Everyone Communicates, Few Connect: What the Most Effective People Do Differently

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Only one thing stands between you and success.

It isn't experience.

It isn't talent.

World-renowned leadership expert John C. Maxwell says if you want to succeed, you must learn how to connect with people. And while it may seem like some folks are just born with it, the fact is anyone can learn how to make every communication an opportunity ...

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Only one thing stands between you and success.

It isn't experience.

It isn't talent.

World-renowned leadership expert John C. Maxwell says if you want to succeed, you must learn how to connect with people. And while it may seem like some folks are just born with it, the fact is anyone can learn how to make every communication an opportunity for a powerful connection. In Everyone Communicates, Few Connect, Maxwell shares the Five Principles and Five Practices to develop the crucial skill of connecting, including:

  • Finding common ground
  • Keeping your communication simple
  • Capturing people's interest
  • Inspiring people
  • Staying authentic in all your relationships

The ability to connect with others is a major determining factor in reaching your full potential. It's no secret! Connecting is a skill you can learn and apply in your personal, professional, and family relationships—and you can start now!

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Full of anecdotes from readers of his books (including Encouragement Changes Everything) and his website (www.JohnMaxwellonLeadership.com), the latest self-help from prolific bestseller Maxwell is so readable, audiences may not realize until the end that it contains little in the way of practical advice. Instead, Maxwell offers vague platitudes like, "being a giver is usually a win-win. It can energize you while it helps others," without providing the meaning or context to make proper advice (what would "a giver" look like in conversation? How can readers become givers?). A great deal of the book is devoted to first-person anecdotes by those who have worked with Maxwell and his books, who make much of Maxwell's skills, but little of the steps they took to improve their own communication abilities. Those looking for concrete help won't find it here; Maxwell doesn't get much more specific than when he writes, "Connecting is the ability to identify with people and relate to them in a way that increases your influence with them."
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  • Publication date: 3/28/2014
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Meet the Author

John C. Maxwell is an internationally respected leadership expert, speaker, and author who has sold more than 19 million books. He is the founder of EQUIP, a non-profit organization that has trained more than 5 million leaders in 126 countries. Read his blog at JohnMaxwellOnLeadership.com.
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Chapter One

Connecting Increases Your Influence In Every Situation

According to experts, we are bombarded with thirty-five thousand messages a day. Everywhere we go, everywhere we look, someone is trying to get our attention. Every politician, advertiser, journalist, family member, and acquaintance has something to say to us. Every day we are faced with e-mails, text messages, billboards, television, movies, radio, Twitter, Facebook, and blogs. Add to these newspapers, magazines, and books. Our world is cluttered with words. How do we choose which messages to tune in and which ones to tune out?

At the same time, we also have messages we want to get across to others. I've read that, on average, most people speak about sixteen thousand words a day. If you transcribed those words, they'd fill a three-hundred-page book every week. At the end of a year, you would have an entire bookcase full of words. In a lifetime, you'd fill a library. But how many of your words would matter? How many would make a difference? How many would get through to others?

Talk is easy. Everybody talks. The question is, how can you make your words count?

How can you really communicate with others?

Connecting Can Make You or Break You

People cannot succeed in life without communicating effectively. It's not enough just to work hard. It's not enough to do a great job. To be successful, you need to learn how to really communicate with others.

Have you ever gotten frustrated while making a presentation because people just weren't getting it? Have you ever wanted your boss to understand how much value you add to the company so you could get a well-earned raise or promotion? If you have children, have you wanted them to listen so you could help them make good choices? Have you wanted to improve your relationship with a friend or make a positive impact on your community? If you can't find a way to communicate effectively, you won't be able to reach your potential, you won't succeed in the way you desire, and you'll be forever frustrated.

What's the secret? Connecting! After more than forty years of marriage, a long and successful career as a public speaker, decades of leading various organizations, and experience in helping people develop across the United States and in dozens of countries around the world, I can tell you this: if you want to succeed, you must learn how to connect with others.

Connecting Is Key

I am convinced more than ever that good communication and leadership are all about connecting. If you can connect with others at every level-one-on-one, in groups, and with an audience-your relationships are stronger, your sense of community improves, your ability to create teamwork increases, your influence increases, and your productivity skyrockets.

