Every Young Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World

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Guys Aren't the Only Ones Fighting a Battle for Purity

The world you live in promotes sex as the answer to just about everything. The pressure to go along with the crowd is greater than ever before, and it's easy to compromise in little ways that are a lot more harmful than they seem. You and your friends may become caught up in destructive relationships or sexual activities without even knowing how you got there. You just want to be normal–to ...

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Guys Aren't the Only Ones Fighting a Battle for Purity

The world you live in promotes sex as the answer to just about everything. The pressure to go along with the crowd is greater than ever before, and it's easy to compromise in little ways that are a lot more harmful than they seem. You and your friends may become caught up in destructive relationships or sexual activities without even knowing how you got there. You just want to be normal–to fit in, to be liked, to look attractive to the opposite sex. But are you paying too high a price?

This counterpart to the award-winning Every Young Man's Battle can help you:

· learn how the sexual battle begins in your heart and mind
· understand your hunger for attention from guys
· recognize and avoid the potential pitfalls awaiting young women on the journey toward adulthood and possibly marriage
· find out how the media, novels, fashion, internet chat rooms, and body and beauty obsessions influence your sexual choices–and what you can do about it
· guard your mind, heart, and body against sexual and emotional compromise
· develop a deeper, more satisfying level of intimacy with God

Whether you have so far protected yourself emotionally and sexually, feel that you've been robbed of your purity, or have given in to temptation in some way, this book can help you achieve or reclaim sexual integrity. It can also guide you through the temptations and pressures of young adulthood while demonstrating how you can live your life to the fullest–without regrets.

Includes a comprehensive workbook for individual or group study.

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Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

“I’m so grateful that Shannon decided to be as honest and real as she is–that’s the only way this book could be as powerful as it is.… God is going to heal in unbelievable ways through this potent work of art and heart!… I can honestly say that this book has changed me–because it gives a clear picture of who Jesus is, who we are as His bride, and why we can’t seem to be satisfied with anything or anyone else.”
–Bethany Dillon, songwriter and recording artist

“Like a steady IV drip, today’s teenage girls get a message of confused and cheapened sexuality. They are desperate for reasons to guard and preserve themselves. Shannon Ethridge gives girls reasons in this relevant and readable book. Every young woman and every young woman’s mother needs to read this book!”
–Sharon Hersh, author of “Mom, I Feel Fat!” and ”Mom, I Hate My Life!”

“A must-read for every teenage girl! Honest and informative, this book is not only highly readable with its true-to-life illustrations, but it’s packed with answers for every sexual situation today’s teens encounter. What a great antidote for the twisted sexual messages our pop-culture continues to dish out. Way to go, Shannon!”
–Melody Carlson, author of Diary of a Teenage Girl series and Torch Red, Color Me Torn

“Shannon writes with a direct, forthright style, yet she remains tactful and kind as she presents her balanced, godly teaching on dating and relationships. Without question, this is a must-read for any young woman who longs to remain pure in her relationship with God, and I suspect this book will very quickly become a staple of small-group studies.”
–Fred Stoeker, coauthor of Every Young Man’s Battle

“This book should be required reading for any teenage girl who has been exposed to the negative influences of the culture through media, music, movies, and fashion magazines. As someone who is in the trenches of ministry to teen girls, I appreciate Shannon’ s candid approach and her willingness to tackle some difficult topics facing our young women. She does a beautiful job of exposing the godless issues of the culture, while at the same time, offering godly solutions.”
–Vicki Courtney, founder of Virtuous Reality Ministries and author of Your Girl: Raising A Godly Daughter in an Ungodly World

“This book is awesome! I will be buying it and reading it with teens that I mentor. I wish it had been available to me when I was a teen.”
–Adrienne Freas, homemaker and Campus Crusade for Christ staff member

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780307458001
  • Publisher: Crown Religion/Business/Forum
  • Publication date: 8/18/2009
  • Series: Every Man Series
  • Pages: 304
  • Sales rank: 205,034
  • Product dimensions: 5.19 (w) x 8.00 (h) x 0.64 (d)

Meet the Author

Shannon Ethridge is a million-copy best-selling author and international conference speaker. Since 1989 she has counseled thousands of students, women, and married couples on sexual integrity and intimacy, and has been a frequent speaker in church and college settings. She lives in east Texas with her biggest cheerleaders—her husband of 20 years, Greg, and their two teenage children, Erin and Matthew.

