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Every Single Man's Battle: Staying on the Path of Sexual Purity

Every Single Man's Battle: Staying on the Path of Sexual Purity

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by Stephen Arterburn

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Powerful ammunition for your war against sexual temptation.
As a man, you’re bombarded by sexual images and battle inner urges. You want to do right—in fact, you want to meet God’s standard of avoiding any hint of sexual immorality. But accomplishing that goal is a challenge.  

If you are a single man struggling to


Powerful ammunition for your war against sexual temptation.
As a man, you’re bombarded by sexual images and battle inner urges. You want to do right—in fact, you want to meet God’s standard of avoiding any hint of sexual immorality. But accomplishing that goal is a challenge.  

If you are a single man struggling to remain sexually pure, you are not alone—
there’s practical, hard-hitting help from the authors of the blockbuster Every Man Series. Every Single Man’s Battle guides you—or your men’s group—through an honest and clear exploration of God’s Word. You’ll undertake a personal journey into key scriptures, wrestle with questions for reflection and examination, and discover the practical tools and biblical strategies you need to live the pure life God calls you to—even while living in a sexually-soaked culture.

Make a frontal assault on the temptation every single man faces. This book provides all the resources you need.

Now includes the workbook!

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher
Praise for Every Man’s Battle and Every Young Man’s Battle by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, andMike Yorkey

“There is no more common enemy of true manhood than the diversion or the perversion of our sexual capacities. I welcome every contribution to the arsenal of resistance.”
—JACKW. HAYFORD, LITTD, founding pastor of the Church on theWay and chancellor of The King’s University

“This book will revolutionize the marriage of every man who reads it. Why? Because every man battles sexual temptations and every marriage grows stronger when these temptations are defeated. The vulnerable, honest, and insightful pages of this book reveal what every man must know.”
—DRS. LES AND LESLIE PARROTT, authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

“This timely resource presents clear practical principles for sexual purity. Arterburn and Stoeker call for courage, commitment, and self-discipline as they lead men into a more successful relationship with God, family, and spouse. This book is truly for every man.”
—DR. JOHN C. MAXWELL, founder of EQUIP

“God has used Steve Arterburn countless times to impact my heart and life; I am thankful for him and his investment in Every Man’s Battle. I am also grateful for Fred Stoeker. Fred pours himself into this book with honesty, vulnerability, and a practical strategy to fight the good fight. He offers biblical truth and hope to anyone with ears to hear how to battle the war of sexual temptation. Read with an open heart—Every Man’s Battle may save your marriage and your witness.”
—DR. GARY ROSBERG, president of America’s Family Coaches and coauthor of Guard Your Heart and The Five Love Needs of Men and Women

Every Young Man’s Battle does the best job I have ever seen on the subject of sexual temptation. Once upon a time we lived in a world that didn’t talk about secrets, and that world has brought us to the mess we are in today. Young men must have an honest, blunt, and unashamedly Christian look at their sexuality. This book will save thousands of future marriages.”
—JIM BURNS, president of HomeWord

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The Crown Publishing Group
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Every Man Series
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Approaching our seaside table with a lovely new acquaintance from church, I (Steve) could hear the gentle lapping of waves on the shoreline as the magnificent amber-hued sunset arched over the Pacific Ocean. Maybe life’s not so bad after all, I mused as we were seated and handed leather-bound menus by the maître d’.

As we perused the elegant dining choices, my date and I engaged in meaningful small talk, sharing our hopes in raising our children and our dreams of how God would use us in the future. I gazed upon the sun as it dipped toward the horizon and felt swept up in the moment. For the first time in months, the pain of my divorce seemed light-years away, and my future—whatever it would be—looked as bright as that dazzling orb descending in the western sky.

One by one the delicious courses arrived with a flourish…a crisp, deep-fried calamari as the appetizer, followed by a sumptuous spinach salad with raspberry vinaigrette dressing, and then the main course of grilled salmon topped with hollandaise sauce. Fresh salmon heals every wound, Ichuckled to myself. Yet just as suddenly, my bite of airy tiramisu screeched to a jarring halt halfway down the hatch as my date purred demurely, “Steve, please don’t get the wrong impression of me… I’m not all God, motherhood, and apple pie, you know. I love the Bible with a deep passion, but I love the Kama Sutra with another kind of passion all my own,” she said, winking coyly. “I find the positions simply fascinating, and I’ve thrown my whole body and soul into reading my lessons. But what I really need is to get out onto the playing field once in a while for a little practice!”

