Publishers Weekly
★ 05/29/2023
Journalist Stankorb debuts with an intimate and engrossing look at how a small number of evangelical women have engaged in an “online battle” with the American evangelical church, challenging the rigid gender roles favored by ultraconservative church leaders. Drawing on candid interviews with her subjects, Stankorb profiles Vyckie Garrison, a former member of the Quiverfull pro-life ministry, who launched the No Longer Quivering blog as a resource for women seeking to disengage from ultraconservative branches of the church; Ashley Easter, founder of stayathomedaughter.com, a website that promoted the doctrine of female submission (including the idea that daughters should stay at home until marriage) until Easter discovered the benefits of “an equitable relationship”; and the members of Recovering Grace, a website launched in 2011 to help young women abused by Pastor Bill Gothard, head of the nonprofit Institute of Basic Life Principles, who resigned under a cloud of suspicion in 2014. By sifting through the history of these blogs and websites, Stankorb sheds fascinating light on the process of deprogramming from extremist religion. Weaving in her own faith journey as the child of an abusive alcoholic father, Stankorb delivers a compassionate portrait of pain and perseverance. (Aug.)
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Journalist Stankorb debuts with an intimate and engrossing look at how a small number of evangelical women have engaged in an "Online battle" with the American evangelical church, challenging the rigid gender roles favored by ultraconservative church leaders… Sheds fascinating light on the process of deprogramming from extremist religion. Weaving in her own faith journey as the child of an abusive alcoholic father, Stankorb delivers a compassionate portrait of pain and perseverance.”
—Publishers Weekly (starred review)
"A long overdue expose of how girls and women have been the victims of institutionally protected abuse by all too many previously unaccountable leaders within the Evangelical Christian community in America... highly recommended."—Midwest Book Review
“Filled with accounts of survivors who exposed the shocking patterns of abuse plaguing conservative Christian churches, Disobedient Women centers the voices of women who spoke truth to power and forced an evangelical reckoning. A moving testament to the courage and resilience of women who refused to stay silent.” —Kristin Kobes du Mez, author of Jesus and John Wayne
“With meticulous reporting and deft writing, journalist Sarah Stankorb tells the story of women who despite great odds and opposition stood up to the Christian leaders and system that abused them and told them they were worthless unless they obeyed… In between the stories of survivors, Stankorb tells the story of the unraveling of her own faith and her own struggles to escape the pain of her family’s past and find a way forward.”
—Bob Smeitana, author of Reorganized Religion
“A book full of devastating honesty, active empathy, and a desire to bring what is holy and abject to light at the same time… As a seasoned reporter, she writes with candor and grace. Stankorb’s is a mature voice, but one that hasn’t lost its sense of urgency or care. The result is a work that will open readers’ eyes to the devastating effects such abuse can have on women, and hope that the more things change . . . the more they might be different next time.” —Brad Onishi, author of Preparing for War and co-host of Straight White American Jesus
“For much of its history white evangelicalism thrived on identifying threats external to the church which served to mobilize those in the pews toward greater devotion. By elevating the brave voices of those who were sexually abused by church leaders and then ignored and abandoned, Sarah Stankorb demonstrates that one of the greatest threats to evangelical witness actually came from within. If there is a future for white evangelicalism, it must include a deep reckoning with the savage destruction caused by abuse. This story is far from over and this book is an ideal place to start the journey.” —Andrew Whitehead, author of Taking America Back for God
"Sarah Stankorb writes with extreme empathy about generations of women who grew up in the church and are finding a way out... unwinding a mental landscape of power and sexuality that informed their entire selves. It takes incredible strength to do this, and Stankorb deeply understands each woman’s journey." —Michelle Legro, editor at WIRED
"Sarah Stankorb takes readers through the ugliest sins and broken places of modern American Christianity, and reminds us that our country’s best heroes are those whose voices were silenced for far too long. In Disobedient Women, you won’t be spared the hard truth about religion - but you’ll also find women in whom to place your trust."
—Angela Denker, pastor and author of Red State Christians
Kirkus Reviews
2023-06-01
An exploration of the vast array of online communities “questioning some of the impacts of evangelicalism’s ascendant effects.”
In her wide-ranging debut, journalist Stankorb chronicles the many ways in which American women raised as evangelicals have used the internet as a tool to expose examples of sexual abuse and other deep-seated problems in the churches in which they grew up. Examining blogs written primarily in the 1990s, the author crafts a “snapshot in time” of how the newly powerful internet allowed people—particularly women—who were otherwise isolated and often nearly powerless to reach others who shared their experiences to unite and reveal problems within evangelical churches. Prominent in the narrative, which relies on extensive interviews with those who call themselves “exvangelicals,” are stories of abuse by youth pastors in Southern Baptist churches around the country as well as the influential Maryland megachurch the Covenant Life Church. As horrifying as the abuse are the accounts of its systematic coverup and attempts to shame those who eventually dared to report abuse. Many of Stankorb's subjects grew up in a world of purity rings, restrictive home schooling, and “stay at home daughterhood,” where they were expected to follow orders from the men in their life even after reaching adulthood. This makes their choices to speak out even more striking. Stankorb unevenly weaves in stories of her own life, growing up in a mildly religious family headed by an alcoholic and sometimes abusive father. While she effectively recounts the individual struggles within particular churches, she is less successful with broader themes. The narrative occasionally becomes mired in anecdotes about the many people she interviewed and the infighting among the members of the movements that grew up in opposition to evangelical churches. Still, the author’s message is worth hearing.
A provocative yet unfocused glimpse into resistance to predators hiding behind religion.