Everyone Loves You When You're Dead: Journeys into Fame and Madness

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You can tell a lot about somebody in a minute. If you choose the right minute. Here are 228 of them.

Join Neil Strauss, "The Mike Tyson of interviewers," (Dave Pirner, Soul Asylum), as he

  • Makes Lady Gaga cry, tries to keep Mötley Crüe out of jail & gets kidnapped by Courtney Love
  • Shoots guns with Ludacris, takes a ride with Neil Young ...
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You can tell a lot about somebody in a minute. If you choose the right minute. Here are 228 of them.

Join Neil Strauss, "The Mike Tyson of interviewers," (Dave Pirner, Soul Asylum), as he

  • Makes Lady Gaga cry, tries to keep Mötley Crüe out of jail & gets kidnapped by Courtney Love
  • Shoots guns with Ludacris, takes a ride with Neil Young & goes to church with Tom Cruise and his mother
  • Spends the night with Trent Reznor, reads the mind of Britney Spears & finds religion with Stephen Colbert
  • Gets picked on by Led Zeppelin, threatened by the mafia & serenaded by Leonard Cohen
  • Picks up psychic clues with the CIA, diapers with Snoop Dog & prison survival tips from Rick James
  • Goes drinking with Bruce Springsteen, dining with Gwen Stefani & hot tubbing with Marilyn Manson
  • Talks glam with David Bowie, drugs with Madonna, death with Johnny Cash & sex with Chuck Berry
  • Gets molested by the Strokes, in trouble with Prince & in bed with… you’ll find out who inside

And many, many more awkward moments and accidental adventures with the world’s number one stars in Everyone Love You When You’re Dead.

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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Journalist Strauss, who has coauthored books with the band members of Mötley Crüe (The Dirt) and porn superstar Jenna Jameson (How to Make Love Like a Porn Star) now offers a terrific look at the dysfunctional livelihoods of stardom, a theme based on his many interviews for various publications. Strauss went back to his original interview tapes and notes in search of moments—mostly unpublished—that reveal "the truth or essence of each person, story, or experience." He liberally and ingeniously cuts back and forth between scenes, such as pairing the youthful, arrogant claims of Oasis that the band could have been the Beatles in the 1960s with the tortured feeling of the Who's aging leader Pete Townshend ("All we can do in the future is look back"). In other instances, he shows the self-doubt shared by Soul Asylum's Dave Pirner and actor Orlando Bloom. But the best moments come when Strauss has earned such trust of his subjects that he becomes part of some very weird scenes, all of which are presented in all their often hilarious detail: shooting guns with Ludacris, getting kidnapped by Courtney Love, making Lady Gaga cry, and shopping for Pampers with Snoop Dogg. (Mar.)
Lady - Gaga
"We might as well have had sex now."
Bo Diddley
“If you were a girl, I’d f*ck you.”
Chuck Berry
“We could do fifteen minutes in Vegas.”
Brian Wilson
“One of the longest and greatest interviews I’ve ever had.”
Britney Spears
“The best interview of my life.”
Phil Collins
“Well Neil, f*ck you.”
Dave Marsh
“The best and most honest daily newspaper reporter rock has ever seen.”
Nikki Sixx
“God bless the demons—and Neil Strauss too.”
Lady Gaga
“We might as well have had sex now.”
Library Journal
This book contains unpublished tidbits from 227 interviews that rock critic Strauss—who's coauthored books with Mötley Crüe, Jenna Jameson, and Marilyn Manson—has conducted over his career writing for the New York Times and Rolling Stone, among other publications. Each snippet is only a few pages long, with a brief introductory paragraph, and the book rarely lists interview dates. Most pieces emphasize the celebrated subjects' more controversial moments or disturbing attributes but reveal little about them that is not already common knowledge. The majority of the interviewees are musicians—e.g., Snoop Dogg, Pink, Rick James, Patti Smith, Jerry Lee Lewis, Brian Wilson, Lady Gaga—with a smattering of other cultural icons, including Timothy Leary, Jackie Chan, and Ben Stiller. VERDICT Celebrity gossip can be addictive. This excellent bathroom read is boiled down like little rocks of crack.—Lani Smith, Ohlone Coll. Lib., Fremont, CA
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780061543678
  • Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
  • Publication date: 3/15/2011
  • Pages: 544
  • Sales rank: 784,489
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 1.40 (d)