What do I mean when I say "connect"? Connecting is the ability to identify with people and relate to them in a way that increases your influence with them. Why is that important? Because the ability to communicate and connect with others is a major determining factor in reaching your potential. To be successful, you must work with others. And to do that at your absolute best, you must learn to connect.

How much healthier would your relationships be if you excelled at connecting? How would your marriage and family life improve? How much happier would your relationships with friends be? How much better would you be at getting along with your neighbors if you were able to connect with them?

How would being a better connector impact your career? What would happen if you were fantastic at connecting with your coworkers? How would things change at work if you were better able to connect with your boss? According to the Harvard Business Review, "The number one criteria for advancement and promotion for professionals is an ability to communicate effectively." That means connecting! If you learned to connect better, it would change your life!

Connecting Is Crucial for Leaders

I am probably best known for my writing and speaking on leading. If you want to become more productive and influential, learn to become a better leader because everything rises and falls on leadership. And the best leaders are always excellent connectors.

If you're interested in a case study in connecting in the context of leadership, all you have to do is look at the presidents of the United States from the last thirty years. Because every move of those presidents is documented in the press at home and around the world, most people are familiar with them.

Presidential historian Robert Dallek says that successful presidents exhibit five qualities that enable them to achieve things that others don't: vision, pragmatism, consensus building, charisma, and trustworthiness. As leadership and communication consultant John Baldoni points out,

Four of these factors depend heavily upon the ability to communicate on multiple levels. Presidents, like all leaders, need to be able to describe where they are going (vision), persuade people to come along with them (consensus), connect on a personal level (charisma), and demonstrate credibility, i.e., do what they say they will do (trust). Even pragmatism depends on communications ... So in a very real sense, leadership effectiveness, both for presidents and for anyone else in a position of authority, depends to a high degree upon good communication skills.

And what do those communication skills depend on? Connecting!

Set aside your political opinions and biases for a moment and look at the abilities of some past presidents. Consider the differences in connecting skill between Ronald Reagan and Jimmy Carter when they ran against one another. In their final debate on October 28, 1980, Carter came across as cold and impersonal. To every question he was asked, Carter responded with facts and figures. Walter Cronkite described Carter as humorless. Dan Rather called Carter stoic and disengaged. And as Carter made a case to be reelected, he seemed to bounce back and forth between trying to impress people by stating cold facts and trying to make his listeners feel sympathy for him and the burden of his job. At one point he stated, "I alone have had to determine the interest of my country and the involvement of my country," and he stated, "It's a lonely job." He never focused on his audience and their concerns.

In contrast, Reagan was engaged with his audience and even with Carter. Before the debate, Reagan walked over to Carter to shake his hand, which seemed to startle the president. During the debate, when his opponent spoke, Reagan listened and smiled. When it was Reagan's turn to speak, his appeals were often directed to his audience. He wasn't trying to come across as an expert, though he did quote figures and dispute some of Carter's facts. He was trying to connect. Many remember his closing remarks, in which he asked people, "Are you better off than you were four years ago?" Reagan told his audience, "You made this country great." His focus was on the people. There couldn't have been a greater contrast between the Great Communicator and his predecessor.

A similar contrast can be seen between Bill Clinton and his successor, George W. Bush. Clinton took communication to the next level as president. He equaled Reagan's ability to connect one-on-one as well as on camera. When he said, "I feel your pain," most people around the country connected with him. Clinton not only possessed Reagan's connection skills but also added to them a mastery of the interview and talk show formats, which was critical when he ran for election. He seemed never to miss an opportunity to try to connect. So far, no politician has surpassed him in connecting with others.

Bush, on the other hand, seemed to miss nearly every opportunity to connect with people. His one clear moment of connection occurred immediately after September 11, 2001, when he spoke at Ground Zero. After that he usually fumbled and flopped when he tried to speak with others. His inability to connect alienated people and colored everything he did as president.

Communication expert Bert Decker publishes a list every year of the top ten best and worst communicators of the year. Guess who was on the worst communicator list every year during his last term in office? That's right, President George W. Bush. In 2008, Decker wrote about Bush, "Soon after [9/11] he slipped back to the shrugs and smirks, and tangles of syntax and grammar. It perhaps reached a nadir in the response to Katrina. Such is not the communications of a leader. Having so little influence this past year, it is sad to put our president as the #1 worst communicator of 2008."

