The Divorced Child: Strengthening Your Family Through the First Three Years of Separation

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Divorce is a reality of today?s family life, but clinical research has shown that it is possible to mitigate its negative effects on children. Dr. Joseph Nowinski, a family therapist with over 20 years of experience treating families, argues that there is a three-year window in which to acclimate children to the change in family life. Combining case studies with new research, Dr. Nowinski gives parents the information and the tools to work through the transition. Written in a warm and authoritative tone, Nowinski...

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Overview

Divorce is a reality of today’s family life, but clinical research has shown that it is possible to mitigate its negative effects on children. Dr. Joseph Nowinski, a family therapist with over 20 years of experience treating families, argues that there is a three-year window in which to acclimate children to the change in family life. Combining case studies with new research, Dr. Nowinski gives parents the information and the tools to work through the transition. Written in a warm and authoritative tone, Nowinski will teach parents to:

· Focus on your child’s new day-to-day reality

· Identify early signs of trouble

· Help your child through the separation process and help them develop coping skills that will remain with them through life

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“A wonderfully insightful and eye-opening guide to help you discover your true self, making lasting changes, and create a solid vision for your future.” – Barry Neil Kaufman, author of the bestselling Happiness is a Choice

“Dr. Nowinski provides step-by-step guidance that helps divorcing parents achieve their ultimate goal: doing what's best for the children. Through anecdotes and his formidable expertise, he gives detailed support for the spectrum of issues and developmental stages that children experience during this transition and beyond. Parents facing divorce who are struggling to do what's right by their kids will definitely want Dr. Nowinski in their corner.”—Andrea Bonior, Ph.D., "Baggage Check" mental health columnist, Washington Post Express

The Divorced Child is a plain speaking, insightful book that gives parents who are contemplating divorce a road map ahead. While the book focuses on the child of divorce, it also serves to navigate for the parents. The helpful anecdotes from Dr. Nowinski’s practice give a realistic and practical flavor to his counsel. He wisely approaches advice for the child according to his developmental stage. While no family wants to need such a book, if divorce lies ahead, consider using this book as a guide to your future parenting.”—Victoria McEvoy, M.D., Medical Director and Chief of Pediatrics at Mass General West Medical Group and Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at Harvard Medical School

“I can't wait to give this book to the divorcing and divorced families with whom I work! It is down-to-earth, practical and yet integrated with the author's knowledge of child and family developmental issues and tasks. The incorporation of real case illustrations will make this unique book invaluable to readers - both lay and professional. Dr. Nowinski is an excellent writer who is able to apply his vast clinical experience to help families through the complex process of separation and divorce.”—Barbara F. Okun, Ph.D., Northeastern University and Harvard Medical School She is the author of the highly successful Effective Helping: Interviewing and Counseling Techniques

Praise for 6 Questions That Can Change Your Life:

"Dr. Nowinski has created a wonderfully insightful and eye-opening guide to help you discover your true self, make lasting changes, and create a solid vision for your future." —Barry Neil Kaufman, founder/director of The Option Institute and author of Happiness Is a Choice

"A timely, compassionate, and compelling book. Dr. Nowinski shows us how to rethink who we are, discover what's truly important to us, and empower ourselves to grow into the people we're meant to be. The real-life stories of men and women who have found fulfillment and happiness offer us both hope and inspiration." —Bob Griffiths, author of Do What You Love for the Rest of Your Life

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780230617728
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Press
  • Publication date: 1/5/2010
  • Pages: 240
  • Sales rank: 783,912
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.20 (h) x 0.70 (d)

Meet the Author

Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D., is a psychologist and family therapist. Currently the Supervising Psychologist at the University of Connecticut Health Center, he lectures frequently at the Hazeldon Foundation, and the University of Mexico Medical School. He is the author of The Identity Trap: Saving Our Teens from Themselves and 6 Questions That Can Change Your Life. Winner of the Nautilus award. He lives in Connecticut.

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Table of Contents

Introduction: The Three Crucial Years: What Parents Need to Know about Children and Divorce 1

Part 1 Child-Centered Divorce

Chapter 1 The Divorced Family 11

Chapter 2 Talking to Children about Divorce 15

Chapter 3 Relocating 21

Chapter 4 Shared Parenting: The New Look in Child Custody 27

Chapter 5 New Beginnings 33

Part 2 Understanding Yourself: How to Be Part of the Solution and not Part of the Problem

Chapter 6 How "Resilient" Are You? 43

Chapter 7 Your Emotional Health and Your Child 51

Chapter 8 How Balanced is Your Lifestyle? 57

Chapter 9 Healthy versus Unhealthy Ways of Relieving Your Stress 61

Part 3 The Three Crucial Years: Ages One to Five

Chapter 10 Separation and Attachment 69

Chapter 11 The Need for Exploration 83

Chapter 12 Divorce and Insecurity 91

Chapter 13 Building and Maintaining a Support Network 105

Part 4 The Three Crucial Years: Ages Six to Eleven

Chapter 14 Guiding your Child toward Healthy Peer Groups 115

Chapter 15 The Importance of Structure, Predictability, and Routine 127

Chapter 16 Direction and Discipline 133

Chapter 17 Tantrums and Oppositional Behavior 145

Chapter 18 School and Social Phobias 151

Chapter 19 Guarding against Academic Failure 157

Chapter 20 Alcohol and Drugs 165

Part 5 The Three Crucial Years: Ages Twelve to Eighteen

Chapter 21 Understanding Identity 175

Chapter 22 Helping Teens Answer the Question: Who Am I? 183

Chapter 23 Helping Teens Answer the Question: What Do I Stand for? 193

Chapter 24 Helping Teens Answer the Question: Where Am I Going? 199

Conclusion 211

Chapter Notes 213

About the Author 225

Index 227

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