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?Life is relationships; the rest is just details.? We are designed for relationships, yet they often bring us pain. In this paradigm-shifting book, Dr. Gary Smalley unravels the DNA of relationships: We are made for three great relationships?with God, others, and ourselves?and all relationships involve choice. Gary exposes a destructive relationship dance that characterizes nearly every relationship conflict, and he offers five new dance steps that will revolutionize relationships. The DNA of Relationships, the cornerstone book in Gary Smalley's
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“Life is relationships; the rest is just details.” We are designed for relationships, yet they often bring us pain. In this paradigm-shifting book, Dr. Gary Smalley unravels the DNA of relationships: We are made for three great relationships—with God, others, and ourselves—and all relationships involve choice. Gary exposes a destructive relationship dance that characterizes nearly every relationship conflict, and he offers five new dance steps that will revolutionize relationships. The DNA of Relationships, the cornerstone book in Gary Smalley's relationship campaign, will help you learn to take personal responsibility, create a safe environment, keep their battery charged, listen with the heart, and adopt a no-losers policy. It will revolutionize your marriage, family, friendships, and work relationships! Tyndale House Publishers
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"Everything in life that truly matters," insists Dr. Gary Smalley, "can be boiled down to relationships." His book The DNA of Relationships approaches common communication problems with a winning simplicity. He describes three types of human relationships and explains how you and your relationship partners can overcome roadblocks caused by faulty values, conflicting needs, and competing communication styles. In addition to romantic ties, Smalley also offers advice on relationships with friends, children, co-workers, and neighbors.
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  • ISBN-13: 9780842355322
  • Publisher: Tyndale House Publishers
  • Publication date: 10/1/2007
  • Edition description: Reprint
  • Pages: 232
  • Sales rank: 153,458
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.70 (d)

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Chris Fabry is a writer and the voice on daily radio broadcasts hosted by Dr. Adrian Rogers and evangelist Luis Palau. Chris is the author of numerous books and has collaborated on the best-selling Left Behind The Kids series. He and his wife, Andrea, have nine children and live in Colorado.
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The DNA of Relationships


By Gary Smalley

Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.

Copyright © 2004 Smalley Publishing Group LLC
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-8423-5530-8

Contents

Acknowledgments.......................................................xi PART ONE: THE FIRST STEP 1. A Relationship Revolution..........................................3 2. The DNA of Relationships...........................................17 3. The Dance That Destroys Relationships..............................39 PART TWO: NEW DANCE STEPS 4. The Power of One: Take Personal Responsibility.....................63 5. Safety: Create a Safe Environment..................................89 6. Self-Care: Keep Your Battery Charged...............................111 7. Emotional Communication: Listen with the Heart.....................131 8. Teamwork: Adopt a No-Losers Policy.................................153 PART THREE: THE NEXT STEP 9. What We Can Change.................................................173 10. You Can Make a Difference.........................................185 Appendix A: How to Have a Relationship with God.......................193 Appendix B: Identify Your Core Fear...................................197 Appendix C: Relationship Resources....................................205 Notes.................................................................207 About the Smalley Relationship Center.................................211About the Smalley Marriage Institute..................................213 About the Authors.....................................................215

Chapter One

A RELATIONSHIP REVOLUTION

LIFE I S RELATIONSHIPS; THE REST I S JUST DETAILS.

THIS I S THE GREATEST TRUTH.

EVERYTHING IN LIFE THAT TRULY MATTERS CAN BE BOILED DOWN TO RELATIONSHIPS.

Almost everything we do touches a relationship in some way. Just think about your day. Whether you're at home or at work, driving your car, playing, exercising, shopping, vacationing, worshipping at church, or doing any one of the many activities you and I do everyday, we are constantly involved with people. We even interact with people in our sleep. There is no escaping relationships.

That is why for the past thirty-five years, I have felt passionate about helping couples, families, and individuals to strengthen, deepen, and enrich their most important relationships. That is what God has called me to do.

In this quest to improve relationships, I am always searching for what works and identifying what doesn't work. I love to take relationship theories, apply them to my own relationships, and see if they work for me personally. It makes no difference to me if I make the discovery on my own or if the new relationship idea comes from someone else. I'm always hunting.

