Enemies of the Heart: Breaking Free from the Four Emotions That Control You [NOOK Book]

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Break free from the destructive power of guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy.
 
Divorce. Job loss. Estrangement from family members. Broken friendships.
 
The difficult circumstances you are dealing with today are likely being fed by one of four emotional forces that compels you to act in ...
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Overview

Break free from the destructive power of guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy.
 
Divorce. Job loss. Estrangement from family members. Broken friendships.
 
The difficult circumstances you are dealing with today are likely being fed by one of four emotional forces that compels you to act in undesirable ways, sometimes even against your will.
 
Andy Stanley explores each of these destructive forces—guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy—and how they infiltrate your life and damage your relationships. He says that, left unchallenged they have the power to destroy your home, your career, and your friendships.
 
In Enemies of the Heart, Andy offers practical, biblical direction to help you fight back, to take charge of those feelings that mysteriously control you, and to restore your broken relationships.
 
Includes a six-week discussion guide—a valuable resource for small groups!

Previously released as It Came from Within

From the Trade Paperback edition.

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Praise for Enemies of the Heart

“Andy Stanley touches the right nerve at the right time. We all have an understandable tendency to focus on the problems others need to address in their lives. But Andy encourages us to put ourselves on the hook and not let go until we’ve made any necessary changes. This book shined a spotlight on some of those areas I need to work on, and
I know it will do the same for you.”
—Shaunti Feldhahn, best-selling author of For Women Only

“Andy Stanley is a master teacher for a generation that loves to be taught. Here is yet more proof of Andy’s ability to take us deep in a way that makes us want to go there. This is a great book.”
—Dave Ramsey, New York Times best-selling author and nationally syndicated radio host

“Read this book with caution! You will probably uncover some mean and ugly stuff in the depths of your own heart. I sure did. The good news is that Andy Stanley doesn’t leave you there to struggle; instead, he offers wise, biblical remedies that every Christian should make part of their own spiritual habits. This is great stuff that I enjoyed teaching at our church.”
—Doug Fields, former associate pastor, Saddleback Church
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781601421814
  • Publisher: The Doubleday Religious Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 6/21/2011
  • Sold by: Random House
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 224
  • Sales rank: 56,539
  • File size: 2 MB

Meet the Author

Andy Stanley is a pastor, communicator, author, and the founder of North Point Ministries, Inc. (NPM). Since its inception in 1995, North Point Ministries has grown from one campus to five in the Atlanta area and has helped plant more than thirty strategic partner churches globally. Each Sunday, more than twenty-five thousand people attend worship services at one of North Point Ministries’ five campuses. Andy’s books include Communicating for a Change,  The Next Generation Leader, Visioneering, and How Good is Good Enough? Andy lives in Alpharetta, Georgia, with his wife, Sandra, and their children.

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It Came from Within

It came from within. But at first I wasn’t sure.

It was a Tuesday night. I was lying in bed, trying to go to sleep, when I felt a thump in my chest that actually shook my whole body.

I sat up and looked over at Sandra to see if perhaps she’d felt it too. No pain. No pressure. Just a larger-than-normal thump in my chest. I lay back down and tried to pretend it hadn’t happened. And then it happened again.

This time I said, “Did you feel that?”

No answer.

As I laid there staring at the clock, I put my hand over my heart and tried to listen as well as feel my pulse. About a half minute later I noticed that my heart skipped a beat and then, THUMP! This happened over and over. About a minute of normal heartbeat and then nothing. And then the big thump that literally coursed through my entire body.

Needless to say, I didn’t sleep much that night.

The next day I called my doctor. He sent me to the hospital with a prescription for this nifty device that records what’s happening to your heart while you go about your normal routine. I say normal. There are a few “normal” activities I would advise anyone against trying while wearing such a device.

The following day I went back to the hospital and they plugged the device into a computer to see what they could find. An hour later the technician came out and informed me that I had an irregular heartbeat. I was shocked. “Really? An irregular heartbeat? You don’t say. You mean my heart isn’t supposed to miss a beat every minute and then make up for it with increased seismic intensity?”

Of course, I didn’t say that. He was about to draw some blood, and I’ve always tried to stay on the good side of anyone who’s about to poke me with a needle.

