Every Woman's Battle: Discovering God's Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment

Every Woman's Battle: Discovering God's Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment

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by Shannon Ethridge

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When does an affair begin? Not with the first forbidden touch…but with the first forbidden thought. Unexpectedly, you find yourself enjoying a powerful emotional bond with another man. You feel like you matter to someone again. And the door you thought was locked so firmly–the door to sexual infidelity–is suddenly ajar.

The only way


When does an affair begin? Not with the first forbidden touch…but with the first forbidden thought. Unexpectedly, you find yourself enjoying a powerful emotional bond with another man. You feel like you matter to someone again. And the door you thought was locked so firmly–the door to sexual infidelity–is suddenly ajar.

The only way women can survive the intense struggle for sexual integrity is by guarding not just your body, but your mind and heart as well. Every Woman’s Battle can help you learn to do that. Using real-life stories and examples from her own struggle, Shannon Ethridge helps women like you–whether married, engaged, or planning to marry someday.

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One day my husband, Greg, brought home the book Every Man’s Battle, tossed it at me, and with a straight face said, “I think you ought to write Every Woman’s Battle.

My immediate response was, “Yeah, right!” Not that I didn’t feel qualified to write such a book (having graduated from the school of hard knocks when it comes to recognizing and overcoming sexual and emotional temptations), but I had already been trying to publish a manuscript on these exact issues for over a year. Time after time I heard publishers say, “Women don’t deal with sexual issues enough that a book on that topic would really sell.”

Meanwhile, Every Man’s Battle was climbing to the top of the best-seller list. I wondered how people could be so naive as to think that sexual integrity is strictly a man’s issue. Both men and women were created by God as sexual beings, weren’t they? It takes two to tango, and for every man who falls prey to sexual temptation, there is a woman falling with him. While many men limit their affairs to what they take in lustfully through their eyes, women also submit longingly to mental fantasies or emotional affairs.

Some compare their husbands to other men and become disillusioned by their husbands’ failure to measure up. So many of us fail to recognize how we compromise our sexual integrity, how we rob ourselves of what we long for most—true intimacy and fulfillment.

Curious as to why my husband felt so strongly about Every Man’s Battle, I read it through voraciously. I kept thinking, Many of these issues are not common just to men, but to women also! They simply manifest themselves differently!

Stephen Arterburn was hearing the exact same thing from so many women that he believed the need was undeniable. Little did I know that within a few months God would, in fact, divinely bring Steve and me together on this project (thanks to my friends Ron and Katie Luce, our literary agents at Alive Communications, and the visionaries at WaterBrook Press).

So take heart and know that your cries for help have been heard. This book is a training manual that will help you avoid sexual and emotional compromise and will show you how to experience God’s plan for sexual and emotional fulfillment. I also wrote a comprehensive workbook to accompany Every Woman’s Battle. It will help you learn more about what God has to say on this subject and will help you examine your own personal life so you can develop a practical plan for victory in your own unique battle for sexual and emotional integrity.

Do you want to be a woman of sexual and emotional integrity? With God’s help you can. Let’s get started.

Meet the Author

Shannon Ethridge is the best-selling author and coauthor of numerous books, including Every Woman’s Battle and Every Young Woman’s Battle. As a writer, speaker, and lay counselor, she seeks to help women of all ages discover the joy of pursuing a mad, passionate love relationship with the Lord rather than “looking for love in all the wrong places.” Shannon holds a master’s degree in counseling and human relations from Liberty University. She lives in east Texas with her husband, Greg, and their two children.