So for three and a half decades I have traveled all over the world, delivering my message about how to improve relationships. Everywhere I go, I meet people who tell me that one of my conferences or one of my videos or books has helped save their marriage or improve their friendships or reconnect with family members. I feel deeply humbled and grateful for each of these encouraging reports.

Yet I also frequently hear something not quite so thrilling. Many people take me aside to say, "I watched your videos-but I lost my marriage." Or, "I read your book-but my wife still left me." Or, "I tried your material-but things just didn't work out." Whenever I hear stories like these, a deep sadness fills my heart. I know my message has helped a lot of people, but I also know it hasn't helped everyone. That's why I'm constantly on the lookout for anything that really works for the vast majority of people I meet.

A Revolutionary Discovery

Two years ago, while searching for information to improve relationships, I made what I now believe is the greatest discovery of my lifetime. Interestingly, it happened right under my nose, in my own backyard. It came from my son Greg's marriage counseling and research center, now called the Smalley Marriage Institute.

Soon after Greg earned his doctorate in psychology, he began assembling a team of professional counselors, including Bob Paul, Dr. Scott Sticksel, Dr. Peter Larson, Dr. Robert Burbee, Dr. Shawn Stoever, and Dr. Brett Sparks. Almost immediately they started hearing reports, both encouraging and challenging, about my ministry. People told them that they loved the books and videos and conferences I had done-but many said they needed more. They needed someone to come alongside them, to get "life-on-life" with them, and to help them put our material into practice.

Greg, Bob, and their highly trained relationship experts began doing what they call "marriage intensives," where couples on the brink of divorce come for two or four days of intensive work on their relationships. While I wholeheartedly endorsed the efforts of Greg, Bob and the team, at that point I didn't get deeply involved. I left them alone to do their good work.

But when their research team recently finished its first five-year study of the couples who came for the intensives, the results were staggering. The team found that 93 percent of the couples are still together-and thriving in solid, healthy relationships! Take a moment to digest that amazing number: That's a success rate of better than nine in ten! When highly distressed couples learned and applied the material you're about to read, 93 percent of them not only managed to keep their marriages intact but also have reported much higher satisfaction with their relationships!

After hearing such glowing accounts, I finally decided that I had to find out for myself what was going on. The team penciled me in to take part in both a four-day intensive and a two-day intensive. What I saw was amazing. I haven't been the same since.

As the intensives began, I observed angry couples who couldn't even stand to look at each other. They refused to hold hands. Many clearly didn't even want to be there. Tears flowed freely from both the men and the women. I heard wrenching details of illicit affairs and habitual cheating, of serious financial problems, of fierce arguments and violent shouting matches.

Let me share the story of one couple to illustrate what I mean. Jim and Mary had already decided to give up on their marriage. After fifteen years together and three children, the couple came to the marriage intensive as a final attempt to salvage their marriage. I heard Jim say that if the marriage intensive didn't change things, he was going to file for divorce the following week. He thought that this week would be a total waste of his time.

To me their situation seemed impossible. I wondered if they had any chance at all. They sat glaring at each other, hostility and tension written all over them.

The first years of their marriage had been reasonably good, but as Jim became increasingly involved in work and Mary became focused on the kids, their relationship began to spiral into worsening emotional distance, combined with periodic angry outbursts toward one another. Mary felt Jim abandoned her, and she did everything she could to get him to talk about their problems and to work with her to make their marriage and family better. In response to Mary's pursuit, Jim grew cold, and at the time they entered the intensive, he admitted that he had lost all feelings of love toward Mary. He talked about being so tired of her trying to control his every movement and to manipulate him to do the marriage her way. Over the years they had sought help from several marriage counselors and a pastor, but nothing seemed to make any lasting difference.

The final straw was when Mary discovered that Jim was having an affair with a coworker. Mary felt completely devastated and deeply betrayed. The pain of losing her husband to another woman felt like the death of a loved one. She felt totally alone. But most of all, she felt helpless to keep Jim from this other woman. Mary had seriously considered ending the marriage, but her faith in God and her concern for her children caused her to look for an alternative. She was unsure if she could ever forgive Jim and wondered if she could ever trust him again.