Meet the Author

Neil Strauss

Neil Strauss is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The Game and Rules of the Game. He is also the co-author of four previous bestsellers: How to Make Love Like a Porn Star (with Jenna Jameson), The Dirt (with Mötley Crüe), Don’t Try This At Home (with Dave Navarro), and The Long Hard Road Out of Hell (with Marilyn Manson), and the co-author of the satirical graphic novel How to Make Money Like a Porn Star (with Bernard Chang), which has been banned in Singapore. Under the alter ego “Style,” he achieved the distinction of becoming the world’s greatest pickup artist. Strauss lives in Los Angeles, CA.

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  • Posted March 29, 2011

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    I loved this!

    I loved this book! It's not about celebrities. It's about the humanness behind the mask of the celebrity and the lessons they learn about life right along with us, (non-celebrities). The author, Neil Straus, examines decades of all the interviews and extracts from them lessons on how we can learn from them to live a happy, true, fulfilling life. Strauss has met a lot of people, over 3,000 up-close and personal interviews of celebrities and persons of interest. This was such an unusual book of interviews, presented in a narrative form in an entertaining and fun way. There are lots of interesting surprises and educational facts about the music world, fame, art and the part I loved best was the peek at the human beings behind the face of stardom.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 22, 2011

    the news not fit to print

    When reading about a celebrity in a newspaper or magazine it is easy to assume that what is printed is exactly how the interview happened. A recorder, a room, just the writer, the celebrity, and typical/topical questions.
    Not so, for Neil Strauss.

    Besides interviewing celebrities on planes, buses, and automobiles, Neil Strauss has a gift of getting his subject to open up. Sex, drug use, death, life, fame, psychosis... The stuff that may have missed the cover story for being, perhaps, too real?

    I eagerly awaited certain celebrities to pop up in the book's brilliant bite size interview excerpts, with notorious train wrecks like Tom Cruise, Johnny Cash, Oasis, Paris Hilton, and Britney Spears. Over the top entertainers Madonna, Cher, Prince, Ozzy Osbourne, David Bowie? My dessert! But was comes from their mouths, is not what you'd expect... It's BETTER!

    Like this *sneak peek & fun fact* While Neil was interviewing Johnny Cash, religion was brought up:

    *SNEAK PEEK* JOHNNY CASH: "I was always a believer, but during [the addictions] I just didn't bother to give God the credit for anything, or to really try to live the way I know I have to live to survive. I thought I was invincible---until I bottomed out again. And every time I bottomed out, I realized how far away from God I'd been. So I started walking the walk again and trying my best as best I know how."

    *FUN FACT* Johnny then revealed that a minister traveled with his tour, to keep him off the street and counsel other roadies.

    ---> And that's just page 29 kids!!! <---

    This book is not just about lost moments of a celebrity interview. At its core, ELYWYD takes such small moments in time and overwhelms the reader to take inventory of their own life paths and opinions... But its also damn entertaining to hear about Snoop Dogg & Neil driving to pick up Pampers and barbecue sauce!

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 20, 2011

    A Rare Candid Collection of Celebrity Confessions

    Everyone Love's You When You're Dead is an eye opening read for any rock and roll fan. Neil Strauss's five hundred page compendium of interviews, spanning his last twenty years of interviewing celebrities ranging from the renowned Lady Gaga to the obscure Ernie K-Doe, offers a refreshing new perspective into the entertainment industry. Nothing in this book has been doctored for entertainment value nor is it long transcripts of banal gossip. Instead, Neil presents the most revealing and honest bits of conversation juxtaposed against each other to demonstrate all the insecurity, narcissism, eccentricity, and rivalry amongst movie stars and musicians alike.