If you follow politics, you probably have a strong opinion about Jimmy Carter, Ronald Regan, Bill Clinton, and George W. Bush. You can say what you will-either positive or negative-about their character, philosophy, or policies. But their effectiveness as leaders was definitely impacted by their ability or inability to connect.

Connecting is crucial whether you're trying to lead a child or a nation. President Gerald Ford once remarked, "If I went back to college again, I'd concentrate on two areas: learning to write and to speak before an audience. Nothing in life is more important than the ability to communicate effectively." Talent isn't enough. Experience isn't enough. To lead others, you must be able to communicate well, and connecting is key.

Connecting Helps in Every Area of Life

Of course, connecting isn't just for leaders. It's for anyone who desires to be more effective at what he or she does or enjoy better relationships. I received many comments from people on my blog, JohnMaxwellOnLeadership.com, affirming this.

I heard from business people such as Tom Martin, who described the importance of connection in his work. "To connect is to join, but to make a connection there has to be rapport," wrote Tom. "This is what I try to help our sales force to see as their role in transitioning a lead into a prospect, a prospect into a customer, and a customer into a client. It is those connected clients who become our greatest advocates to help us grow our business."

I also heard from many teachers and trainers. Exceed Resources trainer and coach Cassandra Washington told me, "In the classroom, I teach that connection is key. Leadership is about connecting with people. Serving customers is about connecting. Raising kids ... connecting." An English as a Second Language teacher, Lindsay Fawcett, wrote that when she was in Hong Kong and mainland China, she noticed that whenever she went to a meeting, there was always a connection time planned before it started, with food and drinks provided so that people could get to know one another. It changed her perspective. "I am one of those people who grew up being able to do 'things' well, but I never understood the idea of connecting. I finally learned to connect with my students, which has helped me become a better teacher."

Jennifer Williams, who had just moved into a new neighborhood, said that she went out of her way to meet new neighbors, talk to them, discover their occupations, and learn the names of their children and pets. As she did, people began to come together. "Wow," one neighbor told her, "until you moved in, we rarely talked, didn't know each other, and would never sit out in the evenings and socialize. Here you've been for less than two months, and you know everyone!" Jennifer says it's because "people want to be made to feel connected and a part of something." I agree, but I also recognize that she is a connector!

When people possess the ability to connect, it makes a huge difference in what they can accomplish. You don't have to be a president or high-profile executive for connecting to add value to you. Connecting is vital for any person who wants to achieve success. It is essential for anyone who wants to build great relationships. You will only be able to reach your potential-regardless of your profession or chosen path-when you learn to connect with other people. Otherwise, you'll be like a nuclear power plant disconnected from the grid. You'll have incredible resources and potential, but you will never be able to put them to use.

The Desire to Connect

I am convinced that nearly anyone can learn to connect with others. Why? Because I learned how to do it. Connecting wasn't something I did naturally. When I was a kid, I wanted to connect with my parents, not just because I loved them but also because I suspected that if I had a good connection with my mother, it might keep me from getting a spanking when I misbehaved.

I also learned that humor could be very valuable for connecting. I remember one time when my older brother, Larry, and I got into trouble and laughter saved me. Usually when we were punished, we were asked to bend over and grab a chair. Then Mom would give us a couple of whacks on the seat of our pants with a pancake spatula. Larry, as the oldest, usually went first, and on this occasion, when Mom gave him the first whack, there was a loud bang, and a puff of smoke emerged from Larry's hind end. The explanation? Larry had a roll of caps stored in his back pocket. Mom just howled. We all ended up laughing, and best of all, I didn't get a spanking that day! For three weeks, I kept caps in my back pockets-just in case.

As I got a little older and entered school, I became aware that some kids connected with the teachers while I didn't. In first grade, Diana Crabtree was the student who connected. In second grade, it was Elaine Mosley, and in third grade, Jeff Ankrom. I could see that the teachers loved those kids. I wanted my teachers to like me too, and I started to wonder what my classmates were doing that I wasn't.