They ran some tests. A lot of tests. After a couple hours of blood work, an EKG, an ultrasound—I told them there was no way I was pregnant, but they insisted—and a chest X-ray, a doctor came in to see me. He sat down with his clipboard and started asking me all the usual questions. Eventually he came to the “What medications are you taking?” question. Ordinarily that’s an easy one: “Nothing.” But it just so happened that I was taking something for my annual case of poison ivy. I’m never certain how I got it, but I always manage to come down with it every spring. Truth is, I don’t even know what poison ivy looks like—which may be part of my problem.

I tried to pronounce the name of the drug I was taking. After three or four failed attempts, the doctor deciphered what had been prescribed and wrote it down. Then he asked, “They didn’t prescribe a steroid as well?” No, they hadn’t. The reason being, I’d insisted that my family doctor give me the steroid in the form of a shot. Two shots, actually. When I shared this bit of seemingly insignificant news with the doctor, he put down his pen and smiled. “I think I know what your problem is.”

This was good news. Sandra has been wondering since we were married.

“What?” I asked.

“It’s the steroids. You’re going to be fine. Once it works its way through your system your heart will settle back down.”

And you know what—he was right. The problem took care of itself.

Wonderful…and Confusing

As you’ve probably guessed from this story, I’m not a doctor. And this is not a book about your physical heart. It’s about your other heart. You know, that invisible part of you that philosophers, poets, and preachers refer to all the time. That thing that got broken in the ninth grade when what’s-her-name said she just wanted to be friends. I’m
talking about that part of you that swells up with pride when you see your kids do something great. It’s that thing that gets all nostalgic when you hear an old Journey tune (or whatever music served as the soundtrack for your senior year). It’s that part of me that fills up when Sandra sits down next to me on the front row at church every Sunday
morning. Amazing how that still happens after all these years…

And to be fair, the heart I’m talking about is also that part of me that wanted to wring the coach’s neck for keeping my son on the bench throughout an entire all-star game.

The heart I’m speaking of is that mysterious, wonderful, confusing part of you that enables you to love, laugh, fear, and experience life. It’s the sphere in which relationship happens. And it’s the sphere in which relationships are broken.

Damage Control

Life can be hard on the heart. The world is full of outside influences that have the power to disrupt the rhythm of your heart. Most are subtle. Some may even appear to be necessary as protection from further disruptions. Over time you develop habits that slowly erode your heart’s sensitivity. The inevitable pain and disappointment of life have caused you to set up walls around your heart. Much of this is understandable. But at the end of the day, there’s no way around the truth:

Your heart is out of sync with the rhythm it was created to maintain. These disrupters that throw your heart out of sync are not like the steroid that eventually worked its way out of my system without any effort on my part. Those things that disrupt the rhythms of the invisible heart linger. If left alone, some will linger for a lifetime. After a while we come to accept these disrupters as part of us, part of our personality. And so we catch ourselves saying, “That’s just the way I am.” But you weren’t always that way. And those closest to you know it. So let me ask you, how are things with your heart?

Close the book and think for a moment. How are things with your heart? Not your career, your family, or your finances. Your heart. Chances are, you’ve never stopped to consider your heart. And why should you? There are meals to fix, calls to return, interviews to prepare for, and bills to pay. If at the end of the day you’re all caught up with these things and someone asks, “How are things?” you can smile and sigh and say, “Fine.”

But this is a different question.

It’s a more important question.

And yes, it’s an awkward question.

Another Me

Perhaps the major reason we rarely stop to monitor our hearts is that it was never encouraged. As children, we were taught instead to monitor our behavior. In other words, we were taught to behave. If we behaved properly, good things happened, regardless of what was going on in our hearts. If we misbehaved, not-so-good things happened. My parents believed in spanking. So the not-so-good things got my attention early. I modified my behavior so as to avoid pain, and I’ve been doing that ever since. I bet you have too.

Years ago a buddy and I decided to move a road sign. We thought it would be funny to route traffic up an entrance ramp that led to a highway that was under construction and not opened yet. As a result, I spent the good portion of a night in jail. So I modified my behavior. I never moved another road sign.

Pain, embarrassment, fines, and spankings are generally considered effective ways to focus an individual’s attention on his or her behavior. Consequently, you and I have become much better at monitoring our behavior than our hearts.

