Don't Believe Everything You Feel: A CBT Workbook to Identify Your Emotional Schemas and Find Freedom from Anxiety and Depression

by Robert L. Leahy PhD

Overview

Find lasting freedom from difficult emotions with skills grounded in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and emotional schema therapy.

If you struggle with difficult emotions, you should know that you aren’t alone. Many people feel sad, worried, or stressed out—whether as a result of depression, anxiety, or simply dealing with the common struggles of daily life. Emotions are a natural and healthy part of being human. It’s how we cope with these difficult emotions that reveal our true capacity for happiness, love, and joy.

Don’t Believe Everything You Feel offers a groundbreaking approach blending CBT and emotional schema therapy to help you explore your own deeply held personal beliefs about emotions, determine if these beliefs are helpful or harmful, and find the motivation to adopt alternative, healthier coping strategies. Each chapter contains exercises such as self-assessment, expressive writing, or guided questioning to help you manage your emotions more productively.

There’s no such thing as a “bad,” emotion. But if you’re experiencing sadness, anger, or anxiety most of the time, you need to find balance. This book will show you how to better cope with your emotions and live a full, meaningful life.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781684034802
Publisher:	New Harbinger Publications
Publication date:	07/01/2020
Edition description:	Workbook
Pages:	216
Sales rank:	127,699
Product dimensions:	7.90(w) x 9.80(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Robert L. Leahy, PhD, is author or editor of twenty-nine books, including If Only...: Finding Freedom from Regret, The Worry Cure, and The Jealousy Cure. He is director of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy in New York, NY, and clinical professor of psychology at Weill Cornell Medical College.

Table of Contents

Chapter 1 What Are Emotions? 1

Chapter 2 Validating Your Feelings 18

Chapter 3 Thinking About Your Emotions 32

Chapter 4 The Emotional Schema Approach 45

Chapter 5 My Emotions Will Go on Forever 58

Chapter 6 I Feel Guilty About My Feelings 77

Chapter 7 My Emotions Are Out of Control 101

Chapter 8 I Can't Stand Having Mixed Feelings 124

Chapter 9 What Do I Care About? 146

Chapter 10 The Worst Ways to Cope 159

Chapter 11 Understanding How Other People Feel 173

Chapter 12 Putting It All Together: The Best Ways to Cope 193

Acknowledgments 201

References 203

Interviews

Leahy resides in New York, NY.
 

Editorial Reviews

Through numerous self-assessments and exercises, Leahy helps the reader recognize that a rich and meaningful life includes experiencing a full range of emotions, including painful ones. In explicating the centrality of emotions to the human experience, Leahy both validates his readers and invites them to keep moving forward, transcending emotion-based perceived limitations and instead using emotions to increase awareness of priorities and pursue meaningful goals.”
—Jill Rathus, PhD, professor of psychology at LIU Post; codirector of Cognitive Behavioral Associates in Great Neck, NY; and coauthor of DBT Skills Manual for Adolescents and Dialectical Behavior Therapy with Suicidal Adolescents

Jill Rathus

"As with all books done by Leahy, this is a well-thought-out, clearly written, and carefully presented book, replete with individual stories and helpful worksheets. Its goals are to help individuals discover their emotional style, adopt better coping strategies, overcome fear of feelings and cultivate emotional resilience."
—Child & Family Behavior Therapy

Child & Family Behavior Therapy

“Robert Leahy is one of most influential clinicians in the field of psychology today. His latest book, Don’t Believe Everything You Feel, is based on the principles of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) as well as emotional schema therapy, and details an innovative way of coping with difficult feelings. Case examples and exercises found within illustrate how to live a full life by allowing the experience of a full range of emotions. I highly recommend this accessible and inspiring self-help book!”
—Sabine Wilhelm, PhD, professor at Harvard Medical School, and chief of psychology at Massachusetts General Hospital

Sabine Wilhelm

“I whole heartedly recommend this book. It goes on a very short list of books like The Feeling Good Handbook and The Happiness Trap that I recommend to family and friends, as well as clients.”
—Advances in Cognitive Therapy newsletter

Advances in Cognitive Therapy

“While animals can show all kinds of emotions that have a lot of overlap with us, humans can clearly think in a range of complex and new ways that other animals can’t. While these thinking competencies make us unique, they can also drive us into anxiety and depression. In his new and deeply insightful book on the link between thinking and feeling, internationally renowned cognitive therapist Robert Leahy guides us skillfully through the minefields and problematic relations between our thoughts and feelings. He identifies clearly how our interpretations and thoughts about situations, and feelings themselves, can make us feel better or worse, engage with them, or try to avoid them. Packed with years of insightful clinical experience, this is a wonderful guide for anyone interested in the relationship between thinking and feeling, and how to get one’s mind on a more balanced footing.”
—Paul Gilbert, PhD, FBPsS, OBE, author of Living Like Crazy and The Compassionate Mind

Paul Gilbert

“To be human is to experience a tapestry of emotions. Now, for the first time, internationally renowned author and clinical psychologist Robert Leahy offers an inspiring workbook based on his unique theory of emotion. His integration of cognitive-behavioral and acceptance perspectives is a refreshing departure from conventional therapies that take a more pathogenic view of emotion. This workbook is packed full of wisdom, guidance, intervention strategies, and step-by-step exercises and worksheets that will transform a broad range of negative and distressing emotions. Written with conviction, compassion, and encouragement, readers will find the many case examples engaging and illuminating. Leahy gently, but persuasively, guides the reader through a process of discovery and emotional transformation that enables individuals to better themselves, enrich their relationships, and experience what it means to be authentically alive.”
—David Clark, PhD, professor emeritus in the department of psychology at the University of New Brunswick

David Clark

“Emotions define us as a human species. Robert Leahy’s book, Don’t Believe Everything You Feel, holds the key to understanding the secret of living a human life with its confusing experiences ranging from joy and happiness to depression and anxiety. This superb text outlines his influential emotional schema therapy approach using cognitive and behavioral principles. Written by a master clinician—one of the most influential authors and foremost leaders of CBT—this text is destined to become a classic. Clearly a must-read for any clinician, trainee, client, and anybody interested in emotions and psychotherapy.”
—Stefan G. Hofmann, PhD, professor in the department psychological and brain sciences at Boston University

Stefan G. Hofmann

“In Don’t Believe Everything You Feel, author Robert Leahy provides a step-by-step guide to accepting emotions, rather than scrambling to change them; the use of adaptive, rather than unhelpful, emotional coping strategies; and an orientation to valued living. If you are experiencing emotional challenges—whether depression, or anxiety, or anger, or something else—you’ll find this book to be an invaluable resource for helping to navigate those challenges.”
—David F. Tolin, PhD, ABPP, author of Face Your Fears

David F. Tolin