In junior high school, it was the same thing. When I tried out for the basketball team, I made the squad, but I didn't get to start, even though I was a better player than two of the other players who were starters. I could sense an invisible barrier that was keeping me from where I wanted to go. I felt frustrated. I wondered why Coach Neff liked them more than he liked me. What I discovered was that those students had connected with Coach during the previous year, and I hadn't. My lack of connection held me back.

Have you ever experienced similar things? Maybe you are the most skilled person in an area at work, yet you never get promoted. Or you work hard and produce, but others don't seem to appreciate what you do. Or maybe you desire to build relationships with people around you, but they don't seem to listen to you the way they do to others. Or you want to create an effective team-or just become part of a good team-but you are made to feel like an outsider. What's the problem? It's connection. To succeed with other people, you need to be able to connect.

I finally started to learn about connecting in high school. My wife, Margaret, and I started dating then. She was very popular, and there were three other young men besides me who were interested in her. To be honest, she had her doubts about me. I was always trying to impress her, but she was suspicious whenever I lavished compliments on her. "Hmph," she'd say. "How can you say that? You don't even know me that well!"

How did I stay in the game? I decided to connect with her mother! Once I won over Margaret's mother, I gained some time to win over Margaret. And whenever I did something stupid, which I must admit was too often, Margaret's mother would defend me. It helped me to win Margaret's confidence and, years later, her hand in marriage.


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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

Prologue xi

Part I Connecting Principles

1 Connecting Increases Your Influence in Every Situation 1

2 Connecting Is All About Others 22

3 Connecting Goes Beyond Words 47

4 Connecting Always Requires Energy 72

5 Connecting Is More Skill Than Natural Talent 96

Part II Connecting Practices

6 Connectors Connect on Common Ground 123

7 Connectors Do the Difficult Work of Keeping It Simple 149

8 Connectors Create an Experience Everyone Enjoys 171

9 Connectors Inspire People 199

10 Connectors Live What They Communicate 229

Conclusion 248

Contributors to JohnMaxwellonLeadership.com 251

Notes 255

About the Author 262

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  • Posted May 9, 2010

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    Great guide to better relationships

    I was lucky to be able to get a copy of this book to read and review through the Tomas Nelson Book Sneeze program that allows me to get free copies of books to read and review.

    I love to read books, but there are many times when you read a book cover to cover and maybe pull an idea or two from it. Rare is it that every page contains an idea, quote, thought or practical application that you can take and apply to those around you.

    This book is like a mater's program on getting the most out of your life. It is not something that you can just zip through, but in order for this to be effective, you need to 'marinate' on the ideas that are jammed between the covers and start applying the ideas one at a time. There are many books about getting better about a specific area of your life, or moving up in your career, but I don't know if I have read a book like this that applied to virtually every part of my life.

    This book isn't just a 'How to' manual, it lays out practical concepts and then backs them up by examples and quotes from influential people. However, the most effective part however is they 'real life' stories and thoughts that are shared by common people like you and me that help make these concepts more real.

    I could attempt to list out all of the great concepts and talk about how much more effective you will be at your professional and personal relationships, how your outlook on these relationships will change and if you take these concepts to heart it will require a ton of work but your life will be better for it, but I won't do that. I will just say, you should get a copy and read it. And then start to apply some of these principles and watch things start to come together.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted October 1, 2011

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    Learning How to Connect

    Having taught elementary school for 30 years, I would have said that I know all about communicating with people. However, upon retiring I found myself interacting with adults. I had not really given much thought to connecting with people. I choose John Maxwell's, Everyone Communicates Few Connect a couple years ago, and found it to be an outstanding book on connecting with people. I read the book then got involved with some other projects. Since then I came back to the book and picked it back up again. I had underlined the things that stood out as I read the book. Now I have read it twice. Mr Maxwell quotes Dan, "People with charisma possess an outward focus instead of an inward one. They pay attention to other people, and they desire to add value to them." Whether you wish to learn to connect on a personal level or with larger audiences Mr. Maxwell has much to offer. Not only do you learn about connecting with others you will also learn about yourself. Thank you Mr. Maxwell for helping me to think through my connecting skills. And yes I do think this book has helped me add value to my life. Want to add value to your life, pick up a copy today.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted June 14, 2011

    not everyone communicates, not everyone connects

    I am a big fan of any John Maxwell book. I love his stories, his one liners, and I love he states thoughts easily so you can remember them. I will first start by talking about the negative in this book. I felt like it became a little redundant os some of his other books. He kind of went over similar things before but in a different way. Thats my only negative..