But it’s not just the avoidance of pain that drives us. Good behavior can be rewarding. As a professional Christian—a pastor, by trade—I’m paid to be good. So I’ve learned to modify my words and behavior so as not to damage my reputation and, thus, my career. You’ve no doubt done the same thing. Whatever your job, there are some things
you just won’t do. Not because you don’t want to, but because of the professional ramifications. Perhaps there are some words and phrases you won’t use, in spite of the fact that they would accurately convey what you’re feeling. I’ll bet there are some people you pretend to like because it’s beneficial to you. And all of that is fine. More than fine, it’s
necessary. After all, like my buddy Charlie is fond of saying, everybody’s got to eat and live indoors.

But all this pretending can be problematic because pretending allows you to ignore the true condition of your heart. As long as you say the right thing and do the right thing, you’re tempted to believe that all is well. That’s what your childhood experience taught you. But when your public performance becomes too far removed from who you are in your heart, you’ve been set up for trouble. Eventually your heart—the real you—will outpace your attempts to monitor
and modify everything you say and do. The unresolved issues stirring around undetected in your heart will eventually work their way to the surface. Specifically, they’ll seep into your actions, your character, and your relationships. If your heart continues to go unmonitored, whatever “thing” is growing in there will worsen to the point that you’re no longer able to contain it with carefully managed words and behaviors.

So let me ask you again: How’s your heart?

Slippage

Maybe you’ve already noticed things starting to slip a bit. Maybe you’ve always been able to contain your anger, but lately there’s an edge in your voice that scares even you. And what about those occasional outbursts that slip through your normally ironclad facade?

You know you ought to be happy for Frank on his promotion, but for some reason you’re not. The truth is, Frank represents that person from your past who bought something or won something or was given something you wanted, and now you find yourself resenting Frank for it.

Ladies, how about your sister-in-law who wears those jeans you know better than to try and fit into. She looks great, but you aren’t about to let her know that. But why? Why does it bother you? You know it shouldn’t. So you behave like everything’s okay. But it’s not. These are merely symptoms of a deeper struggle. Your heart is under assault, and it could be that you’re losing. Primarily through neglect. After all, nobody ever told us to keep a close check on our
hearts.

Evidence of an internal battle are statements like:

“I can’t believe I just said that.”

“I don’t know where that came from.”

“I can’t believe I did that.”

“That’s not like me.”

Heart Exam

Cardiologists use a procedure called an arteriogram to diagnose the health of a patient’s heart. An arteriogram is an X-ray of the arteries taken after a dye is injected into the bloodstream. The dye allows doctors to pinpoint blockage in the arteries that serve as conduits carrying blood from the heart.

If blockage is discovered, a skilled cardiologist is able to insert a stent through an artery in the patient’s leg, navigate it up into the heart, and open up the blood vessels so that blood can again flow freely to blocked or damaged regions. It’s an amazing procedure to watch on video. You can actually see the dye making its way through the arteries and then stopping when it reaches an area that’s blocked. Even an untrained eye can spot the problem area once the dye has been injected—it’s that obvious.

But apart from an arteriogram, a life-threatening heart problem can go undetected for years. An individual who has blockage will experience symptoms, but these symptoms may not seem to be directly associated with the heart. Arterial blockage can manifest itself through back pain, inability to sleep, anxiety, loss of appetite, indigestion, nausea, vision change, even loss of memory.

What were we just talking about? Oh yes.

All of these are symptoms that can be and often are treated as isolated issues unrelated to the health of the heart. And the right medication can take the edge off most of these symptoms. The problem, of course, is that treating the symptoms masks the real culprit. Worse, it delays treatment of the problem, thus leaving the problem to worsen.

Heart of the Matter

Likewise, we’re tempted to treat the ancillary, symptomatic challenges that stem from an unhealthy heart while ignoring the deeper issues. But as is the case with the physical heart, eventually the root problem will become a real problem. And just as a heart attack has the potential to destroy your body, so spiritual heart disease has the potential to destroy you and squeeze the life out of your most valuable relationships.

So for the next couple hundred pages, we’re going to do some poking around. I’m going to do my best to expose your heart to the penetrating light of God’s truth. Like the dye used in an arteriogram, truth can help us to pinpoint the blockage in our spiritual condition. Once the problem area has been identified, the solutions are usually pretty obvious. Actually, the solutions are quite simple. But first we must familiarize ourselves with the most common blockages, their causes, and their symptoms.