Stephen Arterburn is founder and chairman of New Life Clinics, host of the daily New Life Live! national radio program, creator of the Women of Faith Conferences, a nationally known speaker, and the best-selling author of more than two dozen books, including the award-winning Every Young Man's Battle with coauthor Fred Stoeker.

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a note to parents

In Every Young Woman’s Battle, we discuss sexual purity from emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical perspectives, teaching readers to guard their minds, hearts, and bodies in this sex-saturated world. We do so using very frank, contemporary language, writing especially for young women in their teens to early twenties.

Perhaps you are wondering how frank we’ve been or if this book is appropriate for your daughter at this point in her life. If she regularly watches television, listens to pop music, or reads teen magazines, nothing in this book will be too graphic or shocking for her. Our goal is to present a credible, helpful, Christian perspective on the images your daughter is exposed to every day.

If, on the other hand, you believe she is already committed to sexual purity, or you fear that a frank discussion on the topic may be inappropriate for her, we encourage you to review Every Young Woman’s Battle before passing it on to your daughter. We have made every effort to address sensitive issues with tact and respect, emphasizing God’s desire that young women live with sexual integrity. Our commitment to helping young women requires us to be honest and open with them, and we hope that our doing so will pave the way for your daughter to make many healthy choices about her sexuality.

Chapter One

daring to be truthful

If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. — John 8:31-32

Truth or dare. You’ve probably played this game with girlfriends at a slumber party or perhaps been warned by your parents not to play it at all. It’s a game where you agree to do anything another player dares you to do, regardless of how embarrassing or disgusting it may be, or else to tell the absolute truth in response to a particular question, regardless of how private or humiliating your answer may be.

As a young girl, I never opted out of playing such games. It never even occurred to me I had a choice. My friends dared me to do some ridiculous things–eat a ketchup, mustard, and mayonnaise sandwich; drink a Dr. Pepper as fast as possible and then burp as loudly as I could in front of my friend’s older brother; and passionately kiss my stuffed monkey while my friend took a Polaroid picture. But I usually took the dare because I didn’t want to answer questions such as these: Who do you think is the cutest boy in school? How many boys have you kissed? How far have you ever gone with a boy? Eating something gross or making an idiot out of myself was easy compared to telling the truth about certain things.

Sometimes the truth hurts, and it’s much easier if we can keep it hidden. As a matter of fact, sometimes the secrets we harbor are so painful that we don’t want to face them ourselves. We assume that these secrets will go away if we don’t think or talk about them with anyone. But the opposite is true. Shameful secrets fester like a splinter in a finger, and it’s much better to name the secret and to let someone help us remove it from our lives so the wound will heal.

You will read many stories in this book from young women (ages twelve to twenty) who have courageously done just that. They’ve dared to tell the truth about their battle to guard their minds, hearts, and bodies from sexual sin. We hope that you will learn some lessons the easy way and avoid making mistakes of your own, or that you will recognize the truth about any struggles you are currently facing in your battle for sexual purity and understand how you can overcome them.


You may find some of the stories in this book eyeopening or surprising. Please know that we are not trying to shock, disgust, or defile* you in any way. We want you to be wise to the ways of the world so you can guard yourself against them. Ignorance is not a spiritual gift, nor is it a virtue. You can be wise and innocent at the same time, and we intend to prepare you to make responsible decisions if and when temptations come across your path. Also, don’t assume that the temptations we’ll be discussing won’t come to call in your life. The apostle Paul wrote:

So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!…
Therefore, prepare your minds for action; be self-controlled.… Do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written:
“Be holy, because I am holy.”… Among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality.” (1 Corinthians 10:12; 1 Peter 1:13-16;
Ephesians 5:3)

Let’s peek into the private lives of some of your peers who were brave enough to tell the truth about their battles for sexual purity.


Molly’s struggle began when she stumbled upon a pornographic television show and later chose to stumble onto it again…and again…and again.

* defile–to corrupt one’s purity

I know that it was wrong and that everyone messes up big time, but I still feel bad, mainly because I not only exposed myself to pornography,* but I also exposed two of my very best friends. One of them was a good enough friend to me to confess to her parents what we had done. My parents were extremely upset, and I don’t blame them. They even helped me by having someone change the television settings so that nothing pornographic comes in now, and that channel is blank.

