist until you either buckle at the knees or turn your back on the whole idea. Hopefully, you'll be sufficiently touched by these phrases to lean toward the concept.

In the Beginning . . .

Silent-movie actors like Charlie Chaplin were the pioneers of body-language skills, as this was the only means of communication available on the screen. Each actor's skill was classed as good or bad by the extent to which he could use gestures and body signals to communicate to the audience. When talking films became popular and less emphasis was placed on the nonverbal aspects of acting, many silent-movie actors faded into obscurity and only those with good verbal and nonverbal skills survived.

As far as the academic study of body language goes, perhaps the most influential pre-twentieth-century work was Charles Darwin's The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals, published in 1872, but this work tended to be read mainly by academics. However, it spawned the modern studies of facial expressions and body language, and many of Darwin's ideas and observations have since been validated by researchers around the world. Since that time, researchers have noted and recorded almost a million nonverbal cues and signals. Albert Mehrabian, a pioneer researcher of body language in the 1950's, found that the total impact of a message is about 7 percent verbal (words only) and 38 percent vocal (including tone of voice, inflection, and other sounds) and 55 percent nonverbal.

It's how you looked when you said it, not what you actually said.

Anthropologist Ray Birdwhistell pioneered the original study of nonverbal communication–what he called "kinesics." Birdwhistell made some similar estimates of the amount of nonverbal communication that takes place between humans. He estimated that the average person actually speaks words for a total of about ten or eleven minutes a day and that the average sentence takes only about 2.5 seconds. Birdwhistell also estimated we can make and recognize around 250,000 facial expressions.

Like Mehrabian, he found that the verbal component of a face-to-face conversation is less than 35 percent and that over 65 percent of communication is done nonverbally. Our analysis of thousands of recorded sales interviews and negotiations during the 1970's and 1980's showed that, in business encounters, body language accounts for between 60 and 80 percent of the impact made around a negotiating table and that people form 60 to 80 percent of their initial opinion about a new person in less than four minutes. Studies also show that when negotiating over the telephone, the person with the stronger argument usually wins, but this is not so true when negotiating face-to-face, because overall we make our final decisions more on what we see than what we hear.

Why It's Not What You Say

Despite what it may be politically correct to believe, when we meet people for the first time we quickly make judgments about their friendliness, dominance, and potential as a sexual partner–and their eyes are not the first place we look.

Most researchers now agree that words are used primarily for conveying information, while body language is used for negotiating interpersonal attitudes and, in some cases, is used as a substitute for verbal messages. For example, a woman can give a man a "look to kill" and will convey a very clear message to him without opening her mouth.

Regardless of culture, words and movements occur together with such predictability that Birdwhistell was the first to claim that a well-trained person should be able to tell what movement a person is making by listening to their voice. Birdwhistell even learned how to tell what language a person was speaking, simply by watching their gestures.

Many people find difficulty in accepting that humans are still biologically animals. We are a species of primate–Homo sapiens–a hairless ape that has learned to walk on two limbs and has a clever, advanced brain. But like any other species, we are still dominated by biological rules that control our actions, reactions, body language, and gestures. The fascinating thing is that the human animal is rarely aware that its postures, movements, and gestures can tell one story while its voice may be telling another.

How Body Language Reveals Emotions and Thoughts

Body language is an outward reflection of a person's emotional condition. Each gesture or movement can be a valuable key to an emotion a person may be feeling at the time. For example, a man who is self-conscious about gaining weight may tug at the fold of skin under his chin; the woman who is aware of extra pounds on her thighs may smooth her dress down; the person who is feeling fearful or defensive might fold their arms or cross their legs or both; and a man talking with a large-breasted woman may consciously avoid staring at her breasts while, at the same time, unconsciously use groping gestures with his hands.