In these pages I'll deal with four primary enemies of the heart—four life-blocking agents that can become lodged there for various reasons. Each has the potential to erode your relationships, your character, and even your faith. We’ll spend several chapters looking at each of these in detail. I’ll then challenge you to embrace four new habits. I often refer to these as “habits of the heart”—habits that exercise the heart and allow it to maintain the rhythm for which it was designed.

Each of these habits specifically addresses one of four maladies that can infect your heart. Three of the four habits will probably sound familiar; the fourth one may be new to you. When applied consistently, these four disciplines will bring healing and wholeness to your heart, whatever your current condition. There’s some evidence to suggest that these habits can positively impact your physical health as well. Personally, I believe these habits have the potential to change everything.

If this all sounds too good to be true, let me remind you of a declaration God made generations ago that’s still true and extraordinarily relevant today. He claimed that he could give a man or woman a new heart (see Ezekiel 36:26). The interesting thing is that he said this to a people who already had God’s List of Top Ten Behaviors to guide them. But clearly it wasn’t enough for them to know what to do; they needed to change from the inside out in order to follow through. Each of them needed, as we need, to drop the public persona and become one whole and healthy person.

What we need is a heart that can keep pace with our outward obedience.

Take Two

If you grew up going to the kind of church I grew up in, the notion of God’s still needing to do some work in your heart may cause a bit of inner tension. Perhaps you prayed a prayer some time ago inviting Jesus to come into your heart. And like me, you may have assumed that once he was in, all was well. I mean, Jesus has made himself at home in my heart, so everything’s copasetic, right? But somewhere along the way each of us is forced to face the painful truth that all is not well. So we pray the prayer a second or third time for fear that the first one didn’t take. And yet we continue to see disturbing signs that our heart isn’t entirely new. So what’s up?

What’s up is this: What God begins at the moment of our salvation is not completed in that same moment. I bet you already knew that about yourself, didn’t you? If you didn’t know it, I’d bet your best friend does. At the risk of oversimplifying, let me put it this way: Jesus may have moved into your heart, but he may not have been given full access. That’s why as happy as you are about being forgiven, you’re not always willing to extend forgiveness to others. That’s a heart thing. As excited as you are about the success you’re experiencing, you aren’t always excited about the success someone else is enjoying. That’s a heart thing too. Both are evidence that God has not completed in you what
he has begun. You’re still a work in progress. There’s still some heart work to be done.

One last thing before we move on. Your heart didn’t arrive at its present condition overnight. It won’t become healthy overnight either. You can’t overcome in an instant the effects of years of blockage caused by guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy. Adopting new habits of the heart is a process, but it’s a process that will yield some immediate results. My hope is that these immediate dividends will encourage and motivate you to continue cultivating these new habits until you arrive at a place where your Creator desires and made you to be.

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  • Posted October 25, 2011

    Self Evaluation, Not Self Help

    Enemies of the heart is one of those books that made me evaluate my attitudes and thoughts about various events and people in my life. It really opened my eyes to unhealthy emotions hidden in my own heart.

    With that said I want to make it clear that Enemies of the heart is not a self-help, 4 steps , How to make all your problems go away kind of a book.

    This book, written in a conversational style, leads you to think about your hearts attitude toward circumstances.
    Andy Stanley Describes in perfect detail the reasons We often feel anger, jealousy, and Greed. He describes how harmful these emotions become when they go unchecked.

    He not only exposes the dangers of these emotions, but he gives us the tools to begin the journey towards conquering those enemies of your heart. And yes we all have them.
    This book is very well written and kept my interest all the way to the end. I even went back and re-read and underlined things I needed to stick in my own heart.
    I recommend this book to anyone who is hurting, or has been hurt in the past, knows someone that is hurting, or will be hurt in the near future. Enemies of the heart is a very well written book perfect for those moments in the waiting room, bus,train ride, and can even be used as a devotional or a study group guide. (The study guide is in the back of the book)
    Get this book. You will be changed by it.
    Forgive.Celebrate.Move forward.

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted May 7, 2012

    Well Worth Reading

    I always enjoy Andy Stanley's books, so I wasn't surprised to find that this one was good too. If you have read other things by him and don't connect with his communication and writing styles, then you'll probably be disappointed here as well. However, if you have enjoyed other books and teachings by him in the past, it's likely you'll enjoy this one too. If you've never read any of Stanley's works, then I recommend that you try this one out.