I was fine for a while and tried very hard to forget what I saw, which worked for the most part. But recently I have developed a habit of masturbating† to these images and cannot stop. I know this is wrong, and I feel dirty and guilty. I have confessed my sins to God, but that doesn’t seem to be enough. I don’t want anyone to find out, because I know that they would be disgusted and disappointed in me.

We’re sure that if Molly had known how addicting pornography can be, she would have avoided it altogether. If either pornography or habitual masturbation have become problems in your life, this book will help you break free from these habits that hinder your sexual integrity and spiritual peace.


Lauren attended a sexuality conference when she was in junior high and made a pledge to remain sexually abstinent until marriage. Now in high school, she is disheartened by the choices her friends are making and can’t help but wonder if it’s realistic for her to maintain her pledge.

I went to a dance at my school and most of my friends were freak dancing, moving around like they were having sex with their clothes on, and doing nasty stuff with each other–girls with guys, girls with girls, anything goes.

* pornography–material that graphically demonstrates sexually erotic behavior

masturbating–touching one’s own genitals in order to cause self-arousal

Everyone looked like they were having so much fun, and they kept telling me to lighten up and join the party. Also, a couple of my girlfriends accepted a dare to perform oral sex* on some guys in the back of the bus–and now those girls are really popular with the guys. I try to remind myself that they are popular for the wrong reasons, but sometimes I wonder if I’m being too prudish and am missing out on all the fun it seems that everyone else is having.

We know many of you reading this book want to maintain sexual purity, but like Lauren, you feel all alone in your desire and are wondering if it’s even possible.

Don’t be discouraged. It’s not only possible, but we believe you’ll agree that it’s much better to wait to enjoy sex according to God’s perfect plan–in marriage someday–than to engage in sexual activities as if they’re just another recreational hobby. Keep reading and we’ll show you exactly how you can do just that.


Emma was daring enough to share the truth about her struggles in hopes of encouraging other young women to avoid the mistakes she made. She felt very insecure in her early teens and believed something was wrong with her because guys never seemed attracted to her. Even though she had good relationships with her parents, she wanted to be pursued by a young man. In order to make herself look more like the popular girls at school, she started dieting and exercising to lose weight.

It didn’t take long for my weight loss obsession to turn into a serious eating disorder. I felt desperate for boys to notice my slender body, and I craved compliments like crazy. When a guy did compliment me, it puffed me up with pride and I felt like I was really something. I would hang around him more as some sort of “payment” for the attention he gave me as well as a “security deposit” so that he’d keep the compliments coming. I’d also flirt by linking arms with him buddy-style, bumping into him on purpose, or leaning up against him.

* oral sex–placing one’s mouth on the partner’s genital area for sexual stimulation

Over the next three years I got into a couple of relationships that I thought were serious, but the guys weren’t so serious. I gave these guys all I had, including my body, but eventually I got dumped for the next girl.

Every time I experienced another breakup, I wondered what was wrong with me. Why didn’t he want me anymore? Was I not attractive enough? Was I still too fat? Abusing my body and giving it away was how I tried to get the attention and affirmation I wanted from a guy, but what I got was never enough.

The battle to be thin enough, as well as the battle to get your emotional needs met by any boyfriend, can seem like a never-ending one. If you’ve found yourself craving a relationship so much that you engage in behaviors you are not proud of, this book is for you. It will help you gain a healthy balance between your natural, God-given desire to be loved and your ability to avoid sexually tempting situations. As a matter of fact, I wish I had known the information in this book when I was your age and fighting my own battles.


If anyone had asked me when I was twelve if I wanted to remain a virgin until marriage, I would have said, “Of course I do!”

At thirteen, I would have said, “I think so.”

By fourteen, I would have replied, “Maybe.”

At age fifteen, my response would have been, “I don’t see how that is possible.”

Unfortunately, my innocence became just a memory that year. I was date raped, which I never told anyone about for fear that I would be blamed. I had, after all, flirted with this eighteen-year-old boy to get his attention and had agreed to spend time alone with him behind my parents’ back, so I mistakenly said nothing. Because I kept this secret, no one helped me heal from the abuse or told me I was still a virgin in God’s eyes. (We’ll talk more about the nature of virginity in the next chapter.)

