Does Wednesday Mean Mom's House or Dad's? Parenting Together while Living Apart

Does Wednesday Mean Mom's House or Dad's? Parenting Together while Living Apart

by Marc J. Ackerman
     
 

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Thorough in coverage and updated with topics that affect today's families, Does Wednesday Mean Mom's House or Dad's?, Second Edition helps you keep your children in the number-one, priority spot before, during, and after your divorce. Nonjudgmental in tone, the new edition will show you how to put your kids' best interests first as you work with your spouse

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Thorough in coverage and updated with topics that affect today's families, Does Wednesday Mean Mom's House or Dad's?, Second Edition helps you keep your children in the number-one, priority spot before, during, and after your divorce. Nonjudgmental in tone, the new edition will show you how to put your kids' best interests first as you work with your spouse to parent together while living apart.

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Children's Literature - Paula McMillen
The title makes it clear that this is an advice book for parents who are getting divorced. What makes this book somewhat unique is that the author is an expert in child custody evaluations. This is the second edition of the book, suggesting that earlier audiences have found this perspective useful. Ackerman offers very specific and valuable guidelines for all stages of the major life transitions that divorce brings. His advice is consistently focused on the children's welfare as the primary driver, such as when he reminds parents that "[w]inning is never more important than the well-being of your children." Developmentally appropriate words for explaining to children of different ages what is happening, as well as a selection of representative age and gender-specific reactions are detailed. For example, Ackerman identifies when a child's problematic behavior is a normal reaction and when it may warrant a call to an outside expert. He also discusses what level of involvement in decision-making is appropriate for tweens or teens in determining where they will live. The typical problems seen in divorce situations are not glossed over, nor are the ways that parents can help or hinder the transition process. Divorce always causes problems for children; Dr. Ackerman seeks to help parents minimize the damage. The book is rich with examples based on Dr. Ackerman's experience with the courts and custody proceedings. He is able to assess the court's likely response to parents' decisions. One rather irritating aspect of the format is that key pieces of information in the text are separated out in small boxes labeled "Helpful Hints." While this might seem fine, such a label seems totallyinappropriate for advice such as, "Don't abuse your children and don't allow your children to be abused"—perhaps "Important Points" might have been a more accurate heading. While the major issues are summed up in a chapter called "Custody Do's and Don'ts," readers would be shortsighted to skip the rest of the book. The final chapter describes the kinds of experts who may be involved in custody procedures and offers guidance on how to evaluate them. An extensive, categorized list of resources, both print and online, is included. Unfortunately, there's a good chance that the people who most need to read this book won't. Still, it is well worth recommending to those parents who care enough to try and follow the advice offered here. A strong addition to a public library or personal collection. Reviewer: Paula McMillen, Ph.D.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780470127537
Publisher:
Wiley
Publication date:
03/21/2008
Pages:
272
Sales rank:
786,090
Product dimensions:
6.00(w) x 9.11(h) x 0.65(d)

Meet the Author

Marc J. Ackerman, PHD, is a clinical psychologist and expert on child custody. He maintains a counseling and consulting practice in Milwaukee and is the author of several books for psychologists and lawyers on the topic of child custody, including Wiley's Clinician's Guide to Child Custody Evaluations, Third Edition and the Essentials of Forensic Psychological Assessment. He has been involved in thousands of custody evaluation cases and is the co-creator of ASPECT, a major child-custody evaluation instrument. Dr. Ackerman has worked with thousands of divorcing families and is a frequent speaker at conferences and on national television and radio talk shows.

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