    Guilt. Anger. Greed. Jealousy. These are the four emotions that are covered in this book. While I was skeptical at first glance to think I would take away much from this book, as I got further into it, I found myself nodding my head and interrogating my heart. He approaches these topics from a "debt" perspective helped simplify each emotion and how that "debt" expresses itself in our lives. And with each emotion, there is a "debtor" to whom the "debt" is attached.

    Andy Stanley addresses not only the debts and debtors in our lives, but gives a specific antidote to dealing with each of these controlling emotions so that we can live more fully and freely. While we may not have a problem with any one particular emotion this book covers, it is good information to store up, for, being human, we are prone to fall short and be tempted in a specific area if not all areas. I do think, however, most any reader will find at least one area in their life that could use the illumination this book provides.

    At the end of the book, he takes a little time to address lust and how it differs from the other emotions he covers. While the four emotions of guilt, anger, greed and jealousy are to be eliminated from our lives in order to be healthy and whole, lust is with us and to eliminate it would not be advisable. Instead, he calls it an appetite that needs to be controlled, and if we are successful in managing our lust properly, lust is a benefit and a gift.

    The end of the book contains a study guide with questions to be used in an individual or group setting.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted August 28, 2012

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    Enemies of the Heart

    In this book, the author, Andy Stanley, states that their are four enemies of the heart. They are: greed, jealousy, guilt and anger. He gives practical advice alone with biblical insight (scriptures). With the tools he provide and prayer I would say one should be able to break the strong holds that linger within our heart. The author also included advice on LUST and how it should be controlled. I really like the last pages in the book too. A study guide that can be used in a group setting. I enjoyed reading this novel and think the author made is simple and practical enough for any adult level reader will understand.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted May 7, 2012

    A Great Read for ALL!

    Formerly released as "It Came from Within," Andy Stanley's newest book, Enemies of the Heart: Breaking Free from Emotions that Control" is a great read for anyone has a heart (pun intended.) Andy proposes that there are 4 primary enemies of the heart: guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy. By offering practical direction, supported with biblical insight, the author seeks to help you break free from their destructive power over your heart...and your life.

    "...just as a heart attack has the potential to destroy your body, so spiritual heart disease has the potential to destroy you and squeeze the life out of your most valuable relationships."


    The concept is not hard to comprehend. Deep down we know something is wrong with us and yet we continue to say we're "fine." Though there are many enemies of the heart, I'm glad that Andy narrowed it down to the most destructive of them, addressing each with practicality and biblical support. Written from his point of view, the reader can easily relate to the material and will enjoy his transparency. I look forward to reading more books from him.

    About the author: Andy Stanley is a pastor, communicator, author, and the founder of North Point Ministries, Inc. (NPM). Since its inception in 1995, North Point Ministries has grown from one campus to five in the Atlanta area and has helped plant more than thirty strategic partner churches globally. Each Sunday, more than twenty-five thousand people attend worship services at one of North Point Ministries’ five campuses. Andy’s books include Communicating for a Change, The Next Generation Leader, Visioneering, and How Good is Good Enough? Andy lives in Alpharetta, Georgia, with his wife, Sandra, and their children.

    The book is available in print and ebook format.

    Disclosure: A copy of this book was provided to me free of charge from the publisher for the purpose of review. A positive review was not required. All opinions contained in this review are mine.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 2, 2012

    HELP Translating your actions and attitudes with the heart!

    This book helped me see the condition of my own heart like never before! I always struggled with understanding how to identify the emotions I have with its root cause. This book guides you through 4enemies that if left unchecked can plague your heart and allow you to be vulnerable to more than you would care to imagine, including sexual sin. The case was made clear biblically with multiple references to scripture that we are to guard our hearts for out of it flows the wellspring of life. Written in conversation style it is as if Andy is a good friend. He balances his writing with relatable stories and reveals some of his own personal struggles along with signature humor. This book packs a punch that will give you a very clear plan, not just identifies the problem. But gives you the anecdote to apply for healing and restoration with God. There are discussion questions to do this in a small group setting. This book has personally set me on a new direction and goal: to keep my heart guarded, cleaned by God's forgiveness, and pass on these 4 steps to my children so they may be connected with their own hearts as a discipline to help them grow healthy hearts of their own. Highly recommended! I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah in exchange for this review. Tpekurny

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  • Posted December 24, 2011

    Enemies of the Heart - Confronting What's Within

    Andy Stanley writes about how our actions come from within and how our inner condition is determined by the condition of our heart. It is because of our damaged or wounded hearts that we react in certain ways. He describes four enemies of the heart, which greatly impacts the condition of the heart: guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy. He attributes habits (one habit per enemy of the heart) that can be practiced to help confront and turn away from our guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy.