Jim felt just as confused and distraught. His love for his wife was such a distant memory that he seriously doubted whether he could ever love her again. Worst of all, he questioned whether he even wanted to try. The only reason he came to the intensive was concern for his children and a desire to be able to say that he had tried "everything" to save the marriage. Neither Jim nor Mary was overly motivated to make things work.

Before they left for the intensive, their thirteen-year-old daughter, Sandra, had left a note for them:

Dear Mom and Dad, I don't know how God will solve this, but I just can't imagine my parents divorcing and our family breaking apart. Thank you for trying. Yet, I feel like a young puppy left outside in the cold with no shelter. It feels like it's getting colder and colder each night, and winter will soon be here. The other dogs tell me that I won't believe how cold it will get. I know the snow is coming, and I feel so helpless to find a way to keep warm. I'm so scared that I'll freeze to death before it's over. It's such a terrible feeling to be alone and to feel like no one understands what I'm going through. My friends have explained the pain I'll feel once you divorce, and it scares me. I feel so helpless, like I'm just sitting in my room waiting for the ice storm to hit. Each day is longer and longer, and it feels darker and darker. I'm sick inside all of the time. Please keep trying! Sandra

Before the intensive begins, the team asks each couple, "Do you believe that God could do a miracle in your marriage and provide a way for you not only to stay together but actually to fall back in love the way you once were?" During the four-day intensive, both Jim and Mary had a series of miraculous encounters that totally surprised them. They began to understand the powerful truths I will unpack for you throughout this book. As they worked through the various steps I'll share with you, they felt a deep sense of compassion and care for the other. They hadn't felt this way toward one another for a long time. They also became aware of several significant beliefs that had led to frustration and failure. At one point Jim said, "No wonder our marriage has felt impossible for so long." And Mary asked with exasperation, "Why hasn't anyone ever told us about this before?"

By the end of the four days, they both recognized they had a challenging road ahead, but they each felt tremendous hope for the future of their marriage and their family. Jim's heart began opening to his wife, and he was overwhelmed with gratitude toward God. Mary was thrilled with a new understanding of herself, and of Jim and their marriage. She felt the new knowledge and key skills were exactly what they needed to create a satisfying and safe marriage that both could be thrilled with. Like most couples who attend one of these intensives, after the third day, Jim and Mary were seen holding hands on the way to dinner.

When Jim and Mary arrived home, they sat down with their children. Jim began, "Kids, we have good news and some bad news. The bad news is that your mom and I will need more prayer and help with our relationship. The good news is that we are staying together. We believe with God's help and the things we learned in the intensive that we can make it. We want this for us and for you. We love you and want to stay together as a family."

Instantly, Sandra jumped into their arms. With tears running down her checks, her words were powerful, "Thanks for getting me out of the cold and letting me back into the warm house. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you!"

The astounding turnaround just floored me. I'm in my early sixties, and this new discovery not only has changed me but also has taken me to a whole new level of understanding how to enjoy my important relationships. What Greg's team has taught me these past few years has empowered me to determine how happy I am with each relationship, no matter what others are doing. I get to choose how fulfilled I am and that other people can't rob me of my being full. When you finish this book, you'll understand why I'm so excited about this new way of living.

Can you imagine my joy as I saw dozens of couples stabilize their relationships? And it made me wonder: What is the secret to these miraculous turnarounds?

A Definable Pattern

As Greg, Bob, and the team began to chronicle and analyze their experience with the intensives, an unexpected fact surprised everyone: The negative behavior that hurt the relationship of every couple resulted from an easy-to-identify, recurring pattern. None of these men and women realized that their spouses had been doing and saying things that prompted this vicious cycle to kick in, but whenever it happened, they stepped right into their own place in the pattern, injuring the relationship. Every time this hurtful pattern of behavior went into motion, it did so in consistent, predictable ways-ways that could be graphically charted out on a whiteboard.

It seemed almost as if these men and women were saying, "My spouse is making me feel disrespected or belittled. I feel like I'm a failure, or I feel abnormal. Since I don't like these feelings, I have to do something to get my partner to stop." So what did they do? They immediately fell into the well-worn ruts of their hurtful pattern, triggering round after round of the same sad cycle. Without even realizing what was happening, these sparring partners would begin a destructive dance.

