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Different Loving: An Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission

Different Loving: An Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission

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by Gloria G. Brame, William D. Brame, Jon Jacobs

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Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
Although the authors insist this tome ``is not an apologia for sadomasochism,'' it often reads like one. Rejecting theories that explain S&M in terms of low self-esteem or regressed sexuality, they portray sexual dominants, submissives and fetishists ``as they see themselves: loving and compassionate individuals'' for whom pain is pleasure and physical bondage is psychologically liberating. However, it is hard to reconcile this formula with the interviewees' graphic accounts of whipping, spanking, ``golden showers'' (urination), the use of hot wax and clothespins, depersonalization fantasies (being treated like an animal or a chair) and so forth. The wife-husband Brames (she is a poet, he a novelist) and freelance writer Jacobs also devote sections to genital piercing, scarification (cutting one's body with a knife), tattooing, female wrestling and transvestites and transsexuals who engage in S&M. Author tour. (June)

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Random House Publishing Group
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1st ed
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6.56(w) x 9.59(h) x 1.65(d)

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Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission 4.2 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 12 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Different Loving is a wonderful book for those who are new to the scene and wish to know more about it in a no-nonsense environment. The authors have a sense of humor, but they know what is serious. It appears to cover every area of play and every type of relationship in a way that anyone could understand. If there were a college course on BDSM, this should be the text book.
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Very informative, well written.
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Excellent non-fiction introduction to those past the 'vanilla' stage. An anthropological perspective.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
For both the curious and the genuinely interested 'Different Loving' provides the reader with a broad overview of what we kinksters do and why we do it. Even those already well established in the lifestyle might still learn a thing or two. The interviews are honest and intimate, while the explanations of the various activities are delivered straight and to the point. If you or someone you know is into kink then this is a must for your library
Guest More than 1 year ago
For the curious and the novice ready to enter this 'scene' this book offers a balanced examination of the wide ranging behavior that falls under the category of Dominance and Submission. One of the strengths of this book is the wide variety of people represented in the interview sections of the text. These are articulate, thoughtful and insightful explorations into the reasons why this has become such an integral expression of their sexuality. This offering shatters many of the prevalent myths about this community.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Welcome to the world of Domination and Submission. This book has proven to be a through guide into the minds, hearts and bodies of those that practice the art of S&M. The writers have managed to demystify some of the taboos surrounding the subject matter by including first hand interviews from the men and women that love this lifestyle and the reason they do. If your looking to understand and or comprehend this alternative lifestyle I think you will find this book an interesting introduction.