Didn't I Feed You Yesterday?: A Mother's Guide to Sanity in Stilettos [NOOK Book]

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Laura Bennett is not a soccer mom or a PTA mom or a helicopter mom—and she’s certainly not mother of the year. Another breed of mother entirely, Laura is surely more Auntie Mame than June Cleaver. As a busy mother of six, Laura is on an impossible mission: raising a brood of fast-moving, messy, wild sons in the jungles of Manhattan. So what other choice does she have than to sit back, grab a martini, and let the boys be, er, boys?

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Laura Bennett is not a soccer mom or a PTA mom or a helicopter mom—and she’s certainly not mother of the year. Another breed of mother entirely, Laura is surely more Auntie Mame than June Cleaver. As a busy mother of six, Laura is on an impossible mission: raising a brood of fast-moving, messy, wild sons in the jungles of Manhattan. So what other choice does she have than to sit back, grab a martini, and let the boys be, er, boys?

In Didn’t I Feed You Yesterday?, Laura gives her irreverent take on modern motherhood and proves that a strong sense of humor and an even stronger sense of self are the mother’s milk of sanity. In a series of refreshingly candid and hilarious anecdotes, she unapologetically breaks every rule in the Brady Bunch playbook: She gives her kids junk food, plays favorites, and openly admits to having “a genetic predisposition to laissez-faire parenting.” Children, she observes, don’t need constant supervision from neurotic, perfectionist parents. Allow kids to make mistakes and entertain themselves and they’ll turn out just fine—even if you do sometimes forget to pick them up from school.

Beyond the mayhem of a life among males, Laura celebrates the glories of womanhood with a generous helping of wit and style. She gives thanks to the fashion gods for the essentials—red lipstick, Manolo Blahniks, and Lycra shapewear—but reminds us that true style comes from an inner compass that points directly at oneself. In every aspect of life, Laura gives one simple, powerful piece of advice: “Dress like you want it or stay home.”
 
Brutally honest, outrageous, and sure to raise a few eyebrows, Didn’t I Feed You Yesterday? is a riotously funny read—and it’ll go fabulously well with your new handbag.
 

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"Raising Readers"
A Bonus Essay by Laura Bennett

Read to your children twenty minutes a day. It’s right up there with brushing teeth and eating vegetables. Spending these few moments together a day will foster a life long love of reading in your child. It sounds so easy, but the truth is my kids are more likely to voluntarily infect themselves with the swine flu than sit in my lap and have me read them a book. I know that they can read; they are mesmerized by the text on the box of Frosted Flakes while they eat their cereal, but they won’t look at a book.

This aversion to reading starts in my house at an early age. I gather my little ones together to sit down and read a book but three pages into it my tiny vessels of testosterone start ripping the pages out. In further protest, they grab it out of my hands and use it to bonk me over the head before they run away. Our copy of Good Night Moon is so battered and taped back together that the title now reads Moon God Tonigh.

I loved reading as a child. In the third grade I was transfixed by The Boxcar Children series. I would sit inside my own boxcar, a refrigerator crate, and read volume after volume. My third grader has a homework chart to fill in each evening showing that he has read for thirty minutes. We spend at least that much time debating whether or not the commands at the bottom of the World of Warcraft screen qualify as reading time.

As my oldest boy entered eighth grade, I was sure there would be a turn around. This is when you really get to the good stuff. What teenaged boy wouldn’t love Holden Caulfield’s profane adventures in Catcher in the Rye or identify with the parental rebellion in Romeo and Juliet? But he showed no interest and as the deadlines loomed I was eventually confronted with, “Mom, can’t you just get me the movie?”

The unfortunate truth is it’s easy for them to do the homework assignments without reading the books. If I chose to skip a reading assignment, I would have to trick my mother into driving me to the mall and spend hard earned babysitting money on bumble-bee colored Cliff Notes. My kids need only cozy up to the nearest computer, log on to the Internet, and have instant free access to a plethora of chapter summaries.

It’s not as though they don’t understand or enjoy the content of books. After debating whether it’s a man or a woman speaking, they laugh hysterically at the audio books of David Sedaris we listen to in the car, or wax on about how the Twilight series is an analogy for sexual abstinence, they just have an aversion to the written word in the form of books. Surprisingly, my non-readers can even write. My son recently applied for high school and had to write a series of essays. They were very well received and noted for their “original voice.” Of course the voice was original, with the exception of Tony the Tiger he’s never read enough of anyone else’s voice to even attempt to steal from them.

I will not give up. Armed with Scotch tape, I will continue to offer to read aloud. I will continue to surround my boys with books in the hopes that one day they will find that magic story that compels them to sit in a cardboard box and be transformed into readers. In the mean time, do the commands on World of Warcraft qualify as reading time?