Learning New Dance Steps

After the team helped these distressed couples understand how their destructive dance was destroying their marriages, they helped them to break the rhythm of that dance and learn new dance steps that would restore their relationships and renew their love for one another. Sounds like a tall order, doesn't it? Yet the team consistently filled that order.

How? What on earth did they do to manage such a tremendous feat? They taught these men and women three things:

the DNA of relationships the pattern of their unique relationship dance five effective dance steps for building healthy relationships

By committing themselves to learning and practicing these principles and steps, these couples not only rediscovered their passion for one another but also learned how to build a fulfilling relationship, which had seemed frustratingly out of reach before.

Now, let's get real honest. Does it sound doubtful to you that couples even on the brink of divorce could, in a matter of days, do a 180- degree turnaround and start enjoying the marriage they always wanted? Does it seem far-fetched that by understanding and applying a few key concepts, sour relationships can turn sweet and anger can give way to joy? I used to think so. But then I saw with my own eyes what can happen when God steps in and lends his infinite power to the remarkable plan for relationship success that we want to share with you. Let me share another "impossible" story that proves miracles really can-and do-happen!

Bob Paul, one of the main creators of this new material, is married to Jenni. Both of them would tell you that the first several years of their marriage were anything but satisfying. Bob's constant demands and insensitive instructions about how she ought to meet his needs led to almost daily fights. She grew to hate him. In total disgust she shut him out of her emotional, spiritual, and physical life and once even told him, "The thought of ever making love to you again makes me feel like I'm going to vomit." If any relationship seemed impossible to save, this was it. However, many of the insights described in this book are a result of Bob's long journey as he allowed God to change him and completely transform his marriage. The process has dramatically influenced the way he works with people. Bob and Jenni have now passed their twenty-third anniversary, and they've reached that milestone as a happy, contented couple, delighted to be together and thrilled with their marriage.

Sound impossible? It's really not. We're going to show you how to become part of this relationship revolution. This book will open the door to miracles in your own relationships. It fascinated me to hear Bob say to the couples that visited our counseling center, "I don't know how God is going to do this, but I've experienced a miracle in my own marriage and get to witness miracles occurring in other marriages almost every week of my life. A miracle really can take place in your relationship."

We're going to show you in this book how to experience that kind of miracle. In fact, let me offer you a guarantee: The powerful principles and techniques that you're about to learn can help to revolutionize your relationships and turn them into something deeply satisfying and even thrilling.

And you know what? It's easier than you think.

A Pattern for All Relationships

The exciting concepts and methods hammered out in our marriage intensives apply to all relationships, not merely to marriage. I made this discovery for myself as I saw major improvements taking place in my own home and with friends.

After seeing the results of the patterns that Greg and Bob's team had discovered, I started thinking, Wait a minute! If this material has so effectively helped me to handle my conflicts with Norma, maybe it can also help to explain why I lost some key friendships back in the seventies and eighties. I was closer than a brother to several men, and yet we fell out of fellowship and into terrible disharmony.

Dreadful memories flooded my mind, painful memories full of sadness and regret and grief. I thought of two men in particular, once dear and close friends, but from whom I had so totally disconnected that we no longer even spoke with one another. Here I was, a respected marriage and family "expert," and yet I couldn't even get along with men whom I once counted as my closest friends! The thought deeply embarrassed and troubled me.

(Continues...)



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All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
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Table of Contents


Acknowledgments     xiii
The First Step
A Relationship Revolution     3
The Dance That Destroys Relationships     17
New Dance Steps
The Power of One: Take Personal Responsibility     41
Safety: Create a Safe Environment     67
Self-Care: Keep Your Battery Charged     89
Emotional Communication: Listen with the Heart     109
Teamwork: Adopt a No-Losers Policy     131
The Next Step
What We Can Change     151
You Can Make a Difference     163
How to Have a Relationship with God     171
Identify Your Core Fear     173
Study Guide     181
Notes     205
About the Authors     209
About the Smalley Relationship Center     211
About the National Institute of Marriage     212
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  • Posted February 23, 2009

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    Great book - it is useful in both personal and business situations. This book caused to me to rethink "why and how" some relationships are so positive and potentially identify what's going on in my non-positive relationships.