    Neil Strauss has co-written many "tell all" books with celebrities but nothing has ever been as revealing and honest as this: a young Christina Aguilera tries to shed her nice girl image to compete with a racier Brittany Spears while a thriving Marilyn Manson begins to find his true self amongst a battery of hateful rumors. The candid nature of the interviews really drives home the thoughts that were going through the minds of some of the worlds most controversial stars. Never before have artists seemed more human as they wax poetically about their fear of magazine spin, their jealousy of other artists, their skewed self image, and their ultimate purpose.

    Fans of Neil's most recent books on pick up artistry and survival might be a little dumbfounded when they open the book to find transcripts of interviews rather than his more notable and clever narratives but anyone who has been alive the last two decades will still find at least one celebrity they admire offering an insight into who they really are. For readers who grew up reading articles and interviews in magazines like Rolling Stones and People, obsessing over the who's who and endless controversies between them, Everyone Love's You When Your Dead is like finding the missing pieces of a twenty year puzzle.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 28, 2011

    ...because you're no longer competiton!

    That's was one of the things Neil had said at his book signing in Chicago as he explained the title. I have enjoyed reading his book tremendously. I feel like I'm getting an insider's point of view of all the crazy stuff that goes on for interviews. I'm fascinated in finding out what the stars are like after the show when all the lights are turned off. Who is exactly as they seem and who is nuts, haha

    The biggest lesson I'm taking from this book is how much stardom takes from the "stars". The success takes a toll and effects each person in ways that can be fatal or uplifting. The Neil's book is full of OMG moments and moments that are awe-inspiring.

    If you read one book this year, this has got to be it!!

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 22, 2011

    A MUST read!!!!

    This book is simply incredible! I picked it up and read through it in a day. I am now rereading it for a second time...it goes with me to work, to restaurants, in the "reading room", wherever I go, it goes...I simply cannot put it down. And I am a grandmother that is not even into pop culture and rock music......it is THAT good of a read. The interviews are amazing, you get insights into the people behind the public personae. The author is simply amazing...he really knows how to get to the meat of the interview. But there's more.....this book also has lessons to be taught and those lessons are summarized in a neat little list in the back of the book. But don't simply buy it and look in the back, to get the most out of this book, read it from beginning to end and then everything will make sense. You will be glad that you did. I certainly am and intend to buy copies for each one of my kids and continue to recommend it to others.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 2, 2015

    Totally aweeeesomeeee(awesome)!

    This book was amazing! I couldn't stop reading ! You should totally read this book!

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  • Posted March 22, 2011

    awesome book !!!!

    Have you ever wondered what your favorite actor or musician was really thinking or feeling? Well in Niel's Strauss's new book "Everybody loves you when your dead" you find out much more than you could ask for ,but are more than willing to accept. Neil Strauss single handedly reinvented journalism, in this new masterpiece Neil brings you into the life of a jornalist as he penitrates the world of so many iconic musician,rappers and actors. he's able to get so much more than any other journalist and gives it all to you in his greatist creation yet "everybody loves you when your dead"

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  • Posted March 22, 2011

    Neil Strauss once again graces us with a winner.

    This book is nothing short of amazing. Every single time this author comes out with something new it seems like he out does his last book, which honestly, is no easy feat.

    Neil Strauss takes you into a journey few souls on this planet have ever or could ever hope to go in. He brings you into the private lives and opinions of some of this world's most famous people. He not only asks the questions that no other interviewer would be willing to ask, but he does it in a way to gain instant rapport with all of his subjects. It really brings these stars down to a level which we all could feel as though we could relate to.

    Not only will this book entertain you with every page you turn, but like all of other Neil's books, if you read between the lines and are able to pay close attention, you will come out of the experience with more learned then you thought possible.

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  • Posted March 22, 2011

    20 Years of Rock Never Read so Fast

    Even though this book would have you believe the epithet to the title is "because then you're no longer competition", the truth is it's "because then we know the whole story." And that's what makes Neil Strauss's new book so compelling. You almost never know the whole story. In fact, I'd put money on the fact that you almost certainly don't know the whole story.