The key to reading body language is being able to understand a person's emotional condition while listening to what they are saying and noting the circumstances under which they are saying it. This allows you to separate fact from fiction and reality from fantasy. In recent times, we humans have had an obsession with the spoken word and our ability to be conversationalists. Most people, however, are remarkably unaware of body- language signals and their impact, despite the fact that we now know that most of the messages in any face-to-face conversation are revealed through body signals. For example, France's President Chirac, U.S.A.'s President Ronald Reagan, and Australia's Prime Minister Bob Hawke all used their hands to reveal the relative sizes of issues in their mind. Bob Hawke once defended pay increases for politicians by comparing their salaries to corporate executive salaries. He claimed that executive salaries had risen by a huge amount and that proposed politicians' increases were relatively smaller. Each time he mentioned politicians' incomes, he held his hands a yard apart. When he mentioned executive salaries, however, he held them only a foot apart. His hand distances revealed that he felt politicians were getting a much better deal than he was prepared to admit.

Why Women Are More Perceptive

When we say someone is "perceptive" or "intuitive" about people, we are unknowingly referring to their ability to read another person's body language and to compare these cues with verbal signals. In other words, when we say that we have a "hunch" or "gut feeling" that someone has told us a lie, we usually mean that their body language and their spoken words don't agree. This is also what speakers call "audience awareness," or relating to a group. For example, if an audience were sitting back in their seats with their chins down and arms crossed on their chest, a "perceptive" speaker would get a hunch or feeling that his delivery was not going across well. He would realize that he needed to take a different approach to gain audience involvement. Likewise, a speaker who was not "perceptive" would blunder on regardless.

Being "perceptive" means being able to spot the contradictions between someone's words and their body language.

Overall, women are far more perceptive than men, and this has given rise to what is commonly referred to as "women's intuition." Women have an innate ability to pick up and decipher nonverbal signals, as well as having an accurate eye for small details. This is why few husbands can lie to their wives and get away with it and why, conversely, most women can pull the wool over a man's eyes without his realizing it.

Research by psychologists at Harvard University showed how women are far more alert to body language than men. They showed short films, with the sound turned off, of a man and woman communicating, and the participants were asked to decode what was happening by reading the couple's expressions. The research showed that women read the situation accurately 87 percent of the time, while the men scored only 42 percent accuracy. Men in "nurturing" occupations, such as artistic types, acting, and nursing, did nearly as well as the women; gay men also scored well. Female intuition is particularly evident in women who have raised children. For the first few years, the mother relies almost solely on the nonverbal channel to communicate with the child and this is why women are often more perceptive negotiators than men, because they practice reading signals early.

What Brain Scans Show

Most women have the brain organization to outcommunicate any man on the planet. Magnetic Resonance Imaging brain scans (MRI) clearly show why women have far greater capacity for communicating with and evaluating people than men do. Women have between fourteen and sixteen areas of the brain to evaluate others' behavior versus a man's four to six areas. This explains how a woman can attend a dinner party and rapidly work out the state of the relationships of other couples at the party–who's had an argument, who likes who, and so on. It also explains why, from a woman's standpoint, men don't seem to talk much and, from a man's standpoint, women never seem to shut up.

As we showed in Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps (Orion), the female brain is organized for multitracking–the average woman can juggle between two and four unrelated topics at the same time. She can watch a television program while talking on the telephone plus listen to a second conversation behind her, while drinking a cup of coffee. She can talk about several unrelated topics in the one conversation and use five vocal tones to change the subject or emphasize points. Unfortunately, most men can only identify three of these tones. As a result, men often lose the plot when women are trying to communicate with them.

Studies show that a person who relies on hard visual evidence face-to-face about the behavior of another person is more likely to make more accurate judgments about that person than someone who relies solely on their gut feeling. The evidence is in the person's body language and, while women can do it subconsciously, anyone can teach themselves consciously to read the signals. That's what this book is about.

