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Those who are in the unenviable position of living or working with a narcissist have learned by sad trial and error that they are the only one in the relationship who can change the dynamic. Certainly narcissists don?t think they need to change. Enough About You, Let?s Talk About Me is a hands-on resource for helping colleagues, families, and spouses deal with people who exhibit narcissistic tendencies by learning how to change their own attitudes and responses.
Those who are in the unenviable position of living or working with a narcissist have learned by sad trial and error that they are the only one in the relationship who can change the dynamic. Certainly narcissists don’t think they need to change. Enough About You, Let’s Talk About Me is a hands-on resource for helping colleagues, families, and spouses deal with people who exhibit narcissistic tendencies by learning how to change their own attitudes and responses.
Part One: It’s All About Me.
Chapter 1 What Makes a Narcissist?
Chapter 2 Why Does Someone Become a Narcissist?
Part Two: Recognizing the Patterns.
Chapter 3 The Narcissist with an Insatiable Need for Control.
Chapter 4 The Passive-Aggressive Narcissist.
Chapter 5 The Bottomless Well of Common Narcissistic Demands.
Part Three: Dealing with the Narcissists in Your Life.
Chapter 6 Examining Your Anger.
Chapter 7 Removing Fear from the Equation.
Chapter 8 Committing to Humility.
Chapter 9 Fostering Your Own Inner Security.
Chapter 10 Replacing Bitterness with Forgiveness.
Posted April 15, 2012
I found it very refreshing and helpful that this book is written for the survivors of narcissists. It provides thought-provoking and informative techniques to help with recovery, healing, and moving on with your with life from the damage and pain inflicted by relationships with narcissists. This book was recommended to me by my therapist during my own healing process.
After personally being involved in two long-term (intimate) relationships with narcissists, I found this perspective to be very refreshing. I've read a lot of books about narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. Most books on NPD cover what causes this disorder, and the traits of the disordered people (which is also very helpful and informative). However, this is the first book I've read on the subject that is focused on the survivor of the pain and damage these disordered people cause to those around them, and what they can do to help themselves.
Overall, this is an excellent book on the topic. The only reservation I had with it is that it does not cover one very (life-saving for me) strategy available for survivors of narcissists. It did not cover the topic of abusive relationships with these people, the frequent need in these cases for survivors to maintain No Contact with the disordered person after it's ended, and how extremely dangerous these people can be for survivors. People with NPD do not like to relinquish control (about anything, including control of the people from former relationships). Any contact the survivor must have with the disordered person may be dangerous to them (both emotionally and physically). The narcissist WILL sabotage the survivor's recovery, if they can because they want CONTROL. This can be very harmful to a person that is healing/recovering from a narcissist.
Because of my own personal experiences, I feel that No Contact might have been one very good strategy to discuss in this book along with the others it does cover. When it comes to survivors of people with this personality disorder, No Contact after the end of the relationship literally saved my life.
Other than this one suggestion, this is an excellent, very information book, and I will highly recommend it to anyone that's been involved in a relationship with a narcissistic person.
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Posted August 21, 2013
Provides very surface and superficial understanding of narcissism. Save your money, many other good books available..Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted May 8, 2010
If you live with someone who literally sucks the life out of you, you have to read this book. It will open your eyes to understanding the tragedy of being in a relationship with a narcissist whether a spouse, friend or co-worker. The book helps you to see the steps you need to take to overcome the affects of being with someone of this destructive and toxic nature. If your relationship results in a divorce, read Dr. Carter's other book, Grace and Divorce. Heal, baby heal!Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.