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This book goes the other way from most books on drug addicted parents, siblings and friends. The author tells the reader to completely cut off ties with all of these people FOREVER.
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Drunks, Drugs & Debits: How To Recognize Addicts And Avoid Financial Abuse is a unique contribution to the growing library of social issues literature focusing on the problems of alcoholism and drug abuse. Author Doug Thorburn reveals how entire fortunes can be lost due to becoming involved with addicts; why non-addicts must uncompromisingly disenable and refuse persons suspected of addiction; sixty behaviors, signs and symptoms of addiction; actions to take when separating our financial life from that of an addict with whom we are already involved with personally, familialy, or professionally; and much, much more. Because of the pervasive extent of addiction and its disastrous consequences in virtually every community in the country, Drunks, Drugs & Debits is a very high priority acquisition for community library collections and "must" reading for anyone fearing that they are detrimentally involved with an addicted person.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780967578835
  • Publisher: Galt Publishing Northridge, CA
  • Publication date: 2/1/2001
  • Edition description: 1 ED
  • Pages: 362
  • Product dimensions: 6.29 (w) x 9.33 (h) x 1.14 (d)

Table of Contents

Preface v
Foreward vi
Introduction viii
1 Addiction and Financial Abuse - A Primer 1
2 How Common Are Addicts? 13
And how dangerous are they? 13
3 A Genetic Foundation 21
The creation of the bizarre 21
Distorted perceptions and impaired judgment 29
Breaking the web of deceit 38
4 How to Recognize Addicts 43
Why we need to identify the addict 43
Behavior patterns of possible addicts we don't know 46
Intoxicated drivers 46
Non-driving situations 57
Why it's difficult to identify addicts you know 58
AA's twenty questions 64
Signs and symptoms of addiction: questions for the observer 84
Over-achievement 84
Tolerance 87
Smoking 88
Gulping 89
Jail time 91
Serial unethical behavior 93
Domestic abuse 94
Dishonesty 96
Erratic behavior 99
Undisciplined children 99
Financial difficulties 101
Covering up 101
Availability of substances 103
Psychological disorders 105
Changes of employment 107
Changing Partners 109
Absences and tardies 110
Defensiveness 111
"Rules" for using 112
Blackouts 113
Blaming 114
Illegal drugs 116
Hiding substance use 119
Hospitalization 122
Poor diet 122
Genetic and occupational observations 123
Potpourri 126
5 Denial vs. Ignorance 137
Addiction and therapists 138
Euphemizing addiction 157
Addiction and the media 159
The portrayal of addiction in books and movies 165
6 Scared Straight: Crises and Consequences 179
Enabling as a property rights issue 179
Friends should tell on friends 180
7 The Financial Abuse of Others 187
Parasite and host 187
Family 188
Children 189
Spouses 192
Parents 198
Partners 200
Employers, employees, co-workers and advisors 209
Other business connections 215
Debtors and investors 215
Tenants from hell 219
8 Financial Disenabling 223
Uncompromising disenabling 223
Money as an enabler 224
Just say no to addicts 227
Protecting yourself financially 230
9 Predicting a Predisposition to Addiction 235
Ancestry 235
Personality Type and addiction 245
10 Improving the Treatment of Drug Addiction 249
Deflating the ego 249
Self-esteem and responsibility 250
Temperament and recovery 252
The Temperaments, summarized 254
Matching Temperament to recovery 257
Temperament and occupation 260
Temperament and "bottoming out" 262
Temperament and the games addicts play 266
Intervention 272
Nutritional support 276
11 Public Policy 283
Prohibition or choice 283
Other public policy considerations in the cessation of enabling 296
12 Recovery for the Non-Addict 303
A new path to serenity and empowerment 303
Clarity 304
Selfishness vs. self-centeredness 305
Chaos 307
Chaos and powerlessness 308
Powerlessness and empowerment 309
Curiosity and serenity 315
Epilogue 319
Appendix 1 The Case for Hitler Being an Addict 325
Appendix 2 Institutionalized Enabling 328
Appendix 3 For Professionals: Type, Temperament and Addiction 331
Predictors of extended periods and deeper levels of addiction using Psychological Type 331
The difficulty in determining the Psychological Type of addicts 335
Temperament, occupational choice and the limits to diagnosis: Using the clue of ego-inflation 337
Appendix 4 An Integration of Chaos, Free Market Economics and the 12-Step Program 339
Acknowledgements 341
Bibliography 343
Table of Figures
Figure 1 The Thorburn Substance Addiction Recognition Indicator - Short Version 10
Figure 2 Alcoholism is Genetic 25
Figure 3 Alcohol Takes a Shotgun Approach; Other Drugs are Laser-Like 29
Figure 4 The Role of Euphoric Recall in Alcoholic Behavior 32
Figure 5 Amundsen's Blood Alcohol Content/Weight Chart 48
Figure 6 Driving Behaviors and Probabilities of DUI 51
Figure 7 Ratcheting Up the Probabilities of Addiction 67
Figure 8 Types of Drugs: Illegal, Prescription and Illegal 118
Figure 9 The Thorburn Substance Addiction Recognition Indicator 131
Figure 10 Disenabling Checklist: Protecting Yourself from the Addict Spouse 234
Figure 11 Core Needs of the Temperaments 257
Figure 12 Values and Intelligences of the Temperaments 258
Figure 13 Ego-Inflating Professions for the Early-Stage Addict 261
Figure 14 Games Addicts Play and Psychological Disorders for Which they may be Mistaken 271
Figure 15 Time Lines for Taking Action 272
Figure 16 Time Frames for Blood and Urine Drug Testing 299
Figure 17 Chaos and Personal Empowerment 311
Figure 18 Personality Types and Temperaments 332
Figure 19 Why it is Difficult to Determine an Addict's Psychological Type 336
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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 16, 2005

