Everyday Goodbyes: Starting School and Early Care: A Guide to the Separation Process

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Separation often evokes feelings of fear and anxiety in all of us-children, parents, and teachers alike. Because the success or failure of early separation experiences can affect a child's movement toward independence, teachers and parents must know how to help young children cope with the unpleasant feelings sometimes associated with separation.

In Everyday Goodbyes, an eminent educator helps teachers and parents understand why children often take time to adjust to separation. ...

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Overview

Separation often evokes feelings of fear and anxiety in all of us-children, parents, and teachers alike. Because the success or failure of early separation experiences can affect a child's movement toward independence, teachers and parents must know how to help young children cope with the unpleasant feelings sometimes associated with separation.

In Everyday Goodbyes, an eminent educator helps teachers and parents understand why children often take time to adjust to separation. This reassuring and straightforward resource shows how adults can work together to make the transition to child care, preschool, or kindergarten a good one. The author offers many practical suggestions to ease the separation process for all involved.

This wonderfully sensitive book features photographs and real-life anecdotes of children, teachers, and parents to illustrate all aspects of the adjustment process.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780807746394
  • Publisher: Teachers College Press
  • Publication date: 11/27/2005
  • Series: Early Childhood Education Series
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 168
  • Sales rank: 1,291,240
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 0.42 (d)

Table of Contents

Preface ix
Acknowledgments xi
1 Starting Early Care and Education: How Does It Feel? 1
What Might Children Be Feeling? 2
What Might Parents Be Feeling? 8
What Might Teachers Be Feeling? 13
The Impact of Separation Is Complex 15
2 The Meanings of Separation 16
Attachment: The Roots of Separation Feelings 17
How Attachment Develops 20
About Separating 24
3 Learning from Children's Behavior 29
Very Good Behavior 29
Delayed Reaction 32
Regressive Behaviors: Thumb Sucking, Eating, Wetting, Sleeping 33
Looking and Talking 37
Increased Dependence 41
Security Objects 42
Relations with Other Children 45
Coping Through Play 46
When Parents Return 52
Other Separation Reactions 54
How Observations Can Help 55
4 Using Curriculum to Cope with Separation 58
Children Who Are "Too Good" 60
Delayed Reaction: Children Who Are "Fine," Then Fall Apart 62
Is it Regression or Temperament? 64
Children with Special Needs 65
Adult Behaviors That Help Children Cope With Separation 68
Activities that Support Children 69
Beginning Days in a Program 78
Social Life 79
Encouraging Children's Competence 81
5 Parents and Teachers: Learning Together 85
Paving the Way 86
Children Are Strangers 89
Parents as a Source of Information 90
Providing Help for Parents and Children When the Program Begins 91
Parents in the Classroom 92
Parents Contribute to Children's Security 93
Teachers Also Experience Conflict 94
A Parents' Meeting Before the Program Opens 95
Fathers and Children 99
Varied Approaches to Helping Parents 102
Using a Questionnaire with Parents 108
6 Entry and Separation Policy 112
Information for Parents and a Welcome Letter for Children 113
A Special "Spruce-Up" Time 113
A First Visit 114
Home Visits 115
A Slow Beginning 115
Adjustment to Eating and Sleeping 116
Parents in the Classroom 117
"Sneaking Out" 117
Security Objects 118
An End-of-the-Year Get-Together 119
What About a Policy for Children Who Are Not Ready? 119
There Are Good and Bad Separations 120
The Value of a School Policy That Supports Separation 122
Appendix A Suggested Reading 123
Books for Adults 123
Books for Children 125
Selected Professional Readings 130
Appendix B Letter and Phase-In Schedules 133
Sample Letter to Parents 133
Sample Phase-In Schedules for Parents and Children 134
References 137
Index 143
About the Author 153
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