    Here are some of the positives. He constantly challenges and brings to life great questions. Am I a good communicator and if not, then why. We work in the ministry and we are constantly working with leaders and people; we are trying to inspire and this book helps develop a better avenue for that. I think that this world is often really bad at communicating and connecting. We need need to become better at it and this book helps to develop that.

    * Do you care for me?
    * Can you help me?
    * Can I trust you?
    * What do you dream about?
    * What do you sing about?
    * What do you cry about?

    Good communication is about being a good listener and we need to become better at that..Highly recommend this book.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted January 4, 2011

    Comm-you-nication Connection!

    Well worth the read and your time. John C. Maxwell has given me tremendous insight into how great communicators connect with individuals, groups and audiences. I was glued from the opening passage. Highly recommended.

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  • Posted September 11, 2010

    Cultivating Attitude

    First off, I will say that you need to read this book with a grain of salt. Some of the specific examples and skills are hard to relate to, coming from a man who is a millionaire leadership expert. That being said, there are definitely some good anecdotes and some great examples of the principle of connecting.

    At the outset, Mr. Maxwell defines connecting as "the ability to identify with people and relate to them in a way that increases your influence with them" (3). He goes on to show how this can be relevant in sales, management, relationships, or even volunteering. He continues to develop this definition throughout the first section into an attitude that permeates your interactions with everyone, and is very others-focused.

    In the second section he goes on to describe how you can cultivate and grow in this skill by putting a couple of tools into practice. These include things like finding common ground and keeping it simple.

    I definitely enjoyed the book. It was rather refreshing to read a book that tried to cultivate an attitude rather than giving you a grocery list of things you must do to achieve success or be an effective leader.

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  • Posted September 10, 2010

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    Maxwell has fun teaching people how to connect

    To learn how to connect well with others, imitate a connection superstar: leadership development expert John C. Maxwell. When he posted a preliminary version of this book on his blog, 100,000 people viewed it, and many offered comments on how to make it better. Maxwell has sold more than 18 million books and his company has taught leadership skills to more than five million people. He offers this book's simple principles and its very abundant quotations, anecdotes and stories to explain how to build relationships with other people in many settings. Without being preachy - though he is a preacher - he provides an intelligent, purposeful philosophy about connection. Maxwell's sensible counsel - focus on others, help them, smile - is not earth shattering, but no one could dispute its basic verity. If the book sometimes seems just to skip merrily from one great story to another, that's part of its charm - and it all adds up to advice that will improve your ability to link with other people. The trick is to put these examples into practice and Maxwell explains how to do that. getAbstract recommends his book to all those who want to improve their public speaking skills and interpersonal connections.

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  • Posted August 17, 2010

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    A Great Book for Anyone to Read!

    The most effective managers and employers know how to communicate and connect well with their employees. I've learned this through my experiences communicating with others as well as my experiences with managers who do not do this very well. This is a book that can benefit anyone from a manager, to a pastor, even husbands and wives trying to learn how to communicate and connect effectively. Maxwell lays out keys to connecting. He talks about what connectors do and then highlights how we can do this effectively. He then summarizes by discussing how we can connect with individuals, groups, and in public speaking using the key we had just learned in that chapter. This was an engaging book that gave many tips on how to connect with others and use it to benefit yourself and others. I enjoyed how Maxwell included quotes about connecting within each chapter. The stories of people who embody each of these characteristics helped to show how effective they can be. John C. Maxwell is a great writer and I would love to see him speak as well if I ever get a chance. This book is very straight forward and full of a lot of insight. I recommend it!