    This book provides a process to understand what were the original drivers of most of my key relationships and an analysis of the current status of those relationships. Also, by looking at my buttons I could clearly see what control I was giving away to others. Almost immediately I felt a change in how I reacted both home and in the business setting - taking control of how I wanted to respond in a positive manner versus my previous behavior. I realized that my feelings did not go away or change, but I understood what my feelings were trying to tell me I needed to change or sometimes even avoid.

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  • Posted March 30, 2009

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    a very wise friend recamended this book to me and I found it very hard to put down. I found this arthur gary smalley to be very intresting he really seems to know alot about getting friendships and relationships and familys off to a great start. he seems to show that you can use a real plan in your life and their are some fasinating scriptures that can help you get a plan with some sure inspirational principles. this bestseller has a fasinating workbook with questians and awnsers . this should be a great gift idea for a friend or family member or a Bible study .

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  • Posted January 30, 2009

    I love this book!

    It was eye opener for me. The Fear Dance was something I didnt know I was even doing. There are stories that Dr. Smalley (I call him Dr.Smiley) writes about and I could relate. Relationships are definitely learning process,so its great to have this book around esp when you are "cooling" from "discussion". For me its now, God, what's your opinion in this? Its a great book and I dont have all the techniques down, but I am human, so I am more incline to stop and think and go back and re-read a chapter before I open my mouth and hurt their feeling because of his or her fear dance. It's worth the price.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 7, 2006

    Fantastic

    I found this book to be very eye-opening. I highlighted it throughtout my first read which will be helpful during a re-read, or if I ever need to jump to a chapter and get the guts of it in a short amount of time. I plan on buying a few more copies of this book to lend to others. It's very simple, if you read this book, understand it and apply it (realizing it won't always be easy) your life will change!

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    Good, but I have read better books on the same subject

    I am a big fan of Dr. Smalley's book "If Only He Knew", which I found very helpful in trying to overcome problems with my marriage. I bought the DNA of Relationships book expecting similar great things, but I don't think it was as helpful as some other books I have read on the subject of overcoming the crazy cycle of wife complaining husband withdrawing, wife complains even more, husband withdraws even more, etc. I received more insight and help on the subect from "Divorce Busting" by Michelle Weiner-Davis, "Hold Me Tight" by Dr. Sue Johnson, and "How to improve your marriage without talking about it" by Love and Stosny.

    I do have to say, however, that the one point made by Dr. Smalley in the DNA book that really hit me was his observation that because a husband and wife are one, they should never get into a situation where a resolution of a problem leads one to thinking that he or she one while the other spouse feels like she/he lost.

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  • Posted June 21, 2012

    I would recommend to struggling couples or couples thinking of marriage.

    I loved this book. I did lots of highlighting. I will buy the first hard copy used i find and any other used book i find buy this author.

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  • Posted July 25, 2011

    Excellent book!!!

    This is an absolute must read for anyone who is struggling with relationships of any kind. I am a fan of books that not only teach but also provide the proper tools and follow up to ensure the best success. "The DNA of Relationships" delivers positive Christian solutions and ties everything together in a way that is easy to understand and utilize. This is one book I purchased and will keep on hand as one of my "Relationship Bibles".

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 10, 2011

    Eye Opener!

    Best relationship book I've ever read! It helped me identify why I feel dissatisfied in my marriage and empowered me to make positive changes.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 30, 2010

    Must read

    This book does a great job at helping identify some core fears and reactions that keep people, unknowingly, stuck doing a fear dance when presented with relationship strife. It stresses the importance of recognizing, acknowledging these core fears (in ourselves and others), valuing people and relationships enough to avoid triggering their core fears, and taking responsibility for your own reactions, and thus hopefully avoiding the dance that leads to the destruction of many relationships.

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    Posted December 31, 2005

    Worth more than one read

    Dr. Smalley provides very good evidence for the insights that portray much of what we, as humans, do in relationship to one another. His examples are realistic and I could certainly relate to the majority of them. I believe the true value, however, is going to come the second or third time that I read the book. I am certain that I will discover gems along the way that I overlooked on my first read.

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