Divorce Poison New and Updated Edition: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing [NOOK Book]

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Your ex-spouse is bad mouthing you to your children, constantly portraying you in a negative light, perhaps even trying to turn them against you. If you handle the situation ineffectively, your relationship with your children could suffer. You could lose their respect, lose their affections-even, in extreme cases, lose all contact with them. The conventional advice is to do nothing, that fighting fire with fire will only result in greater injury to the children. But after years of consulting parents who heeded ...

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Overview

Your ex-spouse is bad mouthing you to your children, constantly portraying you in a negative light, perhaps even trying to turn them against you. If you handle the situation ineffectively, your relationship with your children could suffer. You could lose their respect, lose their affections-even, in extreme cases, lose all contact with them. The conventional advice is to do nothing, that fighting fire with fire will only result in greater injury to the children. But after years of consulting parents who heeded such advice with no success, Dr. Richard Warshak is convinced that this approach is wrong. It doesn't work, and parents are left feeling helpless and hopeless. DIVORCE POISON instead offers a blueprint for effective response. In it, you will learn how to distinguish different types of criticism, how and why parents manipulate their children, how to detect these maneuvers, and how these practices damage children. Most importantly, you'll discover powerful strategies to preserve and rebuild loving relationships with your children.

DIVORCE POISON is a time-tested work that gives parents powerful strategies to preserve and rebuild loving relationships with their children-and provides practical advice from legal and mental-health professionals to help their clients and safeguard the welfare of children. Whether they are perpetrators of divorce poison, victims of it, or both, parents who heed Dr. Warshak's advice will enable their children to maintain love and respect for their parents-even if their parents no longer love and respect each other.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780062114525
  • Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
  • Publication date: 7/12/2011
  • Sold by: HARPERCOLLINS
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 352
  • Sales rank: 84,994
  • File size: 521 KB

Meet the Author

Dr. Richard A. Warshak is a clinical professor of psychology at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center in Dallas. An international authority and consultant to parents and attorneys on divorce and parental alienation, Dr. Warshak has spoken at the White House, and his work has been featured in a PBS documentary and in media including The Early Show, Today, CNN, CTV, the New York Times, USA Today, Macleans, the London Sunday Telegraph, the Toronto Star, and Time.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 23, 2008

    Don't think this can't happen to you!

    This is a fabulous book. I have lived this for the last 3 years. It can and DOES happen. I believe all judges dealing with custody cases need to read this as they must be informed about parental bashing and brainwashing.

    4 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 18, 2013

    This is a must ready for anyone going through a divorce.

    I thought I was all alone dealing with an ex that can't comprehend his hatefulness toward me and how it affects the kids. This book gave me tools and knowledge to handle the situations that come up. It's a difficult subject and even more difficult to deal with but at least I know I'm not alone and the "poison" is real.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted January 4, 2013

    Excellent

    Great information for anyone affected by this horrible situation. I also highly recommend the related video, "Welcome Back Pluto".

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted May 7, 2010

    A Must For Anyone going through divorce that has children

    I was turned on to this book after being divorced for 11 yrs and I wish I really would have known about it at the time. It is a great book and I think anything that can give you insight as to how to take care of your children in a responsible way is good. If you by this book you will not regret it. I am not even a third of the way through it and I have learned alot...

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 12, 2008

    Eye Opening About an Ugly Reality

    Parental Alienation has happened to me too, and NO I was not an abusive father, but a hard-working, supportive, loving, caring and pro-feminism father. This book opened my eyes as to what was happening with my children after divorce. I learned why any effort to keep in touch with my children was seen as threatening intrussion by their mother, and why the relationship with my children was destroyed. Many will attack this book because of political reasons, without realizing that both men and women are now victims to this tragedy. If you are a parent who has lost contact with your children, this book is a MUST READ. It will let you know what is happening and how to cope with it. Once you have bought it, and I hope for the sake of your own sanity you do, WRITE A REVIEW for others to know that this ugly truth DOES HAPPEN, to MEN and WOMEN.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 7, 2002

    definantly worth a read, for parents or kids

    This book was excelent, it helped me get through a lot of probs i was having with my parents, specialy my dad. All in all i think i have become a better person since reading it!

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted October 10, 2011

    A Target Mother's Review - This book can heal heartache

    "Thank you so much for your book. I feel like I owe you so much more than the little I paid for your book. I am confident that by using the tools you present in your book, I will be able to rebuild my relationship with my little girl. It never ever made sense to me why my little girl would be so upset and terrified at the thought of coming with me, yet my other children have very good relationships with me, as does every other child I have in my life. Now, thanks to you, my heart will not be broken into pieces when she expresses fear and hatred towards me. I will understand what is happening, and I will have the tools to counteract it."

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 17, 2011

    Awesome read

    This book has given me more insight and understanding about what my ex has done and is still doing w our teenage son. The advice is helpful and has given me back some hope re a healthy relationship w our son. I highly recomend this book for anyone going thru a divorce w children.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 20, 2002

    Moms, this can happen to you too.

