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Duct Tape Parenting: A Less Is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible, and Resilient Kids
     

Duct Tape Parenting: A Less Is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible, and Resilient Kids

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by Vicki Hoefle, Alex Kajitani (Foreword by)
 

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There’s a new set of 3Rs for our kids—respect, responsibility, and resilience—to better prepare them for life in the real world. Once developed, these skills let kids take charge, and let parents step back, to the benefit of all. Casting hover mothers and helicopter parents aside, Vicki Hoefle encourages a different, counter-intuitive—yet

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There’s a new set of 3Rs for our kids—respect, responsibility, and resilience—to better prepare them for life in the real world. Once developed, these skills let kids take charge, and let parents step back, to the benefit of all. Casting hover mothers and helicopter parents aside, Vicki Hoefle encourages a different, counter-intuitive—yet much more effective—approach: for parents to sit on their hands, stay on the sidelines, even if duct tape is required, so that the kids step up. Duct Tape Parenting gives parents a new perspective on what it means to be effective, engaged parents and to enable kids to develop confidence through solving their own problems. This is not a book about the parenting strategy of the day—what the author calls “Post-It Note Parenting”—but rather a relationship-based guide to span all ages and stages of development. Witty, straight-shooting Hoefle addresses frustrated parents everywhere who are ready to raise confident, capable children to go out in the world.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Mother of five and professional parenting educator Hoefle shares the secrets to her success in dealing with typical behavioral problems in this hard-to-put-down, Adlerian Psychology-based parenting manual. She claims her method will improve relationships and create independent, thoughtful, resilient, and, of course, well-behaved children. But how to accomplish this feat? Stay calm, say nothing, have "radical faith" in your children. In other words, the titular duct tape is for the parents, not the kids. Calling attention to problematic behavior, Hoefle says, makes a harmless weed grow into something much worse: a long-term attention-getting scheme, or a deep-seated personality trait. As long as it's not a dangerous behavior or situation, Hoefle suggests that parents ignore it. When siblings fight, when a child is caught stealing, or when kids stall and slow down the morning, sit back and see what happens when you say nothing at all. Hoefle's strategy, which is an extreme form of natural consequences parenting, may seem irresponsible to some, but it clearly comes from the heart and is full of helpful tips even for those who find themselves in disagreement with the book's main assertion. And perhaps the proof is in the pudding—Hoefle did survive five kids, sanity intact. (Aug.)
From the Publisher

"[Hoefle’s] conjuncture that a misbehaving child is a discouraged child carries the weight of truth. By letting kids work out their own kinks, parents will have more time in the long run to enjoy their children and the parenting journey." – Library Journal, August 2013

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781937134181
Publisher:
Taylor & Francis
Publication date:
08/21/2012
Pages:
224
Sales rank:
282,396
Product dimensions:
5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)

Meet the Author


Vicki Hoefle is a professional parent educator, author, parent coach, and national speaker with over twenty years of experience teaching parents, educators, and caregivers how to raise respectful, responsible, and resilient children. Hoefle combines her expertise in Adlerian psychology and as an International Coaching Federation certified coach to bring parents sustainable and proactive parenting strategies that provide time-tested tools for harvesting a happy and peaceful family life. The Straight Talk on Parenting: A No-Nonsense Approach on How to Grow a Grown-Up (Bibliomotion, 2015) is Hoefle’s second book; she is also the author of Duct Tape Parenting: A Less is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible and Resilient Children (Bibliomotion, 2012.) Her informative and highly engaging presentation style keeps her in demand as a speaker, facilitator and educator. Hoefle is a mother of six and lives in Middlebury, Vermont.

Alex Kajitani was named California Teacher of the Year and a Top-4 Finalist for 2009 National Teacher of the Year.

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Duct Tape Parenting: A Less is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible and Resilient Kids 3.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 5 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Very over- simplified. Luckily, It was a quick read out of curiousity; not for a desperate need for answers.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Common sense approach. The ideas are easy to implement to create change in the family dynamic. The best part is my relationship with my kids is growing stronger and they are becoming independent and self-reliant. I highly recommend you read this book.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is AMAZING! I couldn't put it down. I don't have a major parenting issue or behavior problem but I am trying to raise 3 respectful, responsible and resilient children! I have read it cover to cover twice and refer to Vicki's website often. It so inspired me that I started my own blog to document my experiences applying the Duct Tape!!!!
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book saved my family. I was headed down a dark road and I learned effective strategies to invest in the relationship with my kids and support them on their road to independence.