    I appreciated what Stanley had to say concerning the heart condition and how to approach each enemy. I found myself naturally thinking about what he was saying and analyzing what condition my heart is in. He does a great job at making the material understandable and relevant to the life of the reader (at least for me he did). I was challenged to not simply read and be educated, but to actual confront the enemies of my heart with the help of God. I believe this book is a good resource to revisit our heart and reflect on what we need to go to God with and allow Him to transform. I see this book being a good introduction to growing in self-awareness.


    I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 11, 2013

    Riviting

    This book will change your life

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 26, 2012

    Heals the heart

    Wonderful to use for daily devotions. The studying of this book is like going to a therapist. It helps you have insight into your heart and your relationship with God.

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  • Posted December 15, 2011

    Uncomfortable at best - but worth it

    Andy Stanley does a marvelous job at one thing in "Enemies of the Heart:" uncovering a few uncomfortable truths within all of us. The primary issue uncovered is that the things in life that fester negatively within us are actually tied to our heart.

    The book is basically laid out into four parts. In Part One, Stanley covers the deceptive nature of our sin, and how our sin is indeed a heart issue. Drawing on Scripture from Jeremiah, we are left with a striking need to correct our sin issue.

    Part Two lays out four specific "enemies." These are guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy. Using real-world examples, Stanley gives practical knowledge on these circumstances.

    Part Three offers ways to counteract each of these enemies using happiness, forgiveness, and philanthropy.

    Part Four introduces a topic on which Andy preaches often - the legacy we leave for our children and for those to whom we are accountable. Using vivid imagery, Andy closes out the book leaving the reader filled with a longing for action.

    This book is written in a very down-to-earth fashion, making it appropriate for anyone. However, I think that the Christian will benefit most from it's teachings, as it is laden with Scripture throughout.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 6, 2011

    HIGHLY RECOMMENDED

    Very useful, I recommend it to any body that want changes in his life but don't know what to do or where to go, people that are dealing with divorce, rape, abortion, death, and all other life deceptions. I learned that what comes in is what comes out, if we need to be better we need to start from the inside. this book help me see my true self and understand other's shortcoming.

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  • Posted November 24, 2011

    Helpful book

    Book Review: Enemies of the Heart
    By Andy Stanley

    Enemies of the Heart by Andy Stanley is an informal text about four main emotions that may grip one's heart, robbing them of a full life. The book discusses where emotions come from, the four emotions (guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy), how to deal with each of the emotions, and how to go on with life. The book is full of personal experiences shared by the author. The emotions are demonstrated clearly through the detail of real experiences rather than being at the philosophical level. It may be difficult to relate at times, if your experience is different than that of the authors. Overall the book provides a good frame work for addressing the heart issues: "confess, forgive, give, celebrate".


    ¿I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review¿.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 24, 2011

    Great illustrations of real life

    This is an awesome book! Andy does a great job of taking the challenges in our life and putting them into logical perspective. He really unravels the confusion around guilt, anger, and entitlement that just really makes life tough. I wish I would have read this years ago. Highly recommend it.

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  • Posted November 18, 2011

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    For Difficult Emotions

    Andy Stanley helps us understand what the Bible tells us all about human nature and the source of sin. He expertly guides us to the problem, ie the sin problem like guilt, anger, greed, jealousy, etc. Then he shows us through scripture the answer to these sins. Forgiveness is the answer to anger as generosity is the answer to greed, and so on. This is a very helpful book.

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  • Posted October 17, 2011

    This book will make you examine your heart! Fantastic!