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Every Woman's Battle: Discovering God's Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment 3.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 22 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I have to admit I am ASTONISHED at some of the other reviews here!! I found her book to be amazingly insightful, and VERY rooted in scripture. She takes a lot of time to point out scripture references to different point she makes. I'm literally stunned that someone would suggest that this book is simply a matter of opinion. The truth is that MOST women struggle with emotional affairs, which lead to physical affairs. I love the section about women understanding that our desire for sexual relations with men when they are not in the confines of marriage are often power related, and not so much as just about getting an orgasm. (although, there are always exceptions, as she clearly states) Anyhow, I thought she had terrific insight, and I am recommending this book to EVERY woman, married or not, and working on getting a study started at my church.
Kassie17 More than 1 year ago
Upon receiving this book to review, I wasn't quite sure what I had gotten myself into. I had also decided, upon reading the overview, that I wouldn't get much out of it, since I had never struggled with what this book was  about. Or so I thought. The title of the book, "Every Woman's Battle", is true in that the material can apply to  every woman at some point in their lives, whether they are single or married. Ethridge really opens herself up and uses personal stories, as well as stories from other women, to talk about the unhealthy  desires/thoughts/actions that women face every day.  The book breaks these down into four unique categories/components of feminine sexuality as well as talks  about common myths that women and the world believe. It then gives you the necessary tools to help fight  the specific battle you may be fighting.  I enjoyed this book more than I thought I would -- it helped me understand myself more, as well as made me realize that I am not alone, and that we, as women, shouldn't be ashamed to admit things we might be keeping secret. I would recommend this book for any woman who wants to open herself up to the truth about the  woman's sexual battle.
jep72 More than 1 year ago
A few nights ago, I was here at BN doing a search for books about how to feel OK (and maybe even completely proud and unashamed) about pleasuring myself sexually. Afterall, the majority of women I see in the world today are OK with doing it, and doctors are now telling me that I should be OK with doing it - because my overall health will be compromised if I don't. So I should be OK with doing it too right? Especially being single and at two years away from 40. The truth is, I'm not and have never been OK with pleasuring myself sexually or engaging in anything related to sex unless I've been with a partner. Before I read this book, I used to think that something was terribly wrong with me or my body because I felt that way, but now I know that that isn't true. It's just fine and maybe even right to feel that way. Knowing that has taken away a lot of guilt and shame and helped me feel a tremendous amount of freedom in the spirit! I can't thank the author enough for writing the words that are contained in this book. Although the references to the bible and Christianity are a little thick and hard to swallow at times, this is a good informative read chock full of advice that every woman should take to heart and come to know very well.
Guest More than 1 year ago
She had some good points but a lot of them were tradition-based rather than scripture based. I felt it was a little too legalistic in nature. Some of her concepts on sexuality are a little outdated because her interpretation of scripture was biased from a tradition. A non believer reading this book might get a wrong idea about scripture because of her interpretation of scripture. It might work for some people but not for all. It did challenge me in some ways to strive for sexual purity. Generally speaking, I dont like these so-called christian self-help books.
Guest More than 1 year ago
The book is more about guarding one's self from men than dealing with real sexual needs in women.The assumption is,the male is the primary aggressor and the female only needs tools to not submitt to the pressure.Also after reading,it gives me the feeling that the writer beleives women are pretty much void of sexual desires and only really there for the man's needs she supposedly in giving into.All I hear in short is men have desire and women need to be desired,nothing of any help for women struggling with any real temptation which is present in all of us,women included.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I have to admit that when I first purchased this book, I was hesitant after reading her husbands book 'Every Man's Battle,' but was very surprised that her chacacter writing did not resemble that of her husbands. She tells things in a much more loving, and in a compassionate manner. So if you are hesitant to buy this book because you first read her husbands book, take it from me, you'll like her style of writing much better! There were many things in the book that were helful to me however, the area that needs refining in this book is that the author acts as though everyone's husbands personality is like hers, and gives her opinions according to what worked well with her husband rather than giving alternatives to different personality types (she goes into it some at the very back of the book, but needs to address it more during the book). She also implies that if a woman feels the need to have an orgasm with her husband, she is to just 'endure' the process and not say anything to him because it's an intimacy buster. She never goes on to state anywhere that in Ephesians 5:28 that the husbands are to love the wives as their own bodies. If that is the case, than any Godly husband would want his wife to orgasm because God said it in Ephesians 5:28! No where does she suggest the power of prayer if her husband doesn't do that, just that the wife should merely 'put up' with it. Overall, the book was very good otherwise. It did have alot of good suggestions that no other book deals with, and I would still recommend this book to many as well as pass it on to my friends.
Guest More than 1 year ago
As a young Christian woman who has struggled with sexual and emotional temptation, I found this book to be so very helpful. It is truely life changing.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Finally, there is a brave woman out there that will talk about this subject! It's about time women get real about their sexual struggles and stop looking for love in all the wrong places. I found this book to be insightful, captivating, and full of practical application. It's thrust is towards personal wholeness and fulfillment... with or without a man! Great stuff!!! Have fun reading about her personal journey told with refreshing honesty.
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sarahsmithstorm2 More than 1 year ago
Shannon Ethridge is million copy best selling author who has counseled thousands of women, students and married couples on sexual integrity and intimacy. I had the opportunity to review Every Woman's Battle Discovering Gods Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment. This book is appropriate for married, engaged or those planning to marry someday. Shannon use a lot of scripture references and asked that wives get more in touch with God and pray about issues regarding their husbands. God knows your husband the best, so why not go to him in prayer about issues that may arise in your marriage. The book doesn’t just give a bunch of answers, but rather Shannon points the reader to look at God for answers. She truly uses this book to inspire a deeper relationship with Christ. I loved the chapter called Taking Every Though Captive. How often do thoughts enter in our mind and we think nothing of them? She challenges the reader in this chapter to be mindful of the entertainment one watches, the type of music, the type of words that come out of our mouth, the type of people we surround ourselves with. She touches on these areas and many others in how our thoughts shape our sexual integrity. Overall, I think this book is an easy read which challenges the reader to pursue a deeper relationship with Christ and to become more aware of one's sexuality and how a female needs to become protective of her mind, body, soul and heart. Thank you Waterbook publishing for providing me with this complimentary review copy.
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Amazing book!!
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Guest More than 1 year ago
I really liked the book. It inspired me. Being a young women, I fell into the trap about when reading the first chapter is that I had preconceived ideas, after I dropped those I ideas and went on with the ride, it truly helped me. She touches every aspect and doesn't leave anyone hanging. I like how she tells people to get more in touch with God and pray about the issues. It's nice to have ideas of what works, but God knows your husband best, this book inspired me to look to God for the answers of dealing with my husband and not to find books. It also allowed me to see things about myself that needed to change, even sexual and emotional desires. I think she touched the issues very well, by stating that we must get connected with God's commands. Basically, I got the impression that she is not a know it all, but a route to inspire you have a relationship with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I look back and my dependence was on books more, than the Bible! I wish the book was longer, but I enjoyed that it was straight and to the point. The fact that she knows everyone's husband is different, I'm glad she didn't spend to much time on 'what to do when your husband is this or that' because it built my faith in God to pray. I love how she helped the single women also, VERY GOOD! And most importantly, allowing us to know it's our right to take a break and ways to do so that worked for her. She went the best route, allowing God to speak to her without holding ANY BARS and mentioning what worked. I thought she was going to go into what she did to help girls in her counsel sessions, but I'm glad she didn't. And I'm most happy that she didn't tell us WHAT TO DO with our husbands. B/c secretly, most women WANT OUT before they WANT GOD! I'm definetly going to use her workbook to set things up with my church and hopefully my pastor will approve!