    And that's the point.

    Where most pop journalists regurgitate their most recent articles in a "collection", Strauss offers us 20 years worth of top notch interviews, but with a perspective. Instead of interview after interview, we get everything piecemeal, but not disorganized. Strauss takes a snippet here and a quote there, framing ten "acts" that illustrate what happens when the whole world looks at you.

    But this isn't just fame-envy. By the end, Strauss has not only revealed the humanity of each celebrity, but his own as well.

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  • Posted March 22, 2011

    Totally worth it

    This book was reccomended to me on the premise that I would finish it with a new perspective of myself and people of status(celebrities). The interviews in this book are by far the most in depth and candid I have ever read. My jaw actually hurts for real, as it never closed once past the first page. Strauss is an amazing writer and and equally talented interviewer. I would reccomend this book to everyone.

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  • Posted March 22, 2011

    Truth Serum!

    Neil Strauss obviously has a way with people. His other books showcase his ability to win others over while this book shows how he connects with anyone and everyone so easily. This book show his connections with all of the celebrities he has interviewed over the years, (and working with Rolling Stone as a reporter) is a whole lot of them. I have ALWAYS wondered, as I'm sure others do as well, what are the celebrities REALLY like? Reality TV shows are far from reality, and the interviews that are on TV are usually acting as well. Everyone Loves You When You're Dead delivers all of the littel quirks about these people and also the true representation of their character you could ever ask for. You realize these people are not all that different from you or I. The authors questions lead you even deeper into the rabit hole and make all of the big time celebrities seem like they are all in your close circle of friends. The only thing missing is their phone numbers to add to your cell phone. Neil has a real winner in this book and i have already purchased 3 copies to circulate between my friends and family. All in all, Everyone Loves You When You're Dead is an extremely interesting and compelling read. Anyone who has an interest in social dynamics or relationship s in general should make this a definite part of their librabry! Go get it!

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  • Posted March 22, 2011

    You will not be able to stop reading this book once you start

    Neil Strauss, the author of The Game and Emergency, has proven once again to be one of the most intelligent, thought provoking and detailed authors of our generation. In Everyone Loves You When You Are Dead, through his interactions and interviews with some of the most recognizable names in the entertainment industry Strauss takes us on an exploration of not just modern celebrity, but of human behavior in our society. Utilizing many of the skills and knowledge he has gained throughout his other cultural immersions, Strauss is able to gain not only the trust of his subjects, but also make the process of revealing themselves interesting, informative and fun for not just the reader, but also surprisingly for the interviewee as well. I highly recommend this book, but just be careful, once you start reading it you will not be able to stop until you are done.

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  • Posted March 22, 2011

    Different, but Great!

    Neil Strauss, six-time New York Times bestselling Author, has come out with a book that gives the reader a chance to look inwardly and recognize the human flaws that we all have. Everybody Loves You When You're Dead takes you through a journey of self-deprecation and a bit of salvation with each celebrity he interviews. The books main focus is to capture the core value of each person. Strauss went through over three thousand interviews from the past and compiled them into this book. However, don't assume these are just any interviews. Each one is carefully placed to layer the overall story that unfolds as you continue to read. As hilarious as Snoop Dog is, we see a more spiritual side of celebrity that is often left out of the Rolling Stone interviews. Rather than vanity, we see who these people that we look up to so much really are.

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  • Posted March 22, 2011

    The Best Story Teller of His Generation

    There's something truly special about Neil Strauss and his writing. It's hard to explain if you haven't read one of his books. It doesn't matter what you think of Rolling Stone, the pick up artist community or any of the celebrities that Neil has worked with - ultimately Neil is probably the best story teller of his generation and for that you have to give him the recognition he deserves.

    ELYWYD is a fantastic book of stories that Neil masterfully tells. ELYWYD covers a number of celebrities; some you'll certainly care about while others you probably don't think much of. The truly fascinating aspect of Neil's story telling is that it draws you in and makes you care about people you previously could casually dismiss. If you want a captivating read, this book is for you.