    I have to admit, the title of this book and the cover grabbed my attention. I have never heard of Andy Stanley. Andy talks about the 4 main enemies of the heart. Guilt, anger, greed and jealousy can eat away at your heart until you are a bitter person. Ever since I got the news that my little brother is fighting cancer, I have been angry. I have given in and have been allowing anger to rule a lot of areas in my life. This book has given me hope that I can overcome anger with God's help. I would highly recommend this book. I found myself struggling in a few areas, not only anger.

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  • Posted October 6, 2011

    Book Review: Enemies Within

    Emotions are a part of life. Everyone deals with them at some level. But what if our lives become controlled by emotion? What if the issues we are dealing with today are the result of our inability to control our emotional heart? In his personal and humorous style, Andy Standy unpacks four destructive emotions that when taken root will damage relationships. These emotions are guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy. Seriously, who hasn't struggle with one or each of these emotions? Stanley offers powerful and practical advice grounded in the Bible to help win the battle in our hearts with these emotions and restore relationships that have been broken as a result. This is an excellent read for any follower of Christ who wants to grow in their ability to "love one another." I give Enemies of the Heart 4.5 out of 5 stars. Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through Waterbrook Multnomah Publishers book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.

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  • Posted September 28, 2011

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    Transformative

    Andy Stanley blows my mind with the most obvious stuff. Really, it's not that he's not wise or creative. He is. It's just that the best things I've ever heard him say are so plain.

    His book Enemies of the Heart, based on a series he preached called "It Came from Within," is yet another example of profound simplicity.

    In this book, Stanley suggests that most all of our bad behavior springs from one of four heart conditions (guilt, anger, greed or jealousy) and that while we may be tempted to modify our behavior, real transformation won't occur until we root around in our hearts.

    At one point in the book Stanley asks if you've ever said something like " I don't know where that came from" in response to something inappropriate, mean, spiteful (etc.) you may have said. His response to this haunts me. He says, "You want to know where that came from? It came from your sick heart."

    The first time I heard him say that was four years ago. I say it to myself now every time I catch myself inching into guilt, anger, jealousy or greed, and when you start thinking about it, almost every misstep we make grows out of one of those four conditions.

    If you haven't read the book, you should. Or listen to the sermon series (which you can probably buy on Northpoint Community Church's website). This is truly transformative truth, the kind of stuff that messes with your status quo.

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  • Posted September 27, 2011

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    Best Prescription for Your Heart

    The author does a superb job on describing what he calls the primarily four emotions that can give us heart diseases. Those emotions can cause damage to us and to our relationship with others. Those four emotions are:
    - Guilt - this is the feeling that I owe those I have offended (I owe you). Suggested treatment is to confess.
    - Anger - this is the feeling that everyone owes me (You owe me). Suggested treatment is to forgive.
    - Greed - this means that I always want more and more (I owe me). According to the author, it is not a feeling, but a refusal to act. Suggested treatment is to give.
    - Jealousy - this is the feeling that I deserve more than what I get (God owes me). Suggested treatment is to celebrate others triumph.

    The author uses plenty of examples and advices to prove his point, but it is always easier to say than to execute.
    Anyway, it is an excellent book and I recommend to be in the permanent library of any reader that wants to improve his/her self-control and get closer to God.

    This book was written by Andy Stanley and was first published in February of 2006 with the Title "It Came from Within" by WaterBrook Multnomah Books and it is now republished in June 2011 by the same publisher but with a different name, "Enemies of the Heart". The publishers were kind enough to provide me a copy for reviewing through their Blogging for Books Program. Thanks, Mr. Stanley, for this wonderful book.

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  • Posted September 21, 2011

    Great book with easy to understand concepts!

    Enemies of the Heart by Andy Stanley turned out to be a great read. I say "turned out" because it took me a while to get into it. :-)

    Andy Stanley discusses the four root causes of sin in our hearts, those being anger, greed, guilt and jealousy. His descriptions of each of the four emotions and the ways that they manifest themselves in our interactions with others were interesting, revealing that they don't always looks like we'd expect them to look.

    He organizes the discussion of each root sin around the concept of debt...anger is a feeling of "you owe me," greed is a feeling of "I owe me," guilt is a feeling of "I owe you," and jealousy is a feeling of "God owes me." I think that theme definitely works as a way to understand the sinful emotions, but it may vary slightly from situation to situation. Then again, they are really so intertwined that it was nice to see it organized so succinctly.