How Fortune-Tellers Know So Much

If you've ever visited a fortune-teller you probably came away amazed at the things they knew about you–things no one else could possibly have known–so it must be ESP, right? Research into the fortune-telling business shows that operators use a technique known as "cold reading," which can produce an accuracy of around 80 percent when "reading" a person you've never met. While it can appear to be magical to naive and vulnerable people, it is simply a process based on the careful observation of body-language signals plus an understanding of human nature and a knowledge of probability statistics. It's a technique practiced by psychics, tarot-card readers, astrologists, and palm readers to gather information about a "client." Many "cold readers" are largely unaware of their abilities to read nonverbal signals and so also become convinced that they really must have "psychic" abilities. This all adds to a convincing performance, bolstered by the fact that people who regularly visit "psychics" go with positive expectations of the outcome. Throw in a set of tarot cards, a crystal ball or two, and a bit of theater, and the stage is perfectly set for a body-language-reading session that can convince even the most hardened skeptic that strange, magical forces must be at work. It all boils down to the reader's ability to decode a person's reactions to statements made and to questions asked, and by information gathered from simple observation about a person's appearance. Most "psychics" are female because, as women, as discussed previously, they have the extra brain wiring to allow them to read the body signals of babies and to read others' emotional condition.

The fortune-teller gazed into her crystal ball and then started laughing uncontrollably. So John punched her on the nose. It was the first time he'd ever struck a happy medium.

To demonstrate the point, here now is a psychic reading for you personally. Imagine you've come to a dimly lit, smoke-filled room where a jewel-encrusted psychic wearing a turban is seated at a low, moon-shaped table with a crystal ball:

I'm glad you've come to this session and I can see you have things that are troubling you because I am receiving strong signals from you. I sense that the things you really want out of life sometimes seem unrealistic and you often wonder whether you can achieve them. I also sense that at times you are friendly, social, and outgoing to others, but that at other times you are withdrawn, reserved, and cautious. You take pride in being an independent thinker, but also know not to accept what you see and hear from others without proof. You like change and variety, but become restless if controlled by restrictions and routine. You want to share your innermost feelings with those closest to you, but have found it unwise to be too open and revealing. A man in your life with the initial "S" is exerting a strong influence over you right now and a woman who is born in November will contact you in the next month with an exciting offer. While you appear disciplined and controlled on the outside, you tend to be concerned and worried on the inside, and at times you wonder whether or not you have made the right choice or decision.

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  • Posted March 5, 2009

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    Great introduction to the subject

    This book is an excellent read. The book was simple enough for a beginner like me, but packet full of usefull examples and illustrations for all of the body language ques covered. There is no doubt that this book will change how you interact with friends or strangers. You will be able to pick up on a lot of things that normally would go unnoticed by most people, but I would not recommend letting anyone borrow this book because they won't return it. Seriously I let my friend borrow it and I haven't seen it in a month.

    It's that good.

    5 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted November 26, 2009

    Excellent beginners book for body language

    I bought this book because I wanted to be able to read people's body language and learn a little on neuro-linguistics. The book is very interesting and is a good base for beginners. The chapters are well sequenced, are set up so that you can start at any chapter you wish and not miss out on information, and cover a wide range of information. The book is an easy read with a simple vocabulary which is good. I'd say some of the information is obvious, but what the book does a good job of doing is making you aware of what the mind and body are doing. The last chapter is an excellent sort of test-summary, meaning that it shows a picture and asks what are the 5-12 gestures and feelings that are shown, and right underneath is the description nicely presented. All in all it is a great book that I would definitely recommend especially for those who are just beginning. I think there were 1 or 2 descriptions that do not apply to the present but it happens, I believe the book was written by a British husband and wife so there can be some nuances but he points out that in America you have to do this and that. I was hoping for a more indepth book but this was an excellent beginners book.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 5, 2008

    Picking up on the unspoken cues

    Body language is the key to first encounters. We all send secret signals and cues with our gestures and stances, sometimes even when we aren't aware we're doing so. But knowing what this 'body lingo' means is not easy for most of us, this nonverbal communication requires working in a language that's hard to understand. In The Definitive Book of Body Language, the authors pull from three decades of professional experience to teach a basic vocabulary of our expressions and gestures, in order for anyone to learn and understand them. Another book that has been a huge help to me in reading other people and understanding unspoken cues is The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book. It's also great because it comes with a code that lets you go online and test your emotional intelligence!

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted December 2, 2012

    Best Book On Body Language!!!!!!

    Great to read especially if you’re a guy. Get ready see what’s right under your noise.

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  • Posted October 5, 2012

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    People watching just got better!