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  • Posted July 26, 2010

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    I Also Recommend:

    People Skills With Purpose

    I was rather skeptical when I picked this up because I have read numerous pieces by John Maxwell and have been bored by his dry writing style and the stiff formula he uses for every single book he writes. Needless to say I wasn't expecting very much from this read, but was then pleasantly surprised by what I found.
    The first thing that grabbed my attention was how he went about writing the book. Maxwell would write a chapter, post it on his blog, have people comment on it, and then edit the chapter according to what they said. He even added some of their stories and included their pictures as part of the design on the cover of the book. Now that is cool!
    As to the content of the book, I was also pleased. There are many books out there telling you how to make friends or have decent social skills, but Maxwell took it to a new level by giving you a bigger vision for those people skills: influence.
    At the end of each chapter there was an application section divided into three parts: One on one, Group, and Audience. I loved this breakdown because it made the principles he taught applicable to any situation that you might be found in.
    Now as I said, John Maxwell is a dry writer and this book was no exception. But as I read along and felt my attention drifting he would use a story as an example and pull me back in, even making me laugh out loud at times!
    If you want to learn how to work better with people or even become better at public speaking, this book will be of great use to you because in it you will discover the keys to connecting with people that you will use every day for the rest of your life.

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  • Posted July 15, 2010

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    Everyone Communicates Few Connect

    John C. Maxwell's latest offering - 'Everyone Communicates Few Connect'- What the Most Effective People Do Differently, is not just another leadership guide, it is more of a handbook for leaders. Of course the term 'leaders' is metaphoric as anyone in their day to day lives will benefit fro the principles in this book. What sets it apart in the first place is the hands on approach that the author suggests in winning over audiences. Now-a-days with the presence of numerous modes and channels of communication, John C. Maxwell through his book - 'Everyone Communicates Few Connect' elucidates some simple principles of getting our words across and making them count.

    I found the book very boldly presented and the design on the cover is very attractive. The print quality, font used and the design and layout of the pages build up for an excellent reading experience. It has been presented in a very reader friendly format with specially highlighted boxes to draw attention to important parts of the page. The narrative skills of Dr. Maxwell are by and large exhibited throughout this treatise and Yes! As far as I am concerned his methods are a success because I am listening.

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  • Posted June 28, 2010


    This book peaks your interest from the dust jacket and inside cover with the many, many pictures of people, which turn out to be subjects of John's research, all the way through the end of the book.

    John offers valuable insights to becoming better communicators as well as better listeners. No matter who you are and who your audience is, you can communicate with them. It takes practice...it will not happen overnight, but you can acquire the skills necessary to reach your family as well as those in business or friends or church or even a stranger on the street. This communication will improve relationships vastly and your life will become more successful and enjoyable.

    The book is easy to read; the principles for communication are given and clearly stated. You can't help but learn from a renown leadership expert like John Maxwell. Just take the time to read the book.

    Disclosure statement: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

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  • Posted June 17, 2010

    Everyone Communicates, Few Connect by John C. Maxwell

    This book, while full of useful advice, does not read like your typical self-help, business literature. John Maxwell has proved again why he is such a well respected and world-renown leadership expert. He writes in such a manner that you cannot help but learn from his teachings. His methods are not in your face but rather subtly absorbed. The book is full of one-person anecdotes that many of his readers can relate to. His suggestions, while not specific, open your mind to possibilities in communication and encourage you to explore your connections with people. I really enjoyed reading the book. With communication and information overload in today's society, his anecdotes are relevant for business or casual relationships, face-to-face, internet, telephone or written contacts. I found it a refreshing change from many of the business and communication books I have read in the past. It is an easy read and a book I will turn to again from time to time. Recommended for those who like reflect and then improve their relationships - business and personal - but are not looking for a step-by-step how-to manual. A good choice for book clubs with an emphasis on business.

    Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com <http://BookSneeze.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255.

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  • Posted June 9, 2010

    Everyone Communicates, Few Connect by John Maxwell

    Everyone Communicates, Few Connect by John Maxwell is an excellent resource for those attempting to improve their "connection" skills. Using his extensive research on successful communicators, John Maxwell examines what makes them able to connect with audiences, small groups, or individuals.

    This book was fascinating! Although everyone may communicate as the title says, few people communicate effectively, and even fewer people connect with those to whom they are speaking. This book addresses these issues in an easy-to-read format. From the importance to connecting to a type sketch of connectors, the topics contained in this book held my interest. Whether he is a prominent public speaker or merely an individual attempting to reconnect with his spouse, no doubt everyone could benefit from this book. Pick it up and see if there is an area in your life in which your "connection" skills could be improved. You will be happy that you did.