    To sum up his method for confronting these heart emotions, he gives a list of habits that we should develop. As we do, we'll find that they replace anger, greed, guilt and jealousy in our hearts. For anger, cultivate the habit of forgiveness. For greed, cultivate the habit of generosity. For guilt, cultivate the habit of confession to those you've wronged. And for jealousy, cultivate the habit of celebration of what God has given to others.

    I enjoyed reading this book and would recommend it.

    I received this book from the Blogging for Books program through WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing in exchange for an honest review. Go here to learn more info about the program.

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  • Posted September 21, 2011

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    A Heart Opening Journey

    I was given an opportunity to review Andy Stanley's book, Enemies of the Heart. This book identifies four emotions that have the power to control us if we allow them to do so. This book is well written; however, may be difficult to digest, especially if one or more of these four emotions has lodged itself in your heart. Stanley identifies the four enemies of the heart as guilt, anger, greed and jealousy. Stanley uses multiple scriptures and personal illustrations to help the reader understand each enemy. Throughout reading this book I began to find it easier to identify emotions in myself and those around me. The good news is that not only does Stanley identify these four enemies he also provides ways for us to overcome them. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn to take control over his or her emotions. One chapter I especially enjoyed described how learning to model this control over our emotions can greatly benefit our children. By learning how to model confession, forgiveness, generosity and celebration we can teach our children how to manage the emotions that rage within them and provide them with a valuable resource that will serve them well for a lifetime. I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.

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  • Posted September 18, 2011

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    How to Find Health for Your Emotional Heart

    Heart Problems
    The author shows parallels between illnesses of the physical heart and of the emotional heart. Various exercises are required to fix what's wrong with one's heart. Reading this, I feel him figuratively knock me upside the head about both my hearts. So, what are the emotions that damage the heart? What are the debts associated with them?
    Guilt: I owe you.
    I feel as though I owe someone for some transgression.
    It's not enough to confess this before God though He does forgive. Debts must be paid off or canceled - even relational ones.
    Solution: Confession. Go to God, to the person to whom an apology is owed and confess your guilt. Offer to make restitution if that is possible. The person may not remember the transgression or consider it important and cancel the debt. Or he or she may hold a grudge, which is that person's problem. Once confessed and restitution made - if required, the debt is paid.
    Anger: You owe me.
    Someone didn't give me what I believe I deserve.and I can show why I'm angry. The problem is even justifiable anger hurts others. I should not let what happened to me affect how I treat others. Why give that power to the one who hurt me?
    Solution: Forgiveness. Whether the person asks or not, do not hold him or her accountable. Jesus paid the debt each of us owed God. He calls us to cancel the debt others owe us.
    Problem: The author doesn't deal with incest or other abuses. The damage to one's life from being so abused is tremendous and the guilty should be stopped from continuing such abuse. The author's focus, however, is on the heart of the abused.
    Greed: I owe me.
    Stuff is held dearer than people. "People with greed lodged in their heart fear that God.won't take care of them in the fashion or style in which they want to be cared for." They become anxious and strive to always have more.
    Solution: Generosity. "Generosity allows us to partner with God as he shows himself in tangible ways to the world around us." This requires faith that "God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus."
    Jealousy: God owes me.
    It's God's fault that I'm not as good-looking as my brother, not as smart as my sister, don't have as good a job as my neighbor. I even rejoice when one of them has a loss.
    Solution: Celebration. Celebrate what the other has or accomplished. Genuinely compliment the one who seems better off than one's self. "Celebration makes us a vehicle through which God communicates his pleasure."
    What about lust?
    The author then writes, ".lust is different from guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy in one very important way: God created it. He even declared it good." He wrote, ".before sin, there was lust.
    "Lust isn't a problem you solve; it's an appetite you manage. Thus the need for self-control." However, excessive, uncontrolled lust is a symptom of lack of intimacy with one's father. Anger, especially, gives a foothold for Satan to play with the heart and reduce resistance to lust.
    Solution: First, deal with the other heart problems. Then lust must be contained - focused on the right person. Self-control must be exercised.
    I recommend this book to anyone with problems in his or her relationships. Exposure of the problems to the light will be painful. Performing the exercises recommended will be tough. The results will be better relationships, more joy in trusting God, and healthier hearts.

    This book was received free in ebook format from Blogging For Books just s

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