Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry, Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition / Edition 2

Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry, Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition / Edition 2

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by Albert Bernstein
     
 

ISBN-10: 0071790950

ISBN-13: 9780071790956

Pub. Date: 05/25/2012

Publisher: McGraw-Hill Professional Publishing

Protect yourself from people who take undue advantage and suck the energy out of your life

Emotional Vampires will help you cope effectively with the people in your life that confound you, confuse you, and seem to sap every ounce of your energy. Bestselling author Dr. Al Bernstein shows you how to recognize each vampire type—antisocial, histrionic,

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Overview

Protect yourself from people who take undue advantage and suck the energy out of your life

Emotional Vampires will help you cope effectively with the people in your life that confound you, confuse you, and seem to sap every ounce of your energy. Bestselling author Dr. Al Bernstein shows you how to recognize each vampire type—antisocial, histrionic, narcissists, obsessive-compulsives, paranoids—and deal with them effectively. He uses many examples from the latest news headlines, which will help you distinguish between the types and deepen your understanding of each one.

In response to the daily calls and emails he got about the previous edition of this book, Dr. Al Bernstein has added his advice for dealing with those emotional vampires who come in the shape of spouses and lovers, relatives, and children. Dr. Bernstein shows you how to deal with each vampire type and what you need to do to keep from getting drained.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780071790956
Publisher:
McGraw-Hill Professional Publishing
Publication date:
05/25/2012
Edition description:
List
Pages:
272
Sales rank:
159,287
Product dimensions:
5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.80(d)

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xi

1 Children of the Night 1

Who Are These Emotional Vampires?

Are They Really Vampires? 2

Antisocial Vampires 4

Histrionic Vampires 5

Narcissistic Vampires 5

Obsessive-Compulsive Vampires 6

Paranoid Vampires 7

2 Maturity and Mental Health 9

If Emotional Vampires Are Children, What Does It Take to Be a Grown-Up?

What Causes People to Become Emotional Vampires? 11

Immaturity Versus Evil 11

The Everybody and Nobody Rule 12

What If You See Yourself? 12

3 The Way of Vampires 15

How Emotional Vampires Are Different from and More Dangerous than Other Annoying People

Vampires Are Different 16

Vampires Prey on Humans 17

Vampires Can't See Themselves in a Mirror 19

Vampires Are More Powerful in the Dark 20

Protecting Yourself from Vampires 20

4 Lovable Rogues 21

The Antisocial Types

The Ferrari-Toyota Dilemma 22

How to Recognize an Antisocial Vampire 23

The Antisocial Emotional Vampire Checklist: Listening to the Call of the Wild 24

What the Questions Measure 25

5 Vampire Daredevils 27

Sexy, Thrilling, and Definitely Bad for Your Health

The Physiology of Excitement 27

Daredevil Hypnosis 28

Female Daredevils 29

How Vampires Keep You Coming Back for More 30

10 Ways to Protect Yourself from Daredevils 31

6 Daredevils in Your Life 39

Daredevil Lovers and Spouses

The Action Hero 39

The Liar 42

The Unfaithful Lover 43

Daredevil Ex-Husband 44

Daredevil Dads 47

Daredevil Adult Children 50

7 Antisocial Used Car Salesmen 53

Slicker than Cheap Polyester, So Always Remember to Read the Fine Print

Used Car Hypnosis 55

Is Honesty Really the Best Policy? 61

8 Vampire Bullies 63

Big, Scary, Powerful, and Stupid as the Guys Who Used to Take Lunch Money

The Instinct for Aggression 63

Vampire Bully Hypnosis 65

What to Do About Bullies 65

How to Do the Unexpected 67

9 Antisocial Used Car Salesmen and Bullies in Your Life 75

Living with a Liar 75

Bullies in Your Life 80

Living in a Minefield 80

10 Therapy for Antisocial Vampires 89

The Goal 89

Anger Control Treatment 90

Treatment for Addiction 90

Self-Help 91

What Will Hurt 92

11 Show Business, Vampire Style 93

The Histrionic Types

What It's Like to Be Histrionic 94

The Histrionic Dilemma 95

What the Questions Measure 95

The Histrionic Vampire Checklist: Living a Soap Opera 96

How to Protect Yourself from Histrionic Vampires 99

12 Vampires Who Ham It Up 101

Whether It's Sex, Sickness, or Secrets of Success, There's Only One Show Business