A few months later, my parents allowed me to begin dating. Because I believed that my virginity had already been stolen from me, I didn’t feel I had a reason to withhold my body from most of the young men I dated. Sex became a routine part of my romantic relationships–the price that I felt I must pay for the attention and affection that I craved. This is one of the reasons I want you to read this book. I want you to have information I did not have. I also want you to live without secrets and to be open about who you are and how you feel about boys and what they want to do with you.


As you read about the darker side of my younger days, you might think I was a messed-up girl from a dysfunctional home and a bad neighborhood, or that I wasn’t a Christian, or that I wasn’t too smart.


I grew up in rural Northeast Texas with educated, middle-class parents who were faithfully married to each other. My family lived in a modest home in the country where safety was never an issue. Mother took me to church regularly, and I confirmed my belief in Jesus Christ at the age of twelve. I even served as president of my youth group for several years. I got straight As in high school and went on to graduate from college.

As my life shows, you don’t have to be messed up or even come from a messed-up family to make irresponsible decisions that will mess up your life. Not even “good Christian girls” are exempt from sexual temptations. Not even you.

What would cause someone like you or your friends to go from saving herself for her Prince Charming to kissing toads? Is it possible to climb out of the toad swamp once you are in it? Is this a war that can even be won? If so, how?

This book answers these questions. It will show you how you can maneuver through the minefield of youth without losing the battle for sexual and emotional integrity. If you can avoid the land mines and be victorious in the battle, you will be more likely to enter your adult years with confidence and purpose. Your life will be free of desperation, and you will make great choices for your future. The world can be yours, but first learn more about the intensity of your own private battle by answering yes or no to the following questions.

1. Do you watch television shows or movies with sexual jokes or graphic sex scenes?

2. Does the music you listen to talk blatantly of sexual desires outside of marriage?

3. Do you ever act overly friendly or seductively* to get a guy’s attention?

4. Do thoughts of having or keeping a boyfriend consume your mind to the point that you find it difficult to concentrate on anything else for any length of time?

5. Are you looking for or entertaining the idea of a serious romantic relationship even though it will be several years before you are ready to get married?

6. Do you habitually masturbate to pleasure yourself sexually or as a means of resisting sexual involvement with others?

7. Do you consider oral sex or other sexual activities okay because they’re not vaginal sex and you can’t get pregnant from them?

8. Do you feel that your virginity has been stolen from you?

9. Do you feel as if you are “damaged goods” that a “respectable guy” wouldn’t want?

10. Do you believe it is ever okay for a couple to live together even though they are not married?

11. Do you believe it is ever okay for a couple to have sex before marriage?

12. Have you ever lied to your parents about where you were going or whom you were with because you knew they wouldn’t approve if you told the truth?

13. Would you lie to your parents in order to go out with a particular guy you liked a lot if you knew you could get away with it?

14. Have you ever made out with a guy just because it seemed like the thing to do?

15. Are you anxious to get out from under the control of your parents and gain your freedom to pursue any relationship you want?

16. Do you go into Web sites or chat rooms that you know your parents would not approve of ?

* seductively –in an alluring or sexually tempting manner

17. Have you ever given your phone number or physical address to a stranger you were flirting with over the Internet without your parents’ knowledge?

18. Have you set rules or guidelines for your behavior or your relationships that you’ve already broken?

19. Do you hide certain things, such as steamy love letters, magazines, or videos?

20. Do you envision that getting married someday will be the answer to all of your problems and relieve you of your sexual and emotional temptations?

Which questions did you mark yes? Each one reveals a potential pitfall that makes you more likely to give in to sexual temptation when it arises. Whether you are just entering puberty and new to this struggle or an experienced young adult, you can design a rock-solid defense to avoid becoming a casualty of this war.

Whether you are sexually pure, hanging on to your virginity by a thread, or sleeping with a guy, you can maintain and/or reclaim your sexual integrity not just throughout your youth, but throughout your whole life. Recognizing and understanding what kind of things can cause every woman, regardless of her age or marital status, to stumble and fall into sexual temptation is the key. By learning to guard your mind, heart, and body against sexual compromise and understanding God’s plan for your sexual and emotional fulfillment, you can maneuver your way through your teenage years with grace…and without regrets.

As you begin to understand this gift of sexuality more fully, you will be able to dispel some of the myths that can keep you entrenched in this battle. The coming chapters will help you

• understand the complexity of your sexuality and what part your emotions play in the battle;
• recognize the myths about sexuality that dominate our culture and how they can affect your sexual beliefs and choices;
• embrace sexual purity as a preferred lifestyle, not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as well;
• enjoy healthy, satisfying relationships with yourself, God, and others;
• find the love that you are looking for without looking in the wrong places or placing unrealistic expectations on your boyfriend or future husband;
• feel good about yourself not just for a moment but for the rest of your life.