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  • Posted May 7, 2010

    Everyone Communicates, Few Connect, by John Maxwell

    In Everyone Communicates, Few Connect, John Maxwell offers practical advice on how to communicate effectively. He makes it clear that the point of communicating is not simply to disseminate information but to have a positive influence on others. He presents five principles and five practices and offers specific advice on how to apply them one-on-one, with a group, and with an audience. This is a book that you will want to refer to again and again.

    I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255

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  • Posted May 2, 2010

    Would have been better as a blog series.

    In Everyone Communicates, Few Connect, John Maxwell introduces the reader to five principles and five practices of connecting as we communicate. He links the ability to create change in an organization to the ability to the application of these principles and practices. I have to admit I am late to the Maxwell train. I am familiar with some of his work, but have never been particular drawn to anything in his seemingly endless catalog of books. That being said, as a pastor I often serve in a role of "communicator", so I jumped on the opportunity to read and review this book when it became available through www.booksneeze.com. The strength of the book is that Maxwell's thesis is clear form the very beginning... illustrated simply in the title. The frustration I had with the book, however, was that it read almost like a PowerPoint presentation. It was basically 10 bullet points with a stories and examples (sometimes too many... we get the point John!) to fill in the gaps. If I'm being honest, I think just about anyone could get the point of the book (and even learn to apply the practices and principles) by simply reading the chapter summaries. This book would have (IMHO) been a better as a 10-part blog series.

    The principles and practices in Everyone Communicates are sound and if applied would be helpful in strengthening the communication/connection of anyone who leads. It just felt like Maxwell did not need an entire book to make his points.

    *note: I received a review copy of this book for free from www.booksneeze.com. If you have a blog, you can get free books to review too!
    Posted via email from Pastor Brian Spahr

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 23, 2010

    Review of "Everyone Communicates, Few Connect" by John Maxwell

    I love a good read! My family has learned over the years that once mom starts a good book, like it or not, you're basically on your own until she reads the very last word. The world could fall apart around me while I'm in the middle of said book and I probably wouldn't even notice. I read most books in one sitting . I can't just help it.

    I consider myself a fan of John Maxwell. He is one of those people you just LOVE to sit and listen to. So, when I saw his newest book, "Everyone Communicates, Few Connect", I jumped at the chance to get an advance copy. I was excited at the opportunity to find out how it is that this fabulous speaker manages to connect so successfully with his audiences. Unfortunately, my excitement ended shortly after opening the book. I didn't "connect" with this book at all. In fact, I actually struggled to get through it.

    It's not that it isn't full of good solid information. In the book's 250 pages, Maxwell presents five Connecting Principles and five Connecting Practices. The five Connecting Principles are: connecting increases your influence in every situation, connecting is all about others, connecting goes beyond words, connecting always requires energy, and connecting is more skill than natural talent. The five Connecting Practices are: connectors connect on common ground, connectors do the difficult work of keeping it simple, connectors create an experience everyone enjoys, connectors inspire people, connectors live what they communicate.

    The problem wasn't lack of good content; the principles and practices that Maxwell outlines are really good stuff. And, I wholeheartedly agree with his main point that the purpose of communicating is to add value to the listener. It just wasn't enough content. I quickly got bored with all the repetition and found myself either putting the book down (which is not like me at all) or skimming ahead to find the next point. Although I might still recommend "Everyone Communicates, Few Connect" to someone who is actively looking to improve their communication skills, I think Maxwell could have easily written a much shorter book and still gotten his message across.

    FYI: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com <http://BookSneeze.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

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  • Posted April 22, 2010

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    Everyone Communicates Few Connect

    "Hello, my name is Mike and I like John Maxwell."

    And Maxwell's newest book, Everyone Communicates Few Connect, is sure to please even the most casual of John Maxwell readers. As with most of Maxwell's material, this is not rocket science. However, what it lacks in groundbreaking invention it makes up for in easy to understand and apply principles and practices to help anyone become a more effective communicator.

    The book is divided into two sections, Connecting Principles and Connecting Practices, and contains five of each.

    The five Connecting Principles include: connecting increases your influence in every situation, connecting is all about others, connecting goes beyond words, connecting always requires energy, and connecting is more skill than natural talent.

    The five Connecting Practices include: connectors connect on common ground, connectors do the difficult work of keeping it simple, connectors create an experience everyone enjoys, connectors inspire people, connectors live what they communicate.