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780345519375
  • Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 4/6/2010
  • Sold by: Random House
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 208
  • Sales rank: 1,289,743
  • File size: 3 MB

Meet the Author

Laura Bennett wowed viewers of Project Runway’s season 3 with her jaw-dropping outspokenness and sophisticated designs. She has a large and growing fan base thanks to Project Runway, MSN’s “Glam Squad” StyleStudio, and QVC, which sells her designs. Bennett writes the Case Clothed comic strip for iVillage and a column for The Daily Beast. She lives in Manhattan.

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PREPARE FOR TAKEOFF

Not long ago i was on an airplane with all six of my children. We were in that purgatory part of the trip between the use of electronic devices and the use of electronic devices. The plane was still being prepared for takeoff, but the area around our seats was already a disaster. Katrina herself couldn’t have made such a mess so quickly. The floor was littered with crushed Goldfish and the wrappers from candy bought as appeasement gifts while waiting to board the plane. My husband was in the row behind me with our middle two children, who were engrossed in the age-old argument over the window seat. His row was equally trashed. My two oldest sat across the aisle from me, all wired up like cyborgs, both of them gripping their respective iDevices, the sound of music leaking through headphones momentarily suspended, the sound of clicking thumbs ditto. They simultaneously looked over at me with withdrawal and longing, somehow expecting me to amend the FAA’s policy on airwaves.

I noticed over the cacophony that a woman in an ill-fitting polyester pant suit was standing in the front of the cabin, making strange hand gestures and trying to tell me something. I also noticed that she was holding an oxygen mask. My interest was piqued and her droning words came into focus.

“When traveling with children, please secure your own mask before assisting a child.” Clearly, this woman was an oracle.

The other passengers seemed to have missed her message, but it made such clear sense to me: provide yourself with oxygen first, or you will be of no use to your children. If you run your own life, pursuing your own successes and coping with your own failures, you won’t find yourself dwelling on missed opportunities or attempting to undo mistakes on the backs of your kids. Yeah, I thought, if Mama Rose had spent more time pursuing her own career, wouldn’t Gypsy have been able to keep her clothes on?

The oracle went on to say something like “The nearest exit might be behind you,” which, I have to be honest, didn’t ring as clearly as the oxygen advice, but that was okay, I’d already gotten way more out of this trip than I could have imagined. I gained a sense of sanity: come what may, if I chose to do what I needed for myself, rather than trying to gauge beforehand what my parents, my mate, my friends, or society expects of me, I would be far more likely to make better choices, and to be happier with them. I not only learned that but also got the invaluable advice to remove my Manolos before exiting the plane onto a blow-up ramp. Equally important information if you simply don’t want to puncture your life raft, or lose your favorite shoes in the ocean.

Being a mom in the twenty-first century can be a mixed bag of ugly. There are so many opinions about the job you’re doing, offered freely and yet at great cost. There are books and blogs and radio programs and mom groups and lactation consultants and magazines and on and on. Never has there been so much accessible and contradictory information floating in the ether of parenting, and never has the concept of “my way or the highway” been so brutally administered. We have collectively micromanaged our pregnancies and written our superfluous Birth Plans and succumbed to the pressure of feeding our kids 100 percent organic hand-milled baby food using a reduced carbon footprint. These unrealistic goals have created a population of neurotic mothers whose neurotic kids inevitably end up at my house on a playdate.

I have chosen a more retro approach to parenting. For one thing, I have six children, a very old-fashioned number. And by having so many I have discovered one of the great secrets to being a perfect mother: there is no such thing.

From the day my mother picked up her first Dr. Spock guide to the onslaught of the How to Expect What Your Baby Expects of You types of titles, there have been scores of books on every facet of the parenting equation. When I was first pregnant, twenty years ago, times were different. There were no Internet chat rooms or message boards where women felt free to demoralize other mothers. But with each child I’ve produced, there has come an increasing tide of perfectionism that has slowly overtaken basic human instinct. Don’t get me wrong; I like a healthy, well-adjusted child as much as the next person. But do I really need an owner’s manual? Don’t you just turn it on and fix it when it’s broken?