Ham-It-Up Hypnosis 103

Writing a Safe Role for Yourself 105

Illness as Theater 105

Celebrities, Fans, and Wannabes 106

Nine Ways to Protect Yourself from Histrionic Hams 106

13 Passive-Aggressive Vampires 111

Deliver Us from Ghoulies and Ghosties and People Who Are Only Trying to Help

Giving Until It Hurts 115

Illness as Communication 115

Passive-Aggressive Hypnosis 120

The High-Self-Esteem Syndrome 120

Nine Ways to Protect Yourself from Passive-Aggressive Histrionics 121

14 Histrionics in Your Life 127

Histrionic Martial Arts 127

My Mother, the Drama Queen 128

The Queen of Gossip 129

Your Depressed Sister 130

Male Histrionics 134

15 Therapy for Histrionic Vampires 137

The Goal 137

Professional Help 138

Self-Help 138

What Will Hurt 140

16 Big Egos, Small Everywhere Else 141

The Narcissistic Types

What It's Like to Be Narcissistic 142

The Narcissistic Dilemma 143

Narcissism and Self-Esteem 144

What the Questions Measure 144

The Narcissistic Vampire Checklist: Identifying the Self-Styled Smartest, Most Talented, All-Around Best People in the World 145

17 Vampires Who Are Legends in Their Own Minds 151

With Talent Like Theirs, Who Needs Performance?

How Narcissistic Legends Prevent Themselves from Succeeding 153

Narcissistic Legend Hypnosis 155

How to Socialize Narcissistic Legends 158

Nine Ways to Protect Yourself from Narcissistic Legends in Their Own Minds 159

18 Vampire Superstars 165

You've Got to Love These Guys! Worship Them, Actually

Dealing with Superstars' Insatiable Needs 166

Superstar Hypnosis 169

Sex and the Superstar 169

Superstar Depression and Anger 171

Nine Ways to Protect Yourself from Narcissistic Superstars 173

19 Narcissists in Your Life 179

Pundits from Hell 180

Tiger Mom 182

Season's Greetings from the Narcissist in Your Life 184

20 Therapy for Narcissistic Vampires 187

The Goal 187

Professional Help 187

Self-Help 187

What Will Hurt 189

21 Too Much of a Good Thing 191

The Obsessive-Compulsive Types

What It's Like to Be Obsessive-Compulsive 192

How Much Is Too Much? 193

Punishment, Where Good and Evil Meet 193

What the Questions Measure 194

The Obsessive-Compulsive Vampire Checklist: Vice Masquerading as Virtue 195

The Obsessive-Compulsive Dilemma 197

22 Vampire Perfectionists and Puritans 199

Can the Undead Be Anal-Retentive?

Why Do They Always Seem Angry? 200

Obsessive-Compulsive Hypnosis 200

Product Versus Process 201

Demanding Priorities 202

Perfectionists How the Imperfect Can Deal with Perfectionists 205

Puritans 206

Meet Your Inner Teenager 207

Nine Ways to Protect Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsives: What to Do When the Good Guys Are After You 210

23 Obsessive-Compulsives in Your Life 215

Control Freak 215

Control Freak Parents 218

Married to a Control Freak 218

24 Therapy for Obsessive-Compulsive Vampires 223

The Goal 223

Professional Help 223

What Will Hurt 225

25 Seeing Things That Others Can't 227

The Paranoid Types

Paranoid Purity 228

What It's Like to Be Paranoid 229

The Paranoid Emotional Vampire Checklist: Next Stop, the Twilight Zone 230

What the Questions Measure 231

26 Vampire Visionaries and Green-Eyed Monsters 235

Inspiration Always Involves Blowing Things out of Proportion

The Paranoid Quest 235

Paranoid Hypnosis 236

Visionaries 236

How to Recognize Crazy Ideas 238

Paranoids and Religion 241

Green-Eyed Monsters 241

The Nine Elements of Vampire-Fighting Strategy: How to Give Paranoids a Glimpse of Reality 244

27 Therapy for Paranoid Vampires 249

The Goal 249

Professional Help 249

Self-Help 250

What Will Hurt 250

28 Sunrise at Dracula's Castle 251

Index 253

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Personality-disordered people are not ignorant dummies - far from it. They are super-slick users and the more you know about them ahead of time, the more likely to you will respond effectively to your body's inner thump of warning you that are being taken advantage of. This book details such conscience-less characters for you in such a way that you will never disbelieve yourself again!
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