I nearly spewed my dessert coffee all over the linen shrouded table. The only practice that was going to take place was me practicing getting out of there. First, I managed to change the subject quickly, and then, a short time later, I
smiled softly and mumbled, “I really hate to run, but my food hasn’t settled very well this evening. Would you mind if we called it a night?”

Perhaps you’re scratching your head, wondering, What’s this Kama Sutra thing? Well, it’s all about sexual positions from an Eastern perspective, and books on the Kama Sutra have been a pretty hot topic out here on the Left Coast for quite some time. The publisher’s description on Amazon.com calls it this way:

Kama Sutra comes to us from fourth-century India.
Written by a holy man, this “love scripture” has become known in the West as a “bible of sex.” As such, Kama Sutra of Sexual Positions presents many facets of sexual embrace from many cultures where the sexual and the sacred together are the weaver of the tapestry of life.

Perhaps now you’re gasping, How can a Christian single be equally committed to the Kama Sutra? I haven’t the  foggiest idea of how to answer that, but what I do know is that as I reentered the Christian single world, I was quite amazed to find two extremely common disconnections out there. My Kama Sutra story is a prime example of the first one—a disconnection from God’s ways.

I’ve met many committed Christian singles whose faith seems to be integrated into their lives, who take a biblical approach to their work, their money, their children, whatever. But when it comes to sex, they’ve convinced themselves that sex is the exception to every biblical rule. They think like this:

• God understands my sexuality—He knows my needs.
• Sex is just something that naturally happens between two adults who are deeply involved.
• I know it is wrong to have sex with a married woman, but when it comes to sex between two singles, I just don’t think the Bible is so cut and dried.
• Anything short of sexual intercourse is okay.
• I know premarital sex is wrong, but so what? God will forgive me—it’s under the blood!
• God knows that I was married. He knows I’m so used to sex that I just have to have it now.

Such rationalizations are a deep mystery to me. After all, a rational mind—the mind of Christ—is normal for Christians.
A rational mind keeps us safely beneath God’s wings of protection and blessing. But a rationalized mind seems so jarring and abnormal in a Christian, and it rips a jagged breech in our sexual defense perimeters.

Look, it’s time for some straight talk. As men we have an obvious vulnerability in our sexual makeup, and that’s the ability of our eyes and our mind to draw vivid sexual gratification from the sensuality in the environment around us. To put it bluntly, our eyes and mind are capable of intense foreplay…we can look and lust until our engines run so far into the red zone that we may think we’d better masturbate or we’ll explode. If we want to be sexually pure, we have but one choice—we either defend against such weak spots in our sexuality or we will fall to every whim of the Enemy and our flesh.

Meet the Author

Stephen Arterburn is founder and chairman of new Life Clinics, host of the daily New Life Live! national radio program, founder of the Women of Faith Conferences, a nationally known speaker, and the author of books that have sold more than seven million copies. He lives in Laguna Beach, California.
Fred Stoeker is an author and conference speaker who challenges people to become sexually pure and to connect in true intimate relationships with their Father in heaven and their spouses and children on earth. Fred has written several books, including the best-selling Every Man’s series and his most recent book for single men, Hero, cowritten with his son Jasen. Fred and his wife, Brenda, live in Iowa.