    Makes understanding people a lot easier.

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  • Posted July 7, 2012

    The author rarely misses an opportunity to insult Americans. So

    The author rarely misses an opportunity to insult Americans. So few Americans have passports and thankfully so, because they expect everyone to speak, act, dress and eat as they do. I have read numerous books on body language from other authors containing much the same observations and conclusions, I would suggest you give the others a read.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 19, 2012

    Extraordinary

    Extraordinary
    This is highly detailed. Highly literal desciption of images. Body language is essential for all forms of human contact. Any who seek to de-mystify the non-verbal meaning of those around you, this your book. Whether a reader is new to Body Language, or seeking deeper knowledge. Hands, arms, feet, legs, even eyes. All documented and explained.


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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 19, 2012

    Entertaining, Educational, Enjoyable

    You can read it from cover to cover, but it's also great to just pick up and read a section at random. It's very entertaining, yet you learn a lot about how to read people and how to be conscious about your own actions.

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  • Posted January 9, 2012

    Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly HighlyHighly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Highly Recommended!

    Before reading this book, I had no knowledge of reading body language, but while reading this book (as I still am) I have started to pick up on different body signals on people that am helping me understand how other people's actions speak louder than words. 5 stars, definately.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 26, 2010

    All over the place

    This book is poorly organized and flips between western culture and other cultures, without a proper go through of the basics first.

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  • Posted February 20, 2010

    Really cool book

    You learn a lot from this quick read. Having studied a lot of psychology, you can get an inside view of people you work with or befriend, or work on your own presentation of your self to sway opinions that others might have. Totally recommend it!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 2, 2010

    WOW!

    This was my very first body language book, and it has truly inspired me to keep reading more on body language. The pictures and explanation of everything is just fantastic! The authors even throw in a little humor here and there that makes it more of a pleasure to read. REALLY a very good read. I recommend to anyone who is interested in the study of body language!!

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  • Posted September 21, 2009

    Extremely Useful Content on Body Language

    This book gives all the basics on reading and using body language. Learn how to read others emotions better. Well organized and applicable to many social situations. Helps in learning positive body language. A must read!

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  • Posted July 23, 2009

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    Wow

    I really enjoyed reading this book. Even though I bought it last year around this time I still manage to pick it up to sharpen myself. The author in this book is amazing he was a former interigator for the U.S. Army. and Tell you all of the subconcious move and hidden non-verbal responses. I really enjoyed reading this book. But one thing I would say for those wanting to study Body Language and/or Non-verbal communication to pick up other books to so that you have more than one source to learn from. But defintly start with this book!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 3, 2009

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    Interesting analysis

    One of the better relationship books I bought recently for added insight into interacting with women. This one is very interesting to say the least. Barbara provides very detailed information and analysis on the gestures, head nods, postures and stances accompanied by illustrations to explain body language quickly. Some of it is pure psychological speculation, but it would certainly be extremely beneficial in any sales career, being able to effectively recognize and decode the nonverbal messages of others. For male pickup advice, I'd couple this book with a rather funny and cynical title, The Professional Bachelor Dating Guide - How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho to enhance your seduction skills via reading and influencing women.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 28, 2008

    Read it!

    Amazing! A must read! Really opens your eyes to what is in front of you. This book will help anyone in any aspect of their life, whether it's business or relationships. Buy it and love it!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 13, 2007

    Amazing!

    This book is wonderful. Everything is completely true and factual. I learned so much and I brought it to school and everyone wanted it.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 1, 2007

    well explained and amusing

    This book is very well explained and amusing. Some books on the same topic tend to be too 'academic' or encyclopedic, but Pease's book is very reader-friendly. I was surprised at how much of the book my memory could retain after reading it,which to me this is a sign of its effectiveness. The book was so fascinating and enjoyable to read I finished it in three days. It gives you alot of information on reading body language: from facial expressions, arm positions etc. It has made me look at people differently and understand what others might 'really' be thinking. But most importantly for me, it has made me understand how my own body language may be interpreted by others. If you want to improve your interpersonal relationships with people around you I really recommend this book.

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