Emotional Chaos to Clarity: How to Live More Skillfully, Make Better Decisions, and Find Purpose in Life

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Despite our best-laid plans, life can often be difficult, disappointing, and stressful. Consequently, when things don’t go right, we are often left in a state of emotional chaos, dealing with feelings like anger, anxiety, frustration, and doubt, which can cloud our perspective and negatively affect the way we live our lives. But in this inspiring book, Phillip Moffitt shows us that we need not be at the mercy of our emotions. By cultivating a responsive mind rather than a reactive one, we can achieve a state of ...

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Emotional Chaos to Clarity: Move from the Chaos of the Reactive Mind to the Clarity of the Responsive Mind

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Despite our best-laid plans, life can often be difficult, disappointing, and stressful. Consequently, when things don’t go right, we are often left in a state of emotional chaos, dealing with feelings like anger, anxiety, frustration, and doubt, which can cloud our perspective and negatively affect the way we live our lives. But in this inspiring book, Phillip Moffitt shows us that we need not be at the mercy of our emotions. By cultivating a responsive mind rather than a reactive one, we can achieve a state of emotional clarity that allows us to live skillfully and act with wisdom even in the face of obstacles or unhappiness.

Moffitt writes from a perspective that is grounded in both Western psychology and Buddhist philosophy. He leads us on a path that takes us from being caught in old, self-defeating habits of mind to a place of clarity where we can act from the wisdom of our intentions. Moffitt offers step-by-step exercises for abandoning unskillful behaviors and describes essential life skills that anyone can develop. Some of the benefits of skillful living are:

• Knowing and acting from our core values at all times
• Gaining wisdom from both pleasant and unpleasant experiences
• Having an inner life in which love can flourish, even if our outer life is filled with challenges
• Learning to speak only what is true, useful, and timely, even during moments of anger or outrage
• Freeing ourselves from the past
• Being able to soothe ourselves when we feel disappointed or overwhelmed by life

Elegantly written with both precision and compassion, Emotional Chaos to Clarity is an indispensable guide for those wishing to move through life’s challenges with a calm, clear mind and a peaceful, loving heart.

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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
At age 40, Moffitt, owner and editor-in-chief of Esquire, left to “explore the inner life.” After drifting with no clear direction, he moved from New York to California, went on meditation retreats, underwent Jungian analysis, and founded the Life Balance Institute. Moffitt summarizes the philosophy underlying his work in this guidebook for navigating through confusion, disappointment, and tough decision making. Part one, “Practices That Empower You to Achieve Clarity,” helps the reader connect with what matters most. The second section, “Developing Skillful Behaviors,” focuses on goals that enable one to confront life more effectively and authentically. The third part, “Removing the Sources of Chaos,” examines why people behave unskillfully and cause suffering for themselves and others. Each chapter, dealing with issues such as developing loving-kindness and recognizing personal boundaries, is followed by a self-assessment exercise, such as the Compassion Practice meditation with a repetition of phrases: “I can feel your suffering. May your suffering cease.” Though rife with buzzwords like “mindfulness” and “authenticity,” and the less elegant “imaginative possible,” the book still delivers valuable tools for psychological self-development and a more harmonious relationship with life. Agent: Stephanie Tade, Stephanie Tade Agency. (May 10)
Library Journal
Moffitt (former editor in chief, Esquire; founder, Life Balance Inst.) describes emotional chaos as a reaction to negative life situations rather than an honest and clear response. He shows how a proactive response, using the skills of mindfulness and intention, can transform life's challenges into opportunities for growth. Through Moffitt's explanations, exercises, and assessments, readers can cultivate the practices of "skillful living," e.g., learning to let go of expectations, ending the cycle of self-violence, and living life with gratitude. VERDICT Moffitt includes case studies and psychological insights geared toward general readers. A helpful book for those who need a clear focus.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781455882526
  • Publisher: Brilliance Audio
  • Publication date: 5/1/2013
  • Format: MP3 on CD
  • Edition description: Unabridged
  • Product dimensions: 5.37 (w) x 7.50 (h) x 0.50 (d)

Meet the Author

Former Esquire magazine CEO and editor in chief, Phillip Moffitt left his successful publishing career at the age of forty to embark on a path that led him to become a Buddhist meditation teacher and found the Life Balance Institute, where he trains executives and individuals in skillful living. He is co-guiding teacher at Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Northern California and the author of Dancing with Life: Buddhist Insights for Finding Meaning and Joy in Everyday Life.

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

A Note on the Cover xi

Introduction: Emotional Chaos to Clarity xiii

Part I Practices That Empower You to Achieve Clarity

Chapter 1 Beginning Your Journey to Clarity 3

Chapter 2 Getting to Know the Real You 15

Chapter 3 Living an Intentional Life 33

Chapter 4 Starting Over 43

Chapter 5 Letting Go of Expectations 57

Chapter 6 Balancing Priorities 67

Part II Developing Skillful Behaviors

Chapter 7 Starting Your Day with Clarity 83

Chapter 8 Knowing What's Really Happening 93

Chapter 9 Making Skillful Decisions 104

Chapter 10 Cultivating the Qualities of Loving-Kindness and Compassion 118

Chapter 11 Living into Life through Gratitude 130

Chapter 12 Overcoming Attachments through Generosity 143

Chapter 13 Doing the Right Thing 155

Chapter 14 Bringing Mindfulness to Making Major Life Changes 165

Part III Removing the Sources of Chaos

Chapter 15 Keeping Boundaries 179

Chapter 16 Ending the Cycle of Self-Violence 191

Chapter 17 Practicing Self-Restraint 202

Chapter 18 Overcoming Ordinary Compulsiveness 213

Chapter 19 Living Skillfully with the Difficult 227

Chapter 20 Practicing Forgiveness and Reconciliation 247

Epilogue: What Next? 262

Online Resources 269

Index 271

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 4, 2013

    Highly recommended

    For years I have been reading articles by Phillip Moffit in Yoga Journal. Imagine my dismay when he was no longer writing for them but doing other work. I was very excited to find out that he had written the book which was the reason for quitting Yoga Journal writing.
    I find the information very helpful particularly in learning to live in the present rather dreaming of the future or regretting/longing for the past.
    The book works well with his other Life Balance internet offerings.

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