    Filled with Maxwell's wealth of axioms, lists, proverbs, illustrations, quotes, acrostics, and questions, Everyone Communicates Few Connect contains a wealth of sound bite information. It is at once practical, encouraging, and authoritative.

    Having been a professional communicator for 25 years, I found Maxwell's newest offering a very valuable reminder of the importance of connecting with those to whom I communicate rather than merely dispensing information, inspirational or not.

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  • Posted April 21, 2010

    Everyone Communicates, Few Connect

    I have heard John Maxwell speak live before, and he is truly one of the greatest speakers I've ever heard. So I was expecting a lot from this book, especially since it was on communication. The book is divided into two parts: Connecting Principles and Connecting Practices. So you get the general thought processes behind effectively connecting with people, and then some practical ways that you can implement the principles. At the end of each chapter, Maxwell also provides you with applications for the chapter in three different settings: one-on-one, in a group, and with an audience.
    The content of the book was very good. Maxwell puts into words the communication principles that deep down, we probably all know. We just don't consciously acknowledge how important the principles are, or if we do, we don't know how to make them work for us. One of my favorite points he makes is in the last chapter, "Connectors Live What They Communicate." He tells of a speech he gave about the importance of leaders making themselves vulnerable and admitting their weaknesses to the people they are leading. One CEO came up to him afterwards and politely disagreed with him. This gentleman said that he believed that a leader should never appear weak. Maxwell answered: "You think your people don't already know your weaknesses. They do. By admitting them, you're letting them know that you know them."
    I think the main reason I didn't get as involved with this book is because of the format. For one, the chapters are all a bit long, and the subject of each chapter is broad. By the time you get to the end of the chapter, you've chased after so many tangents that you've forgotten the main idea of the chapter. Not that these tangents aren't relevant, it's just that there are so many. Another thing I did not like about the format is Maxwell's excessive use of the first person. I realize that he is a great communicator. And that if I want a communication role model, he's one of the best. But throughout the whole book it was "This is how I do things.." "When I am speaking to a crowd." "My common practices are." "Here is what people say about me." I know it was not his intent, but it came across to me as arrogance. He could have put in all of the same information without saying that it was the exact way that he lives his life.
    Overall, it was a great book if you are looking for ways to really connect with the people around you. Maxwell is one of the best, so there isn't anyone better to learn from.

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  • Posted April 20, 2010

    Everyone Communicates, Few Connect by John Maxwell

    John Maxwell says," When you connect with others; you position yourself to make the most of your skills and talents". This quote is from his newest book Everyone Communicates, Few Connect. I believe that if you know your passions and are able to connect with others you will reach your potential. John Maxwell helps readers to become better communicators. Connecting with people is about thinking of others, requires more than words, finding common ground, keeping it simple, and requires energy. These are just a few of the things he discusses.
    At the end of each chapter he gives "Connecting Principles" and "Key Concepts". One of the connecting principles is: "Connecting increases your influence in every situation". This is a great reminder to leaders and everyone who communicates to others.
    Each chapter concludes with points on the topic that apply to communicating one-on-one, in a group, and with an audience. This section is a powerful tool to apply what you have just read about. So if you want to become a better connector and grow in influence and reach your potential. You should read this book.

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  • Posted April 19, 2010

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    Great Book for anyone looking to connect with others

    In this book, John C. Maxwell focuses on the importance of connecting with others & how to connect with others. Everyday we communicate, even when we aren't doing anything at all. This book gives numerous connection tools that are easy to use in everyday life as well as in groups or to an audience. Its's not hard stuff either, it's simple,very intentional things that make a connection and lets others know they are important to you. Every chapter had me thinking of how I could apply what I was reading to my everyday life. Whether they are family, friends, coworkers, or volunteers I want to connect with them because they are important to me. Before reading this book, I was unsure how to how bridge the gap between talking to people and connecting with them. It seemed as if almost every page had so much great & practical information that I kept thinking I needed to mark the page I was on so that I could refer back to it. Connection is not difficult, it takes energy and has to be intentional.

    I recommend this book to everyone. Yep, everyone. I think everyone cann take something great away from this book and use it all different types of relationships both new and old.

    Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com <http://BookSneeze.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html> : "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."

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