Drunks,Drugs and Debits

Drunks,Drugs and Debits

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by Doug Thorburn
     
 

This book goes the other way from most books on drug addicted parents, siblings and friends. The author tells the reader to completely cut off ties with all of these people FOREVER.  See more details below

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This book goes the other way from most books on drug addicted parents, siblings and friends. The author tells the reader to completely cut off ties with all of these people FOREVER.

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Drunks, Drugs & Debits: How To Recognize Addicts And Avoid Financial Abuse is a unique contribution to the growing library of social issues literature focusing on the problems of alcoholism and drug abuse. Author Doug Thorburn reveals how entire fortunes can be lost due to becoming involved with addicts; why non-addicts must uncompromisingly disenable and refuse persons suspected of addiction; sixty behaviors, signs and symptoms of addiction; actions to take when separating our financial life from that of an addict with whom we are already involved with personally, familialy, or professionally; and much, much more. Because of the pervasive extent of addiction and its disastrous consequences in virtually every community in the country, Drunks, Drugs & Debits is a very high priority acquisition for community library collections and "must" reading for anyone fearing that they are detrimentally involved with an addicted person.

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ISBN-13:
9780967578835
Publisher:
Galt Publishing Northridge, CA
Publication date:
02/01/2001
Edition description:
1 ED
Pages:
362
Product dimensions:
6.29(w) x 9.33(h) x 1.14(d)