If you have been successful in overcoming temptations thus far, praise God for His protection, and prepare for further victory. If you have given in to any of these temptations, if you wonder why you feel so disconnected from God, or if you feel anxious about your present or future relationships, this book could be your pathway to peace.

Our prayer is that you will find wisdom, courage, hope, and strength to face and win the battle for sexual and emotional integrity.

He holds victory in store for the upright, he is a shield to those whose walk is blameless, for he guards the course of the just and protects the way of his faithful ones. Then you will understand what is right and just and fair–every good path. For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you.
Proverbs 2:7-11

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 14, 2009

    Every Young Woman's Battle Review

    I didn't want to just give it 5 stars on everything, but really, this book deserves it! I am 19, and I SO wish I had read this as a young teen. It would have saved me (and others) so much heartache. It has helped me to see more accurately where I am now, where I should be, where I want to be, and who I am striving to be. It has given me Biblical insight and resources to live a more godly life. A must read for all girls, and though I have yet to read it, I'm sure Every Young Man's Battle is a must read for all boys, if it is anything like this book. It is so hard to keep your sexual integrity in this world, in this culture, especially when everyone tells you that you are backwards and wrong. But girls and boys, stay strong! There are people like you out there, and God will help you and see you through! Parents, I highly recommend this book. It really is a necessity, and will help if used with prayer and open, honest communication. Don't be afraid to talk about this stuff with your kids-it can only help, and very greatly.
    Thank you Shannon and Stephen!

    5 out of 6 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 2, 2008

    I Also Recommend:

    Sex Is Not Disgusting

    Sex is awesome! Ideally, it should be between two married people who are very much in love and have total respect for each other. Ideally, these two people will be virgins until this moment, two souls just waiting for each other.<BR/><BR/>But let's be realistic. This book is aimed at horomone-ridden teenage girls who are eager to fit in and be well-liked. This is not a product of the times - they are like this in most societies, just as they have been forever. Sexual urges are likewise not because of our "sex-saturated world", but because of human nature. It should also be pointed out that masturbation is nearly universal, and without "shameful" urges our species would not exist.<BR/><BR/>Sexual urges are not something to be stifled. They are normal, a natural product of hormones, chemicals in our brains that urge us to reproduce. That is not anti-Christian, that's fact. Sexual urges are what makes us have crushes, why most of us love romance novels, what makes us catch our breath when an especially good-looking boy comes our way. These are natural responses to our bodies saying, "Wake up, wake up, you can have sex now! Carry on the human race!"<BR/><BR/>What this book should have been about should not have been about smothering sexual desires but learning about what they are, why they exist, and how a young woman is to keep her head through all this pressure, from both peers and her body. Frankly, this book was a disappointment.

    4 out of 14 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 29, 2012

    Great Book!

    My parents bought me this book along with a purity ring for my 14th birthday and its an amazing book! It really informs and teaches you how to keep your heart, mind, and soul pure from our world today and wait for that person that God has planned for you to marry. Waiting to have sex with the person God intended for me too is what I am striving towards! :)

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted January 23, 2010

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    Best book on the market

    Shannon does an outstanding job of addressing a difficult issue. This book trumps all others written on the subject of women and sexual addiction. It may not be "every woman's battle" but it is the battle of many women today. Thank you Shannon for providing a great resource.

    2 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted April 13, 2009

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    Addictive Attractions

    Worthwhile reading for the teen & young adult trying to be the person you want to be for the Lord. An encouraging, informative, and insightful book for assisting you in reaching your goal of purity. This book encourages the reader to avoid succumbing to the pressures of the "world" (their peers) to conform to morals/standards/values that he/she does not believe in. A great book for youth groups to deal with youth/young adult situations.

    2 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 19, 2008

    Helped me get free

    The book helped me put sexual activities in the right perspective, even ones never mentioned in church. I was able to stop destructive habits mentioned in the book, by taking to heart the scriptures and the teachings. I am now able to think clearly because of the way that this book explained sexuality. I feel better than I ever have, due in part to this book.

