Emotional Unavailability : Recognizing It, Understanding It, and Avoiding Its Trap

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Overview

"Bryan Collins explores the common problem of emotional unavailability from an original, practical, and non-judgemental perspective. This book offers usable solutions to this human dilemma."

Michael Share, Psy.D., L.P.

"Emotional Unavailability is an innotive look at ho a person's emotional style impacts his or her relationship patterns. The book goes beyond definitions of the various styles to provide techniques and tools for change."

James W. Keenan, M.S., L.P.,
Director Power of Relationships, PA

"I kept falling into stories that sounded uncomfortably like some that litter my own personal landscape."

Trudi Hahn

Minneapolis Star Tribune

"Bryn Collins examines the reasons we get into painful, frustrating relationships, and how we can make positive changes without blaming ourselves."

Gerrie E. Summers

Today's Black Woman

In this groundbreaking book, psychologist Bryn Collins opens up the discussion about life with an emotionally unavailable person. Using case studies, quizzes, and jargon-free, easy-to-understand concepts, she profiles the mos common types of emotionally unavailable partners, then offers the skills you need to change these painful associations. Based on her extensive clinical experience, she offers ways to recognize "toxic types" before you get too deeply involved, and she gives the emotionally unavailable partner techniques that teach how to connect with anothe person.

Bryn C. Collins, M.A., L.P., is licensed psychologist specializing in relationships, post-traumatic stress disorder, families in crisis, and adult survivors of abuse. She has a Ph.D in philosophy.

Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780809229147
  • Publisher: McGraw-Hill Companies, The
  • Publication date: 3/11/1998
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 304
  • Sales rank: 190,326
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 0.83 (d)

Meet the Author

Bryn C. Collins, M.A., L.P., is licensed psychologist specializing in relationships, post-traumatic stress disorder, families in crisis, and adult survivors of abuse. She has a Ph.D in philosophy.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments
Introduction 1
1 Mr. Wonderful, Ms. Perfect, and Friends 7
2 Background 33
3 The Deeply Desperate: Unrequited Romance Novels 81
4 Shall We Dance? Cha-Chas, Tracks, Chains, and Tangos 89
5 Romeo ... and Juliets: Man, Women, and Trouble 97
6 Head over Heart: The Intellectual Ivory Tower 105
7 Whatever You Say, Dear: Power Imbalances 113
8 The Adventurers: Relationships on the Edge 119
9 I've Got a Secret: Lies, Half-Truths, and Hidden Traps 127
10 Talking Turkey: The Emotion Stuffers 135
11 Yes, But...: You, Me, and All the Other Bad Stuff in the World 141
12 The One-Way Mirror: Narcissists 147
13 Let Me Fix It for You: The Codependency Cage 155
14 'Holics 161
15 The Rock and the Rocket 165
16 Emotionally Unavailable Parents 171
17 A Framework for Change and Growth 179
18 Tools for Changing and Growing 231
19 Dumping the Toxic and Moving On 263
Reading List 283
Index 286

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 24, 2007

    Amazingly Helpful

    I had not been able to find answers to the mystery of my on again - off again relationship. Therapists had tried to help us and it would work for a while, then back to off we'd go. I couldn't figure out why I stayed but I couldn't seem to let go. And then I read this book and everything got clear for me. I wish I lived where this psychologist practices because I need this kind of clear straight talk! And I'd like to thank her in person.

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  • Anonymous

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    Great Book

    After reading some of the other posts, I think some people want to read the book and find the solution to their problems. I found the book very helpful and know that you have to do the work to fix the problems.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 29, 2003

    Wah, Wah, Wah

    Not terrible but does not cover near enough about the real reasons (or solutions) to the problem, and tends to spend too much time whining and blaming......... ugh.

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