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Overview

Over the past thirty years, groundbreaking studies on the relationships of couples have identified precisely what intimate partners must do in order to have successful partnerships.
Yet even when they know what would work, partners often find that they are unable to do these things. Why is this?
Provocative new neurological research suggests that old habits die hard for a reason—they may be woven into the fabric of brain states. We are wired for specific kinds of neural activations very early in life and these habitual responses are automatically activated in daily living, often without conscious awareness. Once they are set, these activation patterns (also known as response states) are likely to continue throughout a person’s life.
For the most part, we don’t volunteer for these response states; we simply find ourselves under their influence. When any one of them is activated, we may lose the capacity to choose freely our thoughts and actions. It’s as if, at that moment, someone else is in charge. For these reasons and others, people in relationships may find it extremely difficult if not impossible to change how they respond to their partners. No matter how much partners want to change, their wired response states oppose their intentions.
Part 1 of this book is a tour of the revolutionary discoveries emerging from neurobiology and the science of intimate relationships. Atkinson shows readers the implications of these discoveries for those who seek to change interpersonal habits and improve intimate relationships. These neural operating programs may also help explain why psychotherapies often fail to promote lasting change.
In Part 2 readers will find a remedy for this problem. Atkinson introduces Pragmatic/Experiential Therapy for Couples (PET-C), a step-by-step approach to working with couples that facilitates relationship change by promoting increased levels of neural integration in each partner. In PET-C, partners learn to identify mood states which perpetuate outmoded thoughts, attitudes, and habits of interaction. Once identified, clients are then assisted in the process of "re-wiring" these states for more flexibility and then activating alternate states which support new avenues for thought and action.
Extensive case examples and ample illustrations of therapeutic dialogue demonstrate for readers the ins and outs of implementing PET-C with their clients. This book is supplemented by a companion CD-ROM titled Developing Habits for Relationship Success. The CD-ROM has two workbooks—for clients with male partners and clients with female partners—that can be personalized with the client’s name and printed out on demand. The workbooks contain dozens of take-home exercises designed to help clients identify troublesome response states and then develop new emotional habits.
The discovery and understanding of the brain’s neural operating systems is of huge importance for anyone who seeks to make sense of troubled relationships and understand why partners often persist in self-defeating interactions. Emotional Intelligence in Couples Therapy is essential reading for anyone working with couples and seeking a new way to approach and understand human interactions.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780393703863
  • Publisher: Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.
  • Publication date: 10/8/2005
  • Series: Norton Professional Bks.
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 256
  • Sales rank: 1,005,094
  • Product dimensions: 6.50 (w) x 9.60 (h) x 1.40 (d)

Meet the Author

Brent J. Atkinson, Ph.D., is a senior graduate faculty member in the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at Northern Illinois University, and Director of Post-Graduate Training at the Couples Research Institute in Geneva, Illinois. He is the principle architect of Pragmatic/Experiential Therapy for Couples, an approach that translates new scientific findings about the brain into practical methods for improving relationships. Atkinson practices at the Couples Clinic in Geneva, Illinois.

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Table of Contents

Introduction : new answers to old questions 1
Ch. 1 Affective neuroscience and the emotional revolution 17
Ch. 2 Wired for love 41
Ch. 3 The prerequisites for relationship success 67
Ch. 4 An overview of pragmatic/experiential therapy for couples 91
Ch. 5 PET-C assessment 107
Ch. 6 Creating internal shifts 125
Ch. 7 Getting each partner on board : introduction 163
Ch. 8 Getting each partner on board : case example 177
Ch. 9 Retrospective review and prospective planning 203
Ch. 10 Critical aspects of reviewing/planning 223
Ch. 11 Rewiring internal states 251
Ch. 12 Accessing the intimacy states 279
Ch. 13 Becoming a skilled PET-C practitioner 297
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