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Drunks,Drugs and Debits 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 6 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book explained so much human behavior to me that I did not understand before. Like Copernicus revealing that the earth goes around the sun and not the other way around, Thorburn reveals that addiction is the root cause of much horrid human behavior rather than bad character or upbringing. With 10% of the population under the throes of addiction, it touches every one of our lives in a personal way. Just last weekend I heard a story at a party of a boss who terrorized his pregnant female employee, calling her derogatory names and assigning her tasks that required physical exertion beyond her means. Immediately I suspected alcoholism. Sure enough, upon further questioning I found out that this boss would go out on two hour lunches and come back drunk. Many stories I read in the newspapers are now comprehensible to me rather than merely bizarre. For example, the woman who hit a homeless man with her car and drove home with him embedded in her windshield and allowed him to bleed to death overnight. These are not just evil people, these are people suffering from a disease over which they have no control. And many of these people are in positions of power: police, doctors, lawyers, business executives, heads of state, the list goes on. Can you afford not to understand what makes these people tick, what obscenities they are capable of, and what can be done to stop them?
Guest More than 1 year ago
Did you know as many as 10% of the people in the US may be alcohol or other drug addicts? Because the addictive use of a drug (almost always alcohol) causes brain damage, particularly to the more recently evolved part of our brain responsible for reason and empathy, a relationship or encounter with an addict is far more likely to hurt us than one with a normal person. Considering their numbers and effect on the brain, nearly all of us are likely to have a close encounter with an addict. If we can learn how to recognize addicts before the addiction becomes all-too-obvious, we can significantly decrease the likelihood of having our lives and fortunes left in disarray. From the scientific data available on alcoholism and the author's own experience with the disease, Doug Thorburn provides us with (1) information on the prevalence of this disease and of the diverse ways a drug-addict is capable of harming us; (2) a set of early-stage behavioral indicators that alert us to possible addicts and, therefore, to those who are far more likely to inflict harm and (3) a method ('uncompromising disenabling') to help addicts make a decision to seek sobriety. I have never read anything like it, yet have already used the ideas to great personal benefit. Thorburn links alcohol and other drug addictions to an extraordinary range of abuse of others: child abuse, spousal abuse, cult leading, financial abuse in the form of small-scale conning of others to Ponzi-like scams, as well as ordinary violent crime. Unfortunately, since the most common drug is alcohol, the issue often becomes confused by the fact that most of us can drink in moderation and without acting badly toward others. Therefore we confuse cause and effect: we see the deviant behavior as causing alcoholism rather than alcoholism as the source of the misbehaviors. Doug Thorburn supports the latter notion with scientific studies that show alcohol addiction to be a biological problem and that alcohol-induced brain damage to leads abusive behavior. Thorburn's method of recognizing addicts is, in essence, very simple. Insofar as alcoholism and other kinds of drug addiction cause brain damage, we can identify likely addicts by the deviant behaviors that this brain damage leads to: criminal, antisocial and other excessive ego-feeding behavior (whether by exuding charm with the goal of creating disciples or cruelly putting other people down). I have already identified a number of likely addicts around me using this method, sometimes based on seemingly innocuous clues; I have confirmed 75% of these to be addicts by asking mutual acquaintances about the way they drink. Although my sample size is still quite small (six confirmed addicts out of eight likely ones), since no more than about 10% of people are addicts my success rate is significant.
Guest More than 1 year ago
An enormously insightful book that is as well-written as it is thoroughly documented. No doubt ahead of its time. It is at least as useful as any self-help/substance addiction recovery book you could hope to find (indeed, more so, in my opinion), and it practically demands to be placed alongside any business and financial planning-oriented materials; and, on the scientific side, it makes for a rather remarkable addendum to other notable works on the study of personality science (Keirsey; Myers-Briggs {MBTI}, Kroeger, et al, and note that I do not refer to something which is empirically verifiable, such as temperament and personality study, as 'theory'; neither should anyone else). Thorburn comvers a lot of ground, but he does so in a succinct writing syle that is at once apprehendable; this author is part scientist, part financial planner, part psychologist, and finally--and what is most welcome of all, in my estimation--part crusader. For me, the highlight of the book came at the very end, when Mr. Thorburn embarks on a personal letter of great relevancy to a former love who was also, most unfortunately, a substance addict; this personal letter is imbued with both rational clarity and emotional depth--a very rare piece of writing, indeed.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I have been in the program for over 14 years and have never read anything that explains the nature of ¿our disease¿ in such a detailed and yet such holistic manner. This book is an exceptional read because it reads like a novel, yet explains what seems incomprehensible about ¿our disease¿. It is not only a must for every alcohol and other drug addict, but also for non addicts. It contains valuable information and ideas for intervention and protecting oneself found nowhere else. Doug does an exceptional job of research and fact-finding to explain the science behind the disease of alcohol and other drug addiction. He provides proof beyond a shadow of a doubt that there are true scientific facts that explain the ¿this is a disease¿ refrain heard in meetings and yet so often misunderstood or, simply, not believed. As Doug explains, many therapists, family members and psychiatrists are ignorant to the fact that their patient or loved one may be drinking and/or using other drugs. The irrational behavior is justified with a diagnosis of bi-polar (manic-depressive), sociopathy, borderline or even schizophrenic personality disorders. They prescribe pills and more pills and expect to see the client for years. I remember the psychiatrist I saw when I was still in my disease telling me I would need therapy for at least a decade before experiencing any improvement. I think he would have continued seeing me without a clue to my disease until I died or paid the guys' Mercedes off, whichever came first, had I not gotten clean. Not once did any therapist or doctor pick up on the fact that I was using cocaine. No wonder I had such a wild ride of emotions. I had absolutely no intervention from family or friends. They didn't have a clue as to what was going on or how to help me. The addict is incapable of seeing their addiction without intervention. This book provides ways to diagnose an addict based on behavior patterns and methods by which to interrupt their 'denial' with a loving, fact telling intervention. Not only could this book save millions of lives, but it might help the world to understand the enormous effect this disease has on everything from family breakup and crime, to the high cost of medical care and world history. Every family, therapist, jail, treatment center, sober living facility and library on the planet should own a copy. This is not a disease causing lack of willpower. The book explains how and why addicts act the way they do, demonstrating incredible willpower when they decide they want their drug. It also appeals to non-addicts by explaining what this disease is all about and how they can protect themselves from getting involved with a practicing alcohol or other drug addict, both personally and professionally. Practical advice is offered that can save the mental and financial health of addict and non-addict alike, as well as their lives.
Guest More than 1 year ago
A friend of mine passed along a copy of this book and I first dismissed it because I thought it was for someone with company employees. But I am a teacher with some students who have been in trouble from time to time, so I thought I'd take a look at this book. I was immediately struck by the author's personal experiences, his astute understanding of the phenomenon of addiction, and his keen advice. Throughout the book I was impressed with his extensive research and many of the observations that had eluded me in my own encounters with addicts. Soon I felt a better understanding of my students with problems and a flash of insight with regard to my significant other. Most impressive was the radically sensible advice on how not to enable addicts in their abuse of non-addicts. Great book that I recommend to everyone. It really is a masterpiece on the subject.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book provides a method to identify alcohol and drug problems before they cause severe damage for the people surrounding the addict. According to the book, alcoholism-addiction problems are very common and can mimic commonly recognized psychological disorders, such as ego-mania and narcissism. When such disorders are observed, alcohol or drugs may be the root cause. And these behaviors may be present in the early stages of the disease, long before the commonly known signs of alcoholism-addiction appear. With the information provided in this book, the reader can rapidly identify probable addicts, and take the necessary steps to protect oneself from damaging relationships with addicts. I have found this book extremely useful in identifying alcohol-drug problems in the workplace. Using these methods, I have been able to turn some vague suspicions into concrete conclusions about problem employees. I now recognize that many of the problem behaviors I have witnessed are almost certainly the result of alcoholism -addiction. And I understand what I need to do to avoid damage to myself from these situations. The book is well written and enjoyable to read. Well worth the cover price. I would recommend it to anyone.