Call me crazy, but it seems to me that the spike in postpartum depression has occurred hand in hand with the increase of parenting advice available to new moms. The plummet of hormones and the uptick of expectations cross over each other in the most fragile of environments—a healing mother and a helpless, squalling bundle of nerves. Childbirth sucks, and it’s frankly a miracle that we’re not all dead from it—it’s no wonder some women walk away with invisible scars to go with the visible ones. But childbirth is a cakewalk compared to motherhood. The women I know who keep focused on their own survival typically break through the web of high-strung mothering that has unfortunately become the norm. Why on earth would a complete stranger ever ask you whether you breastfed or not? I might be a throwback, but I think who sucks on me and how often in the privacy of my own home is my business.
I have consistently put my neck on the chopping block, both as a mother and as a woman—most famously during a stint on a reality show called Project Runway, where people compete to be the next top fashion designer. I had zero related experience when I auditioned for the show, but I loved watching it so much I thought, Why not me? I got myself in the room, and went further than I could have ever imagined. Through my actions, I showed my kids what was possible, and though they may have gone unbathed those few weeks I was away, I assure you they survived.
I am frequently asked, How can you possibly manage six children? And work? And look so put together? When pressed, I will admit that my approach is twofold: I always take care of myself, and I parent my children my way, not the way others expect me to. I get my oxygen first. When I stop and think about it, I often find that my worst days are in direct proportion to how far I let myself drift away from that yellow plastic mask. Motherhood is the hardest job in the world. Around kid number four I realized that the only way to survive it is to have a sense of humor. After all, the tragic often becomes comedic in the retelling.

FAMILY PORTRAIT 

 If by modern-day standards I have a lot of chil-dren, then by New York City standards I have single-handedly created a population explosion and ruined any chance for other families to attend private school due to my abuse of the sibling preference policy. A family of eight in Manhattan is practically grounds for forcible commitment to Bellevue. How could we be so crazy?

To me, having six children is completely normal. I don’t really get couples who choose to stop at one or two. That’s like going to Vegas and only playing one hand of blackjack, or throwing the dice twice. My curiosity gets the best of me: I want to see what genetic cocktail Lady Luck has to offer.

As if I needed another reason, every package of eight-pound baby comes with a special toy surprise—a designer handbag, an art deco bracelet, or a pair of fabulous shoes. My husband’s gifts are incentive enough to endure nine months of pregnancy. And I look at each occasion as my last chance. Once we get a new baby home and are faced with the added expense, I figure there will be no more gifts.

Having so many children was hardly a conscious decision, not something I set out to accomplish, but it has taken the pressure off all of the concerned parties. I don’t have to be so meticulous about every little thing. If I lose one somewhere, there are extras. We have an heir, a spare, another spare, and three more spares. I’m not really sure how that happened. Of course I know, technically, how it happened, and I admit I didn’t do anything to stop it. Sometimes it was a matter of “Oh, look, honey, the baby is walking! He has grown so fast. Time to have another!” Those were the planned ones. Then there was the time my husband, Peter, came to me with a urine-laden plastic stick emblazoned with a magenta plus sign and asked, “Is this yours?” I replied, “I’m pretty sure it’s yours.” That was a surprise one.

Planned or not, however each one came about, on most days I am happy to have them. And so I find myself with six dependent souls and the responsibility of getting them safely from infancy to adulthood with minimal mental damage to them or me. Of course if one of them gets into drugs, or we run into the occasional disability, it’s no big deal. I don’t have all my eggs in one perfect little basket; I don’t need every child to be a straight-A, Ivy League–admitted music-and-sports prodigy. I have the luxury of accepting each of them as they are, quirks, disabilities, genetic mutations, and all.

CLEO

“Where did you get that?” I asked, waking from a nap to a familiar smell.

“I called Domino’s,” my daughter answered with a shrug.

“Where did you get the money?” I probed, groggy and bewildered.

“The bottom of your purse.”

“Did you tip?”

“Twenty percent.” She winked, radiant with pride. “I got your favorite.”

Cleo was five years old. We’d been watching something on the television and I had dozed off, overwhelmed with fatigue-induced narcolepsy. It was a common occurrence for me in those days. I had been living in Texas and I wanted out of my marriage, so I formulated an escape plan based on higher education. When I was accepted to the graduate program for architecture at Columbia University in New York City, I took my daughter, left my husband, and moved north and east, suddenly becoming a broke, single working mother and full-time student. Cleo had spent the first four years of her life in a booster seat under my drafting table at the University of Houston; she would spend the next few lean, exhausting years in the first character-building situation of her life. And build character she did. There were days when we had to walk to school across Central Park because we didn’t have $1.50 to take the bus, but being penniless and raising a kid by myself never felt like obstacles. I was living in Disneyland for grown-ups, swinging from chandeliers with Cleo right beside me, fixture for fixture. Of course there were times when she was the adult, a doppelgänger of Tatum O’Neal in Paper Moon right down to her little banged haircut.

“Get up, Mom, you’ll be late for work,” she would prod.

“You’re not going out with that loser again, are you?” she would accurately judge.