    The Way It Really Is

    This book explained so much human behavior to me that I did not understand before. Like Copernicus revealing that the earth goes around the sun and not the other way around, Thorburn reveals that addiction is the root cause of much horrid human behavior rather than bad character or upbringing. With 10% of the population under the throes of addiction, it touches every one of our lives in a personal way. Just last weekend I heard a story at a party of a boss who terrorized his pregnant female employee, calling her derogatory names and assigning her tasks that required physical exertion beyond her means. Immediately I suspected alcoholism. Sure enough, upon further questioning I found out that this boss would go out on two hour lunches and come back drunk. Many stories I read in the newspapers are now comprehensible to me rather than merely bizarre. For example, the woman who hit a homeless man with her car and drove home with him embedded in her windshield and allowed him to bleed to death overnight. These are not just evil people, these are people suffering from a disease over which they have no control. And many of these people are in positions of power: police, doctors, lawyers, business executives, heads of state, the list goes on. Can you afford not to understand what makes these people tick, what obscenities they are capable of, and what can be done to stop them?

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 3, 2005

    Avoid misfortunate with this book!

    Did you know as many as 10% of the people in the US may be alcohol or other drug addicts? Because the addictive use of a drug (almost always alcohol) causes brain damage, particularly to the more recently evolved part of our brain responsible for reason and empathy, a relationship or encounter with an addict is far more likely to hurt us than one with a normal person. Considering their numbers and effect on the brain, nearly all of us are likely to have a close encounter with an addict. If we can learn how to recognize addicts before the addiction becomes all-too-obvious, we can significantly decrease the likelihood of having our lives and fortunes left in disarray. From the scientific data available on alcoholism and the author's own experience with the disease, Doug Thorburn provides us with (1) information on the prevalence of this disease and of the diverse ways a drug-addict is capable of harming us; (2) a set of early-stage behavioral indicators that alert us to possible addicts and, therefore, to those who are far more likely to inflict harm and (3) a method ('uncompromising disenabling') to help addicts make a decision to seek sobriety. I have never read anything like it, yet have already used the ideas to great personal benefit. Thorburn links alcohol and other drug addictions to an extraordinary range of abuse of others: child abuse, spousal abuse, cult leading, financial abuse in the form of small-scale conning of others to Ponzi-like scams, as well as ordinary violent crime. Unfortunately, since the most common drug is alcohol, the issue often becomes confused by the fact that most of us can drink in moderation and without acting badly toward others. Therefore we confuse cause and effect: we see the deviant behavior as causing alcoholism rather than alcoholism as the source of the misbehaviors. Doug Thorburn supports the latter notion with scientific studies that show alcohol addiction to be a biological problem and that alcohol-induced brain damage to leads abusive behavior. Thorburn's method of recognizing addicts is, in essence, very simple. Insofar as alcoholism and other kinds of drug addiction cause brain damage, we can identify likely addicts by the deviant behaviors that this brain damage leads to: criminal, antisocial and other excessive ego-feeding behavior (whether by exuding charm with the goal of creating disciples or cruelly putting other people down). I have already identified a number of likely addicts around me using this method, sometimes based on seemingly innocuous clues; I have confirmed 75% of these to be addicts by asking mutual acquaintances about the way they drink. Although my sample size is still quite small (six confirmed addicts out of eight likely ones), since no more than about 10% of people are addicts my success rate is significant.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 20, 2001

    Put this one on the shelf that's easy to reach . . .

