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Overview

Co-dependency¿of which enabling is a major element¿can and does exist in families where there is no chemical dependency. Angelyn Miller¿s own experience is a dramatic example: neither she nor her husband drank, yet her family was floundering in that same dynamic. In spite of her best efforts to fix everything (and everyone), the turmoil continued until she discovered that helping wasn¿t helping.

Miller recounts how she learned to alter the way she responded to family crises and general neediness, forever breaking the cycle of co-dependency. Offering insights, practical techniques, and hope, she shows us how we can transform enabling relationships into healthy ones.

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Overview

Co-dependency¿of which enabling is a major element¿can and does exist in families where there is no chemical dependency. Angelyn Miller¿s own experience is a dramatic example: neither she nor her husband drank, yet her family was floundering in that same dynamic. In spite of her best efforts to fix everything (and everyone), the turmoil continued until she discovered that helping wasn¿t helping.

Miller recounts how she learned to alter the way she responded to family crises and general neediness, forever breaking the cycle of co-dependency. Offering insights, practical techniques, and hope, she shows us how we can transform enabling relationships into healthy ones.

Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781587360671
  • Publisher: Wheatmark
  • Publication date: 10/1/2001
  • Edition number: 3
  • Pages: 120
  • Sales rank: 96,835
  • Product dimensions: 5.40 (w) x 8.50 (h) x 0.50 (d)

Table of Contents

Chapter 1. Looking for Answers 13
Chapter 2. Portrait of an Enabler 17
Chapter 3. Portrait of a Dependent 21
Chapter 4. Dependency 29
Chapter 5. My Son, John 37
Chapter 6. The Turning Point 43
Chapter 7. Assessing Myself 49
Chapter 8. A Question of Honesty 55
Worksheet #1: Speaking Honestly 61
Chapter 9. Allowing Others to Be Responsible for Themselves 63
Chapter 10. Enabling 71
Chapter 11. Matter of Self-Esteem 81
Worksheet # 2: Knowing Yourself 85
Chapter 12. Committing to Change 87
Worksheet #3: Changing Yourself 94
Chapter 13. Facing Fear 95
Worksheet #4: Challenging Fear 102
Chapter 14. Key to Change 107
Worksheet #5: Responding Appropriately 115
Chapter 15. Living Differently 117

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 2, 2000

    Step by step healing and relief for relationship pain

    This book outlines healing steps to take to free onesself from the pain and suffocation of codependent relationships from the authors own experience. In all the years I have been in recovery this book has given me more measurable success in recovery and relief than any other. A very short read but very powerful. I bought one for each of my daughters. I would have studied it with them as preteens and teens (like it or not) had I had the book then. As young adults they are reading it and gaining thier own healing clarity. Wonderful. Wish I could have coffee with the author!!!

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