    2 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 4, 2008

    Fundamentalist perspective

    I ordered ths book for my niece. It was not noted that this book was of a 'Follow the trachings of the Bible or you are goin to hell' perspective. This perspective does no sell well to todays teenagers. I have returned it and getting onother choice. This note is posted only to advise other perspective buyers to look into this selection more carefully to be sure this what you are loking for.

    2 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 13, 2008

    Very Good Book

    My mom ordered this book for me and it is honestly one of the best books I have ever read. It does not throw the Bible in your face and definetly does not tell girls that sexual feelings are wrong. It address all types of issues young women face in this world and shows God's natural design for sex. It teaches girls how to guard their heart, mind, soul, and body. This is an amazing book.

    2 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 18, 2007

    A reviewer

    This book is absolutely absurd. The concept that women, especially hormonal teenagers, should feel ashamed for NORMAL feelings and wants is what scares me the most. Teenagers have enough self-esteem issues without being told that the very deep feelings they are having are wrong. And for all those Christians out there - if God didn't want people to feel the way they do, then why the innate senses? Better off would be a book that addresses the real issues of sexuality, not one that wants a person to fear it. For parents, please read this book before giving it to your daughter. It could do more harm than good.

    2 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 10, 2006

    Nothing About REAL Sexual Temptation

    In no way can this book help a young woman who is struggling with sexual TEMPTATION, because the writer believes women are lured into sex or some con job by a male is being done on young females.Female sexuality is seen as more of a response to male sexuality than a real sexuality beaming with the same temptations and yes folks,lust issues!When will Christians realize sex drive is an energy not so constricted to gender sterotypes and myths. I'm still waiting for a book that can help young woman.This may never come since sterotypes rule in this book.

    2 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted July 8, 2011


    My church is doing a Bible study with this book, and every girl agrees that this book seriously helps protect us from compromising situations as well as keeping ourselves pure for our husbands. For those of you who critisize this book, I have to ask "what are you even thinking?" The book assures girls that our desires are normal, but that we don't have to act on them and risk a lifetime full of guilt and STD's. A must-read for every young woman who wants to mantain a life of purity. You go, Shannon!!!!!!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted June 15, 2009

    I Also Recommend:

    Much Needed Guidance

    From guidlines on modesty to classifying specific battles of this sex crazy world, this book is specific and leaves out no details. This is the book every young woman should have, no matter where they are in their walk with Christ or their purity walk.
    "Every Young Woman's Battle" has a conversational style. It places no blame, and it is written to put in clear words the guidance teens need in these modern times.
    I looked everywhere for some guidelines on modesty. This is the only book I have found that gives so much information on it.
    "Every Young Woman's Battle" sticks with biblical truth and will not settle for less.
    (I recommend that each girl read this along with "Every Young Man's Battle" to get a full picture of how our brothers in Christ need our help for their purity walk. Both were very valuable books)

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 31, 2007

    This book really got me thinking

    this book definiatly got me informed on what will happen when i get to high school and when and how i can protect myself from the bumps in the road i recommend this book to teenage girls who want to learn how to respect themseves throughhard choices when u are asked about sex

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 15, 2006

    Teenage girl writing a review

    No offense yes this book is very informative but seeing as i am struggling along with a lot of sexual issues mentioned in this book, it really does not 'inform' if anything i didnt think that it was graphic enough. These days i have actually seen more sex on regular daytime tv than in this book. if your a girl that has had a lot of sexual expieriences you probably wont find this book informative. The author clearly cannot give advice for what she has not expierienced. so hopefully maybe some other authors will. not every girl comes from a peachy clean neighborhood where we were all taught christian values - i sure wasnt. I liked the book but it just wasnt 'informative' to me i dont know.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 2, 2005


    This book was amazing. It was straight-forward and such a fast read. Every girl should read this! Its everything you want to know- all the facts laid out for you. I recommend this book to all girls who are interested in someone, especially. :-) This is one book you will not want to put down!

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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    Posted September 30, 2004



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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 12, 2014

    Best book ever!!!!!

    I'm 12 years old and it changed my life. I strugled with many things that was in this book. Thank you!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 4, 2013

    If you have sex before youre married...

    If you have sex before youre married you wount feel shameful for the rest of your life and not everyone gets an STD. You yes take away something from your husband but to move on and not feel guilty or shameful and forgive yourself. Or you just dont care at all.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 25, 2012


    Hunting grounds

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 29, 2011

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