    An enormously insightful book that is as well-written as it is thoroughly documented. No doubt ahead of its time. It is at least as useful as any self-help/substance addiction recovery book you could hope to find (indeed, more so, in my opinion), and it practically demands to be placed alongside any business and financial planning-oriented materials; and, on the scientific side, it makes for a rather remarkable addendum to other notable works on the study of personality science (Keirsey; Myers-Briggs {MBTI}, Kroeger, et al, and note that I do not refer to something which is empirically verifiable, such as temperament and personality study, as 'theory'; neither should anyone else). Thorburn comvers a lot of ground, but he does so in a succinct writing syle that is at once apprehendable; this author is part scientist, part financial planner, part psychologist, and finally--and what is most welcome of all, in my estimation--part crusader. For me, the highlight of the book came at the very end, when Mr. Thorburn embarks on a personal letter of great relevancy to a former love who was also, most unfortunately, a substance addict; this personal letter is imbued with both rational clarity and emotional depth--a very rare piece of writing, indeed.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 1, 2001

    Great Review from a Recovered Alcoholic

    I have been in the program for over 14 years and have never read anything that explains the nature of ¿our disease¿ in such a detailed and yet such holistic manner. This book is an exceptional read because it reads like a novel, yet explains what seems incomprehensible about ¿our disease¿. It is not only a must for every alcohol and other drug addict, but also for non addicts. It contains valuable information and ideas for intervention and protecting oneself found nowhere else. Doug does an exceptional job of research and fact-finding to explain the science behind the disease of alcohol and other drug addiction. He provides proof beyond a shadow of a doubt that there are true scientific facts that explain the ¿this is a disease¿ refrain heard in meetings and yet so often misunderstood or, simply, not believed. As Doug explains, many therapists, family members and psychiatrists are ignorant to the fact that their patient or loved one may be drinking and/or using other drugs. The irrational behavior is justified with a diagnosis of bi-polar (manic-depressive), sociopathy, borderline or even schizophrenic personality disorders. They prescribe pills and more pills and expect to see the client for years. I remember the psychiatrist I saw when I was still in my disease telling me I would need therapy for at least a decade before experiencing any improvement. I think he would have continued seeing me without a clue to my disease until I died or paid the guys' Mercedes off, whichever came first, had I not gotten clean. Not once did any therapist or doctor pick up on the fact that I was using cocaine. No wonder I had such a wild ride of emotions. I had absolutely no intervention from family or friends. They didn't have a clue as to what was going on or how to help me. The addict is incapable of seeing their addiction without intervention. This book provides ways to diagnose an addict based on behavior patterns and methods by which to interrupt their 'denial' with a loving, fact telling intervention. Not only could this book save millions of lives, but it might help the world to understand the enormous effect this disease has on everything from family breakup and crime, to the high cost of medical care and world history. Every family, therapist, jail, treatment center, sober living facility and library on the planet should own a copy. This is not a disease causing lack of willpower. The book explains how and why addicts act the way they do, demonstrating incredible willpower when they decide they want their drug. It also appeals to non-addicts by explaining what this disease is all about and how they can protect themselves from getting involved with a practicing alcohol or other drug addict, both personally and professionally. Practical advice is offered that can save the mental and financial health of addict and non-addict alike, as well as their lives.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 9, 2000

    A Masterpiece of Insight

    A friend of mine passed along a copy of this book and I first dismissed it because I thought it was for someone with company employees. But I am a teacher with some students who have been in trouble from time to time, so I thought I'd take a look at this book. I was immediately struck by the author's personal experiences, his astute understanding of the phenomenon of addiction, and his keen advice. Throughout the book I was impressed with his extensive research and many of the observations that had eluded me in my own encounters with addicts. Soon I felt a better understanding of my students with problems and a flash of insight with regard to my significant other. Most impressive was the radically sensible advice on how not to enable addicts in their abuse of non-addicts. Great book that I recommend to everyone. It really is a masterpiece on the subject.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 20, 2000

    This book can be very useful for everyone involved in human relationships

    This book provides a method to identify alcohol and drug problems before they cause severe damage for the people surrounding the addict. According to the book, alcoholism-addiction problems are very common and can mimic commonly recognized psychological disorders, such as ego-mania and narcissism. When such disorders are observed, alcohol or drugs may be the root cause. And these behaviors may be present in the early stages of the disease, long before the commonly known signs of alcoholism-addiction appear. With the information provided in this book, the reader can rapidly identify probable addicts, and take the necessary steps to protect oneself from damaging relationships with addicts. I have found this book extremely useful in identifying alcohol-drug problems in the workplace. Using these methods, I have been able to turn some vague suspicions into concrete conclusions about problem employees. I now recognize that many of the problem behaviors I have witnessed are almost certainly the result of alcoholism -addiction. And I understand what I need to do to avoid damage to myself from these situations. The book is well written and enjoyable to read. Well worth the cover price. I would recommend it to anyone.

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