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Every Single Man's Battle: Staying on the Path of Sexual Purity 4.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 5 reviews.
kwaub More than 1 year ago
"Every Single Man's Battle" is a book in the series of books by Fred Stoeker to look at the Godly view of how a single Christian man should view sexuality. He uses different views as how a single man should abstain from sex and sexual thoughts as how the Bible says we should until marriage. Although I am not single this book points out not only what single men face but all men face with sexual impurity, from looking at women to just thinking about women lustfully. I found that this book is really a great read and could be used in any bible study class for men, single to married. I really enjoyed this book and would recommend it to anyone. This book has really enlightened me and made me think about what I really need to work on, even though I am married.
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iKyle More than 1 year ago
Most men struggle with purity. Whether it be manifested through thoughts or actions, lust is a powerful temptation that destroys and dominates many lives. In fact, modern society is currently being overtaken by a whirlwind of immoral media of all sorts. Pornography is widely available; just one click away on the Internet. Women dress in the most immodest clothing imaginable. What are single Christian men to do in such a dirty world? Being the authors of the ever-popular Every Man series, Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker, along with Mike Yorkey, have come up with a discussion guide to be used as a companion to their popular titles Every Man's Battle and Every Young Man's Battle. While Every Single Man's Battle draws its excerpts from Every Man's Battle, both books are useful while you go through this guide. It is written especially for those unmarried, divorced, or widowed men who want to seek out guidelines for celibacy and purity. As such, this book gives practical tips on overcoming lust, pornography, and masturbation, as well as staying away from unhealthy relationships and staying celibate. I have personally found each of the aforementioned three titles useful in my war against immorality. This guide opened my eyes to key truths in the word that I can practically apply into my life and live out in purity. A must read for sure. I received a free copy of this book from WaterBrook Multnomah's Blogging for Books program in exchange for my honest review.
SDuShaw More than 1 year ago
Every Single Man's Battle is a book designed to go along with "Every Man's Battle" and is specifically designed and targeted for single men. This book is very upfront and honest about the seriousness of sexual purity and the destruction that comes when the battle for sexual purity is not fought. This book can be used for personal use, but it is encouraged that you do it with a group and comes with great questions after each section for reflection and discussion. Overall it was a great book to read and I hope that it will allow men to see that they have the power to win the fight against sexual temptation. I received this book free from the publisher and am not required to write a positive review, but to write of my honest opinion of the book.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Okay, this book, I should start by saying, was a a workbook for becoming, and hopefully maintaining, sexual purity. I read this book without any intention of becoming sexually pure, so I feel as though it may not have been as successful as one would have hoped it to be. That being said, I do meet many of the requirements for a sexually pure christian. I should also note, after reading this book, I am unsure if I should even be considered a christian. The quality of the read wasn't all that bad. It's certainly easy enough to follow, but since it's a christian themed book there are some things I feel it is missing. Of course, Bible verses helped back up some of the stories and other passages throughout. Things like having a girlfriend or fiancee, to the book, count as still being single. And neither of these are brought up until the last chapter. This seems a bit odd, because I found myself wondering quite a bit about when it would address what it would be like to have a girlfriend and stay sexually pure in the eyes of the Lord. I don't know. I still feel as though the book was a bit biased. It never covered anything about Gay marriage or Gay couples as I imagined it wouldn't. It also makes men out to be lustful pigs. Hmm, this really isn't true. I suppose I shouldn't say pigs, since they never actually call men that specifically, but it certainly feels this way. What it does say, however, is that our maleness sets us up to falling into Satan's trap and uncontrollably lusting after women, when what we should strive for is sexual purity, seemingly only brought about through Loving God. I mean, this is there point, so why wouldn't they state that? I guess I am a bit biased too. In fact, I probably have to be to not be fully agreeing with this book, but it just seems like all it hopes to accomplish is how to have a relationship that God is okay with. Through this, you should have blessings. That's great and all, but do I need blessings. Probably. There are some final things about this book. Firstly, it has some quotes in the beginning that make men seem super stupid. Like, "God couldn't possibly have meant what He said about sexual purity in the Bible, could He? Why would He create us to be sexual beings and then ask us to act asexual? It seems so unfair!" And this, "I always though that since I was a man I would not be able to control my roving eyes. I didn't know it could be any other way." Come on, really? It makes the christian male population seem like all they want is sex, whilst still being called christian (This point is later addressed, but is only touched on). Secondly, I should really mention that though this book is for personal use, it is perhaps more intended for a group. I would concede it should be read by those who truly do seek to become sexually pure, as it would probably be a good tool, but make sure you have the supplemental Every Man's Battle as well. They go together. If you are going to read this, to become pure, then I also recommend reading it in the time track it suggests with other men, instead of in a few days and alone, like me. "I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review"