    If I had this book seven years ago, I would have been able to save my relationship with my daughter. This book is a very real picture of what happens to children when an ex decides to manipulate children for his own selfish motives, with absolutely no regard for what will happen to the children after the alienation is complete.An absolute must read for parents who are divorcing,or have divorced.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 12, 2014

    Would you have your daughter learn proper dating etiquette from

    Would you have your daughter learn proper dating etiquette from Ted Bundy? (Reading or buying or supporting this book is the equivalent, taking advise from a INTENSE, horrific, court-mandated abuser of children and their protective parent, putting them back in the hands of their abusing parent.) If your child has swollen lymph nodes, does he have tonsillitis, or is it AIDS? According to many custody evaluators and psychologists, your child has AIDS, not just tonsillitis or a sinus infection. Psychology is NOT a SCIENCE, and is therefore not finding of fact or anything to do with due process rights of law, but nonetheless, family courts over and over rely on social scientists and 'experts (who have an incredible, wealthy cottage industry making money ofF the perpetuation of emotional, physical and even sexual abuse of children in custody battles). America has gone from father's not having adequate access to their own children after divorce (1970s), to to Sodom and Gomorrah family custody battles. Research shows sane loving parents avoid custody battles, put their children's needs first. But tons of research also shows that most couples caught up in custody battles are there because of an abusive spouse, and research also shows that these parents 'pushing' the expensive protracted fights (financially, emotionally, mentally, physcially, even vocationally costly) over children are controlling abusers (emotional, physical, sexual, a combination thereof) and that these abusers make emotionally neglectful and emotionally abusive parents in the best cases, and the MAJORITY (studies range from some 60-80 percent) are PHYSICALLY abusive of their own children, most of the perpetrators being FATHERS. Now, here is where it gets 'interesting with Warshak. I'll quote lines from HIS OWN bio at [...] The author admits multiple times in his own bio that Dr. Richard Gardner highly influenced his psychological views early on, that influence gets even stronger, that he attends workshops by Dr. Gardner and that in the end he seems to consider him (never mentions another psychologist with such strong terms) a colleague. Dr. Richard Gardner was a staunch supporter of PEDOPHILIA, and started the whole parental alienation crap because he wanted to 'defend' fathers who had sexually assaulted their own children again the true claims of the protective mother/parent. Here are some direct quotes from Garnder in his own publications. (One should also note that Gardner always self-published; even psychologist, who don't use the scientific method, wouldn't even publish his 'work' of lies, propoganda for a deviant abusive lifestyle.) Here is Gardner (Warshak's, the author of this book, MENTOR): “The child should be able to pity the father for the curse (in our society) of having pedophilic tendencies. In other times and other places, he would be considered normal.”

    --RICHARD A. GARDNER, TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEX ABUSE 592 (1992).

    Older children may be helped to appreciate that sexual encounters between an adult and a child are not universally considered to be reprehensible acts. The child might be told about other societies in which such behavior was and is considered normal. The child might be helped to appreciate the wisdom of Shakespeare’s Hamlet, who said, “Nothing’s either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”

    --Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics.(p. 59)

    --Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics.(p. 537)
    The child should be told that there is no such thing as a perfect parent. “The sexual exploitation has to be put on the negative list, but positives as well must be appreciated”

    What the freak? Yes, this is REAL folks. Happy to find out that parental alieanation was invented by a pedophile lover? It was, and thank God quack Richard Gardner (won't call him a Dr.) is dead and in hell. And his protege is, nontheless, the author of this book of poison, all wrapped up in pretty paper for you to buy into the lies and horrid things this man is personally responsible for causing more abuse on children all over this country. Go back and read the link this author (Warshak) writes on his own and how many times he mentions the influence of Gardner, and how he mentions Gardner as the only one with such positive words and the only one he mentions as a 'colleague'.

    Every year in the good ole USA, 600, 000 kids are given over by the courts to the custody of their abusive parent (often SOLE custody, which excludes the only safety, the protective parent, from their life. This is largely due to the introduction of 'psychology' as a valid method of fact finding to make reommendations to the court, and also due to the court's ignorance of many things like how abused protective parents appear in court (while the abused parent appears calm and 'nice').

    The culmination of Dr. Warshak's training and psychological views (largely inculcated by a 'raping your own child is acceptable' quack, who thank God is dead (Dr. Richard Gardner) has now been the promulgation of court-mandated large scale (and VERY profittable) abuse of children in his FAMILY BRIDGES 'brainwashing internment camps' he runs at $20K per person. Yes, that's right, if the abuser can pay the psychologist enough money ($20K or more for a custody evaluation), then the psychologist, ignoring fact finding, will reommend that the abusive parent and the children (at $20,000 per person) attend the residential program, even if coercion (against the protective parent, even if it includes jail) or physical force be used against the kids, to attend it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Human rights violation in America, probably the worst violation against children going on in the past 2-3 decades and all because of an 'over-educated' incestuous pervert and his protege. Do not buy this book, do not support a man who has caused uncalculated harm to abused children and their protective parents. Spread the word and expose him for what he is: a conduit (and often direct through his program and court recommendations to overturn custody to the abusive parent) abuser of children on a HUGE scale.

    1 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 22, 2014

    Brainwashed and ***** part 11 *COLE*

    Cole layed there on his bed, beaten and tired. He had many brusies on his legs, stomach, sides, head and face. He barley noticed elisa comeing in with a red leash in her hand. She hooked the leash onto the collar and hualed him to his knees. He shook his head and looked at her. Elisa's words made his head clear. "Reba is here to visit." Elisa unlocked the ankle chain and led him to another room down the fall. Cole kept walking untill his collar tugged, hhalting him. He looked up to see reba, in a cage bleeding, laying there. Cole stared in horror. "Reba? Reba!!!" He tried to get to her but the collar just tightened. Cole sank to his knees. "She's dead isnt she." Elisa put a hand on his shoulder. "You left me no choice. You disobeyed one to many times. And unless you want your brother to join you, i sugest to straighten your act little one." Cole kept stareing at the cage, tears blurring his vision. Elisa put a hand under his chin, haveing cole face her. Cole sniffed and tears streaked his face. Cole did nothing as she dabbed them away with a tissue. <p> elisa put the cloth away and led cole back to his room, leaveing him alone. Once she had left, cole broke into tears and buried his face in the pillow. He could not—would not, let her take caden. He sniffed and eventully fell asleep.<p> to be continued.

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