“You are not leaving the house in that dress,” she would scold. I barely had time to parent—much less overparent—but, thanks in good part to my abject neglect, Cleo has grown into an independent, self-sufficient, and fearless adult.
When Cleo was nine, she announced at Thanksgiving that she was a vegetarian and would no longer be eating anything with a face. This is not that unusual, particularly among girls who love animals as fiercely as Cleo does. The only thing I take issue with is her choice of terminology. If she wants to be accurate, she should call herself a “pastatarian” or a “Cheeriotarian,” as I cannot recall an actual vegetable ever clearing her front teeth. Corn on the cob and French fries don’t count, in my opinion; they are starches, devoid of nutrients other than the dirt or the occasional corn worm that evades detection. If you ask her brother Truman to describe his sister, he will say, “She has big boobs and only eats cereal.”

When I met Peter, he instantly understood that Cleo and I were a package deal. Things moved quickly; we married, and in three years we had two more children. With the body count steadily growing, Cleo decided it was time to strike out on her own—she wanted to go to boarding school. It’s possible that she was too embarrassed by the repetitive proof of her parents having sex, and needed to get out of town, but I think the reason was more likely her insane love of horses. What horses do for girls is buy time, giving them a few extra years before they must discover boys. I do mean the “buying time” part literally, because those years don’t come cheap. Ever industrious, Cleo helped by mucking out the neighbor’s barn upstate in exchange for riding lessons. I was not at all surprised when she started on her own to research boarding schools that offered riding as a centerpiece of the curriculum, and more than a little relieved that we wouldn’t have to go through the grueling school application process in Manhattan. Being her usual assertive self, she compiled a list of options and set up appointments for the three of us to visit. She also filled out all the applications and wrote the necessary essays completely on her own. Talk about low maintenance. In the end she chose Foxcroft, a beautiful all-girl high school in Virginia, and achieved her double goal of riding every day and wearing pajamas to class.

Many friends and family attended Cleo’s graduation, but I couldn’t be there, sequestered as I was for Project Runway. She wore a long white gown that I sewed for her. As I toiled in the workroom at Parsons, a captive of reality programming, I occasionally had enough mental acuity to think about Cleo. I realized that sending her off to boarding school was the greatest sacrifice I had ever made in my life. The moments I missed with her—watching her dress for a date or celebrate after a victory on the hockey field—are lost to me. She thrived, grew, cultivated friendships, and gained worldviews that have formed her life, and I was not a part of the process. It would have been selfish to keep her from leaving when she was clearly so ready, but it was nearly unbearable to let her go.

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  • Posted June 7, 2010

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    Project Raise Five Boys and Keep Your Sense of Humor

    Don't envy Laura Bennett because she wears Manolo's, carries Birkin, has nannies and mannies and lives in a loft in Manhattan with an award winning husband. Envy her because she has five -1,2,3,4,FIVE, young boys, (and a daughter in college), and still has the capacity to realize how truly blessed she is, keep her sanity, and find the silver lining in every outrageous moment her boys put her through. The book is downright hilarious from start to finish, and way beyond LOL! Although she is rich and famous, she still can relate to those who are not rich and famous and doesn't mind letting you know. This is a must read for every mother of one boy let alone multiple boys. She is multitalented and witty and I hope this is just the beginning of many books.

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  • Posted May 5, 2010

    A fun read, especially for moms of boys

    Being a fan of Ms. Bennett's from her Project Runway days, I was really looking forward to getting this book. I knew it was not going to be an advice book, or any heavy duty reading. And it's not. But, at the same time, it's written in a way that's much like her-- intellectual, dry, witty and outright funny. Ms. Bennett never takes herself too seriously, and she admits that up front. She is clear that she never expected to be the mom of a daughter and five boys, and her approach may not be what many may agree with (and some might), but it certainly makes for a colorful book. It's just fun reading. Great as a Mother's Day gift! I'm almost done reading the book, and have enjoyed the whole thing.

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  • Posted June 7, 2010

    Laugh Out Loud Funny

    Exactly what one would expect from Laura from Project Runway. Really enjoyed this book, read it in two days!

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  • Posted November 20, 2009

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    If you've got kids and a job, walk in high heels, or just love crazy family stories, this is the book to get next.

    I have been able to read and experience some of these stories and trust me, it's worth it. This is a book you'll be telling your friends to read for great laughs and a dose of New York reality, whether you wanted Laura Bennett to win Project Runway or not. It's the truth. The real-deal. And somehow this mad-house Mom manages to get up still looking amazing after six kids and is able to joke about being puked on when wearing couture. AND, guess what folks, this a big family with loads of extras that is not sucking the life out of each other in a divorce court! Happy, healthy, and staying together. It's sorta the Cosby Show with high heels, Hermes, latex, and super hero costumes. Order a copy.

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