Emotionally Unavailable Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

Emotionally Unavailable Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

by Lyn Kelley
     
 

New, updated version 2015. Licensed Therapist and Certified Relationship coach Dr. Lyn Kelley gives you the real lowdown on closed men. Rate your man on the “emotional unavailability scale.” Why he shuts down emotionally, how to get him to open up, how to connect with him, how to create more intimacy, and how to make him fall deeply in love with you.

Overview

New, updated version 2015. Licensed Therapist and Certified Relationship coach Dr. Lyn Kelley gives you the real lowdown on closed men. Rate your man on the “emotional unavailability scale.” Why he shuts down emotionally, how to get him to open up, how to connect with him, how to create more intimacy, and how to make him fall deeply in love with you. She will help you understand his psyche, how to know if you should stay or leave. Plus: The best 15 strategies to handle an emotionally unavailable man. Here's what you'll discover:
Introduction:
Definition of emotionally unavailable
When you change, he changes
Whether or not your relationship can endure has to do with these 10 things

Chapter One: Common Signs of an Emotionally Unavailable Man
Why is he so afraid?
Signs of emotional unavailability

Chapter Two: What Causes Emotional Unavailability?
Learned behavior
Passivity
Passive resistance and passive aggressiveness
Weak and helpless men
Passiveness or weakness as a control strategy

Chapter Three: How Stunted Is He? A Continuum
Values vs ability
Quiet and reserved personality type
Conflict avoiders
Secretive
Hot and cold
In another relationship
Shiny ball syndrome
Alcohol and addictions
Control, anger and hostility

Chapter Four: Why We Are Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men
How EUM hook us in
The 4 reasons women choose EUM

Chapter Five: How You May Be a Cause of It
Change your perception
Why complaining doesn’t work
K.I.S.S. (Keep It Short and Sweet)

Chapter Six: How to Connect With an Emotionally Unavailable Man
Best ways to get more intimacy
15 Strategies proven to work

Chapter Seven: How to Know if You Should Stay or Leave
Are you in love with HIM or a FANTASY?
You have the right to feel loved
Speak in simple truths
Would couples therapy help?

Chapter Eight: How to Break Up With an Emotionally Unavailable Man
Talk and walk
Should we just take a break?
You deserve to be happy

Bibliography

Product Details

ISBN-13:
2940011476570
Publisher:
Lyn Kelley
Publication date:
07/03/2011
Sold by:
Smashwords
Format:
NOOK Book
Sales rank:
272,144
File size:
142 KB

Meet the Author

As a Motivational Coach and Speaker, my goal is “to empower people move to the next level of success in their lives.” Many people have asked for more information about me and why I am qualified to motivate others. So here’s a little bit about me and how I got here. It all started back in Fresno, CA where I was born and raised. As a child I knew I had a calling to help people be happier and live better lives. I knew this because I was keenly observant of people. I observed people and how they lived their lives. At age 10 a friend’s family invited me to a musical show called “Up With People!” This show had a major impact on me, and brought up my passion to help people be happier. Although my parents didn’t care about my grades, I received all A’s in school except I always failed Oral English. I couldn’t get up in front of the class and speak. What kept me going in school was my desire for a career in the helping/teaching profession, so I could help others become more successful. The females in my family were discouraged from going to college, so higher education became my way of rebelling. I earned my B.A. in Education from CSU Fresno. During college I had some wonderful professors who took me under their wing and encouraged me to speak in class. I learned that I enjoyed teaching and actually had a gift that had previously been repressed. I went on to get my teaching credential and taught Jr. and Sr. High School for 7 years. I went from a shy little girl who couldn’t speak in front of the class to a big girl who couldn’t STOP speaking in front of the class! Teaching adolescents was an amazing experience! I found that I wanted to work with them more one-on-one, so I went back to college to become a counselor. I received my M.S. in Counseling/Psychology from the University of Miami and became licensed as a Marriage & Family Therapist. Initially I set out to get a wide range of experience. I worked in a children’s psych hospital in dual diagnosis, managed a residential treatment program for severely emotionally disturbed teenage girls, did biofeedback therapy for a pain management center, and worked in social services in the areas of foster care, child abuse and family reunification. Once I became licensed I worked in a private counseling practice for 7 years. I specialized in relationship counseling. During this time I realized that coaching, writing and teaching were what I really loved to do, so I started writing books for healthcare professionals and teaching continuing education courses. I became particularly interested in the field of motivation and coaching and worked on this as a specialty. I founded GROW Training Institute, Inc. which is a coach training organization, and became a Certified Professional Coach. I then coached myself through my Doctoral Program and earned my Ph.D. in Health Science through a correspondence program. I can now freely pursue my true passions of writing, speaking, coaching and consulting! I have published 26 books and am working on my next one now. Many people have asked me what has most motivated me during my life? I believe that we all have internal motivation when we find our gift. My strong desire to help people become higher functioning, happier and more successful must have initially come from my internal desire to grow, learn, and improve my life and the world around me. It also came from my deep appreciation for my mentors and teachers who helped me overcome my anxieties and fears about success. It came from reading books by great self help/spiritual authors such as Wayne Dyer, Gary Zukav, Louise Hay, Marianne Williamson, Barbara DeAngelis and Tony Robbins. I have learned that it is fear that stops us most. We sabotage our own success due to our own fear of our own light. I want to help others overcome their obstacles and shine their light brightly, just as my mentors did for me. I now do business, relationship and life coaching. As a Business Coach, I conduct trainings for businesses, entrepreneurs, corporations and organizations all over the world. I do practice building consulting for mental health and medical providers. As a relationship coach I help people stop sabotaging themselves and create their ideal relationships. I work by telephone, Internet and face-to-face. If you are interested in receiving coaching or need a motivational speaker, please contact me! I wish you much success. See my YouTube video: The Biggest Mistake Women Make in Dating and Love Relationships -Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., LMFT, CPC

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