Don't Bring It to Work: Breaking the Family Patterns That Limit Success [NOOK Book]

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Praise for Don't Bring It to Work

"Sylvia Lafair is an amazingly acute analyzer of human behavior. She's pinpointed the patterns that can make you sink, soar, or simply muddle through your career. If you want to take your work life, your team, or your company to the next level or—better yet—the level beyond that, read this important work. The payoff is the elusive breakthrough you've?sought for years."
Tyler Mathisen, managing director, CNBC, and host, High Net Worth

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Overview

Praise for Don't Bring It to Work

"Sylvia Lafair is an amazingly acute analyzer of human behavior. She's pinpointed the patterns that can make you sink, soar, or simply muddle through your career. If you want to take your work life, your team, or your company to the next level or—better yet—the level beyond that, read this important work. The payoff is the elusive breakthrough you've?sought for years."
Tyler Mathisen, managing director, CNBC, and host, High Net Worth

"In this smart, useful, and much-needed book on how to work and play well with others, Sylvia Lafair teaches us how to recognize and change our own ineffective workplace behavior and how to help others get past the family baggage and office politics that prevent all of us from doing our best work."
Daniel Pink, author, A Whole New Mind

"This book will help at work and at home. There's a gem on every page!"
Kevin Roberts, Worldwide CEO, Saatchi & Saatchi

"One of the most original and useful books on the family/work/life balance issue."
Warren Bennis, Distinguished Professor of Business, University of Southern California

"In this terrific book, Sylvia Lafair tells us how to leave our nonproductive behaviors and attitudes at the office door. I especially applaud her declaration that truth-telling and open communication in the workplace will breed respect and reduce insecurities. We would all do well to heed her pragmatic advice on how to bring about a positive, productive work environment."
Ed Rendell, Governor of Pennsylvania

"The creative person is able to observe patterns, often when others sitting next to them see unconnected dots. If you think of these dots as people and the connecting lines as constructive interactions, sometimes representing ideas, sometimes love, sometimes concern, you will be an avid reader of Sylvia Lafair's book."
Richard Saul Wurman, founder, the TED (Technology, Entertainment, and Design) Conference

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780470496732
  • Publisher: Wiley
  • Publication date: 2/17/2009
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 256
  • Sales rank: 441,732
  • File size: 2 MB

Meet the Author

Sylvia Lafair is an expert on leadership, workplace behavior, and relationships. She began her career as a family therapist and is fine-tuned to the reverberations from family life that play out in the workplace. Lafair is president of Creative Energy Options (CEO), a consulting firm with retreat centers in Pennsylvania and New Mexico, and clients that include Microsoft, AstraZeneca, Aveda Salons, and Novartis. Lafair has published numerous articles and is a much-sought-after speaker on the subjects of leadership, effective communication, conflict resolution, and creative collaboration.
Visit her website at patternaware.com.
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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments.

Introduction.

PART ONE: THE HOME-WORK CONNECTION.

1. Relationships at Work and at Home.

2. Understanding Behavior at Work and at Home.

3. Understanding Workplace Crises and Conflicts

PART TWO: THE WAY OUT-OBSERVE, UNDERSTAND, AND TRANSFORM YOUR PATTERNS.

4. The Thirteen Most Common Patterns in the Workplace.

5. Going Deep-Exploring the History of Your Family Patterns.

PART THREE: A NEW ME, A NEW YOU, A NEW ORGANIZATION.

6. Defining a More Authentic You at Work.

7. Talking Together.

8. Connecting the Dots.

Appendix.

Notes.

About the Author.

Index.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 21, 2013

    Its not often I encounter a book like this, one with such solid

    Its not often I encounter a book like this, one with such solid content and structure. Sylvia has done a wonderful job in putting it all together in such clinical and very relatable ways that every reader will feel satisfied after they have finished reading. It’s good these workplace issues are addressed and brought out to light so many of us who were shying away from it all can now feel better knowing that they we are not the only ones facing these situations and behavioral patterns, this book is a definite must read. Thanks Sylvia

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  • Posted June 30, 2011

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    Thought-provoking look at the psychological origins of workplace conflict

    It's your first day on your new job, and you're meeting your new colleagues. You shake hands, make eye contact and offer a pleasant smile. But for some reason, you instinctively don't like one or two people; they make you uncomfortable. How is it possible to judge people whose names you don't even know? Therapist and relationship expert Sylvia Lafair believes that the seeds of workplace conflict are rooted in your family background. She posits that the behaviors modeled in your childhood and your relationship with your family members create subliminal expectations that you subconsciously project onto others, including strangers. Lafair suggests that understanding your upbringing is the linchpin to avoiding and resolving workplace conflict. The author offers profound, detailed insight into the psychological dynamics that govern interpersonal relationships. Recognizing your family patterns is just the first step, though; the real work lies in your willingness to change your behavior. Though Lafair's approach may not resonate with everyone, getAbstract recommends her book to managers and employees who wish to avoid perpetuating destructive cycles of workplace conflict.

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  • Posted June 10, 2009

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    Accurate Assessment: Embarrassment to "AHA!" to Restructure

    Sylvia Lafair has not only the background of knowledge and professional experience to writing this excellent book DON'T BRING IT TO WORK, she also is a solid writer who understands how to capture attention and maintain interest in both self improvement and understanding as well as how to take the information gleaned from this book to the workplace. In short, this is not only a sound and enjoyable read of a book, it is also one of the better 'fix the problems at work' books on the shelves today.

    Lafair's background as a Family Therapist is evident on every page. But what makes reading her introduction to the personality idiosyncrasies each of us has as a result of both our immediate family and our upbringing so pertinent is her mastery of finding just those character traits each of us possesses and leads us into the workplace where we not only identify our own 'role playing' but also the tropes of those around us. What then? Once the personality types dragged as baggage from the home to work are identified, Lafair addresses the means of how to deal with malfunctioning personality disorders in a way that benefits not only the 'person with problem', but also with the entire work 'family'. Observe. Identify. Alter. Change.

    For this reader the magnetism of Lafair's book is discovering our own personality traits that have always affected the way in which we function. At first, identifying ourselves as either a 'victim', and 'avoider' or 'persecutor' etc is embarrassing. But Lafair dives into reconstruction right away, provides insight and workbook sessions, and in the end everyone who reads this book will find a happier adjustment to the place where we spend the better part of our day - WORK! Read her book then consider giving copies to pertinent people where you work. Change IS possible. Grady Harp

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