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  • Posted March 21, 2011


    This book was so cool! I saw an ad for it on facebook where it called the author, Neil Strauss, "the celebrity whisperer" and I couldn't have said it better myself. He reminds me of William Miller from Almost Famous. The things he's seen and done and experienced alongside these people are awesome! Chances are, you'll find an inside moment with your favorite celebrity. I definitely recommend this book to everyone! I think I'm even gonna check out his other stuff now...

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  • Posted March 21, 2011

    The Interview Redux...

    Once again Neil Strauss has written a book that does not seem to fit the mold of his previous work. ELYWYD has been billed as a juicy tell all, but it is no where close to the stuff you find on Gawker. There's a feeling of being allowed to see behind the curtain, a little bit of the real person not just the one they bring out for public appearances. Some of my favorite pieces are, the clips of things that Neil overheard while living in the East Village. I'm sure that we all hear people say crazy things everyday, not as scary as what Neil heard, but who remembers them or thinks to write them down? The interviews themselves are arranged to keep you wanting more, an "open loop" I believe it's called. The interview is doled out in little pieces that end on a question and leave you wanting to know the answer. They've also been arranged so that there is some connection, albeit it sometime minuscule, between the different people. It's fun to see how Neil ends a piece with Robert Plant saying he's scared to me Jerry Lee Lewis an then move to the interview with Jerry Lee Lewis. This is a great read and there's something to be learned from it as well. I can't tell you what you'll learn as I think it'll be different for every person. I do know that you'll have a hard time putting this book down, and if you can then you'll be thinking about it while you're away.

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  • Posted March 20, 2011

    Life Lessons from a rock & roll writer

    Another outstanding outing from author Neil Strauss. Well known as a journalist and best selling author of rock & roll. This book reveals what he has learned through years of interviewing some of the biggest, best, and sometimes most obscure names, in rock & roll history. If you want to know what it all boils down to skip to the end. If you want the real journey, read it several times and then give copies to your friends.

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  • Posted March 21, 2011

    If you like...

    ...anything that is awesome, you need to own this book. If you've read any of Neil's previous work (all of which I recommend) there's no reason you shouldn't already own this. If you're not familiar with Neil Strauss, you probably are and just don't know it. He's been interviewing famous people for Rolling Stone, The New York Times and other publications for 20+ years. Take the some 3000+ interviews/articles he's done and grab the best bits out of them and you get Everyone Loves You When You're Dead. It edits out the boring stuff (i.e., the "who produced the new record" questions) and gives you some really interesting insight into these people's minds and what makes them tick. You don't have to be a music fan to enjoy this book. Highly recommended.

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  • Posted March 20, 2011

    Deep Entertainment

    Neil has produced another amazing book that contains multiple layers of entertainment. Everyone Loves You When Your Dead portrays celebrities in a new light. They are not placed on a pedestal, they are simply viewed as human.

    What you can learn from someone else and about yourself in one minute of conversation is simply mind-blowing. I have just started the book, and I am completely hooked.

    Neil has a strange way of leaving the interviews open and coming back to them for further exploration a few pages later. This writing 'style' will result in a deep pleasure, similar to a roller-coaster, which you will want to pick up and ride again... and again... and again.

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  • Posted March 20, 2011

    amazing! terrific read!!

    ill start by saying i dont normally read books in a week. i dont read a book most weeks. but every time Neil Strauss comes out with a book i have to pick it up as soon as it comes out. I love his writing style. it always keeps you guessing and always keeps you wanting to get to the next page. straight from the pre amble it sets up the book for what i thought was a little misleading by the title. as you progress from the different scenes of each interview you learn more and more about each celebrity and the how they view the situation/life/death/drugs. Its an extremely eye opening book for me as i never followed celebrities that closely nor did i think most people got to experience celebrities the way neil has. and its awesome he got to share parts of those experiences with us. it can shape the way we look at our own lives! definitely give this book a try!!

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